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high standards for sex?
My boyfriend and I have been having sex only for a few weeks now. He's been enjoying it very much and it doesn't take him long to 'cum'. I see no pleasure in it at all. It doesn't hurt any longer, it's just...blah. Why is this happening? Is this on my part or his? I was a virgin before him and I thought sex was supposed to be amazing when you're in love!
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Don't wait around for him to please you or figure out you are bored. Some guys are not that perceptive or are just too selfish to care. Take charge of your sex life and do new things that you would like to try...yeah, you might have to risk him looking stupified for a moment, but he will most likely love the idea that you are taking the lead. It takes pressure off him, and men are all about performance, so tell him what he needs to do or try to please you and you will quickly have him jumping through hoops.
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I agree with the others...take time to learn what turns you on....if he is having fun, you should be having fun too...it's not all about him...
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seems pretty indifferent (meaning ordinary) to me, the sex, not extrodinary just casual. I think deep down inside there is no connection or strong vibe for this b/f of yours. If you had it, you would prolly love the sex
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If your boyfriend is orgasming quickly, this could play a big part in why you are not enjoying yourself.
Some ideas: make sure you take a lot of time to kiss and touch BEFORE having sex. Give yourself time to get excited.
If something feels better than other things, don't be afraid to tell your boyfriend. You deserve to enjoy yourself as much as he is.
Try different positions. Keep in mind that many women cannot have orgasms from penetrative sex alone - other positions can allow him to touch your clitoris at the same time.
If penetrative sex isn't doing it, have your boyfriend touch you or perform oral sex on you.
Sex is a two way process. You have to take responsibility for speaking up for your likes and dislikes. Sex also takes practice. It isn't an automatic 'feel good' thing for everyone. Guys are more straightforward in their needs than girls, so educate yourself and then educate him!
Masturbation is a good way to discover what you like.
Best of luck.
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I would suggest try something new, be creative, its sex!! lol no really though try something new talk to each other see what you do and don't like. My boyfriend was my first and i can't get enough, its the best thing you can do. ;)
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try different positions.. look it up on google.
it spices up a sex life.
and be kinky. its really fun lol
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If you guys are doing the same thing every tim you have sex that may be the reason its not as hot as it was the first couple times. Maybe spice it up a little bit. Wear lingerie, Light candles in the room and make it really romantic, try new things. heres website just look around it.
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hope this helps
kim:)
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he might not be doing things that pleasure you. some girls cannot orgasm from intercouse, but there is hope. he just needs to find stuff that you like, or you find things you like and tell him. he cant read minds. sex and relationshios are about communication.
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