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Q: I'm 13. I have a MAJOR crush. But, according to my friends, he's not just a crush anymore. Well, I really like him. When I got ahold of his email, we started chatting online all the time. Finally some of my friends dilivered his message. He liked me too. One day while we were chatting he asked me out to the movies. I couldn't believe that I wasn't able to go. Anyways, now, according to my friends, he's my officail boyfriend. That the part I'm not so sure about. I mean, a boyfreind when you're only 13? I feel too young for that... Is he my officail boyfriend or am I really too young for that kind of thing?

you can have an official boyfriend whenever you're ready for one. but to me, an official boyfriend isnt when some guy asks you out on a date. you have to go on many dates and its something you both have to commit too. saying he's your bf before going on a date is like him telling you he loves you a week after a date or something. its too soon and doesnt really count. however, that is just my thinking. a bf to you may mean you guys are together he wont date anyone else except you.

Q: hey guys i want to get my cartlage pierced and i dont know what side to do i know people say u can get either and get the side you sleep on the least but i want to get the side that will look the cutest so could someone give me some advice on people they know that got theres done and tell me what side they got it done on or even u i just want to get it on the side that most people will see you know well please help me!!! thanks

i think the left looks the best.

Q: Hi, i have alot of mental health problems which cause me to have high anxiety and panic, which often lead to panic attacks over things that never used to bother me.
Tomorrow i have a 2 and a half hour car journey, i'm getting better at travelling although i still get really panicy which makes me feel sik (can't say THAT word...it;'s my fear of that that has led to alot of my mental and physical illness).
I'm getting proffessional help with it so thats ok, i was just wondering if i get really bad and i watch a dvd (i'm sitting in the front passanger side if that helps), will that make me travel sik?
i know some people cant read magazines in the car, are those people also not able to watch dvd and stuff either because it brings on the travel sikness or is that ok?
I just ask because when i have high panic i have to watch a dvd and i eventually calm down because it's a great distraction, but if i do that when travelling would it make me feel worse?

Thankyou x

well it depends. it doesnt bother me to watch a dvd but it bothers me to read. it might bother you to do both but you should try it and if you cant do it try listening to calming music, like jazz or soul music for a while which might calm you down.

Q: hey , this is weird for me because im new but ive discovered thta i have pinworms and i would like to no if there is a way to treat them without going to a doctor or even tellin my parents because im kinda scared to how they will react so if there id a way could u please tell me ??

http://www.accesskent.com/Health/HealthDepartment/CD_Epid/images/lyme_rash2.jpg

that looks very serious. you definitley need to go to the doctors. i had ringworm

http://z.about.com/d/pediatrics/1/0/a/2/ringworm.jpg

and i didnt go to the doctors or even the school nurse for 2 weeks because i figured it would go away. then i went to the school nurse..just for a band-aid to cover it up and the school nurse made me leave school and go to the doctors. i couldnt come back to school without a doctors note saying its being treated because it was highly contagious. so pinworms may be the same deal. its probably very contagious but it wont really harm you the only thing that can happen is it will spread and be worse. so go to the doctors immediatley

Q: So there is this girl. I've seen her at this resturant for the past 2 years but never said a word to her because i'm so shy. We had a picnic this weekend and my mom's friends daughter came and with her was this girl.After the picnic I was told that she thought I was cute and such a nice person. So I was invited back to the apartment the next day of these 2 girls. We watched 2 movies and ate dinner othing big. So when I got home I text the girls friend and asked if this girl even likes me or what. I got in reply She does but wants nothing serious. How do I go about that? Do I still try to become close and hope more happens or what? Any help is thankful.

i think for now this girl just wants to be friends which is understandable because she hardly knows you still, you couldnt talk during the 2 movies..so you only talked during the dinner which isnt enough time for you guys to get together as more than friends if you got togehter as more than friends and when on a date you might not even like each other you 2 should hang out by yourselves just as friends and then see how it goes from there. good luck hope i helped..=]

Q: I really want to gain weight, but the right way.
I don't want to sit all day and eat cheeseburgers to gain weight. And I wanna gain 15 pounds by august 26th. Any thing I can eat that is good for me that I could gain weight off of. Or any like things i could do.
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well instead of eating only 2 or 3 times a day eat 5 or 6 times. make your meals larger (not too much larger) eat dessert and go out to dinner like 2 times a week if possible. for lunch eat high calories like hot dogs or bologna. for dinner eat steak or burgers or pasta. those arent bad for you but overtime they will help you gain the weight.

Q: I am 18 years old and i have known my boyfreind for about 3 years now and he has always had a crush on me and we just started dating 3 months ago .. we dont fight much but sometimes we get aggrivated with eachother. A few days ago I went to Connecticut for the summer and i used to live here, i am having a wonderful time but it seems like everytime i talk to him i get in a bad mood and we are always finding things to argue about. He dosent call me as much as i would like him to and when i am sad or confused about something he always says he has to go but he is the one in the relationship who "loves me more" and all in all he is a very good boyfreind. He was supposed to graduate with me but he didnt and he has a month to get his work done so he can get his diploma. He needs to get his priorities straight and frankly, i dont understand him. When we talk on the phone ALL we do is fight. Thats it and when i get back home i dont want things to be bitter between us. I do everything i can to try and help him but he dosent seem to get it and he keeps telling me that i dont care, when all i want to do is talk to him. When we fight on the phone he always "has to go" or do something else and i want to make up with him then and there, but i cant seem to, ever, so when he calls back a few hours later, im STILL mad and cant have a normal conversation with him. I really dont know what to do. Please help.

you should try one more time. the next time you talk to him on the phone you should tell him pretty much what you said in your question. and if you guys still fight you need to break it off. tell him since you cant seem to work things out it wont work at all.

Q: i was looking on google for websites about getting a flat stomach and i found this: http://myweb.ecomplanet.com/butt6541/mycustompage0011.htm look down on number 13 and where it says stuff like "If you are not thin you are ugly" and "being thin is way more important then being healthy"(along with all the other facts that are there) im not fat or anything but is this true? it sounds really stupid but i was wondering if this is true.

um that site is pro-anarexia. you DONT want to look at that site. that site is for starving yourself. if you read every thing on there. and then at the bottom it says through the looking glass is by a beautiful anorexic....soooo you dont want that site. try entering in how to lose weight or something like that. and maybe try how to lose weight NOT anorexia because i think when you type it in caps like that it will leave out anorexia stuff. i think. hope this helped. and dont go anorexic.

Q: Lemon Juice on hair and then going into the sun! What happens?

supposedly it lightens your hair, but make sure you shampoo and condition before you do it because if the lemon juice gets to the roots of your hair, the hair will become brittle and break =[

Q: I was considering buying some colored eyeliner. But then i started thinking, is that tacky? Is it better to just stick to black and brown liner? Also i was wondering if colored liners come in liquid. I really need to buy some new make-up i have some MAC eyeshadow and i really like it so is there any similar kind of high-end make-up that isn't to expensive.I know that this is a lot of questions in one but, does it look better to line the top thin or thick and line just the top or does it look better to line the top and bottom. Sometimes when i line the bottom of my eye the liquid will get it with my contact.
So just any thoughts on this would be awesome.
Sorry its kind of long.

well i'm pretty sure there is color liquid eyeliner. you can buy make-up at rite-aid or CVS and eyeliner usually runs from $5-$7 i think. it depends on the color of your eye, the shape of your eyes, and your face about the thin and thick lines thing. i like it on both with thin lines or on the bottom i medium line. i have never tried it on just the top. but if you go to a kohl's or strawbridge's or hecht's (if you live somewhere with those stores) they will do a free make-over thing on you and they will tell you what they like the most and what looks good on you and stuff. but they expect you to buy the make-up i think which at those kinds of stores, the eyeliner is like $20 but you could tell them thanks and you would bring your mom in to buy the make-up for you and then just never show up, lol. hope this helped..good luck

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Q: so ive been on my period for about..3 days now *first time* and it is getting heavier each day, or it seems to be. and i was wondering if that was normal and if there is anything else i need to know. thnks in advance :]

this is completley normal. especailly for your first period. the next thing you need to know is that the first couple of months your period will be irregular you should mark on a calendar or somewhere the day your period starts and the day it ends. then you should put in a panty liner at least a week BEFORE you're supposed to have your period again, that way you wont leak in your underwear.

Q: Right after I met Kate she was my very best friend. Now, Kate is moving. When I asked her parents why they had to leave, they had such stupid answers, and I'm going to miss her like crazy! I'm so upset that she's leaving me, it feels like the whole world is crashing down. Now what? How will I deal without her?

well you cant stop them from moving. sooo what you do is email, IM, myspace, youtube, talk on the phone, write letters, and visit one another as often as possible so you dont grow apart.if shes moving out of state, then try and talk to her on the phone everday plus somehow on the computer.

Q: Hello. I'm supposed to be going to get my eyebrow pierced soon and a tattoo on my shoulder. I was wondering if anyone on here has their eyebrow pierced, but also has glasses. I have glasses and I'm thinking it'll look horrible if I get my eyebrow pierced. I just thought of this cuz I'm really weird. If anyone has glasses and also has their eyebrow pierced please let me know, cuz I'd like to know if it'd look good or not. If not, I probably won't get it done. My sister has it pierced but she doesn't have glasses. I asked her if it'd look good and she said yeah, but I think shes lying to me. If you need to see what I look like you can go on my myspace to look at my pics. I only have 2 on there of myself, and their not all that great. I'm an ugly person. I don't have a specific link so just search KxIxMxMxY51890@aol.com That's my email address. My myspace should come up, because I think I changed it from being set to private. Anyone should be able to view it now. If you have a problem viewing my pics please let me know. I really appreciate it. Thank you very much to anyone who answers.

well first you should make sure you really want to get it pierced. and if you do you can get it done see it with the glasses and if you dont like it with glasses you could try contacts...

Q: who sings the slow version of heaven? you know, the one that goes and baby you're all that i want when im lying here in your arms im finding it hard to believe were in heaven. not the dj sammy version when its all techno. the slow one.

bryan adams. i love that song. and the dj sammy version

Q: Okay, a week ago, this guy who I barely even know (I don't even know his last name) sent me an e-mail declaring that he loves me and wants to be with me. I sent him a very polite decline, because I just do not feel that way about him at all, and now he keeps on e-mailing me with guilt trips about how he thinks he's going to be alone for the rest of his life, and he keeps telling me that he loves me. I suspect that he thinks that if he keeps doing this that I'll change my mind...I don't quite know how to deal with this. So far, I've treated him like I would want to be treated were I in his position, but he's starting to make me feel really uncomforatble. What can I do??

Thanks!

ok. you can block him. or. you can re-email him. tell him if he doesnt stop (remember say this as politley as possible) you will go to people of high authority and you have proof (the emails) tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that if he actually thinks that him trying to make you guilty thats not going to make you change your mind.. it will probably make it worse because its getting annoying which is bad. hope ihelped do write back mwaaaaa

Q: Ok, I know this is a weird question.

I'm just curious, I'm not trying to get a bigger ass, but anyways, if you really exercise your gludius maximus (aka butt muscle), will you get a bigger butt?
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not exactly bigger.. tight firm. not as much flab. so better.. and it may look bigger

Q: I need to lose 15 pounds in less than two weeks. Now I don't need any bull*hit answers I need ones that work and fit into a constracted time schedule of 1 1/2 hours 3-4 days a week 5 max, I also need diet as well.

If you have no clue do not answer

i have a clue. my clue is that there is nothing you can do. its not possible. do you see those commercials for like Jenny Craig and Weight Watchers, etc.. they always advertise 10 pouinds in 5 weeks or soo and that a lot. the younger you are the easier it is to lose weight. but thats just unhealthy and its like a crash diet. this isnt a bullshit answer this is the truth. sorry if you dont like it or disagree. i dont care try the crash diet thing. youll regret it in the end. youll put your body in real danger and you still wont even lose the 15 pounds you should exercise everyday.. and youll lose some weight.. not all 15 pounds. if you wanted to lose 15 punds you shouldve started earlier. sry if you think this is a bullshit answer. its not. its the truth. the truth hurts sometimes

xox lauren

Q: Does anyone know any short quotes or song lyrics that have to do with ..
A.] Sunshine , Sunny, bright [ something long those lines ]

B.] Crazy, messy, weird [ lol ]

C.] Lonliness

Please help me i cant find any !

im walking on sunshine.. woahhhh

and i dont know anymore but go to www.wittyprofiles.com and then click (on the side in the lue hyperlink) on random quotes..k

Q: Last night I fell down the stairs and landed pretty hard on my "big toe" on my right foot. This morning, when I woke up, it was swolen and slightly bruised. It's extremely painful. I went down the stairs to ask my dad about it, and I forgot to walk on the side of my foot; I took a normal step (foot flat on the ground) and it hurt so bad that I started crying. I have a ballroom dance class and a Jewish/Russian dance class this afternoon. Going to a doctor is not an option. My dad thinks I broke it. What I want to know is, what can I do to make it less painful to dance and walk on? I've already taken pain reliever, but should I tape two toes together?
Thanks.

dont know why you cant go to a doctor

dont DANCE stay off it
tape the two toes together and use ice as much as you can ok

Q: i just got my period, but the thing is, i got it 2 weeks ago, too. im really worried, im not expecting it for another 2 weeks! whats wrong?

hey.. chill. mines totally irregular. everyones is at one point. just always try to wear a pantyliner like a week before you get it ot somethin that always works for me okk hope this has helped