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my loveless marrige
i never really loved my wife/mother of my two kids i dont know why i married her now i wanna know how long we are gonna stay married?male 27yrs
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You have an obligation to your children to be the grown-up and that means doing what is in their best interest. A counselor or therapist can help you to figure out why you are unhappy. A divorce will not make you happy and neither will other sexual partners. Only you can figure out how to be what you need and bring joy into your life from within. Marriage is always hard and so is raising a family. Many times the reason we are unhappy is because our expectations are not met...and they are usually way too high and unrealistic. Is your wife happy? Have you been the man she needs? Both of you can still find real love and meaning in life together. It will take something strange first from you, but if you do it...if you dare to do it, you will have a chance. Let go of everything you think you know will make you happy. Let go of everything you see and hear everyday that tells you that you are not happy...the television, other people etc...Now when you have really shut out all that noise you will be ready for the next step. Listen. Listen to the needs of those around you. Listen to the crys of the hearts in your home. They are in pain. You have not been loving them. You have been afraid to give any more of yourself, because you think that if you do, you will disappear altogether. Your fear has kept you unhappy. The secret of true happiness has nothing to do with selffulfillment. When you begin to give love really unselfishly give love to your young wife and children, they will see you with new eyes and more importantly, so will you. You are the hope and salvation of your own life and you will lead your family down one of two paths..it is always your choice.
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your the only one that can answer that question so you really have to ask yourself that. you need to ask yourself if you truly love her (i know you said you never really did but hay things can change) and you need to ask yourself if it is right for yourself to stay in a loveless marraige also think about how your wife would be effected by this... because it is really up to you and your wife how long you stay together. xxx
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There is no answer to your question. Marriage doesnt have a set term. Or did you miss the "until death do us part" in the vows?
The bigger question is why on gods green earth did you marry and have kids with a woman who you werent in love with?
Somehow you don't seem 27.
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Dont stay in a marriage unless you know you cant make work itll hurt her more. you should end it if you cant make it work
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As long as you let it be. If you want out get a divorce. Dont drag her threw the mudd if you dont love her. Be up front and real about it with her.
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That would be up to you.
Life is to short to be miserable. It will probably hurt her very badly for you to tell her this, but
she deserves someone who loves her in her life. You need someone you can love.
I would advise you to talk to her about this. Be
honest but not rude or cruel. She probably loves you. Remember that you have two kids and that
they need you in their lives no matter what you decide to do. Try not to alienate their mother.
You will always be connected because of those kids.
Please make sure that you really want to divorce
her before discussing it with her. If you change
your mind down the road those words can't be taken back.
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