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when u slightly cut ur wrist does it bleed bad... just a small tiny slit...
thanks-
~worried~
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um, ok well. if its a small tiny slit normally not a ton. depends on the knife. but you shouldn't do it.. its a really bad thing to even start out doing a little bit. its just like tabacco.. its addicting. so dont even try to do it if i were u!!
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my friend gave me a note to give to another friend...and i forgot to. Later that night i remember the note was in my pocket so i did a bad thing and read it. In the note she talked about how she wants to kill herself and about how she is thinking about slitting her wrisits! what should i do! if i tell my friend she`ll be furious that i invaded her privacy...but if i dont....who knows what could happen!
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yeah she might be furious. but hey it will help in the end. you should tell her that u read the note and that you know it was an invasion of privacy, BUT you really care for her and u dont want her to do something that she will regret. good luck
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okay i have a problem.... i cut myself... and i dont know how to stop.. its just that i get all jittery and the room spins but as soon as i cut myself i feel normal again and i get a major high off of it.... i want to stop because i know that someone is going to find out and than my life wil be over... so i guess my question is how do i stop without my friends or family ever finding out???
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maybe you can go to a school counclier and tell that what is going on. also inform them u want to get better, but you would like it to be kept from ur parents and friends knowing. they should respect that.
i really hope that u can overcome this and stop hurting urself! good luck kid.
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well...i am a cutter. i have been cutting for about a year now. by the way i am 13 and female. i want to know why i feel so great after i do cut. its like nothing is wrong after i cut. i have tried to stop....but it has never worked.
also... do u know where i could find other people that are self addmitted cutters?
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well.. u do it to cope with your frustration.. anger or whatever ur feeling. its a way to feel like u have controll over the situation and to make urself feel better.
um, u could try to search "cutters" in google and go into like forums and stuff like that.
hope i helped!
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ok i have a BIG problem and im sure that it happens to a lot of people.. but whenever something happens that makes me mad i always want to kill myself and its scary cuz sometimes i almost do.. i dont no wut to do and i need some help before i actually do!!! does this mean im like mentally ill or something?? should i see a doctor or anything?? thanks..
xox manda
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well.. if someone makes u mad, then sit down and talk to them about it! dont get all mad to the extent of killing urself! its not worth it.... trust me on that one dude. hope i helped
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well i ascked you a ? but i felt youre wrong i dont know you dont know her so how can a girl from cali know a girl from oklhoma were diff here but i dont know im guess im not in the right place i mean cutters come here to talk and im not a cutter im like waay to affraid to do that by the way the first ? was about a girl i like that might like me or might not you told me to move on with my life
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first off.. there is no wrong answer here.. this is an advice column.. you kno, advice...
2ndly i never said that i knew whoever you are talking about, idk why ur saying that. and you said how can a cali gurl know a oklahoma gurl.. well i kno plenty of people from oklahoma lol, its called AIM, and yahoo.. lol
this might not exactly be the right column to come to about with ur problems, i do answer other ?'s besides ones involving depression and cutting, but there are a lot of other columns out there for u, or u can go to the main advicenators site and ask a question there and u'll get plenty of different answers..
and with the question that i answered earlier, thats my best advice i can give, because im in the same situation with this one kid, (he likes me)... so sorry if my advice wasn't to your satisfaction.. but its advice, theres nothing wrong with advice
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Hey im 14/M..im madly love with this girl..but she lives in another state...and i dont know what to do..ive known her for a bout a year and a half and fell in love with her...we dated..but broke up cause of distance causing probs..got any advice?
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wow. i'm in the same situation with one of my ex boyfriends.. imagen that.. :-p! well...
idk what to say. wen ur old enough go visit her! lol. um *sheez this is a reallllyy haRd question* hmm.. also if u guys want to talk on the phone n stuff.. get a calling card! its soo cheap!
in the mean time (before u visit her) try and find someone else! maybe u'll find another gurl to love! that might kill the time between now and wen u get to see her.. dont think about her as much cause that could just make u sad and depressed. go out and have fun.. etc!
good luck
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hey its me ashley (sixers329) i like your column!!!!! and you give really good advice. well i g2g ttul. sorry for wasting space on your column though!!
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lol thanks sweetie! lol ur not waisting space :-p! ilu!
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Ok, I'm 13 and I get really bad depression. I've had it for like over a year now. I forgot what its like to actually have true happiness. And I know most teens go throug this, but mines pretty severe. Like I never want to do anything anymore, I just dont care, I hate life, And most of the time I just feel like dieing. And like ver since I got it, its screwed up my life. I lost all my friends and havent really had any in like a year. It seems easy when people just say "start making new friends" or "find an activity you like doing" or try to be happy or whatever, but its so hard. I don't know what to do about my depression. Please help?
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try going to the doctor and getting on anti depressants.. it will help the "happy juices" fill up or whatever (thats what my doctor told me) if u TRUELY want to stop being depressed, then anti depressants r the way to go. also maybe u can see a couclier and talk about why u r so depressed etc!
good luck babe! i hope ur happy soon! :-p
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hey i want to build my own site for all my friends to see and other ppl to see so i was wondering what r some sites besides geocities. also i want websites that u can have music on. please help.thanks
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geocities is a really good way to start out a site. altho to start a site, u need to learn HTML and CSS.. go to www.lissaexplains.com and that will teach u how to make codes n stuff.
idk what some really good hosts r besides geocities pagebuilder! i highly suggest using that.. lol :-p
good luck kid
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I have a problem with cutting myself and I've always been to afraid to tell one of my best friends for fear that she might think i was some kind of freak! I just need an idea on what would be a good way to start off a conversation and then breaking the news to her! I would appreciate it! OH and ill rate u goood!!!!!
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hmm.. well, u really do need to tell ur friend that u are cutting. friends are a big influence in everyones life and can possibly get you through your ruffest times.
have ur friend come over to your house. sit her down somewhere, like ur bedroom or the living room, anywhere that doesn't have distraction. explain what u have been going through and that u cut urself and why. tell her that u really need her right now because it seems u dont have anyone else at the moment (if that is the situation). and as i have told EVERYONE, if she is a *TRUE* friend she will not think that u are a freak! trust me. and if she doesn't understand.. then well, idk what to tell u. maybe u should try finding someone else to talk about ur cutting problem?
take care sweetie! good luck :-p
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ok well me and my whole family always fight and they always blame me for everything and they make me feel like they dont love me and everything and i started to think does my family love me? and i think they dont so now i got the feeling that i shouldnt be living becuz i have no one that loves me so i think i should just kill myself i've always solved my problems by cutting myself becuz i think it makes the pain go away but now im starting to think i should kill myself or something what should i do i really need some help and quick becuz i might do osmething i might regret later on
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you are going exactly what i went through and sort of am still going through.
my family (parents 'n' 1 sis) and i have NEVER gotten along, and i mean never by, not even on family vacations,or during dinner at a resturaunt etc. i really started to hate my life and i felt like they didn't love me or care about me. so i started cutting myself and i went into depression. bad choice. it really caused my family a lot of grief and depression.
i told my family my reasons of cutting. so i had to go to the doctor, and they referred my family and myself to a counclier. she really helped me to get throught the problems i was having with my family and make it more enjoyable as i spent time with them. so maybe you can go to a family counclier? the counclier helped a lot, but not as much as i needed, so i had to make an effort to want a better relationship with them! and so far i have been happier with them, BUT occasionally we still get fight, but hey, what family doesn't??
btw ur family loves u even tho it doesn't seem like it :-p! take care.. and STOP cutting urself please, its not worth it, try to find other ways to cope with ur frustration! :-p
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im a cutter. i have scars all up and down my arm. only 2 people know about it. but every time i see my boyfriend i have to cover it up, and make sum sort of excuse. i HATE lying to him! i feel like i should tell him, but i dont want him to think im crazy and dump me! but like.. i cant stop cutting. its always been my way of calming myself down...
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cutting is not a good way to calm yourself down. there are many other ways to cope with whatever you are dealing with!
now the boyfriend situation, tell him. if he really likes you and cares for u then he will still stay with you and try to help u stop cutting etc or whatever. he should be supportive!!!
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well there is this girl i realy like but i dont thinck she likes me she says she will be my freind but what do i do i wannt to be with her so bad i actually saw her today but she hid from me...
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well she obviously doesn't like you and u have no chance with her.. so maybe u should just forget about her and move on with your life?
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im a 13 yr old female from cali....how can u move from just being frends with a guy to being more...i mean i dont wanna b sounding desperate but i really like him and wanna b more than just frends. plz help.....-me
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tell him that u like him. try going out and spending some time together! if he doesn't like u back and still just wants so be your friend.. then it wasn't meant to be! find some other hottie!
by the way i know who u r! i love you, thanks for asking for my advice :-p :-p :-p!!!
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i am addicted to cutting my wrists and i know its bad but i just cant stop what should i do? im not going to go to a doctors because they just dont understand and i didnt tell my parents because they would think i was crazy
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you really need to go to a doctor and tell your parents, you'd be suprised on how well they'd understand. go to a counclier and get on some anti depressants.. that may help! and i really hope that u get better and r happier.
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ok, well i'm 16 ,i have a really bad depression problem i have been addicted to cutting and still have urges frequently , i have suicidel thoughts very frequently and the real problem is my parents refuse to admit there is a problem, it seems like theres nothing i can do to make them understand, the wont even get my prescribtion
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sit down and talk with your parents.. THERE IS A PROBLEM.. and they really need to realize that.. tell them why you are depressed!! tell them that they NEED to get your meds, if they don't u could get to the point of comitting suicide, now how would they feel if you actually killed yourself!?? and please dont get to that point even tho they still might not take this problem seriously.
if that is the case (they still dont admitt theres a problem) you should go to your school counclier or doctor.. and they can refer you to a family counclier and u can take it from there!
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I think im addicted to cutting.... and i like it but i want to stop.... how do i stop? (My parents know and im not talking to a damn physcologist)
~Kele~
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then go to a physcologist.. or counciler! thats what i did. i also went on anti depressants (if depression is what makes u cut) depressants didn't help me but maybe they will work for u. also try to put away your knife and find other ways to cope with ur sadness that aren't harmfull to yourself etc. *big hugs!! and good luck!! *
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hey yall i jus found out that my bf is probly cheating on me and this stuff happens to me all the time i always get used at and it really sux and wel i jus dont no how to deal with it cus wenever this stuf happens i get really depressed and shit and i think about cutting and stuff but i never actualy do it i jus need sum way to get out of this place or idk i jus idk
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dude.. then dump the mofo.. find someone who will make u happy.. theres plenty of guys out there!
whatever u do DONT cut urself.. if u feel like it talk with someone.. do something that makes u happy! go somewhere with ur friends, have fun.. and always look on the bright side of things sweetie!
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Ummm....yeah.... i wanna know what the withdrawal symptoms are like if you just stop taking certain antidepressants. cos i have to get off mine sometime this year. and i dont wanna. im SCARED!!!!
People have been saying that ill get DT type shakes, nausea and bad mood swings.
Anyone with experience in this feild...i would muchly appreciate your advice.
Spankyou.
~Mordak
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well i was on lexapro for a while.. then i stopped taking them.. (refussed to take them)
my syptoms were.. extremly tierd, large pupils, i was very dizzy, couldn't consitrate, got headaches.. etc.
the thing i did was just lay down and rest.. watch t.v... talk on the phone while i would rest etc. lol
hope its been imforming.. lol
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