I've made my mistakes, I have my faults, I've done my sins. I've been heart broken and have broken hearts as well. There's a lot I've seen, a lot I've heard, and a lot I've been through. I don't know everything but I have my opinions and if you ask me for adivce I will always try to help.
p.s. LOVE IS VILE!!
E-mail: vilelove@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Occupation: student
Age: 15
Member Since: August 19, 2005
Answers: 135
Last Update: February 5, 2007
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Every since i was old enough to have a crush, i have liked this guy, but he also happens to be my best friend. He knows that i like him and he likes me too and says that im cute, but how do i know what to do. Should I ask him out or is it better that we stay friends?? im soo lost. I dont want to mess up our friendship, and i dont want to hurt myself. Help me please!!! By the way im 13/f (link)
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Hey... there's something a bit odd about your situation. You like him and he likes you back... yet he hasn't asked you out? Is he like the type that wait for a girl to make a move or would rather have her make the move? If he is then yeah, ask him if he will tyr the 'boyfriend, gilrfriend' thing with you. If he's not or if you don't know or don't think he is THEN I would suggest you to WAIT. Hang out with him, spend as much time as possible together, and FLIRT (so he'll like you more and more and miss you more and more when you're gone and will ask you out sooner or be really eager to ask you out). However if you do wait and you get too impatient or if you don't want to wait (But I highly recommend waiting... not saying a year, just a little bit) or if you think it'll give you high expectations and you don't want to set yourself up for a fall or the risk of a fall or if you're simply a straight foward type of person that doesn't like to play games and wants to know exactly where she stand then I would suggest talking to him. Tell him that you like him a lot as a friend and value your friendship a lot but you also like him as more than friends. And tell him you'd like to know if there is any possibility for you gusy to be more than friends. Tell him to be honest with you because if you guys can't be more than friends the best way to get over someone is knowing that there is no chance and him liking you is only a step for it to be a chance, but it requires more than that. Maybe he doesn't want to risk the frienship either or he's has crappy experiences in the past and he doesn't want that to happenw ith you guys. However if there IS a chance than you will know you're not wasting your time or setting yourself up.
Good luck and I hope I didn't bore you too much with my long essay.
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im am an 8th grade girl
and i am currently going with a 7th grade guy
we're both 13, (today is his birthday, btw)
and we just started dating again.
-when i say again i mean that we've gone out in november for about a month.
we both like passionatly like eachother
the only semi-problem is is that
i am 5"7
and hes like 5"0 about.
it usually dosnt botehr me, but its just like when i dream about that "first true love" i always think of some one that can hold me in his arms, you know? i really really like this guy tho.
he makes me feel like i've never been hurt before, like i just found out what love is,
and im sure to say, i am pretty experienced and stuff
i just wanna feel like this guy is
a man who stands by my side,
and not a boy who runs and hides,
just please give me some tips to feel better about this,
thanks a lot.
i rate particuarly well.
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Hey. I don't know what to say but when I read what you wrote there was actually something I did want to say. You mentioned about how you pictured your first love and stuff. Well him being 5'0 and you being tallen is kind if cool. I mean, at first it'll be weird (I personally wouldn't do it cause subconsciously it does matter to me) but then you'll get used to it (you may be kind of used to it by now). Anyway, if anyting ever goes wrong and you guys break up (which most high school- especially middle school-relationships end up doing) one day when you're far over it and you think back to your 'first love' it'll be cute. It was... unique. Something you could only have with him. A lot of times the image represents the people. This physical differences that make you guys a unique coupple relfect non physical differences. And you'll also always remember how you felt about this guy. How he took away the wrong in everything that wasn't right. And how much you liked him and he liked you and how happy it made you guys. Take it from me, I lost the guy I came closest to loving and I wish we had that again... when I liked him and he liked me back. Regardless height/apperances/what other people think/etc. you guys have that and that is nothing to take for granted.
I'm sorry I wrote so long, it's a bad habbit or something. Well good luck and I hope you guys are really happy.
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Is dance a sport? Now I don't need your opinions I need the facts, the proof that dance is or is not a sport, becuase I don't think it is, but I need to find out. Thanks (link)
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l.o.l. No. You can't say you're athletic but don't play a sport you just dance. Dance is NOT a sport, however in high school they do give you physical education credits if you take a dance class. (dance is more of a visual art than a sport, either way it's not a sport, but good question)
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what are some really good songs (link)
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what genre?
well here are some songs I like:
"Car underwater" by Armor For Sleep
"Anesthesic Winter" by The Vaished
"7 Days A Week" by the Sounds
"Photobooth" by Death Cab For Cutie
"sleeping In" by the Postal Service
"Worn Me Down" by Rachael Yamagata
"Don't Think of Me" by Dido
"You Shook Me All Night Long" by AC/DC
"Light My Fire" by The Doors
"Going to California" by Led Zeppeln
"Baby Love" by The Supremes
etc.
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Does anyone have really good (and very slow) "love" songs? Thanks in advance. (link)
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"Be, Be Your Love" by Rachael Yamagata
"The Blower's Daughter" by Damien Rice
"Amie" by Damien Rice
"Hold On" by Dashboard Confessional
"Ready For A Fall" by PJ Olsson
"Simple Kind Of Life" by No Doubt
sorry if you don't like them. i know more SAD love songs than... 'love songs'.
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i am 13, and lets just say i gotta some extra junk in the trunk, or baggage in the belly... and i would like it lose some of it before bathing suit season? does anyone have some simple tips, that wont take too much time, but are effective?
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Take the Special K challange. Sorry, not excercixe, I know. but if you replace two meals (the third one is whatever you normnally eat and bevrages are what you normally drink) for two weeks you can loose up to 6 pounds. For excercise I would only say running for half an hour every day... Good luck!
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heyy i'm 15 and i have brown eyes and a light skin complexion and i was just wondering ..how should i do my make-up and what make-up should use ? i'd REALLY appreciate the help. i rate 5's for good advice! thanks (link)
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Natural colors would look REALLY nice on someone with your eye color and skin complexion. Like dark brown eyeliner, a blend of dark and light shades (browns, greens, those dark faded pinks, etc.). A good brand is Physician's formula. You can use eyeliner (dark brown or black or white to make your eyes look more open... idk, but it works) and eyeshadow (browns, greens, pinks), blush (light colors). OK, well don't be afraid to experiment with make up because that's really the best way to see what colors look nice on you.
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so im a freshman in high school.
ive never been kissed before.
i really dont have any guys friends.
ive had a bf before but that was back in middle school.
i wanna know, are there any REALISTIC ways to get involved with more guys and friendships.
please dont say; just talk to them
becuase im not like that exactly.
i like this kid, sorta, and we talk sometimes
are there any signs i can look for to see if hes into me or anything.
i'll rate
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Laugh out Loud, 'realistic' ways to meet and be friends with more guys. Yeah, for once be nice to everyone, even the dorky or childish or chuncky or immature or ugly guys. They have friends. Soem may be cute guy friends. They'll introduce them to you and then they'll be your friends. Another way is MySpace. You meet cute guys in your school you wouldn't had met otherwise. Just make sure you put pretty pictures of yourself. Freshmen in highschool... don't worry though, in high school you meet LOTS of cute guys. Before you're a sophmore you'll have at least 7 hot friends, 3 hot ex boyfriends, 3 hot guys you had a 'thing' with but never actually dated, and like 10 cute guys you've flirted with :-) Seriously! and that's AT LEAST. Oh, p.s. a GREAT way to meet hot guys is to go to gigs and parties. Well good luck in finding all the cute boys and good luck in high school (oh, and don't get too distratced from your school work cause you'll regret it, a little is okay but not tooo much).
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ok well theres this guy and ive liked him since 0ctober....well he likes my friend ALOT and the day my friend and someone eles started going out he called me and said he liked me...i dont know whether to belive it or not but he seems like he does but i dont know if its true because i think he just wants to get her jealous...please ill rate high..what should i do?! (link)
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Hey. ...Wow, that's a tough situation. ...But you're sure it seems like he likes you (you're not just saying that because it's what you want?). How does he react when your friend is around? If I were you I would tell him that I like him too but he liked my friend so i can't be sure if he really likes me and my friend gettign with her boyfriend was just bad timing or if he says he likes me to make her jealous or if he THINKS he likes me because he wants to be over her. I would tell him that even though I DO like him I feel we should wait a while (maybe a week or two or three... or depends how you feel) because just recently he really liked someone else and he may be confused. Don't let him make you feel guilty about waiting, if he does like you he'll understand. This time will let you see if he really is over her or if he was just trying to use you or what the deal is. And after that if he still likes you (and you'll know if he still likes you) then it'll be because of you and people can't say you got him on the rebound or anything. It'll prove he likes you.
Well good luck!!!
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hey last sunday (of this week), a guy i really like asked me out and i said yes. i dont know how to tell my parents. my mom has said im not allowed to date or go on dates until im 16 or 17. how do i tell them with out getting in trouble? (link)
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Hey. Parents usually joke when they say that. And even when they don't they usually change their mind when the time comes. When I found out a guy liked me (back when I had never dated) I prosponed talking to the guy until I talked with my mom. I told her some guy liked me and asked her if it was okay to say yes. She said it was and gave me some good advise. but she was nice about it and supportive and has been supportive about me dating ever since. ...Maybe you can talk to your parents and tell them that some guy likes you and he's nice and smart (point out the qualities parents like to hear) and that he asked you out and you said yes. Ask them if it's okay with them and if they say no (which I doubt they'll say) don't freak out or anything. Just be reasonable and ask them why not. try to reason with them and tell them you like this guy and you think you're mature enough to be in a relationship. And remind them that high school relationships help us improve daily relationships and give us a better idea for what kind of person we want when we get married (if you don't date your marriage life will be screwed up). but I'm sure they'll be okay with it and see you're mature and responsible enough to have told them. Good luck!!
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im 15/f
i have a boyfriend who i really like but i never get to see him because he lives too far away so i only get to talk to him on the phone. then theres this boy at school who i think is just absolutely adorable. ive only talked to him a couple of times and i have no idea if he likes me too. should i go out on a limb and dump my boyfriend? (link)
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No. Don't dump your boyfriend... yet. First of all, you like your boyfriend a lot. If you break up with him and nothing happens with the other guy you'll probably get sad, even though your boyfriend lives far anyway. You'll rgert it because you ended up with nothing. Also, you have to figure out if you like this guy more than your boyfriend? And if this guy (considering he liked you back) would be worth breaking up with your boyfriend? Take all facts in consideration, like the fact that you don't see your boyfriend often. Personally if I were you and this cute nice cool funny guy at school liked me and asked me out I'd break up with my boyfriend then go out with him. It may sound "mean" but don't let anybody judge you. First of all, you have to think about yourself. The facts are that you don't see your boyfriend that much, AND you're young, it's high school, nothing is ever too seriou.s So just have fun. But seriously, before you do anything make sure it's what you want. Screw convenience and looks and that stuff, because if it's not really what uou want you're going to regret it. Trust me, regrets SUCK. Also, if you are going to go for that guy make sure he likes you back first. Don't tell him you have a boyfriend though (he may get the wrong idea), he doesn't have to know. I'm not telling you to CHEAT on your boyfriend either, just... tell him you'll think about it an break up with your boyfriend then go out with the guy. Or just say you'll go out with him and then break up with your boyfriend.
sorry for writing so much. well GOOD LUCK!!
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I'll just start off by saying that I am never the girl that the guys go for right away. And I am really getting sick and tired of it.
There was once this guy that I worked with (whom I am still trying to get over and forget). Every shift together, we flirted like crazy. And I usually NEVER flirt with some one I like; I usually just get really quiet with them and blush if I do talk to them (I'm extremly shy). But with him, I didn't feel like cowering away. I talked, found out his music interest, and all kinds of stuff like that. We have a lot in common, he is an extremly nice person, and is very good looking. I think the only downside was him doing pot; but i could live with that. Anyway, one day I found out that he had given his two weeks notice, because he didn't have any time for work. Fortunately his last shift was a shift that I worked on. I had decided that it would be the time when I told him how I felt. But get this, I had a customer, and the "speech" that I had planned to tell him was very long. So he just walked out.
Later that night, I decided that I needed to tell him, or there was no chance of anything happening between us. Because of the fact that I didn't have his phone number, and didn't live anywhere near him, my only choice was to tell him over Nexopia (online community type of thing).
It was VERY hard for me to do, because I am not an open person when it comes to feelings. So all he had to say back to me was, "Oh, that's so wierd; I thought you disliked me."
I was so disappointed, so I asked him if he liked me and all he had to say was, "I'm actually not sure."
I would like to know what on earth he meant by that. How do you NOT know?
So thanks for reading. I didn't plan on it being this long. Sorry.
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If I were you I would write to him over that Nextopia thingie "I don't usually tell guys I like them so it was kind of hard for me. And if you don't like me I understand. I'd just kind of want to know cause I don't want 2 wonder things. So um here's my #, I hope you'll call me."
About what he said... he didn't say "I'm sorry but I just like you as a friend" so hope isn't lost yet. I think that what happened is that he didn't think you liked him that way so he probably didn't give you guys too much thought.
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Our school has a talent show coming up, and almost every year its monotonous singing and bad dancing, with the ocasional gymnastics routine or guitar player. I and a friend were trying to think of something fun and different to do, to get the crowd interested and laughing. We're not afraid to be silly in front of people - but we can't think of what to do that isn't OVERLY stupid.
Any insight on this? Details would be great...not something just like "Do a skit." (link)
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What about both of you recite a poem? It's like you are having a conversation, talking to each other back and foward... except in poetic form. You can make it funny and even act it out a little or have silly props. Or you can make it sad (i.e. you both are orphans and the poem is about how crappy your life has been because of that) or whatever you want. Just a thought. Good luck.
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My boyfriend is I think kinda annoyed with me.. I mean I talked to his best friend and he said that every time I call my b.f says "Here we go again" and well I am not sure if I want to be with someone who does want to talk to me or even wants to be with me unless we are alone.. and well I truly like him and i don't want to end it but I sometimes think that is the only way... the past few days he's told me he didn't want to come over.. it kinda ticked me off at first and now I am more like miserable. I don't want nothing to happen but I mean htings have just changed... and he lied to me.. which kinda ticked me off but I cannot tell him I know he lied to me because it would make him mad at his best friend.. soo IdK HELP ME! (link)
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Hey... let him know that ur not happy with how things are and ask him to talk 2 u. If he says no don't beg. I would break up with him if I were you because he lied and he doesn't act very "caring". You dont have to tell him what his best friend said, just tell him it's not working out. You may like him but his behavior shows he isn't willing to do anything to help the relationship so it really isn't working out. And now you're miserable. If you don't break up with him he'll end up breaking up with you. And he'll juts make you feel more miserable and worst in the proccess. I hope you get out of the relationship and everything works out okay (...and when you're over it, you mean a new cute guy).
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Hey how exactly does E-Bay work and Pay-Pal and stuff? I just want to know b/c I plan on selling a bunch of stuff.. Thanks I rate 5's
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Ebay is a website where you can put things for auction. They charge you depending on what you put for sell and its prize. Other ebay members will see what you are selling on the ebay listings and have the ability to bid on it. PayPal is an on-line way of paying money. A lot of people on Ebay will want you to pay them using PayPal to make your transaction.
Good luck on Ebay!
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im looking to loos 10-15 pounds by mid-february. is that possible? if so, can i please have some good plans that include at least 2 options per meal? thank you (link)
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ur going to do it based alone on a diet? ...im sorry if a am mistaken and you are planning to excerixe but if you are not then i highly recommend it. without excersixe it won't be possible.
have you heard of low-carb diets? like Atkins or South Beach? well if this is only until mid Feb. or a temporary kind of thing I recommend a low carb diet. With a low carb diet you have a variety selection of meals as long as you do not exceed 20 carbs a day.
Good luck!
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i have a friend who moved here last february & we have become really good friends. i mean really close...we can talk to each other about things that i don't think i could even tell most people. i just feel like i am missing something, because i don't know about her past. i know she has a dad, stepmom & stepsister (her stepmom has been married to her dad for only a little over a year but they are luckily very close). however, i have no idea what happened to her real mom. she has never mentioned her ever...i don't know if she's dead, if her parents are divorced, or what. it never use to bother me, but now that we are so close i just feel like i should know something. i know that she proabably has never mentioned her for a reason (she might be sad or angry perhaps?) but as her close friend i feel like i should be able to know somehting. do you think i should bring it up? if so how would you go about doing that (and if something bad happened with her mom i really don't want her to get upset or angry). do you think it is appropriate for me to say/ask anything at all? if you were in this situation would you ask?thanks! (link)
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I have been there one or twice when I find myself getting close to someone only to realize that they might know me better than most people but I don't know them at all. Mainly I have friends that trust me a lot with many things and I'm supportive and there for them but I don't really tell them about my own personal life. Yes, there is a reason I don't tell them. For me I just don't like to share personal things and also I guess it scares me how they're going to see me after that. Even if its only subconscious, negative, or even positive, but when you know more about a person the way you see them changes. Maybe you trust them more or maybe you realize they have gone through more experiences than you thought or maybe you doubt them as people. I doubt your friend is filled with deep dark secrets and skeletons in her closet that she doesn't want anyone to find out about. It really doesn't matter how mportant or significant something can be seen but there are people that are simply more kept to themselves and they can even consider not to mention small details about their day or that kind of thing. Sorry for writing so much, now about the SOLUTION. I understand why you're not sure if its okay for you to ask since its a very pesonal matter but considering you guys are close friends and you shouldn't assume negative things then I think it is not only okay but a good idea. It also shows you have interest in her life and maybe with you asking her questions she'll feel more comftrable sharing even without you having to ask. A polite way to ask that can't fail is starting your question with "if you don't mind me asking..." OR saying "you don't have to answer if it's too personal or something". Personally I would bring up my own mom in the situation OR her family and then casually be like "hey, can I ask u something personal?" I have a stepdad so it wouldn't be so hard bringing it up for me. well good luck and sorry for making u read so much.
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My friends are seniors so I want to make them a graduation gift, which is a music video type thing. But I need some good music... does anyone have any good suggestions? I already know about vitamin C graduation song and green day's 'the time of your life'. And any suggestions on making the music video better [using movie maker]
thanks! I rate high :) (link)
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Summer of 69' by Bryan Adams - a very remember-the-good-times type of song.
Photobooth by Death Cab For Cutie - cute song. about great mediocore experiences but then having to leave 'when the summer ends' and still valuing them for what they are worth.
The Drama Summer by Starting Line - also very cute. check out the lyrics for this one too.
Ocean Avenue by Yellowcard - personally I think it's a little 'too happy' but it's good for that type of the video... the 'happy memories' part.
We're Going to Be Friends by The White Stripes
okay, well good luck.
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So my guy friends girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago. Which doesn`t seem like a big deal, but the day she broke up with him she went to another guys house and "did stuff" with him. Which totally broke my friends heart. Since then, his ex has gotten into drugs, had sex, and given in to upper class men.. My friend and his ex had not talked since, other than arguing and accusations.. But he finally just started having normal conversations with her again. I was talking to him tonight and he told me he`s still in love with her. Hes asking me for advice, but I don`t know what to tell him on this one. She`s not right for him at all. Totally wrong..
Please help me, he`s coming to me asking for advice.. It just hurts me to know that he`s in love with someone who has treated him so bad, because I care for him so much. I don`t know whether to tell him to go after her again or to just give up all together..
I would appreciate your help.
Sincerely, Hopelessly confused.. (link)
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Hey. I totally understand your situation. Just don't tell him straight out "don't be with her, she'll hurt you" because it's not the type of advice a riend wants to hear. And while I'm not telling you to lie, I'm just telling you to be careful the way you put your words. Tell him you think it's great he cares about her and you understand she's not in a good place in her life. Tell him that's why it's best to just give her time because if he starts a relationship with her right now it will be very destructive. And let him know you understand he's "in love with her" but you are also aware of her current unhealthy and unstable mentality and conditions and you just don't want him to get hurt. Tell him to think things before he acts upon anything. He may love her but the facts about her are what they are, regardless why she took those decisions, and they are important things to be consdiered. Most importantly let him know that you'll be there for him as a friend and just want the best for him.
Good luck. Bye bye.
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can you become gay from being sexually abused as a child?
im not gay, im just asking because my sister's gay and she was sexually abused as a child. (link)
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Actually many times when people are sexually abused as children they get cofnused about their own sexuality. Not saying that people whom are gay were all sexually abused as children. I have a friend who was molested and now he's confused about his sexuality. the experience can be very traumatic that it has that effect. It's very sad though because if the only reason she is gay is because of being abused then that isn't a efficient reason and she'll never be truly happy. There's a possibility however that she really is just a lesbian.
Sorry that those things had to happent to her though :-(
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