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let's not bore you with my life story. or completely bore you with who i am.. i'll just tell you that my name is destiny. and i give pretty damn good advice. =]

i think i give good advice,
im gonna be honest, im not gonna add u on myspace,
unless i talk to you,
and get to know you a little,

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Alright here is my situation.. first of all im not sure what section this was supposed to be in so im sorry if its in the wrong category. Anyways I moved from New York to Illinois after i graduated. I moved for my now ex boyfriend. He promised me a life and he would help but as soon as i got a thousand miles away from my family he changes and starts hitting me. So me and him break up also because it wasnt me and him in a relationship but me him and his mom he wanted me more like a mom than a girlfriend.
So now since i dont want to go running back to New York im trying to make it on my own any suggestions. It is so hard Im scared that i will fail. I so far have been able to get around with the help of my new boyfriend he is my knight in shining armor he has the same background as me but that isnt important right now. How do i make it on my own.. i just i dont think anyone can help or im just asking an odd question that i dont know how to put it in words. HELP.. thanks
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aha, you're ex b/f is a dick.
so
like.
yeah, just go with your current. he'll help.
im not helping much
but like.
ah
just ask me a question.
if you need more help. sorry i can't help much now. im tireddd. ish.


what are some things i can do to tease my bf? but no going past 2nd base. and he was kinda wondering about a strip tease game but i dont want to get undressed more then a bra and jeans/skirt so how will that work or what else is there? and things i can do like touching him like his neck or back. one thing i did was rub where his boxer line is so what else will make him think of sex and get real horny? thanks so much! :] i will rate (link)
aha, well. to get ur shirt off, just like. make out with him. and just hint that you want him to take ur shirt off. [[slowly pull away and lift your shirt up]] and just make out with him. sit on his lap and make out with him. flirt. and then stop. when you're sitting on him. if he's horny. you'll prolly feel his penis sticking up. just. flirt.


This is long, but you have to know the full story before you can tell me how to move on.

"Rachel"=Me
"Holly"=Ex best friend
"Billie"=Friend
"Dale"=Guy that tore us apart.

Fake names, obviously.

Okay, so I had this friend for a couple of years. Let's call her..."Holly" but be warned that isn't her real name.

Me and Holly were best friends from about early 2005 until about a month ago. We'd talk everyday, and we got on really well. We had a few 'petty' fights which lasted 5 minutes. It was a pretty good friendship, I'll admit it here but not to everyone else.

About December last year she made friends with a guy I DETEST. I didn't mind, it's her life but not mine. However being the effing drama queen she is, she made a huge deal about it. She was all "omfg get over it, if you don't like him doesn't mean I can't like him?!" (Yes, she devolped a crush on him) seconds before when I told her I was happy for her.

However this wasn't enough for her, he convinced her to hate me. I didn't care, I just learned how to live my life without her.

About a month after that she came crying back to me. I forgave her, I'm a pretty good friend. So everything was okay. About a week ago I noticed she was online on her Last.FM but not MSN. Then a few days ago my friend was asking me why we were fighting. I told her I had no idea what was going on, and so my friend asked her what was going on. Let's call my friend Billie.

So Billie was like "So...why aren't you friends with (Let's say my name is...Rachel) Rachel anymore?" And Holly replied with "I dunno. I'm just so over Rachel" (Yes, she said that about a friend who has done nothing but put up with her ridiculous whining for years)

So after a while me and Billie worked out it was to do with the guy that turned her against me. When she said she was talking to me again he refused to talk to her again. Billie decided this is NOT a way to treat a friend, and although she's friends with Holly and has been before she even met me, I'm a better friend than Holly plus I had done nothing wrong.

So Billie asked her the real reason why she stopped her ties with me. My suspicions were correct. She replied with (Let's call the guy Dale) "Dale stopped talking to me, he was the most inspirational person in my life. Talking to Rachel again was the biggest mistake I made in my life" (LET ME TELL YOU THAT DALE WENT AROUND SAYING CRAP ABOUT HOLLY, SAYING SHE'S PREGNANT AND HE'S THE FATHER. AND HE DOESN'T EVEN LIVE IN THE SAME STATE AND THEY'VE NEVER MET!! THAT'S WHY SHE CAME CRYING BACK TO ME, COS SHE WAS SO OVER HIM THE WAY SHE GOT OVER ME) and then Billie told her that it's not cool to ditch your best friend for a crazy guy you've never met and never will.

and what I'm about to say, I'm not exaggerating. I'm not trying to make this look better. This is truly the pathetic thing to say. Holly knew Billie was right, but she couldn't let her pride down. So she then changed her story to "It's Rachel's fault my mother hits me. She's never been into this house and she ripped my family apart" let me tell you that I never met her parents, and as she said, I never went to her house and she never went to mine. We preferred to just hang out at places. Billie then argued with her more, and Holly then even said more lies.

It ended up with Holly blocking Billie, when Billie said that Dale could be a paedophile.

ANYWAY, that happened yesterday. Today I got an email from Holly and she had sent it to Dale too. It was a link to her LiveJournal. It was an entry about me and Dale, telling us to get over ourselves. And she was basically implying her friendship is like a blessing, and if you lose it your life is ruined. PFFT.

She posted 3 entries in her LiveJournal to make us angry to post angry comments. It was then, I realised I want to move on. I don't want to fight with her, for a few days I've been plotting revenge. It was really good too, and I would have still been the "winner" I wouldn't have stooped to her level, and I would have won. But I realised reading those entries it's not about winning or losing, I want to move on.

So...after all of this, how can I move on? Please don't tell me to not miss her friendship, because to be honest she did me a favour. She left my life, but she keeps trying to rub it into my face she isn't my friend anymore.

But I still have a bit of anger left, anger that I basically got used. Anger someone said those things about me, and anger she got there first by packing up.

ALSO, another reason why she got really angry and blocked me, is because she doesn't have many friends, and the ones she does have are internet friends. She couldn't stand it I could be happy without her, and make other friends and hang with them every weekend. (link)
mmkay.
i don't think you should have revenge
just let her be stupid
she'll realize she needs you and then that's up to you if you take her back
i honestly think that if she was a good friend and worth it she wouldn't have dumped you for that internet friend "dale" friends do shit
but not shit as stupid as that. i think you should let her be her angry self, and just let her hate you.

xoxo


I have a really good guy friend... I'm female and he's 2 years older. We are both in high school. Anyway, I like him a lot... a lot. Actually I love him. 100% sure I love him, even if it is just as friends. Well, the problem is, I really want to go out with him, but he has a girlfriend. He was single when I met him though. He knew I liked him before he started dating her, but we didn't know each other very well then. His girlfriend is kinda mean to him, and I don't think she cares about him as much as she should. Maybe he doesn't tell her as much as he tells me, because if he did, she would have to love him more. So, at first I was happy for him, but then his girlfriend got bitchy towards me and his other friends. I don't think she's good enough for him. Now I'm going crazy seeing him with her and other girls. I want him to like me. I think I could have a chance, but I'm really shy and need to open up more. His girlfriend's good friend told me that she thinks they won't last much longer, and his girlfriend told me she thinks he likes me as more than a friend, but I don't think so. I really like him though and I want a chance with him. What I really need advice with is making him like me more. Ways to get close to him. Any advice you have would be good with this situation. I love him and everything he says he wants in a relationship I want to. Now don't forget I'm already really good friends with him. We hang out, and he comes to my house a lot. But I really want to get closer to him and let him know that I feel as strongly as I do. Another thing is, I always want to say "I love you" when he's about to leave or something, but I'm afraid he'll think it's weird or take it the wrong way, I mean, me and my friends do say that to each other, but would it be weird with him? Any advice on that would be helpful too. And, I always want to hug him, and sometimes he really needs a hug, but I think that might be weird for him too. Anyways to approach that? Thanks for any advice you give. Sorry it's long. (link)
mmkay. don't ask me how to get him to like you, just be you. i mean
he seems like he likes you already, just talk to him more, maybe about more personal things. just. show him that you care, be there for him. just
be you...


about the iloveyou thing.
ummmm
just
time it right.
if he's sad or happy tell him then
but if he's mad, that might not be such a good time. just be there
he'll come around [[if he doesnt already love youuu

xoxo


My best friend is so much prettier,smarter,and BETTER than I am. She is so popular she has guys hitting on her ALL THE TIME. She is forever complaining about boys being all flirty with her. I am jealous because she makes the best grades,and she is so beautiful,tall,slim,and such. I'm always jealous of her,and I must show it because she sometimes gets mad at me for it. I get all untalkactive,gloomy,and uncaring when I feel that way, which is so different from my outgoing,active,extrovert,and happy friend. She has the nicest parents,and she has everything.She is friends with everyone. Also,my crush for three years just broke my heart rejecting me by saying, "Eww,gross,not you,you're so ugly and fat." Then,I found out that he liked my best friend. And yes,and I very fat,and I have everyone calling me fat,ugly,and weird,and a horrible singer. I am not confident,and have no self esteem. I'm short, 4 feet nine inches, and much over 132 pounds. I am good at nothing,and get D's and F's. Can anyone help me boost my self-esteem?
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wow. your situation is better than mine.
my best friends a slipping away from me. people think im a lesbian. [[im bi]] and like. my parents are always fighting for stupid reasons. kids at school are a pain and seem to think im emo/goth. but im not, i get judged by people for the way i look. and there's only like 4 people i would tell anything to. you're doing better than i am, and think about it
no matter how bad you're doing, somebody's always doing worse. find people that understand you, people that care. mmkay.

but don't do anything stupid
mmkay
=]

xoxo.


Ok there is this guy who thinks I am pretty and nice. He has never talked to me but he wants to get to know me. My friend is friends with him and she gave him my number. He seems nice but he won't talk to me in person. He isn't that attractive. And I don't hang out with his friends so I wouldn't want to hang out with him and his friends and he doesn't really talk to all of mine. I don't think my parents would approve of him either. But just because the color of his skin. He is like indian. but i don't know what to do. What if I really am not in to him? I don't want to be bitchy about it. I really don't know what to do he isn't my type really. (link)
um. be friends. and tell your parents to get the fuck over it. they need to stop being so god damn prejiduce. mmkay
yeah. i mean, give this guy a shot. you might start liking him.

xoxo.


So, this is my problem and my friends are all annoying. All names are made up.I like jim, nikki is going out with mike.

dani likes thomas and is obsessed with him pretty much, well shes flirting with jim to get thomas jealous, and tanny awants her too so she can get over Thomas. This makes nikki mad so shes flirting with him bc she doesnt want him liking dani, which makes mike sad, and shan is also wanting dani to flirt with jim because she doesnt want nikki to do it and hurt mike so now he has these girls all over him and i was talking to him and hes like omg just get off me! and hes coming over to talk with me and dani or nikki comes running over and im like OMG STOP IT and then dani got mad at me and thinks i like jim which i do but she shouldnt know and jim is like thanks and im starting to like him more. and dani wants to go out with jim to get over thomas and he might go out with her. What should i do to:
1-get nikki to stop it with jim?
2-get dani to think i dont like jim, and to stop flirting with him?
3-get jim to like me?
4- get thomas and dani to go out?
5- get shan and tanny to stop encouraging dani?

thanks soooo much and sorry its long! i rate high (link)
ALL OF THE ABOVE!!
nikki needs to back off she has a b/f
dani doesn't need to know if you like jim, and she doesn't need to make thomas jealous. she should just tell him how she feels.
if you like jim, tell him, or flirt [[A LITTLE]] and see if he likes you
you should get thomas and dani to go out. two reasons. 1. dani likes him alot. 2. dani will leave jim alone
and dani needs to stop with jim
mmkay
she likes someone else
she should focus on him
not jim

xoxo


I have this boyfriend whom ive been with for 6months and I really love him the problem is that I also have feelings for this kid that I have liked a really lot since middle school. We were always very closed and liked each other we just never went out. I always thought he would be my first sexual experience. He is telling me know that he wished we were going out and that he made a big mistake by not asking me out. He says he cares alot about me. I don’t know what to do my boyfriend and I have started talking about having sex (im still a virgin). The problem is I don’t know if I should have sex with him if I still have feelings for this other guy. I don’t want to hurt him and break up with him because im not sure what will happen with this other guy. Please help (link)
mmkay.
um.
1st of all.
DON'T CHEAT ON HIM!! trust me
you don't know how much it hurts guys when you cheat on them. but i think. you should stay with the guy you're going out with now. you've been through more. and like. you don't know if this other guy really cares.
i mean.
you've been with this guy for a while. i think you should stay with him. don't hurt him. as for the other guy, keep him just in case.
x]

xoxo



I won't bore you with the whole story. Instead, I'll tell you that:

*We went out before. But it wasn't "officially" a date. We went out for coffee, and the next week went out for dinner and a movie. He paid for everything.*

*He works ALL the time (till the wee hours of the morning.) So during the week our main form of communication is texting. However, he doesn't usually initiate the text conversations.

* I don't see him more than once or twice every two weeks because he's so busy.*

*When we do go out, there is lots of good chemistry, eye contact and body language. However, this has been going on for at least a month and he hasn't made a move.*

*He doesn't mention other girls he likes or might be seeing.*



How can I tell if he likes me, or if he's just being friendly? (link)
um. he could like you, but he's way busy.
so just come out and ask him. i mean, if he doesn't then he doesnt
but make sure you do it in person
pay attention to the way he says it
and the tenderness in his voice.
he probably does becuase of the way you says he acts.
but if you dont like him
then don't ask him.
because if he does. things between you guys might feel wierd for you. trust me i've been there

xoxo


I'm trying to buy a hot irion straighter, everytime i see hot irion straighter, they said 250C and 400F? what that mean? i want buy 400 f, like hot 400 degree, really hot.

and also what good thing to put my hair on befoe i do straighter?

which way is best way?
1) shower
2) blow dry
3) straighter?

get idea?? helppp

and and which name of brand is besttt irion curly????

thanks again!!!

and HELPPPP! (link)
400F means 400 degrees F
250C means 250 degrees C

but um. a really good 400 degree flat iron is CHI.
i mean, it's really good. but um..
yeah
try some frizz ease.

xoxo


I've been cutting for a couple years now but lately it has been getting worse. I told a teacher, who is my friends mom on terms that she wouldn't report me or tell anyone because she isn't a teacher 24/7 so I was talking to her as my friend's mom. Well that was fine but I told her I would try to stop and if it got worse we could get me help. So I was wondering how your mom / dad or parent reacted when they found out. Or what happens when you go to a school consulor. Thanks. (link)
well if you go to school, they'll probably tell your parents. and so i suggest you go to your parents. but um.
my mom was shocked. she didn't know i was so depressed.
i guess your parents will be in shock. and they might take more careful watch on you. i mean. they might not want you doing it. but i don't know your parents



but my mom was in utter shock, she didn't believe it and she was really sad and such. but yeah..

hope i helpedd.
xoxo


I'm 20 years old.I have flat and small breast.flatter and smaller than any other 2o years old women.I think they will never grown.i'm very skinny.I don't want to get plastic surgery.but I heard that there are a lot of breast enlargement pills and cremes.I just want to know are they really good and safe?I have a wonderful boyfriend and I want to please to him.He said he loves me the way I am.But I just want to be perfect for him. (link)
don't do it.
for two reasons.
1. you're perfect the way you are. there's nothing that's gonna better you. and trust me, if you get breast enlargment, you'll be a different person. you'll get cocky, [[most likely]] and yeah.
2. it's not safe.
if you are gonna do it [[which you shouldn't]] go to a specialist.

but honestly
i dont think you should
it's not worth the money
he loves you for who you are.


16/f. 15/m. my first boyfriend's getting to be REALLY kinky...and it's okay, to some extent. but i've just had enough.
i have a kind of ..a fear of male genitalia..its not a fear..more like a disgust [because of events that have happened previously..to me ..when i was young] and..my bf (lets call him A)
well, A showed me his penis. and i wasn't exactly turned on or anything. we're much too young. and whenever i reject looking at it, or touching it or anything, he gets PISSED at me. and he goes...so you have peniphobia now? WTF?
he ALWAYS finds something wrong with the way i act-how i'm disgusted by certain crude..sexual acts - IN PUBLIC.. WHO touches themselves in public? Please tell me..? Am I insane or -what..?
He takes pictures of his penis and gets upset when I refuse to see it. He doesn't respect my irrational fear...no matter how stupid it is.
Worst of all, he forces some acts on me...he grabs me by the crotch and forcefully grabs my boobs. I liked the making out stage...But it's just getting too retarded now. He's way too horny. And I tell him I love him..because I do. But I can't be with him anymore. I feel like he only uses me for my body. That's all he wants.
Can somebody PLEASE tell me ..whether or not this relationship could be worth saving? Or..?
There's also no intellectual attraction - We have nothing to talk about. It's all physical. And I don't feel like I can tell him anything.
I have no experience with boyfriends prior to this one. So I don't know what to do. Any help would be GREATLYYY appreciated. (link)
mmkay.
i think you should leave his sorry ass.
i mean. if he only loves you for your body. then he doesn't care about you as much as you care about him.
i mean, if he really cared. he'd accept your fear, and wait until you were ready. rather than try to force you do things. i think you deserve better. guys can be better than that. trust me. the guy im going out with cares alot. and i was cutting. and he did everything he could to get me to stop. i mean, he cares. i think you should just stay friends with some people, and see where that leads. but i think you should just leave the guy. he doesn't deserve you if he only wants you sexually..

hope i helped
if you need more help
and me on here
or on aim
aim screen name: randomconfusionx

xoxo


my boyfriend and i like trying new things when we make out. we've done it with gum, mints, and up-side-down (which is really hot, by the way).

what other things can we do or add to make it more fun? :) (link)
first of all. i LOVE your questionn!!!!!!!

and yeah.
okkay.

ummm. pop rock kiss is pretty fun i've hearddd.

um in a pool, lake, etc. and just kiss.
kiss on the beach. near the pool.

champigne kiss. haha. funn. um. one of you drinks something. and then you kiss with it in your mouth
caution: don't choke. and be careful.



Hi, Im a girl and 18 and I'm a virgin, I've never had anything inside of my vagina, not even a tampon...i do masturbate but never stick my finger inside of me....today i thought i tried cus my boyfrined and i have gotten serious..well when i inserted my finger inside of me it really really hurt and i tried again later and it really really hurt again...im scared is there a reason why its hurting so much besides ive never had nething inside of me.... (link)
mmkay.
well it's called the hymen, and it usually breaks after you have sex for the first time...
but it's supossed to hurt the first couple times. i mean honestly. =]

but it's natural. there's nothing wrong with you. and good job staying a virgin for so long.

=]
xoxo


Hi everyone...i know this will be long, but please help!! Ok sooo there is this girl that I have liked since school started... we hang out all the time in our classes together and we meet up when she is in dance class and I'm in pe. The only problem is--she cant go anywhere with me cause her parents are WAYYY over controling and dont let her hang out with guys. Sooo pretty much no moviesss umm no mall, etc. unless she tells her parents that she is hanging out with some girls and we "bumped" into eaceother......my point is--she cant hang out with guys.

So last saturday--I went to this party for my friends birthday, and I met this guy. He is reallllly nice, easy to talk to and just "gets" me. I talk to him all day long and there are never awkward silences--its like we have perfect chemistry... he always said the right thing. Soo aventually he asked if i liked him and I said, yes and soo he says, i dont mean friend like, and so i said...I know. soo we pretty much have the hots for eachother and yeaaaaaaa.

Here is where the trouble starts, I was thinking about asking that girl out on valentines day... and now im pretty much dating this guy and he asked me if i will be his valentine( i know--kinda cheezy but cute)

what do you think i should do? i have known this guy since 7th grade and when i finally get to know him in only 4 days were practially dating. and this girl she cant ever honestly go out with me but I really like her and have for a while.

Also--this guy has been turned down from a guy just like this--they met and were really close and then he asked him out and he said no so he could date this girl and they were never friends again. Ahhh!!!!!

OOOOO and another thing--im BI but im not out--at all...this guy is the only person that i have told...sooo if I dated him then we would have to keep it secret...wow this just piles on and on--also he is a sophmore and i am a freshman soo next year he goes to a different school(i dont see him much anyways)

what do you think i should do? (link)
okay. i think you should stay with the guy. and don't keep it a secret. if people know you're bi, and don't accept you, then they're not real friends.
but i think you should stay with the guy for two reasons...
1. you guys obviously like eachother. and face it. not alotta guys have the balls to admit that they're bi. =]
2. see what the girl's reaction is. see if she treats you differentt. if she treats you differently, then she never really liked you as much as you thought she did. cuz if she really liked you, she'd accept you for being bi, and going out with a guy...

and btw,
i think it's pretty awesome that you're bi.
it's nice to know im not the only one.

if you need anymore help
aim screen name: randomconfusionx
xoxo.


Ok here we go;;
My names celina and im in the eigth grade. this is a typical question..."does he like me or not." but i think mine might be a little different. ok so a few weeks ago i went to a party, and this kid chris (my crushhh) was there, and he was acting, well,....probably the flirty-est i've ever even seen a guy act. he would play with my hair tickle me, cuddle, whisper, and all that good stuff. and one of my bestfriends, lindsey, was like "OMG JUST ASK HER OUT!." -all he did was smile. Then we go back to school and he doesnt even look at me. doesnt say one word...oh yeah mabey a few words one day out of like 3 weeks.=( WHATS HAPPENEING? i've liked this kid foreverrr and i have no idea what to do. he got his phone taken away so i cant even call. and i want him for VDAY sooo bad. how do i get him? how do i know whats happenening? whats he thinking? does he hate me? does he secretly loovveee me?

ahhh helpp!
xoxoxo-
celinaa.
f/14 (link)
ok. this is destiny being honest. it might have been a dare. if he knew you liked him. but that's only one possibility...
he might have just had the confidence at the party. that's how my bf is sometimes. sometimes he doesn't want people to know we go out cuz people at my school over judge. but back to your problem, honestly i think he was either dared to do it. or just had a sudden burst of confidence at the party. but it would help if you knew he was going out with someone. and if he is. he was either trying to make her jealous at the party. or he's trying to make you jealous by going out with her. but honestly. i think you should just tell him you like him. just see where that leads.
i hope i helpeddd.

if you need more help
aim: randomconfusionx

--destinyyyy


This is for anyone who is bi/lesbian/gay. guys or girls.

how did you know you where bi/gay/lesbian?


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um well. i guess i knew cuz. like. when i kissed a girl. it felt really good. and i kept doing it. and i guess it just was an addiction. then i started having crushes on girls. and so yeah. btw. im bi. if you have anymore questions. aim: randomconfusionx
yahoo: nenajulissa


15/f
Last yr. i use to like a boy named josh. And last yr. i thought he liked me 2. We sort of knew eachother through my friend but i don't if he remembers me. So this yr. came..and i only saw him once and that was all the way in september. Just 3 days ago i randomly saw him. I want to talk to him and get to know him, but i don't want to look stupid. My question is how should i talk to him? or go up to him. ALL ADVICE IS APPRECIATED.

thanks in advance~
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mmkay. well, i suggest you just talk to him mildly. and talk to him a little more each time you see him. [[if you still like him and he's not a total buttface]] and he might like you. i suggest you just start talking to him. and see where that leads to.

if you need anything else ask me another question. or send me an i.m [[instant message]]
aim: randomconfusionx
yahoo: nenajulissa



This guy and i have been on and off for a little over a year, and i dont know what to do anymore.
its one of those situations where it doesnt matter how much he ignores me, i still like him. and he knows it.
he has a lot of girls who are friends and constantly takes them before me. i love him a lot though and i don't know what to do to make him realize that i can't take this anymore. he either needs to get his act together and treat me better or get out...
everytime we break up and get back together he always promises things will be different and he'll try harder and for the first month or two, they are. but then things fall apart. the cycle repeats itself. i like him so much that i let it.

please help, i can't cry over this anymore. (link)
dont get mad at me for saying this... but let him go. no guy is worth crying over. and the one that is wont make you cry. if he puts other girls first he might be cheating. i think you should either just flat out tell him that you dont know if he likes you or just break up with him.. okay. i mean, if he's hurting you that much. then.. he doesnt deserve you. and if he really cared, he wouldn't make you cry.. mmkay. hope i helped. if you need anymore help. send me a message. or send me an im. aim: randomconfusionx
or yahoo: nenajulissa

- randomconfusionx




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