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How do i tell her
I have a problem with cutting myself and I've always been to afraid to tell one of my best friends for fear that she might think i was some kind of freak! I just need an idea on what would be a good way to start off a conversation and then breaking the news to her! I would appreciate it! OH and ill rate u goood!!!!!
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hmm.. well, u really do need to tell ur friend that u are cutting. friends are a big influence in everyones life and can possibly get you through your ruffest times.
have ur friend come over to your house. sit her down somewhere, like ur bedroom or the living room, anywhere that doesn't have distraction. explain what u have been going through and that u cut urself and why. tell her that u really need her right now because it seems u dont have anyone else at the moment (if that is the situation). and as i have told <b>EVERYONE,</b> if she is a *TRUE* friend she will not think that u are a freak! trust me. and if she doesn't understand.. then well, idk what to tell u. maybe u should try finding someone else to talk about ur cutting problem?
take care sweetie! good luck :-p
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Well, I don't really understand why your best friend would think your a freak - if your truely very close : she will try to help you. When you start off, just say that you have been in a lot of stress lately - and you've been calming yourself down in an unsafe way. Also, tell her that you REALLY need her for a time like this. She will be surprised - but she will help you through this time. I hope I helped <3 Steph
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Your bestfriend will NOT think you are a freak. She might, however, be very concerned (as any good friend would be) so break the news to her calmly. Tell her what's been happening in your life and gently put down the news that you cut. Be sure to explain why you are cutting. She might be a bit scared, but she'll still love you nevertheless. She might even love you more than before! After breaking the news to your bestfriend, maybe you should seek some professional help. My friends have cut before and it was very scary... Afterwards they've all gone through treatment and now they have stopped and their lives have moved on. Cutting is not the solution. I hope things turn out okay for you. =)
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well......you should start off telling her that you have a problem going on in your life then explain to her why you you cut your self but don't freak her out, just be calm and tell her in a simple way without makin her freak...hope it helps :)
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Number 1-you shud stop cutting cuz it is really bad for u-if ur mad or upset...go pucnh ur pillow or talk to ur friends or sing ur favorite song out loud. Number 2-If ur friend is a good one-she will try to help u stop cutting and do the best she can for u. dont be surprised if she is shocked...cuz who wudnt b-just give her time ...and plz stop cutting
Twizzler
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just tell her straight out if she's a real friend she'll understand
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If she's your best friend it should be pretty easy telling her, but I understand that you don't want her to freak out. Just have her over one night and tell her you really need to tell her something important, and you would feel better if you got it off your chest and told her. When she comes over go somewhere where the two of ya'll can talk and it will be nice and quiet and you dont have to worry about anyone bothering you. If she automatically asks what was soo important that you had to tell her then you can just go right ahead and answer her question. But if not you might start off with something very brief like telling her that you have a problem, and you want her to know (and you especially want her help if your trying to stop!) and then just tell her, you shouldn't hide the truth, especially if shes one of your best friends! If she is she'll help you get through it and she love you no matter what! If not then maybe she wasn't such a good friend.
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If you have a problem with it, wouldn`t it be really noticable? I mean, I used to cut myself and let`s see... my friends noticed like 3 cuts later. If you DO have a cutting problem, you can tell a friend, but what I would do is tell someone who can get you help and who will understand you. If your cutting yourself, I`m guessing your depressed? Go to a conselour. They`ll ask you questions to see if you should be on anti-depressents or if you have suicide potential. Just get help is what im trying to say.
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well if they think your a freak then they shouldnt be your best friends and i dont think a friend would be the best person to tell try your paretns if anyone would listen and help you its them just dont be afraid, hope i helped
Conor
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Well i highly suggeset getting help for that. Cutting yourself is an extremely serious and dangerous matter. Your friend probably wont thing you are a freak, she will probably worry about you. If you want to tell her about it, than maybe sometime when you are having more serious conversation just say "you know there is something i have been wanting to tell you, but i have been worried about what youd think.." or soemthing of that sort.
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