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I am not Who I am on the Internet
I am part of a group of people who read our local newspaper online and comment on the news of the day in the public forums provided. It's great fun and offers an excellent place to interact with others.
Some of us have become close, exchanging e-mails and chat messages. One of the women has suggested we all get together at a local watering hole and meet each other, and the gang has agreed.
I would love to join in, but the problem is that the persona I built online is that of a hunky, handsome young man -- including a pilfered photo I posted as "me" on my profile. Needless to say, he is NOT me. I am a 54-year-old, chubby, graying man who wears glasses.
I would love to meet these people, but I'm embarrassed about the lies I have told them. Some of the women have flirted with me, thinking I am this sexy guy. How can I fix this so we can all be friends? I am afraid they'll be angry at my ruse.
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Well - I think it is time to kill your alter ego off! He needs to disappear and the 'real' you needs to step forward.
Can the hunky, handsome young man get sent away on a work trip or some other distraction - while the REAL you joins the group? It will take rebuilding friendships but worth it if the group is going to start being socially active.
Your only other choice is to bite the bullet and take the lumps. Kinda like the news,if it is a slow day it will be a big deal until something juicier happens.
Don't feel bad. This happens all the time on-line.
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First off, I am not too sure who it is I am talking to right now. Your profile age says 17 and your previous questions set your age at anything from 13 to quite old. Very peculiar don't you think?
Anyway, assuming for a second that I actually am talking to a 54 year old, there is no easy way around your problem. You outright lied to these people, so it is going to be hard to gain their trust- particularly since you seem to confirm the old belief that you cant trust anyone online.
The only thing you can do, in my opinion, is to talk to these people first. Just come out asap and admit what you did. Explain that you regret it, that it was only done in good fun etc, and that you enjoyed talking to them. What happens next is really up to them.
Alin 34/m
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