Question Posted Thursday December 13 2007, 6:16 pm
16/M
ok well I really really really like this girl and I really think I love her. I went out with her for 2 months and we broke up a month ago from today. I was soo happy with her. All i had to do was be next to her and I was happy, as long as I was wit her I was happy. I only see her at school and I see her possibly once a month outside of skool =/ so its been a month but since that day that we broke up she hasn't gone a day with out kissing me. We are pretty much friends with benefits. She always gives me a kiss before leaving skool and she told me that she was thinking about goin out with me again. The same day before she told me that, a girl came over and ummm... she jerked me off and I just touched her 2 parts but over her clothes. After the girl left I didnt even like how I felt afterwards. I felt weird every time I kissed her.
-So u think this is cheating ? Even though I'm still talking to my ex I was getting physical with someone else even though me and my ex don't go out anymore but still talking and most likely going to go back out ?
-You think I felt weird after kissing her because I didn't like how she kissed or because my feelings for my ex ?
sally91 answered Friday December 14 2007, 4:33 am: its not cheating cos your not goin out with her, after all shes still your ex. that weird feeling you had is probably guilt cos you still love* your ex...
and you feel like you'v done something wrong like cheated on her cos of the strong feelings you still have for her, even though you really havent done anything wrong at all.
but from your ex's point of view she might get upset hearing this cos shes thinking about getting back with you... even though it happened before she told you that. so just think about that if your thinking about telling her (even though you dnt really need to tell her but yeah)
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queenhearts answered Friday December 14 2007, 4:26 am: It's not cheating since you aren't dating. You broke up, it would be different it were one of those "breaks" You aren't with your ex so it's okay.
You probably felt weird about it because you felt guilty or that you wanted to kiss your ex. If you have feelings for her, of course you're going to feel weird about kissing someone else. It only feels like cheating because of how close you were and still kinda are.
It's not cheating but I'm sure if she found that out.. she wouldn't like it. So it's best to keep those things in the past. Especially if you want to get back with her. It might not be the good thing to do.. but just don't bring it up. you probably know she wouldn't go out with you again. [ queenhearts's advice column | Ask queenhearts A Question ]
Brandi_S answered Friday December 14 2007, 12:36 am: How can you be cheating on someone who is an ex? Even if you are talking about getting back together, you aren't together.
Yah, you probably felt bad because you want to be with your ex, not the other girl.
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