I have had my fair share of life's lessons and learned from them. I come from a family filled with divorce and family problems so I have a rough idea on how to personally handle things.
As for matters of the heart I can tell when a relationship is or isn't going to work. I understand the importance of communication and give and take after spending around two years in a relationship were I almost ran my ex boyfriend's household and looked after his siblings.
I understand that in certain parts of the world I am not yet of legal age to have a sexual relationship and that in some religious circles it is frowned upon for an unmarried woman to do so. What can I say? I have been in love and I have expressed that love but I have always been careful to avoid any trouble. I know how most contraception works and how the system works so don't be afraid.
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My period affects my quality of life
I am bothered by the amount of bleeding & the pain that I have during my period
My period makes me feel depressed, tired or moody
My life would improve if I could decrease or completely eliminate my periods
I would like to learn about a simple procedure that can help me take control of my period
I am sure I do not want any (more) children in the future
I cannot use any birthcontrol method due to Chronic Allergies
I did reseach on NovaSure But I still need to be on birthcontrol & I cannot use it
I really need a procedure to help with my periods & something to protect me from having anymore children
Is sterilization my only option or is there another procedure for me (link)
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See your GP or try over the counter painkillers that are especially for time of the month pains, obviously they do not do much for your mood, but a lot of the moods women go through are due to the pain a period can cause.
Of course you are bound to feel a bit down if you are trying to get on with your day but the pain is stopping you from doing the simplest of tasks like washing up or a simple shopping trip.
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i had sex with this guy and he popped my cherry.I was bleeding alot but though nothing of it. two days i got my period but i already had it for the month.we weren't using protection and we had sex for about 3 mnutes. (link)
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Periods are strange things, you do not have to have had sex to have two in one month. Cycles can differ with diet and lifestyle in general, although I would advise using protection in future.
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What does it mean to be physically attracted to someone? (link)
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Being attracted to how someone looks on the outside.
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Hi, so I'm a gay male. I've been married for only half a year. My husband and I had been together and deeply in love for a year before we got married. But he's changed a lot in the past couple months. (Ever since we said the I do) he temper has gotten awful, all we do is fight. He doesn't want to allow me to dress how I used to. Doesn't let me see friends. He won't let me go back to school or get a vehicle of my own. He talks to other guys online. Tells people how much he hates me. But to my face he says he loves me and cares about me. Our fights start about any little thing you can think of, and blow out of proportion and turn into huge fights. I've heard that the first 5 years are supposed to be the best but the first 5 months have been an emotional roller coaster. He loves me one day and hates me the next. The only time I get attention is right before bed and only if he wants sex. Other than that I just don't matter until he needs money or cigarettes. He won't get a job. I pay for all of his expenses. Including the car (that is not mine) that he "lets" me drive to work. I feel he may have cheated. He leaves with his friends and doesnt ever let me know where he is when im at work, and gets mad if i ever want to go out. hes really isolated me from my friends and family. He's extremely controlling and mentally abusive. He's basically destroying me. And I just don't know if I should keep trying anymore. He used to treat me like gold. Now I'm just dirt on his boots. Happy valentines day-
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When I come across a post like this I try so hard to remain impartial. I usually say how it isn't all black and white and that there are shades of grey with everything but for the first time, I must say I do not think your husband is being fair to you at all.
In an attempt to be fair to him I will ask to you to consider some kind of couples' counselling before you make any decisions.
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I got very less marks(56%) and this is the first time i scored such less marks, always i used to get above 80%. I don't know how to tell this to my parents and how to face my friends in the college.
I feel like committing suicide, i google it and saw the ways to commit suicide... (link)
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Take a deep breath and never get yourself too down over grades. I know it can be harsh when you expect so much of yourself or found something easier than it was, I have been there and found that there are ways around it:
1. Look at your results and try and figure out why you think you went wrong, it could be a simple case of mis-reading the question, everyone does it from time to time.
2. Talk to your subject teacher, ask him/her to explain something you don't believe that you are grasping, most teachers prefer honesty to letting things carry on the way they are.
3. Discuss your grades with your parents, apologize for your current grade but ease them by telling them that you are working on it and are doing your best and no one can ask more of you than that.
4. Remember you aren't super-human, not everyone can know everything about everything!
Hope this helps :)
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I got fingered today for the first time, it felt good but at the same time had a small burning sensation. he started with 1 finger then used 2. sometimes i would feel like if i had gotten scratched but i ignored it. when I went to the restroom to check there was blood on my panties. it didnt hurt at all untill i tried to go pee. oh my! i couldnt even go pee. there was horrible stinging and burning. i tried drying the small amount of pee & i was bleeding a bit. what should i do? im scared to go pee! & did he break my hymen? (link)
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It could be one or two things, it could be your hymen or like you said it could be a scratch on the inside, which when you try to go to the toilet, stings because it is passing through the cut. If the pain continues I would suggest talking to your GP.
Also if you were not aroused during the process, it can lead to a type of friction burn.
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I am 3 months pregnant. I live with my boyfriend. He pays the rent since I don't have a job. We are BOTH on the lease, though, and I have contributed in the past when I had an income. I am 21 and he is 26. Today he said to me "You can't live here anymore. I am not your family and I am not your father." (Meaning, he thinks since he has been paying the rent by himself recently, it gives him the right to tell me to move out.) I know he has been talking to other girls online, at his workplace, and at bars. (They are in his phone text conversations and emails.) I don't know if he has cheated on me, but I do know he is pursuing other women. He has not told his parents I am pregnant and told me he has no intention of raising a baby with me. The reason he gave me is because I have not found a job since I have been unemployed, I am a college dropout, and that I have no ambitions in life. He has never expressed this until my pregnancy, and quite frankly, what does being and unambitious unemployed college dropout have to do with anything? He helped create this baby, AND DID NOT OFFER TO PAY FOR ABORTION.
Okay, so here are my 2 questions:
I KNOW ITS THE YEAR 2013 AND ALL, BUT SHOULD I BE ASHAMED THAT I WANT A TRADITIONAL MARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP IN WHICH HE IS THE "BREADWINNER" AND I TAKE CARE OF THE HOME AND CHILD? (I'M NOT SAYING I DON'T EVER WANT TO RETURN TO WORK, BUT IT HAS BEEN VERY DIFFICULT FINDING WORK AND BEING A HOMEMAKER AND MOTHER CAN BE MY "AMBITION" FOR NOW.)
WHY DOES MY BOYFRIEND SEE THIS PREGNANCY AS MY WAY OF "DEPENDING ON HIM LIKE A FATHER"?(I AM DEPENDING ON HIM AS A BOYFRIEND, FATHER OF MY CHILD, AND POSSIBLE FUTURE HUSBAND)(He is making me feel bad, almost like I am a gold digger, because I am living here rent free. I don't ask him for gifts, I don't ask him for anything, not even food because I am on food stamps. He is stingy with his money and I respect his decision to spend his money elsewhere, even though I RECENTLY FOUND OUT it is spent to take other women on dates or to buy other women drinks at the bar. but why is he so unwilling to pay for his baby? He has a good full time job and a bachelor's degree. AM I A GOLD DIGGER SERIOUSLY?
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I understand your frustration and I am sure I would be upset by his behaviour in your shoes. He needs to realize that although he is not your father he is the father of your unborn child and it is also his responsibility to if possible keep a roof over that baby's head and the person carrying it, it is just being decent.
Yes this particular world we live in doesn't care much for marriage either way and it isn't the answer and I certainly wouldn't want to marry a man I did not trust, who treated me in such a manner and had no regard for my feelings, pregnancy is a rough time for women without worrying about somewhere to live.
My advice would be a cooling off period and sending him occasional messages about the progress of the baby and very little else once you have found somewhere to stay. I'm not saying leave him just keep your distance so that you don't get upset and possibly cause distress to the baby and explain that to him. It isn't just you he is affecting with his decision.
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im 16f and he is 19 year old male. we have known each other since i was 12. started dating him at 15. do yoou think hes too old? (link)
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Personally I have no issue with it as compared to my own relationship three years isn't very much at all. However I do not know where you live so if you live in the states and are having this relationship then yes it could be a problem but in the UK its perfectly legal.
I am not judging and saying every relationship is based on sex, it is possible to have a great relationship without it but there is a chance you will be accused of it whether you are or are not.
One of my first boyfriends was a little older than me and my own mother accused me of sleeping with him when I did no such thing. I was 17f and he was 24M.
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Hey,
So obviously I kinda know what it means, but like how would you define a 'fit' girl?
(I mean the way boys say fit rather than psyically fit) (link)
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It means attractive on the outside, but of course everyone's perception is different and it can be used on both men and women.
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Ok so, i have heard constantly that being gay is a sin, but i couldnt find it in the bible, plus i dont even understand WHY its a sin in the first place! Can somebody please help me understand? (link)
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There are only very brief parts of the bible that supposedly condemn homosexuality, but it depends on a person's interpretation of it.
"Man shall not lye with another man as he does with a woman."...Obviously if it is not in his sexual preference and he is forced to share a bed with one or the other he would lye quite differently, different people will interpret it differently its what we do.
Also the bible was translated from a different language so there is also the chance that a lot of the bible is based on educational guessing.
Most Christians believe that sex must only be used for reproduction and therefore any sex that is not for that purpose is sinful regardless to if it is two men, two women or a man and a woman who are not yet ready to have children.
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I am so very deeply in love with my teacher, I am obsessed with her and crave her immensely. She is such a beautiful and perfect lady. She is 28 and I am 16. I fantasize about her all the time and one of my main fantasies of course is having sex with her. I am wondering, what would happen if me and her had consensual sex? Would she still get in trouble even though it was 100% consensual? What if I went in front of the judge and said that I wanted whatever she did to me and to not punish her. What would happen then? Seriously. I'd be willing to get on my knees in front of the judge and beg and cry not to punish her. This is all hypothetical don't worry it won't actually happen. ALso I hear they go easier on females than males in these kinds of cases (link)
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The law is very strict on this matter. While you are at school she is bound by law to protect your interests as your parents would at home. In the eyes of the law as the teacher she would probably get suspended pending further investigation.
Also you have not mentioned if she likes you back, I understand with the law in place she cannot say either way until you leave school and are no longer under her care and responsibility.
You are not far from school leaving age, perhaps wait until your time at school is over before considering a sexual relationship with her?
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i did sex with my girlfriend but didnt cum inside her. i ejaculated my sperm outside. she missed one of his periods ...kindly let me know is she pregnant and if yes how can we opt for abortion. her last day of menstrual was 23.11.12 (link)
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The only way to tell is to buy a test or see your doctor to get one done for free.
However I would like to take this time to tell you that women can be late for a number of reasons such as diet, stress and a change in sleeping pattern.
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To use the money mainly to help and inspire other people? Or would I just risk letting money get to my head? I'm 18 and an undergraduate in college, and ideally I want to live in a decent apartment in a quiet part of a city. Not in a "gated" community, but not in a ghetto or anything. I just want to see average people of different backgrounds, because it makes me the most comfortable. I only want to keep things that are useful to me, and which remind me to follow the commandments with joy. I want to be an economist, but my parents want me to pursue accounting first, as it would be easier for me to secure a job. I think it would also teach me discipline to become a CPA first, because discipline is something I need more practice in. I also want to do it as a kind of penance, to show I'm truly sorry for my sins in the past. And I want to become an economist and try to see work through the lens of how I've come to interpret Christianity, in a fair and just way. I was baptised Catholic at a young age, but only when I reached rock bottom about a month ago, and finally prayed with an earnest heart, did I start actually seeing God everywhere. Like when I concentrate and try to find God, I see his work. I can't believe how blind I was for most of my life. I used to want to become an economist for money and respect from others (I was an agnostic, but leaning atheist, because I didn't see how The Bible related to my life. Mainly cause I never read it with an honest heart, I'd read it skeptically and it would never get through my hardened heart) but now I want to do for God, and I want to follow his commands over whatever rules there may be, even if it costs me my job (if I lose my job I could always find an accounting job! haha). I'm just a bit worried if that is prideful to do? Is it harder to be humble when you have money? My family is upper middle class now but I don't think I'm "better" than a poor or rich person. I still have to be confirmed and to learn a lot more about the faith, and I'm really excited (Is it true it's bad to read too much of the bible in one sitting? I got a bit carried away two days ago and read all of romans, but I want to read it again and again. I never want to be blind to God's love ever again because I've never felt this at peace since I was a young child. I had really bad social anxiety and yesterday I sat with two groups people I had never met and had faith, and I didn't get the bad responses I had expected! I think the more I open my heart to the lord and trust, the more he'll teach me about what love actually is. Before it was just a word.) Anyways, I want to donate a lot of the money I would earn to charities that seem just and worthwhile, as well as to people in my own family in a country in Africa, where there's a lot of poverty. I want to use the money to give people hope there, too. People who follow God's will, and people who tend to sin. I mean, it's just lack of "seeing". How could I sin now when I've seen God' existence? How do I show it to others? I'm still learning myself. So many questions! I prayed to God about which career I should take and I just get the feeling I should do what I want to do, because I feel it just fits my personality. I don't know how to explain it. I also want to do missionary work and whatever else to keep me humble, if I'm not. I know changing old habits will take a lot of drive, but the idea of seeing god face to face seems like the best motivator. Sorry this question is super long, I need to learn how to be more concise! I'd really appreciate an answer though, there's so much I have still to learn about how to follow God's will and I really want to learn (link)
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I do not think any religion has a problem with work or 'toil' as it is known. I was brought up Catholic on my father's side and his family are obsessed with working, I think they see it as a sin if someone falls on hard times and cannot get work despite the economic climate.
However the church does encourage the concept of private prayer as it is seen as a conversation between yourself and Jesus.
I lost my faith many years ago, however I have a good understanding of how it works and parts of other religions.
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Is it a sin to eat pussy
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It may depend on your religion but in most cases sexual acts in general are classed as sinful outside of marriage from what I can gather. I hope this helps.
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im currently in a relationship with my girlfriend for around a year 3months now, due to my past e.g parents spliting up etc, im worried my girlfriend will do the same and its now putting pressure on our relationship. how can i stop the past in my head. (link)
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It is difficult to come from a broken family and be in a relationship. My own parents are divorced and I've found that at some point I have been scared that it is genetic.
However it appears that I am not doomed to failure and I am sure you are not either. It has been difficult and I have made mistakes but I have managed to be in a long term relationship and have no intention of ever letting it end.
Be strong and concentrate on what you want, see the past as a 'how not to do it' kind of lesson.
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i love my bf with all my heart and my mom dont approve of him. i dought that mom will allow me to marry him. am not sure that i need her premission or not. so should i tell her or not? (link)
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In the UK the answer is no but other countries have a higher marital consent age limit. I am not going to say that you are too young or that you should accept your mother's wishes for personal reasons but I will say that I know someone who broke his mother's heart when he got married and didn't tell her. Eventually she accepted it and did her best to get on with her son's wife but she knew from day one that the marriage wouldn't work. It took over ten years but the marriage did come to an end and she was very relieved.
What I will say is that before you marry get to know each other as well as possible, live together for at least 3 months before you decide.
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what does it mean if your boyfriend tells you during an argument "why do you think that you haven gotten pregnant" but you don't want a baby (link)
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Perhaps it is best to start at the beginning and ask if it is something he really wants and when?. I have come to learn that everything has its time and planning a family can put a couple at odds about the best time to have a baby.
In my relationship we both want a baby (or two) but at the same time we have sat down and said that we need to start saving and get ourselves prepared and settled before we bring someone else into our lives as having a baby is about both of you.
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I have a boyfriend who I really love,we have an intense and very active sex life,I mean we are used to arguing a lot but when it comes to having sex,I believe everything's perfect,what I'm also starting to believe,though,is that the only thing he cares about is sex,he doesn't wanna go out for dinner anymore for example,he doesn't say 'I miss you'anymore,I'm really worried about this,also he has started to hang out with his friends again like the way he was used to doing when he was a single ,I don't know what to do,nor do I know what to think,help?thanks! (link)
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It could be that he is secure in the relationship and is ready to have a separate home and social life.
If his lack of social activity is bothering you, you can suggest a 'date day' when you are both free and willing to keep things fresh and to talk about things that need talking about, plus its nice to get out together sometimes. I have been in a relationship for a while now and my fiancé and I go out every wednesday (providing he is not working) for a bar snack.
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am 12 he 13. he wants sex, but i told him i was scared, he respects my response,but he keeps saying that he 'wants to fuck me bad.' the more he says it i want to, but am 12 dont know what to do.some advise??? (link)
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Hate to say it, I am usually really open minded about this sort of thing as I understand different people mature at different rates but you are both a little young. I don't know where you are from but here in the UK age of consent is 16 and maybe you need to tell your boyfriend that.
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How could I get sims on my computer, for free? Any game of sims. Is there any way to do it without torrent? (link)
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There is a sims social on facebook.
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