hi everyone....
hay im sally, im 19. i love to give advice so ask me anything and i will answer as best i can!
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i am currently studying family and children studies certificate III at wollongong tafe and i love it. i love kids and one day i hope to become an early childhood teacher and work with 0-3 year old children. i'v been writing poetry since i was 13 and i hope that one day i can publish them in a book! that is one of my dreams.
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so keep those questions comming...please comment back, i'd like to know if iv helped or not thanxxx i have a blog! feel free to check it out: http://justsallyy.tumblr.com/
xoxoxoxo :) xoxoxo xoxox
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Location: Woonona in NSW AUST.
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Age: 19
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i have only gone tanning once in my life and starting next week im going tanning. so i dont really want tan lines so would it be okay if i dont wear a bra in the tanning bed and just a thong? would that be okay or would that be bad? (link)
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hey if thats what you want to do then thats fine its not bad or anything. i mean your tanning so a little more skin exposed wont hurt but just remember that tanning is really bad for your skin.
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I'm shy so if I don't ever approach another girl first.I work in retail sales and sometime some girls would just stare at me or smile.I put up merchandise and a lot girls stand so close to me that I could actually brush against them. I just totally ignore them. Do some girls get offended if u don't acknowledge them or don't say hi.how do i know if a girl thinks I'm cute?
Sometime they would um twirl their hair when they with friends or their parents (link)
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well if u dont ignore them when they are trying to get your attention then they will think your not interested... if they stare at you, smile and twirl there hair then they are oviously trying to get your attention and sounds like they think your cute.
you should just say hi and see where it goes from there. HEy you never know what could happen.
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ok well ive always thought of myself as straight but theres this girl weve been friends since 6th grade now in in 9th.!>. and she just cam out and told people that she was bi sexual.! but the thing is that recently ive benn wanting her attention and its kind of like a girl crush.!>. and she is the only girl so far that ive thought of this way.! please help me.! im soo confused.!> i mean i think of her as more as a friend but i dontknow i just need some advice.!> (link)
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hey this is perfectly normal.. we all feel attracted to someone we feel comfortable around and can be ourself with, someone we trust and are close too.
so just relax its completly normal to be confused about your feeling towards other people.
just because you have this attraction with this one girl doesnt mean that your bi because you may never feel like this for another girl again but then again you might be bi... that is something you have to work out for yourself cos your the only one that can aswer that.
but hey if you have feelings for her go for it.. you can only go with them or ignore them. (i cant really tell you wat you should do tho) hope i helped xx sal
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16/f
i just had a poptart today. and after eating it, i was on the verge of tears..i was SO worried about how fat I would get. i started FREAKING out and crying over the 400 calories...i dunno why. i'm really lost when i'm around food. i tell myself, NO don't eat that, it'll make you fat. but sometimes i still do eat it, and i drive myself nuts over it. sometimes, i could starve for an entire day. and sometimes, i eat something, feel guilty about it, and after chewing it, i spit it out. food just drives me insane. i can't eat anything without worrying. i don't even EAT AFTER SIX. Why am I so worried? I move and I exercise but...I can't stop worrying about gaining weight.
I'm 5'6 and 140 pounds. normal/average-sized.
should I stop worrying? =(
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hey... first off the difference between anorexia and belimia is anorexia is when you stop eating cos you think you will get fat from eating food and you starve yourself. bulemia is when you eat food and then perge and make yourself throw it up and you obsess on getting fat from the food you eat.
i went through this exact same thing and im not fat at all... i was belimic. a lot of teens go through this sort of thing and it can get pretty bad. your probably worrying cos you dont want to get fat or gain weight and thats normal. everyone worrys about getting fat... after getting better i still worry about that every day! it think its something that wont stop worrying about. but if you excercise every day then you can eat anything you want and you wont put on weight so you shouldnt worry. you can over come this you just have to want to and to try to... if it gets reawlly bad you should seek help cos you can get really sick from this.
why dont you try and eat healthy food cos you wont gain weight from that and you dnt have to feel guilty about eating it. start off eating little bits of food at a time so your body can get used to eating again. if it gets bad you should get help and if you dnt want to straight away you could tell your school counciler or a close friend. hope i help xx sally
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k so i have a tight group of 4 friends including me, and me and one of my friends keep having private conversations because we trust each other...the others get really mad when we have a convo and are like at least include us in it and its really really frustrating because some of the things i cant trust them with...are they over exaggerating or just jealous? because i think that me and my other friend deserve to keep some secrets...
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its good to have a friend you trust enough to tell her your secrets but your other friends are all feeling left out and maybe even jelouse of how you two have become so close.
its nice to share things with someone but its not really nice if you leave other people out. i mean you dnt have to tell your other friends your secrets if you dnt trust them enough... cos there getting mad why dnt you and your friend have your private convos when the others arent around cos then they wont feel left out,
or you could call each other after school or at night.
you could tell your friends about how you dnt trust them enough to tell them your secrets but that might cause a fight. xxsal
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we have a big sister little sister program in my school.
my big sister is a junior. what should i get her for christmas? please give any suggestions you have!! (link)
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i now the perfect gift you can give her. you can get a nice photo of you and her together and buy a really nice photo frame to put it in.
its sweet and its a geat gift coming from you given the sircumstances.
or you could buy her some jewellery mayba a little silver pendant and chain... my friends always love what i pick out for them, or if you want to go simple you caould buy her her fave box of chocolate and some flower.
hope i helped. xx
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16/M
ok well I really really really like this girl and I really think I love her. I went out with her for 2 months and we broke up a month ago from today. I was soo happy with her. All i had to do was be next to her and I was happy, as long as I was wit her I was happy. I only see her at school and I see her possibly once a month outside of skool =/ so its been a month but since that day that we broke up she hasn't gone a day with out kissing me. We are pretty much friends with benefits. She always gives me a kiss before leaving skool and she told me that she was thinking about goin out with me again. The same day before she told me that, a girl came over and ummm... she jerked me off and I just touched her 2 parts but over her clothes. After the girl left I didnt even like how I felt afterwards. I felt weird every time I kissed her.
-So u think this is cheating ? Even though I'm still talking to my ex I was getting physical with someone else even though me and my ex don't go out anymore but still talking and most likely going to go back out ?
-You think I felt weird after kissing her because I didn't like how she kissed or because my feelings for my ex ?
Tell me what you think ?
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its not cheating cos your not goin out with her, after all shes still your ex. that weird feeling you had is probably guilt cos you still love* your ex...
and you feel like you'v done something wrong like cheated on her cos of the strong feelings you still have for her, even though you really havent done anything wrong at all.
but from your ex's point of view she might get upset hearing this cos shes thinking about getting back with you... even though it happened before she told you that. so just think about that if your thinking about telling her (even though you dnt really need to tell her but yeah)
hope i helped xx
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16-f
ok well
me and my bf have been together for 4months
and idk if what i got him will be ok :-/
i bought him some $40 cologne that he wanted but not the whole set :( & a cute little bear & i was gonna make him a cute little card. (link)
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hay i think thats a great pressy for your bf...
its nice its simple and its something that he wanted.... sounds perfect!
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i am in a new school. i have no friends. how do i make frends? i sit in the cafeteria with people who totally ignore me!!! please help (link)
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hay why dont you try and make conversation with the people you sit with in the cafeteria... just be yourself and once they see the nice friendly you they will love you. its because your quiet and your shy around them, they dnt know what to say to you and what to think of you.
talk to them about anything... like the classes your in, something about one of your teachers or something funny that happened.
be random and just say something funny. like say what your thinking and dnt hold back and once youv brocken the ice youll be fine and youll have plenty of friends in no time.
besides when your new people like to fuss over you. good luck! xx sal
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i used to have a crush on this boy when i was a teenager, and for years i havent been able to get him out of my mind, i used to be his sisters best friend and he detested me( used to make fun of me cuz im fat), and i beleive he still does, i recently starting seeing him again for small periods of time, but every time im within 50 feet of him my tongue feels like its swollen and i cant talk!!! i mean words really just wont form, now im 19 i still like him but he has a girlfriend and shes like a size 16 or 18 and thats the same size as me, i have no idea about what to do about any of this!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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bc he has a girlfriend there isnt much you can do about that but you need to be comforable around him and be able to talk to him and thats what you need to focus on at the moment,
just think of him as a friend you can talk to and try and settle those nerves... its will be hard at first but just think of him as just another guy and not the guy you like. (that will be hard i know)
i know feelings can mess everything up at times...
so once you'v settled your nerves around him, then chat with him heaps and your friendship with him will become closer and thats what you want to start with. hope i helped xx sal
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how long usually do you cough? and when you begin to cough up phelgm, how long usually before it all gets out of your system? i have had the cough since about monday and i started to cough up the stuff like today...thanks (link)
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it should take about a week or two till its out of your system, it should stop when your body as fought off the bug.
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My hair is so boring.
it just doesn't stand out as much as i would like it to...
my hair falls right above my chest...
any ideas? (link)
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you could get your hair layered and a side fridege... or dye your hair a lighter or darker colour then it already is or get streaks/highlights. im not one of those girls who dyes her hair every month and wants it to be completly different i like a little bit of a change... so what i do is pick a colour that is similar to my hair colour like either lighter or darker then my hair colour but different enough so people can notice. iv always wanted to dy my hair blonde but i dnt think it will suit me.. maybe i will one day... xx sally:)
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I dont understand.. like you know in reality shows when they show the people talking like backstage or something? when do they shoot this? it has bugged me for ages. like in shows such as america's next top model, or a shot at love with tila tequila.. when do they have time to shoot people backstage to get their opinions? cause they are also wearing totally different clothes than they were before.. and I dont think they shoot all the backstage comments at the same time cause usually you see the person change 2-3 times.
also, who do you think won A shot at love with Tila Tequila? I'm thinking Dani. (link)
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they'd probably shoot it at the end of the day or at a certain time during the week asking them there opinion about what happened and stuff. they probably wouldnt have much time to do it but they would have to make time.
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so, there was this boy i saw in 06, at a show, and we had this.. i dont know, unspoken understanding of each other. it was like, mutual, smiling, laughing, not very much talking, he left before the show ended (it was in a small coffee shop), I never thought I'd see him again. speed up 07, i saw him the other day, talked to him even, he didnt remember me. But i wouldnt expect him to... haha, but now I know where he works. I dont even know if he has a girlfriend, but how do I casually like.. I want to hang out with him or something.. ahhh. (link)
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hey... just causually go to his work and pretend your not there to see him, and when you see him just say "i didnt know you worked here... how are you...." or " i forgot you worked here... how have you been...." or something like that... then you should chat a while and then just before you say goodbye to him just say "we should hang out sometime ay..." and say when.where. i hope that helps good luck xxx sally :)
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Theres this boy ive known for about a year now. You could say we're really good friends almost best friends. Thing is i like him and people say that they think he likes me too just cause of the way he acts but i dont know! Like he always smiles at me and ill catch him starin at me sometimes and yesterday at school he kept tellin' this boy "get the blonde girl" and when i turn around he'd just look at me nd smile. Then he wrote on my binder "devon was here lol!" and he said there that way you can think of me when your walking to class. And on the weekends he asks if im going to hang out with him and i did and he told me to come back at 830 and to make sure i did and i did but he wasn't home. What do you guys think given by the information and what should i do? i like him alot but im scared to tell him but my friends have told him. THANKS! (link)
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hey... if your friends told him you like him and he knows that and its not weird when your around him then thats a good sign. you shouldnt be scared it sounds like this guy really likes you so try and tell him that you like him or get your friends to tell him again cos he might make a move, you could get one of your friends to ask him out for you but if thats to sarey then just wait he migt ask you out. xxsal
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14/f
it all started a year ago when my mom found out i lost my virginity two weeks after it happened. everything was a mess and i became the disgrace of the family in her eyes. for a while i wasn't sure what to do i mean she was putting me down constantly by telling me what a slut and a whore i was for one incident i regreted because the only reason i did it was because i though he really cared and i was so stupid to believe it. i never spoke to him again after thet. i couldn't take it and i finally burted out "well since you're always right and obviously i'm a whore i'll prove you right!" i slept with 3 guys after that and cared about each one but only one cared back. my mom thought i was just mad and said that but now i know that was really stupid of me to do.but i shaped up after that i stopped focusing on guys and more on the family but still my mom's putting me down the other day she called me a bitch for the first time and i was scared. it's like i had an empty feeling inside you know? i don't think i'm a bad person over that one thing. i know it hurt her what i did but i didn't mean to. and for her to verbally abuse me i think is wrong it's been a year and she's still making comments. like the one she said when she took away my phone ,"oh i'm sorry your pimps aren't gonna have any business lately." honestly i don't think it's right.
i would really like your opinion and help please and thank you. (link)
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hay i think it might be because your growing up and your mum doesnt want you do and that she doesnt want to lose her little inicent little girl she has always known. i went through kind of the same thing but it was mostly fighting with my mum about her trusting me and stuff.
i think you need to talk to your mum about it bc its the only way you two are goin to get passed this. just tell her how you feel when she says those hurtful things to you and the reason for the 1st guy and the other 3 guys. bc i think that your mums hurt that you didnt come to her and talk to her about it and she feels that you dnt need her anymore. it might be weird trying to talk to your mum about this so you could get an older person like an auty or someone so say something to your mum about it first so she knows you want to talk about it. hope i helped xxx
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Okay so i have a boyfriend. And he's so cute and funny and i like him soo much. He is sarcastically mean to people but he's joking all the time about things that he says and i don't think that people know that. Like i know that he's joking but everyone's like wow he's so mean but he's not! My friends always say he treats me like crap but he doesn't! I think its because i only told them when we used to get in fights..but we havn't gotten in a fight in a long time. My one friend has been spreading rumors about him and saying all this stuff and she wont stop no matter what i say. She's my best friend and i'm not sure if she's like trying to get us to break up cause she doesn't like him? It makes it so hard to want to hang out with my friends when i know they'll just bash on him. (link)
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well first you should say something to your boyfriend about how he's jokes come across mean and hurtful rather then funny jokes. he doesnt have to stop joking around he just needs to know how people react to them and take peoples feelings into concideration.
just talk to him about it. As for your friend, people will do anything to get what they want and you never know how far they will go... your friend has no right to spread rumors about your boyfriend especially if there not true. i think you need to talk to her about it and tell her how its effecting you and how you feel about it.
i know she is in the wrong but try not to approach this in a mean way coz you dnt want to lose her.
tell her about all the nice things your bf does for you and how you dnt fight anymore. i think the problem is that she doesnt like him and once she knows how nice he is she will start to like him...soz its long but i hope i help. xxsally:)
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i just broke up with my bf today...but i feel so guilty! he looked so hurt when i told him! is it normal to feel this guilty?
Thanxx:) (link)
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hay yes its normal bc of course you dont want to see him hurt bc of you, its normal to feel a bit of guilt but as long as your happy with the choice you made and you dont regret it then its perfectly normal... xxsal
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i never really loved my wife/mother of my two kids i dont know why i married her now i wanna know how long we are gonna stay married?male 27yrs (link)
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your the only one that can answer that question so you really have to ask yourself that. you need to ask yourself if you truly love her (i know you said you never really did but hay things can change) and you need to ask yourself if it is right for yourself to stay in a loveless marraige also think about how your wife would be effected by this... because it is really up to you and your wife how long you stay together. xxx
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Well lets just say i kinda like my body, but not really. Well i have a nice stomach, but pretty much a flat chest and ass. Also, i dont tan which is why i hate my body in the summer. Well, lately i stopped running because cross country was over. My stomaches been getting bigger, and my boobs and butt staying the same.
Idk what but lately whenever i eat, i feel sick, so i stop. Well, i havent eaten in 4 days, and i m starving but whenever i take a bite of ANYTHING i feel like im gunna puke. One day i ate through it and puked 5 minutes later. I know im not sick, and i think im doing it to myself, but i dont want to! I cant stop it, it just happens! Dont tell me to go to a doctor, bc i think shes going to think im one of the eating disorder girls, and im not.
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hay you need to get back into eating 3 meals a day and to do that you need to eat little meals and gradually increase the size of the meal as your body gets used to eating them again... you have to try to stop yourself from bringing your food back up, and i know that you dnt want to go to the doctors but people can die from this so if its gets really bad you should consider it. hope i helped
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