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Like friend as more than a friend, but he doesn't want a relationship.
Alright, so I'm pretty good friends with this dude. We have a lot of the same interests, yet lots of differences, of course. lol, it seems we share some of the same problems, too. But, anyways, I really like him as more than a friend, yet he ticks me off endlessly. He can even be a jerk sometimes, but I can, too. Yet, for some reason, I still like him.
He asked me if I wanted to hook up with him a few weeks back, but nothing has really happened, and he said to keep it on the lowdown. But what really ticks me off is how he has all of these pet names for his other friends that are girls and treats them, well, like a guy would treat a girl, I guess. (flirting and whatnot) and yeah, I get jealous sometimes, but I don't say anything, of course.
What I'm trying to say is that I don't want him to view me as just a friend. I don't want to be by his side just to talk about music, books, the problems within the world and whatnot, and I don't like it when he randomly brings up other girls in a conversation we're having and calls them by their pet name.
What should I do?
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My first thought ... put him firmly into the 'friend' column. He isn't BF material for anyone yet. But he is a good 'window' into a guys mind. At least guys like him.
You probably have him on your list of 'possibilities' because you know him so well, flaws and all, so you are comfortable with him.
You deserve more than just 'comfortable'. There is someone out there that will knock your socks off. This guy is just someone that wants to knock your pants off.
It is time you branched out and made a longer list. Get to really know some other guys ... open your world up to more than this one player.
In fact, if he is such a good friend, ask HIM which one of his buddies are 'good guys' vs man-whores like him. Tell him you are open to dating a decent guy and wondered who he would recommend.
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Um, ignore him?
He doesn't want a relationship with you. Lord, he hardly even seems to want a friendship! He wants some action, and he doesn't want anyone else to know about it!
If you want more then a secretive hook-up, he isn't the guy for you, 'cause all he is offering is some random play and to let you be just one of his girls.
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Let him know that you like him and you want it to be something a little more. Tell him that you don't want to talk about other girls because it makes you jealous. If he can't face that, he isn't worth your time. Hope this helped, and don't be afraid to stand for what you want.
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