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I have an 8th grade dinner dance coming up, and cannot find any really cute dresses to wear i am a juniors size (13) and want to look fantabulous for my crush. If you know any stores near danbury, or in the danbury mall that sell really pretty dresses, please answer this quistion. (link)
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Even though you are a junior size 13, you could still probably wear womens XS or S - so don't overlook some choices in that area. Remember, longer dresses can be shortened at a taylor for around $20. Don't wear black!!! Too safe and typical, you want to stand out.
Stores I think you should browse at Danbury mall.
Macy's - the first store I always go to for homecoming. You can find everything: dress, underwear, shoes, jewelry. Go here first. They have a lot of their party dresses on sale right now.
Cache (may be a little sexy and $$ for you)
Lord & Taylor
JC Penney - I checked their web page for JRs dresses. They appear to have some cute options.
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I come from a very boring town that has no clubs but tons of bars and restaurants. People ages from 18-21 get bored, what are we suppose to do? This area, believe it or not, has about 140,000 people and no clubs. Who would I contact in order to see if this has been or could be a consideration? (link)
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The city counsel, specifically someone that deals with city ordinances could answer your question.
I doubt the city would open a club for its' residences. It would take an interested investor, business owner or developer to build or open that type of business.
If you already have bars and restaurants serving alcohol, there shouldn't be an obstacle. It could be you just need the right person with the interest and financial means to open the business.
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Alright, so I'm pretty good friends with this dude. We have a lot of the same interests, yet lots of differences, of course. lol, it seems we share some of the same problems, too. But, anyways, I really like him as more than a friend, yet he ticks me off endlessly. He can even be a jerk sometimes, but I can, too. Yet, for some reason, I still like him.
He asked me if I wanted to hook up with him a few weeks back, but nothing has really happened, and he said to keep it on the lowdown. But what really ticks me off is how he has all of these pet names for his other friends that are girls and treats them, well, like a guy would treat a girl, I guess. (flirting and whatnot) and yeah, I get jealous sometimes, but I don't say anything, of course.
What I'm trying to say is that I don't want him to view me as just a friend. I don't want to be by his side just to talk about music, books, the problems within the world and whatnot, and I don't like it when he randomly brings up other girls in a conversation we're having and calls them by their pet name.
What should I do? (link)
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My first thought ... put him firmly into the 'friend' column. He isn't BF material for anyone yet. But he is a good 'window' into a guys mind. At least guys like him.
You probably have him on your list of 'possibilities' because you know him so well, flaws and all, so you are comfortable with him.
You deserve more than just 'comfortable'. There is someone out there that will knock your socks off. This guy is just someone that wants to knock your pants off.
It is time you branched out and made a longer list. Get to really know some other guys ... open your world up to more than this one player.
In fact, if he is such a good friend, ask HIM which one of his buddies are 'good guys' vs man-whores like him. Tell him you are open to dating a decent guy and wondered who he would recommend.
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so everytime when i take out my contacts, there's some black spots on it. and i keep to keep cleaning them, is this normal? i'm not sure if it's from my eyeliner, but it didn't happen before. advice? please & thank you (: (link)
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No, your contacts should not have black spots on them when you take them out. Some manufacturers put a black dot on the right contact lens so you can tell which is which, but that is one dot, not multiple spots.
It could be the eyeliner or the mascara. I know some of the lengthening mascara's have fibers and they can flake. It could also be your liner is getting old and drying out/flaking.
I suggest changing both and see if that helps. If not, make an appointment with your eye Dr.
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I think I'm a lesbian and I'm not too sure of how I should break it to my family and friends. Lets be honest I'm petrified. Not too worried about my family but my friends I'm very scared about telling, considering most of them are girls and will probably be scared away from me. Can someone please give me some advice on how I should break the news without all my friends running a mile. I need to get it out soon or I think I might just die with worry. (link)
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Honestly - I think HS is too soon to declare your sexual orientation. Not because you are too young to know your own sexual orientation - because you are old enough. But because the majority of people in HS don't have the maturity or experience to understand, and they can potentially make an already hellish time in your life, more unbearable.
You started your sentence with "I think I'm a lesbian" vs "I'm a lesbian". That tells me you may not be too comfortable with the concept/realization yourself ... If you are not at a place where you are comfortable, how are you going to help your friends/family understand and accept your understanding of who you are?
I agree. You need to release this knowledge, talk it through, take steps in understanding yourself and letting people that love you really know who you are. If your parents share a loving and accepting relationship with you now, that will not change. They will love you regardless. Your parents resist the knowledge at first. They may even take this sliver of doubt and fear as a door to the possibility that your are 'not' a lesbian. Not necessarily because they will disapprove, but because life can be SO much more complicated initially with all the prejudices against homosexuality ... we are still in an age where homosexuality rights are being fought for and voted for. Your parents will be concerned/scared for you.
As far as your 16yo girl friends... and the HS population at large: honestly, it is none of their business what your sexual orientation is. Once you tell people of this age you are gay, they quit seeing you,and see a lesbian.
Yes, all your friends will recount the time they were naked, showering, changing, sleeping, or just hanging out with you and will analyze with fear if you were attracted to them. So be prepared for some to shy away, and for some to be curious and ask questions. Some will not give you a chance to explain and just disappear. Some will be nosy and feed upon the drama of it. Some will say, "so?"
Hopefully, those people who DO understand at HS will step forward to support you- but expect to never be treated the same by the majority of the HS population.
College life is much more open minded and inclusive. You will be older, wiser, more mature and able to handle people that aren't. With the exception of your family, I think that is a better time in your life to 'come out'.
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So I m 15 almost 16 and pregnant, my baby is due in late October early November. My boyfriend and I would like to stay together and raise our baby, and do the best we can we know it will be hard but we are up to it. He is a senior and graduating and taking over his dads company so money isn't an issue.
My parents are the issue, they don't like my boyfriend and think that if I have this baby and keep it then I will hand it off to them to raise. They want me to put the baby up for adoption. I think this would be very hard and I think I would regret it. What should I do? Im very confused on what I should do I don't know if I should just give the baby up for adoption or try to talk to my parents more about keeping it.
My parents always have said and still say that I am a smart enough girl to do anything I want and put my mind to but if I say I want to raise my baby and keep it they say i can't? Why are they going against what they have always said?
Also is there any way to get this pregnancy off my mind? I feel like everything I do I start thinking about the arguments at home and just being pregnant it keeps distracting me when Im at school and work and even when Im at home trying to fall asleep my mind just keeps wandering...
Sorry its long but just need help. (link)
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I saw this on a show one time when a unwed teen had to make the same decision.
The host said for her to lay her decisions out.
1. Abortion
2. Keeping the baby and marrying the dad
3. Keeping the baby and not marrying the dad
4. Giving the baby up for adoption
Narrow the choices to what is acceptable. Looking at your notes, #2 and #4 seems to be the two choices you are considering.
Now, spend a week living and thinking as if you made choice 2. Then spend a week living and thinking as if you made choice 4.
Which one are you more 'at peace' with - I know each option has it's pros/cons, but which 'fits' you better.
Also- the father can still help support the child without marrying you, should you decide to raise it outside of marriage ... what support is his parents able/willing to offer since your parents want to be 'grandparents' not 'parents' again?
You parents have set limits around what they are willing to do, and that is their prerogative. But you can't let them push/pressure you into a decision you could not forgive them for.
If you decide to marry, and it doesn't work out, then you did at least try to do what you thought was the best decision at the time you made it. You may regret the failure of a marriage, but I would think it would be harder to regret giving up a child because you wanted to please your parents.
As far as the worry ... welcome to motherhood! At the same time, once you made a decision you can release a lot of what you are concerned with.
I also advise if you begin a marriage and motherhood at the same time ... go into counseling together RIGHT AWAY. In fact, start it now if you can. Think of it as part of your support system.
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ok so i really like this guy, the problem is my mom thinks he is ugly.
he may not have like the cutest face in the world but he has an AMAZING body like his abs and muscles are like crazy!
and hes also a really nice guy.
BUT my mom says he's ugly and he isn't good enough for me and i better not date him because i "i could do way better than him" my mom thinkings im just desperate for a boyfriend or something but i really like him! What should i do :( :( (link)
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Wow - please don't be upset at my answer, but that is really shallow of your mom.
You need to remind her what matters is how he treats you ... not how he looks. Let her know you aren't looking for eye-candy but a relationship.
It could be your mom doesn't really think this on any deep level. She might pick apart anyone you dated as 'not good enough'. Or maybe she is looking for bragging rights "look who MY daughter is dating!".
You know your mom best, so you can probably figure out where this negativity is coming from: Fear of losing you or more selfish reasons.
But you need to address it now before it becomes a pattern. I'd hate to see you avoiding your mom and cutting her out of the part of your life that will someday mean the most (husband/family) because she is critical on such a shallow level.
If you are old enough to date, you are old enough to chose for yourself. Tell her you don't want to hear anything negative about your BF unless she fears for your safety.
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Hello, I've been relaxing my hair for six years and when i first did it it was long past my shoulders. Now it is not even on my shoulders and there is a path of hair that is very short near my ears. I want to know what shampoo and conditioner to use on my hair to make it moisterized and how to dry it. Also i want to know treatments to use and how to treat it during the day and night. Thanks! (link)
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Keeping the damaged hair trimmed off will make it look healthier and you will be happier with your style as your grow it out.
Most peoples hair is genetically programmed to grow a maximum of 6 inches a year. If your hair is so damaged it is falling out or breaking off, it may appear to be growing slower. Or, if you have a poor diet or an illness, that can slow your rate of growth.
Here is my RX.
1. get the frizzy ends cut off. It will make you feel better and your hair will instantly look better. Just like someone that is losing weight needs to buy clothes AS they lose weight, you need to have a hairstyle you like AS you are growing out your hair.
2. Avoid daily washing- Every 3 days is enough, and use a shampoo with Protein in it. Always wash hair with low temperature water as hot water dissolves the natural scalp oil. Brush your hair before shampooing/wetting to get tangles out.
3.Do not rub the hair vigorously as excess friction can cause hair to break off.
4. Always use a wide toothed comb and comb the hair gently. Do not comb hair when it is wet, as the hair is very weak.
5. Keep hair hydrated with mild shampoo and rich conditioner. Use extra gentle shampoo for color treated hair. An ideal shampoo should be neither highly acidic nor alkaline. Use a conditioner that contains protein.
6. Allow hair to dry naturally. If at all hair dryer must be used, then turn it on at its lowest setting. Heat damages hair.
7. If you are in the sun, use a leave in conditioner, and try wearing a hat or scarf.
8. A weekly head massage strengthens the roots and improves blood circulation. Doing it even for two to three minutes will stimulate the scalp and prove effective.
9. If you are bleaching your hair - stop until it is healthy again.
10. Hair shine products with a drop of silicone serum will smooth down hair cuticle and help make it look less frizzy/damaged.
11. Deep condition weekly (not daily).
12. Eat a healthy diet rich in proteins.
As for top moisturizing shampoo/conditioner/treatments....
1. Kerastase Bain de Force is hands-down the best shampoo on the market, however, you will pay a price for perfection. It is a vitamin-infused shampoo created for parched, dry hair. According to InStyle Magazine, which named it a 'Best Buy' two years running, Bain de Force contains a 'bond mender' that strengthens weakened hair.
2.Conditioner to be used after shampooing, Phyto Phytosesame Express Hydrating Conditioner softens and detangles the coarsest hair. Herbal Essences Replenishing Conditioner will give you salon-quality softness for a fraction of the price.
3. Treatment: Philip B. Rejuvenating Oil penetrate deep within the hair shaft to restore needed oils to damaged strands.
Great inexpensive option: V05 Hot Oil Shower Works. You can get this deep conditioner from your local drugstore.
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so I have a boyfriend.
I love him and we've been going out for almost 5 months. he is my prince charming and i love everything about him.
anyways.
theres this other guy i've known for almost 5 years. I used to have a crush on him but then i found my prince charming. I always suspected that he had a crush on me but i wasnt sure. I've always wanted to ask him about it but i never wanted it to ruin our friendship.
I wrote him a note the other day not to like start a relationship but to just find out if he ever did.
he read it after my friend gave it to him but he hasnt talked to me since.
I'm scared it has ruined our frinedship but I'm kinda to scared to talk to him about it.
Any advice, i really need it. (link)
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Wow -this relates to one of my FAVORITE quotes in the book - The Awakening.
The heroine is married. She is in love with another man and suspects he loves her too - but he has not admitted it because to do so would be improper ... But she wants to know for sure anyway. His reply is my favorite quote:
"I .. think you cruel ... Maybe not intentionally cruel; but you seem to be forcing me into disclosures which can result in nothing; as if you would have me bare a wound for the pleasure of looking at it, without the intention or power of healing it."
I think you unintentionally hurt him and maybe embarrassed him. If he has carried this crush on you for years, your question drove the point home that you will never be interested in him in the same way he is interested in you. If you were, you would have been more careful of his feelings and put your "need to know" second to his need for a little pride.
I hope he is talking to you now. I don't think it would make things worse to apologize and to let him know you were out of line and would hate to lose his friendship over such a stupid, unthoughtful act.
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You see theres this boy that i like and i like him alot. I have this class with him and like you see he always flirts with my friend. Like i know they just playing and everything and its not really a big deal but still it kinda gets to me. My friend knows i like him and like she dont flirt with him but he flirt with her and he flirts with me sometimes to. And i wonder if i should flirt with him even more, and he knows i like him at least i think he does. What can i do?? (link)
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It sounds like this guy is a flirt. Some guys(and girls) flirt for the fun of it and to see what they can 'catch'. They may not even be interested in the person they are flirting with, they just like the thrill of the chase or being chased. They love the attention and see the reaction as proof they are 'wanted'.
Kudo's to your friend for backing off knowing that you like him. That is sometimes hard to do.
What is the worst thing that could happen if you flirted back? That things stay like they are? Oh well. At least you tried!
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I just bought a curling iron and when I used it, I wasn't very happy with the results, but I couldn't return the iron, so is there any way to create loose waves with a 33 mm barrel curling iron?
Thanks! (link)
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Your iron is a little over an inch, so this should work with your size iron.
From About Beauty:
1. Turn upside down and spray freshly washed roots with volumizing or texturizing spray. Massage it in
2. If hair is naturally coarse or curly, work a straightening balm through hair.
3. Brush hair (this works the product evenly through hair). Blow dry hair straight, starting at the roots to get extra volume. Hair must be completely dry for this look to work. Blow cold air at the roots to add volume (cold air locks in a style).
4. Separate hair into three sections, securing with a ponytail holder.
5. To curl hair, use a wide-barrel curling iron. Starting with one section, take a 1-inch portion of hair, spritz it with styling spray or hairspray. Wrap hair around the barrel of the curling iron. (Wrapping hair is different from the traditional curling method. You don't want to 'clip' hair into the barrel. Wrapping allows you to curl all the way to the root). When you're curling, make sure to leave ends loose to avoid a crimp mark.
Release the curl after about 5-10 seconds (hold longer if you want a tighter curl). You should have a corkscrew curl.
6. Roll curl and bobby pin it close to the scalp. Skip this step to save time.
7. Alternate the direction of the curl as you work your way through each section. (It's all in the direction you wind hair around the barrel of the curling iron. Start by placing hair on top of the barrel and wrapping around, then switch by putting the barrel on top of the hair before winding it around). Alternating directions makes curls look more natural. Some curls can remain tight, some loose.
8. Once pinned curls have cooled, release them.
9. Remove nozzle from dryer and gently loosen waves with cool air. You can also separate curls with your fingers, just make sure not to brush them out.
10. To add shine, spritz a hair serum .
11. Set with hairspray. Just don't overdo it, you don't want new waves to feel "crunchy."
What You Need:
* Volumizing spray
* Straightening balm (if you have thick, course hair)
* Hair dryer
* A 1-inch barrel curling iron
* Ponytail holder and bobby pins
* Shine serum
* Hairspray
* Saltwater spray
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The other night when i was in bed my brother came in my room to use my computer, i was curious as to what he was doing so i pretended to be sleeping. He started off by just playing a game but then after 10 mins he started to watch naughty videos. I found it funny and thought to myself *haha you are so busted*. But then he got his thing out and started to masturbate, i was really shocked and couldn't believe what i was seeing, it was the first time i had seen a penis in real life and i couldn't take my eyes off what he was doing, after the initial shock went i started to become kinda hot and enjoyed watching. Does any one have any ideas on what i should do? I don't mind that he done it as i kinda liked seeing it, but i'm not sure if i should tell him i saw etc
oh btw i'm 19 and he's 22 (link)
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Definitely - keep your mouth shut. What can be gained?
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Can someone please tel me what "Mañana otro día y no tengo miedo lo traigo en la lluvia" means (link)
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According to google translate: Tomorrow another day and I have no fear bring on the rain
I am thinking in English we would have said "Tomorrow is another day and I have no fear, so bring on the rain."
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Okay, I just recenty had sex for the first time with my oyfriend of 6 months. I would say he's a good 2 inches thick and about six inches long. Is that considered big or not? (link)
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From Wiki
While results vary across studies, the consensus is that the mean human penis is approximately 12.9–15 cm (5.1–5.9 in) in length. The typical girth or circumference is approximately 12.3 cm (4.85 in) when fully erect.
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in your opinion, does it look hookerish to wear shorts with heels?
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I like walking shorts(longer) and dress trouser shorts with heels - again - LONGER dressy style shorts. But cut-offs and typical jean shorts just looks a bit tacky/wild/sleazy/easy-
Of course, it matters what kind of shirt you are wearing and how much 'cheek' you are showing too.
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for two years i worked in a restaurant that didn't serve alcohol, so i had no worries. i just started working at a restaurant that does serve alcohol, so now i get the joy of IDing people. they told me to ID EVERYONE, even old folks, because you dont want to risk undercover cops coming in and things like that and get in trouble. i've only been there for two days, so i've just been following, and the servers ID sometimes, but not always, particularly older people. i plan to ID especially the younger ones, but if someone is clearly like 40 or 60 years old, is it really necessary to ID them? in this little orientation video they made me watch, it said to ID if they look under 30 [in other words if their age is questionable], so let's say an undercover cop comes in who's like 50, and ordered a drink and i didn't ID him, would i really get in trouble? i mean, are you seriously supposed to ID EVERY ONE? (link)
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It may depend on your local law. I didn't know what state you are from so I couldn't look it up.
I suggest getting clarification from your manager... but if they said "ID EVERYONE, even old folks" then DO it, even it it seems silly. It isn't worth losing your job because you didn't follow instructions.
Remember, there is usually a probation period for a new employee at a new job. Just follow directions, and after a while through observation and experience you will come to understand what rules/managers are lax and which ones are stict.
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I'm fourteen, my girlfriend fifteen. We've been together for 1 year.
I love her lots and lots and I want to be with her. She wants to get engaged now, however I'd like to wait longer. I want to get engaged to her, but just not yet, maybe in a year or two's time. School will come first, i'm doing my GCSEs at the moment and I intend to go on an do 4 A levels.
Am I right to be thinking this? (link)
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When I was in HS we didn't get 'engaged'... we got 'promised'. And it came with a 'promise ring' and commitment for getting engaged when you are older, possibly while in college. So instead of 'going out' or 'steady', the couple was considered 'promised'.
In her heart she REALLY thinks this is 'it' for her. And while you have some more immediate things that need attention - like your GCSEs, you sound committed to her.
Think about a gesture you can make as a bridge to an engagement. Maybe pick out matching rings or just a ring for her from James Avery or Jared. You can find something at James Avery in silver for $50-$60. I think something from James Avery like the Inscribed Love Band, or Heart Knot Ring is appropriate for this type of commitment. Just google James Avery and you will see the jewelry. I promise you will be happy with the quality.
Let her know you want to save the real engagement commitment for when you are independent, have a job, $$, stability, and can make real plans for the future - and you have the means to 'do it' right.
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I saw a guy the other day in town and I mentioned him to my mum who works with him at college an she got his number for me, I texted him saying that he seemes really sweet and I hope he didn't mind that I had his number, but he hasn't texted back anything other than questions, he's a year older than me and when he asked for my age he didn't reply.. what does this mean? x (link)
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1. Hopefully it means he sucks at texting -and some guys really do. They hate it.
2.It may mean he has gf or someone he is already interested in and doesn't want to make it complicated...
3.It may mean he has no clue who you are and just isn't willing to take a chance with the 'unknown'.
4.It may mean he really HATES being called sweet!!!
There is no way of really knowing - but you took the first step- now it is time for him to meet you half way.
I wouldn't stress about it. Keep shopping and putting yourself out there. The good ones are hard to find.
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How many calories do you think is in fried chicken breasts dipped in egg and bread crumbs? (link)
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Extra Crispy Chicken breast at KFC has a whopping 440 calories. This is similar to what you are describing.
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I am part of a group of people who read our local newspaper online and comment on the news of the day in the public forums provided. It's great fun and offers an excellent place to interact with others.
Some of us have become close, exchanging e-mails and chat messages. One of the women has suggested we all get together at a local watering hole and meet each other, and the gang has agreed.
I would love to join in, but the problem is that the persona I built online is that of a hunky, handsome young man -- including a pilfered photo I posted as "me" on my profile. Needless to say, he is NOT me. I am a 54-year-old, chubby, graying man who wears glasses.
I would love to meet these people, but I'm embarrassed about the lies I have told them. Some of the women have flirted with me, thinking I am this sexy guy. How can I fix this so we can all be friends? I am afraid they'll be angry at my ruse. (link)
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Well - I think it is time to kill your alter ego off! He needs to disappear and the 'real' you needs to step forward.
Can the hunky, handsome young man get sent away on a work trip or some other distraction - while the REAL you joins the group? It will take rebuilding friendships but worth it if the group is going to start being socially active.
Your only other choice is to bite the bullet and take the lumps. Kinda like the news,if it is a slow day it will be a big deal until something juicier happens.
Don't feel bad. This happens all the time on-line.
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