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I am always so jealous and insecure
My best friend is so much prettier,smarter,and BETTER than I am. She is so popular she has guys hitting on her ALL THE TIME. She is forever complaining about boys being all flirty with her. I am jealous because she makes the best grades,and she is so beautiful,tall,slim,and such. I'm always jealous of her,and I must show it because she sometimes gets mad at me for it. I get all untalkactive,gloomy,and uncaring when I feel that way, which is so different from my outgoing,active,extrovert,and happy friend. She has the nicest parents,and she has everything.She is friends with everyone. Also,my crush for three years just broke my heart rejecting me by saying, "Eww,gross,not you,you're so ugly and fat." Then,I found out that he liked my best friend. And yes,and I very fat,and I have everyone calling me fat,ugly,and weird,and a horrible singer. I am not confident,and have no self esteem. I'm short, 4 feet nine inches, and much over 132 pounds. I am good at nothing,and get D's and F's. Can anyone help me boost my self-esteem?
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Well I can't boost your self esteem because only YOU can do that, but what I can tell you is that 132 pounds isn't really a lot. I weigh at least 140 and i'm more then happy with myself, cause you never kno there's probably some person who WISH they were your weight. So don't be too hard on yourself. Also, don't feel the need to be jealous of her because deep inside she's probably not as confident as she might seem. EVERYONE hides something from the world. Another thing is don't worry about the boys, cause they're only after ONE thing. So what i'm saying is you will find someone who truly likes you for who you are, not what you seem to be. Goodluck and keep me updated please. =)
-Courtney
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The main thing that you need to know,remember,and think all the time, Is that you dont need to impress anyone.The one that you will spend the rest of your life with won't be the one that dates you because you are pretty.The one that you spend the rest of your life with will be the one who loves you because you are you.People are "Luckier" then others and it seems like they have life way easier.But i bet that if you think about it enough you can notice that there is Something that you have that she doesn't it might not seem like much but that one thing could change someones opinion.Just remember If people don't like you because of your outside than you need to let them go because even though it may seem hard to find there is someone out there for you that will love you only because of what is inside.You just have to Wait.
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wow. your situation is better than mine.
my best friends a slipping away from me. people think im a lesbian. [[im bi]] and like. my parents are always fighting for stupid reasons. kids at school are a pain and seem to think im emo/goth. but im not, i get judged by people for the way i look. and there's only like 4 people i would tell anything to. you're doing better than i am, and think about it
no matter how bad you're doing, somebody's always doing worse. find people that understand you, people that care. mmkay.
but don't do anything stupid
mmkay
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xoxo.
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It sounds like you are having a hard time kiddo. I am sorry that you are feeling so bad about yourself. Let me start by saying that the grass always looks greener on the other side. Believe me, your friend's life is not so perfect. You just don't hear or see the bad. Nobody is perfect. I think that what you need is to take a break from worrying about your friend's life and stop comparing her life to yours. You are a one of a kind. A unique individual - like a snowflake. People are like snowflakes...meaning that everyone is special and different in their own way. I am only 5' tall. I went through a period in high school where I felt insecure and intimidated by the taller, more model-like girls. What I learned is that I had to like myself for who I am as an idividual. Stress causes weight gain...and 132 lbs is not fat. We live in a world where we are compared to women who are 5'9" or taller and they may weigh 120lbs. This has a tendency to irriate me, because I am now am a mother with a daughter who is almost nine, and she has a few girls in her class that are constently worried about their weight. There was a time when fuller figured women were desired. This meant that the woman came from money and was well fed. Don't let society tell you who you are or who you have to be. Sometimes young people your age can be very cruel. They can say things that can break your heart. Don't let it break your soul. A broken heart will mend, but a broken soul can take a lifetime to fix. Take some time to get to know you. What are the things that make you happy? What are the things that you are good at? Don't say nothing, because you are good at many things...you just have to find them. Once you start to feel better about yourself, then your grades will probably improve. If you are having trouble with your classes, maybe it would be a good idea to talk to your parents about a tutor. Sometimes the school can provide extra help. And, as far as the singing goes...I can't sing to save my life, but it doesn't stop me. If someone makes a comment about my singing (I sing because I like to do it), then I tell them that they don't have to listen. I am going to continue to sing, and they can either hear me or go some place else. Take control, sweetie of who you are. Nobody has everything...it may seem that your friend may have everything, but I can promise you that she has her moments when it seems like you have everything. She just doesn't show it. Keep your head up. It will get better if you stop comparing yourself to her or to others. If you can learn to like yourself, then learn to love yourself, others will see that. People tend to see you how you see yourself. Show them that you are a fun person who is beautiful on the inside and out...and if they don't appreciate you for who you are...well, screw 'um. Popularity only lasts until you get out of high school. After that, nobody cares how popular you were or were not. Remind yourself that you are beautiful and special because you are you, and there is not one other person on this planet that is exactly like you. How cool is that? I know I wouldn't want to be like anyone else. How boring would life be if we were all alike? Stay true to who you are, and if you need someone to talk to, don't hesitate to ask.
Good luck, sweetie. I promise it will get better.
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