My name is Nikita. 19 years of age. i answer all questions. However i answer truthfully so don't take it personal if i say something rude. I've been on this website for 6+ years. I live in Texas. And right now i go to hcc. I love hanging out with my friends, facebooking, pigging out, and going on walks. If you have a question please inbox me :D thanks bye!
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Alright, I am 16 and a girl and he is 16 and a boy. For the longest time, I didn't like this boy, I thought he was a total dousche bag so I never even tried to talk to him. Now, I started talking to him in school and we sometimes text and I found out he is actually a really nice guy and I'm kinda starting to have some feelings for him and a few people say that they see how nice he is to me and they're shocked and they think it's obvious that he likes me back. I went up to a girl that I know through a school function and we started talking and I said "yea, everyone thinks ___ likes me" and she said "I can see where everyone would think that, he's nice to you, he lets his guard down." He takes me home from an after school function we have because I told him how I dread going home with this other girl. We get into his car and he throws things into the back seat to make room for me and he doesn't leave until I have my seatbelt on because he said he doesn't want me to die. One day he was late for the after school function and he was texting me the entire time he was away until he pulled up into the parking lot. He also said if he didn't have to take me home, he wouldn't have come late, he just would have went home instead of attending the after school practice. My best friend is so deadlocked that he likes me because she knows for a fact that if she asks him to take her home and he would say no and she sees him look at me sometimes. He'll text me and if I spell something wrong and say idk if thats how you spell it, he'll laugh and say it's fine. He jokes around with me too alot, like I was telling him a story and I was getting sidetracked and he was tapping me saying "hey betch, hey betch." and I would laugh, he would smile. Also, I give my best guy friend crackers everyday and since he likes them so much, everyone calls them his intercourse, so the boy I like saw me give them to my friend and he said "intercourse right in front of me? mann!" There was a quarrel, he said something that upset my friend, so I asked him if he even feels bad and he didn't answer me, so I was letting him cool off a few minutes, but when I talked to him, he couldn't even look at me. But when we weren't talking, he wasn't talking to anyone, he was isolating himself and everytime his best friend asked what was wrong, he would just say real quiet "I'm fine" My friend said he was so upset, she thinks, because he knew I was upset that he said what he did to make my friend upset. However, the only thing is, the boy I like claims he likes another girl, but she has the same first name as me, she goes to another school and her last name is the last name of the lead singer to one of his liked bands. I believe that this girl is real but everyone thinks she is fake because nobody knows her and my friends think something just isn't adding up.
Do you think this girl is fake?
Do you think he likes me back?
Why?
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ahh well it's hard to tell. from what you've said he might like you. But talk to him more and flirt with him and see if he flirts back. If he does then he likes you and you should definitely go for him. If not then remain friends with him. But as for that girl or anyone else saying he likes you, tell them that if he likes me so much, he needs to tell me himself. Good luck girl, i hope i helped.
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I moved out at the age of eighteen. i stay with my boyfriend and his family. Everything is great except school is really expensive and i can't seem to get any loans. The issue is i could go to school for free if i move back in with my parents, but i do not want that. I was so depressed there. But its really stressin me on how long its taking to get back into school. im feeling as if i wont ever get back in. So what do i do, choose love and eventually i can have my career or choose career and be miserable back at home and worry about love later? (link)
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hi so i am in a similar situation. i am i also in college. I am a sophomore. im taking only 3 classes at the community college i attend. i understand where your coming from because i don't have many friends to hang out with. I go to school and come home and study or do homework. I've talked to some people in my class and a lot of them say the same thing. And alot of kids make time to have fun and study, which is hard for me, but they party so that's why im not friends with a lot of people at school, my parents wouldn't allow me to do that stuff. but anyways you need to talk to your parents as well as your boyfriend. Make a list of things you need to do. Talk to your parents and tell them that your feeling depressed. And tell them that your not able to pay for school and you would like some help. You need to make school your first priority. I haven't been and im not doing too well. But im learning that you need to become something before you find someone. I know it's hard, i mean im not even allowed to date. but remember everything has it's place, and everything will happen at the right time. I hope i helped. Nikita
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i thought this was a place to give advice to people not criticize them. that girl had no business calling me obsessive considering the fact that she doesn't even know me. so yeah
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I don't know what to do with him! I found out from my bff that my bf made a facebook group thing about our relationshp. I went and red a few things on it and it is personal and nothing anybody should know but us so I told him I knew he had a secret he was keeping from me but not what it was so he would tell me or something but he didn't. i kinda thought that he posted stuff and didn't think it was bad and I wanted to give him chances to say so but he just said he didnt have no secrets so i went back to read the rest and he had made it private only so now it is hidden from me.
I guess what I am asking is if he didn't think this was wrong why did he hide it when i found out? He still denies everything and now i got no proof because i cant see it anymore!!! i have been crying about this and i feel betrayed like he has a secret life on facebook or something! should i stay with him if he isn't going to be honest and still hides things?
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hey well i am sorry about your boyfriend. I think you need to make clear with him that he shouldn't be posting things on facebook that other people need to know, and hiding it from you. Tell him how you feel and if he continues to do this then you need to break it off with him, because he can't be trusted. I hope i helped. Nikita
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I am losing my virginity this weekend and I know it's going to hurt a lot. I don't want it to because my boyfriend thinks I've had sex before. I've NEVER been fingered and NEVER masturbated. I never even wore a tampon. It'll really be my first time having sex in any way so it's a big deal for me to not sound like it hurts. My boyfriend already had sex with 4 girls before so he knows what to expect from somebody who isn't a virgin.
My question is what would be the least painful way to lose virginity. Like should he be on top then so he doesn't notice or is there an exercise I can do or what? Is there something I can put on me down there that will numb my vagina? (link)
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Well i don't know how old you are so i am not going to sit here and tell you not to have sex, but i think you should definitely make sure he uses protection. Also try some KY lube for women. I hope i helped.
Nikita
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Yesterday I met up with an ex against my parents' wishes. We wanted to talk things out and start over, as friends this time. However when I got to his house after a while one thing led to another and he began to kiss me. We were fooling around on top of our clothes, but he had to "adjust himslef", but then about 7mins later, we weren't thinking and I let him finger me.
What are the chances I could be pregnant? I'm 18, I have a pretty regular menstrual cycle (which I hope starts back up on September 24th or close to it), and I was in an ovulatory stage. Right now I'm scared out of my mind. Please help me.
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well first off you shouldn't have been meeting up with him if your parents didn't want you to. Secondly it sounds like you guys didn't actually have sex. You can't pregnant by getting fingered. The only way you could get pregnant if his penis actually penetrated your vagina or touched it. i hope i helped.
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I had sex with my boyfriend and got pregnant, confirmed by 7 tests two months ago (yeah LOL i didnt wanna believe it). I have morning sickness sometimes but not too bad I don't think. Anyway I know Im going to start showing some time and get a big belly and dont want my parents to know I'm pregnant. I was thinking to tell them like right before I give birth and then they can't really be that mad because the baby will be coming so quickly then. How can I hide that I'm pregnant? I want to hide that I'm pregnant from my parents so I can't figure it out. They don't even know I had sex. Should I wear big sweatshirts and oversized hoodies? A girl at my school said it would work. I was also thinking of like trying to gain a bunch of weight so they think I'm just getting fat? help (link)
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I think you should just tell your parents the truth, because eventually they will find out. You need to really be honest with them and also talk about your options such as an abortion, adoption, or if you want to keep the baby. Hiding it will do you no good, and they'll find out and be even more angry. I hope i helped. Good Luck.
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My first day of highschool ( freshman ) is coming up on the 8th or 9th and its a small school but im afraid of getting harrassed like in the 6th 7th and 8th grade... what do I do? im very shy and nervous I cant even answer a question in this town without someone making fun of me like if i accident answer it wrong or something... (link)
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i understand how you feel. when i was in middle & high school i had very little self-confidence and that was why i got made fun of. I cared way too much what other people thought of me. But sometimes you can't let other people get to you. for example i was in a similar situation at work. There were a few gossipy co workers and while we were at a meeting i noticed that whenever i would ask a question they would start laughing at me. I realized later on that they did this because they knew it bothered me.
My advice is to just be yourself and don't worry about what other people say about you. Remember they're jealous and insecure, and they want to see how much they can hurt you. Whenever they're mean to you just smile at them. Kill them with kindness. It always works. You should also write down all the qualities you have on a piece of paper to help your self-confidence. Good luck. I hope i helped.
Nikita
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so pretty much every day for the past two years or so i inhale nailpolish remover...
i press the opening of the bottle to one nostrle and hold the other nostrel shut and inhale threw my nose until it burns.. i dont know why but i love it... even when im at my friends house ill look for a bottle in their bathroom and sniff it up for a good ten minutes.. is this a problem??? (link)
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I think that it is. Inhaling anything is bad for you. Nail polish remover has acetone and esters in them. I think if you don't have self control and can't stop you should seek professional help immediately.
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several months back, i was in school and my boyfriend was neglecting me. he'd rarely ever call, always forgot our plans, etc. i didn't want to completely lose him, so i didn't dump him. then a guy that i'd had a crush on a few years back started telling me he liked me and so i decided to hook up with him, bad mistake number 1. we didn't have sex, all we did was make out. but i regretted it as soon as i got home that night and was really sick for the next few days. he'd asked me to hang out again and i blew him off, so he got peeved and started ignoring me and being pretty rude, but i didn't care anymore.
well now its many months later and he started texting me every few days. i don't reply to them. i've realized i'm completely sick of him and i just want him to leave my life completely, but he won't. and i don't want to tell him that cuz i'm afraid he'll get pissed and tell my boyfriend what i did. i don't know what to do! i can't tell my boyfriend, he'll be so hurt. and i really screwed up a couple of months ago and he gave me a second chance, but now if i fuck up again he won't give me anymore chances. i know i probably don't deserve him but i don't want to lose him. we're a lot better now, almost perfect. what the hell do i do? (link)
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i've been a in a similar pickle. you need to tell the boy to stop calling and texting you. and if he continues to do so you need to file a harassment report with the police. And don't delete any texts or missed calls or whatever from him because you'll need it to show to the police.
As for your boyfriend yeah you shouldn't have done what you did, but last time i checked everyone makes mistakes. You should just tell him what happened and tell him you thought it was a mistake. It's not the other guy's job to tell you anyways. I hope i helped.
Nikita
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How do you study for O level math IGCSE?
I know you have to go through the pastpapers, but how else can you prepare, what topics do you focus on in math?
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http://www.cambridgestudents.org.uk/subjectpages/maths/olevelmaths/ hope i helped!
Nikita the Cheetah♥
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what are some big (non-obvious) turn ons for guys during sex and stuff? (link)
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kissing their neck
moaning
riding him really fast and then you could grind on him
stuff like that. hope i helped.
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I wanna find someone or some classes to help me improve my business Chinese. But my Chinese level is very low, could I find my suitable classes? (link)
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My mom learned Spanish through Rosetta Stone. But you have to actually buy the program. or try word2word.com i hope i helped.
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what is a good website to sell horses on?? (link)
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craigslist. lol i know it sounds groteque but i actually went there and found people selling their horses. try horsefinders.com or horses.localriding.com i hope i helped!
Nikita
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18, male. Me and my girlfriend of 10 months broke up about a month ago. Ever since, i'v been rebounding trying to get over her. Lately i'v been feeling better, and this weekend I had sex with another girl. But tonight I went and hung out with my ex. Things went perfect, and we both clearly miss each other and could without a doubt get back together after prom. Except, like I said, I had sex with someone else. Should I tell her, or just get back with her and live a lie? And if I tell her, how should I do it? =/ Thanks a lot to whoever can help me out here. (link)
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What you do with other people is none her business. Unless you have feelings for that other girl i would just keep it to yourself. If you like you Ex still definitely tell her how you feel. I hope i helped.
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Does anybody know any chain pet stores where I can buy small turtles? I believe that they are aquarium turtles, correct me if I am wrong.
If you know any specific places in the Alpharetta, or Duluth, or Johns Creek area in Georgia, that would be helpful. (link)
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petco, petsmart. but to warn you turtles are very messy. I had to give mine away recently.
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I am wanting to know the best brand of menstrual pads I can use during my period. Price is no issue. I can't use tampons because my mom had cancer down there and so my doctor said I am high risk cancer and I shouldn't use tampons just in case. I don't have a problem with that anyway. I want to use the best pads though but I don't know what brand might be really good. Something comfortable and does what it needs to do (soak)! What is the pad brand? (link)
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Well I use Always pads those are really good! so yeah.
Nikita The Cheetah
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Alrighty, so I'm 15 year old teenage girl.
*Around 5'4, 5'5.
*Weigh 105 pounds. - No I'm not anorexic. Just high metabolism :/
*Small boobs - Around... 34 AA ?
*Don't really have hips.
*Athletic legs - Not skinny, but not really fat. Their just basically all muscle. My legs are a bit bigger then average
*Average shoulder width
*Tan-ish skin
*Shoe size 8.5 -9 - If that helps, LOL
*Heart shaped ish face
I'm not a fan of those, super patterned swimsuits, for example, too much lines here and there. But like simple patterns like polka dots, stripes, etc. are fine. And don't really like white swimsuits. :|
And the problem is that I'll be wearing this in front of my family, so I don't know if I should wear a bikini or not. It's just that awkward feeling you get that you feel too exposed you know?
Any opinions will help ! Thanks. :)
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If you don't feel comfortable wearing a bikini you can wear a one piece maybe? try target!! hope i helped!
Nikita The Cheetah :) ♥
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I have this friend that recently threw away her microwave after she read some book about it being really dangerous and harmful. I know that she has returned food at resturaunts with me when she found out they had been microwaved too. I don't want to sound stupid if I ask her what the dangers are but I am curious. I don't really have time to sit down and read a whole book about the harmful effects of using a microwave. Does anybody know why it's bad (brief me, as they say) or can point me to some quick information online (maybe even suggest a video)? (link)
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http://www.naturalnews.com/022015.html
There's some information as to why it is bad. & i can tell you right now from experience that they are bad, because whenever i go to a restaurant and bring back food with me the next day, i warm it up in the microwave in the box, and i heard that the chemicals from the styrafoam get in the food and it's really bad for you.
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Why_microwave_is_bad_for_health
Another website
hope i helped
Nikita The Cheetah :)
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I used to be really close with a group of friends and then I became best friends with someone else and I made her a part of the group but now I can't go anywhere without her being there and I feel like i've drifted from my other friends because she's taking over so much of my time and is really clingy and invites herself everywhere because she assumes she's always invited and i'm too polite to un invite her.I still want to be close with her but I haven't found a way to balance my friendship with her and not loose all my other friends I used to have and not loose the closeness of our friendship by blowing her off and i'm leaving for college soon. So how do I salvage all of my other friendships. (link)
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you need to talk to her & tell how you feel. she'll probably not like what she hears but oh well. i hope i helped!
Nikita the Cheetah
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