Well, I'm a second year college student. I have had my share of embarrassing moments, troubling times and I'm not the girl who got all the guys--so at least you'll know my advice is sincere and relatable, not perfect in an imaginary world. Any questions whatsoever are welcome, I'll try my best to answer accordingly.
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ok ther is this girl christina and she is mad at me beause i told her that i didnt like her huggin and flirtin with my boy friend and she said she cant be my friend any more bcause i dont trust her she swares she dont like him but i dont well didnt want him to start likein her and then she proswaded him 2 brake up with me and he did(you see they was friends way before me and him were) and thats why he did. but am i the bad guy(girl) here?andi do miss her as my friend and ive tried to be her friend againbut all she does is be her bitchy self soo? (link)
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Don't resort to violence. But, honestly if you know for a fact that it is because she wanted him to break up with you that he did that.
1. He has no mind of his own, and you deserve someone better than a guy who can't think for himself.
2. She wanted him for herself. And you don't need her as a friend.
It must be a very frustrating situation, so I hope it gets better. Sorry.
-Teacup
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Ok I am a 16 year old female and I love my boyfriend to death but sometimes I feel like he pressures me into thinking we are gonna be together forever and get married. I don't want to assume anything im just living life for now. Does anyone have any advice for me? (link)
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Tell him that though it is sweet he feels that way, it freaks you out to think of that at this age.
Be direct, but sweet.
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15/f
ok me and my boifriend cant wait to have sex but im still wondering if im ready to have sex with him i have had sex before 4 times but not with him and all those times have been with the wrong person and this time im kinda taking it slow compared to all the other times we have been dating for 4 months now but we've known each other for bout 6 or 7 months so how can i find out if hes the right person to have sex with... (link)
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Not to sound rude, but if you have to question it you're most likely not ready.
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ok so i dont exactly know what to do. this guy likes me but hes friends with my ex and my ex says that "i dont feel comforatable with them dating" but the thing is i like him still! but his friend, im actually aloud to date. my mom didnt know about me and my ex but knows about the new guy and agrees. should i date the new guy and just forget about me and my ex or should i wait and see who else comes my way? (link)
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It sounds pretty complicated.
But, I'm going to assume you are in like middle or high school...how big could your school possibly be? Basically everyone is friends with everyone...right? I think as long as they are not best friends, it should be alright. Also, take things slow with the new guy...you can let him know you are interested, but maybe don't rush into the relationship.
I think the most important thing you should factor in is whether or not you feel this guy is worth it.
Good luck.
Teacup
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I need help fast.
My boyfriends birthdays coming up and I don't know what to get him. he's turning 16
hes into:
bmx
cars
video games
photography
music
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Hey.
I think any video game fan, would enjoy a gift card from Best Buy. Which also works out for music, or for something like a camera.
If you don't want to get him a gift card, you could actually pick out the gift from Best Buy.
Good luck!
Teacup
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I'm 14, Female and from Scotland i like this guy a lot, he's 13 but theres only 6 months or so difference. I've known him since June/July and we've gotten close then drifted apart over time. Every Friday all my mates go to a ice rink disco, he was their and we we're getting along really well and talking a lot, that night i spoke to him online, he seemed to like me more than usual, i was delighted and was just as eager but now i think i should have backed off a little, to keep him interested a bit, I'll see him again on Friday what can i do to make him like me, what should i wear, say and do? Help please. (link)
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If you want to be nonchalant, that's fine. But only to an extent. If you do it too much, the guy will definitely get tired of you eventually.
As for how you should act, be interested in him. Try to get to know him, but be careful about getting too close. This can go either way, it can make him want to be just friends with you, or he may want to be with you.
As for dress, wear what you normally wear. I see nothing wrong with trying to look a little nicer once in a while, but stay true to yourself.
Overall, just be yourself, and if he likes you back then that's great...if he doesn't, then it'd be his loss.
Good luck!
Teacup :)
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16/f
okay im not sure if this guy is playing me or not..
he was my boyfriend for 6 months and people made up rumors that i was cheating on him, when i wasnt, this girl told him that and she liked him and now there going out. (the girl is my cousin)
this guy has been talking to me and saying stuff everynight to me since they have been going out about how he miss's me and wishes we were together and he talks about how he miss's sex and shit because my cousin is i guess prude..
last night me and my ex were at a party and we only went to 2nd someone walked in.. and hes scarred someone will tell his girlfriend(my cousin)
he asked me if i miss him and i said of course and he said he missed me to but then he said "dont worry soon it will happen" but that same night his gf left him a comment and it said how much she loves him and he responded saying i love you more than anything and then the next day(today) he is still saying he wants me back..
so i have a couple of questions.
1. should i tell my cousin hes cheating on her? ( even though its with me, i would want to know if someone was cheation on me, and i really do feel bad even though she is the reason why im not with my ex)
2. do you think this guy is playing me?
3. is it bad for me to still love him and want to be with him even though (he mights?) be playing me?
i just need some advice, or something.
thanks in advance. (link)
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I think you and your cousin would both be better off without that guy. He dates you, and then decides to date your cousin? He has had sex with you and wants to have sex with your cousin? Relatives shouldn't even be that close. I say you get over him, find someone better that will not treat you like a booty call or end up hurting your cousin.
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I will be applying to Brown University. I would like some feedback from people who know the school/have friends or relatives who go to the school. Feedback about the following questions:
How do they like the school?
How is the campus?
What type of grades/SAT scores did they have?
What the interview was like?
etc. (not all of those of course but whatever you know would be greatly appreciated!)
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I had an interview with someone from Brown. It was actually pretty casual. He told me about the school, asked me why I wanted to go, and shared his experiences with me. They want you to be interested and ask questions and it would help if you knew a lot about the school.
Good luck with Brown. =]
Teacup
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16\f
Me and my boyfriend have recently started having sex. We are very much in love and looked over the concequences if anything wrong were to happen. We have done it around 12 times... But it doesn't really feel good! Like it just doesn't feel as good as like, if he were to finger me.
I was just wondering if anyone had this problem, and if so, how do I make it feel good? (link)
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Maybe it is the position you are in. I would tell you to just try different positions and see which one feels best to you.
Hope it helps.
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Okay so I'm usually an 'A' student but 8 months ago my mother died and I've really been depressed for a while. I just started high school (9th grade) and my first semester grades were four B's and three A's. And now I realized that I really need to pick up my grades. I've always wanted to go to Harvard and since everything that has happened...I haven't been paying much attention to school. So if I get all A's for next semester and the rest of my three years do I still stand a chance of getting into an Ivy League school? (link)
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I'm sorry for your loss. Getting good grades is of course important to an Ivy League school, but remember it is not the only thing they look at. They also look at involvement, your SAT scores, the kind of interview you give, and probably some other factors. As long as you work hard, and are very well rounded... you should stand a chance.
Good luck. =]
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ok people on myspace, are like, putting people in there interests and they'll be like,
"bestfriends, movies, mall, skating, etc."
is that how you spell ETC? or is it ECT?
i spell it 'ect' but i think thats wrong.
helppppp. (link)
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Okay...im going to try to have this make as much sense as possible so there is this guy lets call him kyle =) well today kyle asked me out and he's really cool and sweet and stuff but im not sure if i could ever see him as a b/f...and i dont wanna hurt his feelings either and there is another guy let's call him matt =) well he's a year older than me and goes to a different school but i see him all the time at the park and we hang out and have a good time and he's like always hugging ma and sometimes we'll play tackle football and he'll run towards me making it look like he's gonna tackle me and he'll put his arms around me and his firnds will be like dude tackle her and let go already and he'll be like i dont want to and im going to see him tommorow at a game at his school so yeah but one more problem...there's a 3rd guy let's call him christian my ex-b/f...he broke up with me about a month ago but when he did he still loved me and really cared about me it's just a lot of "stuff" was going on and he didn't wanna drag me into it and he promised me he wouldn't get another g/f but when i was his g/f he wasn't a very good b/f and i'd alaways end up walking to class after brak or lunch crying so idk wut to do? should i wait for christian the guy i still kinda love? matt the sweet funny guys who's always hugging me? or kyle the guy who just asked me out and is really nice and seems to really like me thanx alot and i would appriciate if you would explain who i should pick and why it would help alot thanx!!!! love yvette
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Hi.
I know it's not my place to say, but if Christian was not a very good bf to you, why would you want to put yourself through that?
If you don't see Kyle as bf potential, then I don't think you should even consider him. If you let it go on longer, you may wind up just hurting him more.
As for Matt, if you do like him and you know that he'll be good to you, then go for it.
Hey, if you do decide to wait Christian, at least make him work for you. Every girl deserves that. (obviously only do it to a certain extent)
Well good luck, either way you will end up doing what you know is best for you. No advice can help you with that.
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Teacup
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okay so i love attention. so is it weird that i want to be a slut? i mean, ive done kind of sluttish things before but not to get the reputation of being one but i want to? is that normal or totally strange? and if not then what can i do to get it? (15/f btw.) (link)
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You are 15, and I understand that you don't want people telling you what to do. But honestly, you are still pretty much a kid. I don't understand why you would actually feel the need to be considered a slut. When you get older, it may become difficult for you to get into a serious relationship. Boys may like "sluts" to fool around with, but those aren't the type of girls they like to build relationships with. You should enjoy the rest of your childhood, make sure your life is going somewhere good by focusing on school, and give up hope of wanting to become a slut. Just think about it, do you want guys to not actually like you because of the person you are, but because you put out? Oh, and not to mention, other girls will dislike you for it. Hopefully, you come to your senses.
Good Luck.
Teacup
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is it "an year" or "a year"? is y considered a vowel sometimes and when? (link)
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it is a year. Y is considered a verb in words like, fly...you know when you typically don't have the traditional vowels in the word.
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my best friend lives across the street and we have carpooled to school every day since kindergarten. now we're in middle school and we're allowed to get to school an hour early if we want, to hang out in the cafeteria and talk to friends. I love doing that, but my friend isn't very sociable and she refuses to go early. Our moms are fine with driving us separately, but my friend is all mad at me now for "breaking the tradition" and not riding to school together. but going early is like the only chance we get in school to hang out with friends. what should i do? (link)
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Compromise. Go early every other day...that way you both still get to car pool, and sometimes you go early and sometimes you don't.
Good Luck
Teacup
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I have been gaining alot of weight lately but I realy haven't been realy eatting.I probubly eat once a day because I'm so busy.And I exercise so I don't understand why.I went from 222 to 265 in less than a year.And I don't eat alot of fried foods or fast food.Can some one help me PLEASE. (link)
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Eating once a day, or not eating only slows down your metabolism. You need to eat properly, 3 normal sized meals or 5 small meals a day, exercise, and keep fattening foods out of your system. Otherwise, it won't really work.
Good Luck!
Teacup
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I'm reading Heart of Darkness by Joseph Conrad for school [summer reading] & it just goes on and on and on and on about useless random stuff!!!! I have no idea what the plot of this book is & I get only 60% of what I'm reading. It's like I'm reading the book but the words go in through one eye and out the other. I've made a schedule to finish it by August [I'm in Heart of Darkness part III right now] & I'll probably finish it, but I would have no clue as to what I read. Can anyone give me a really brief idea on what it's about and what the point of the book is? I'm trying to refrain from Sparknotes online and all those similar sites because our school makes us sign sheets that says we're not going to get help from online sites when it comes to books and stuff.
Also, I'm suppose to read Jane Eyre. I know the basic plot but I'm getting mixed info from friends who have already read it. One says the author just goes on and on and never shuts up about description and that it's the WORST book he's read while one says that it's a really good book and that she finished it in a week. From what I see, it does seem to have an interesting storyline going on but it seems really big and thick with small font =/ Someone wanna prep me before I start it in August?
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I was supposed to read Heart of Darkness for my senior year english class. It was difficult, a lot of the people in my class did not understand it and they barely read it. All I remember from this book, is that the fog is symbolic and very important part of the plot. All I can tell you is that Heart of Darkness is a difficult book, if you read the book and then use sparknotes, it is not like you are cheating, but using the website as clarification. But make sure you read the book first.
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i'm 17/m
she's 15/f
i'll start out by saying that i'm one of the shyest guys alive.
so there's this girl i'm really into, she's one of the shyest chicks alive. i think she's into me too because on aim she always starts conversations with me. so we talk a good amount on aim and occasionally see each other and talk, like in school and i drove her home once and she visits me at work all the time.
thursday i asked her to go bowling with me. here's why i'm an ass: i went with a friend of mine because i was too scared to go with her by myself. i told her ahead of time though and asked her to bring one of her friends but she said that none of them liked bowling. it was really weird because me and this girl are really shy and my friend kept rambling on about his favorite subject, drugs. i talked to her , like chit chat but never got into any real conversations like i had hoped to. i texted her later that night and told her i made it weird by bringing my friend and told that next time it would be just us.
today after work i'm gonna call her, no texting just talking, and explain that i made a big mistake cause i'm an ass. we're kinda awkward around each other cause we are both deathly shy but i'm really determined to make things work. i'd appreciate any opinions or advice very much. (link)
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haha you are much too hard on yourself. The fact that you took a friend along does not make you an ass at all, you are shy...and you warned her, and you didn't expect it to be the way it was. All you can do next time you go out is just be yourself, even if you are really shy. Some girls find that really cute, btw. Just treat her with respect and show her that you are into her. Maybe buy her a single rose because you feel bad about what happened ;ast time, girls love flowers. So at least if you feel like you can't quite express yourself, you are trying to show her that you are thoughtful. But, you are not an ass in any way.
Good Luck!
Teacup
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in youtube there are tons of comments on girls that love emo boys because of their side parted hair,makeup,tight girl jeans and stuff.I was wondering why is that so? i mean i understand the hair maybe,but why do girls go for guys that look like.....girls? with their makeup and tight jeans? don't girls like macho man who wear boyish stuff? please clear my confusion thanks.
p.s:besides the above,comment on what else you like about emo kids. (link)
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Everyone has their own taste in the opposite sex (or same or w/e)..but I personally find that an emo boy is a turn off! I want someone who dresses preppy, but if their pants are tighter than mine and they are wearing make up, I would not be into that at all. I want a man, not a boy dressed in girl's clothing who is trying to be prettier than me. Yuck.
Teacup
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probly the wrong category sorry.
i have asked question before dating back along time ago but im not getting better.
I had sex with "a friend" back in january and it was my first time so i gave him my virginity. He swore to me that we would have a friendship but i he did not want a relationship with me. Well the friendship never happened. Not happened between us he never texted me, talked to me, called me etc. I thought i was pregnant for 3 months but i wasn't. After that he blocked me out of his life. He tells me im obessesed with him because i was just a booty call theres no way i could love him.
He ruined my life he lied to me he claims he told me i was just a booty call. He told me the next day. i REGRET EVERYTHING i have done with him from the first time we kissed to having sex with him. He has told me he hates me and he wants me leave him alone. I never talk to him ever... i havent talked to him in a good 2 months or so.
i have tried everything to get over this guy for a month straight i have cried myself to sleep. I have started drinking cause it makes me feel better and i cry when im drunk cause i miss him. I saw him the other night and it pissed me off so bad. He hates me, he should have seen me there and turned around and left.
I don't have many friends only one really good friend that i tell everything to but the guy and her are good friends also and she doesnt know what to tell me.
i know i don't really have a good question but do you guys have any ideas on what i can do to get over this guy, stop crying over him, possibly not regret it Because i don't want to regret something that big.
anything would probly help me
thank you
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Wow. Your situation sounds pretty difficult. About regretting having anything to do with him, at least know you only acted upon the way you were feeling. He was a jerk. He lied to get his way. All you can do is learn from it, and try to avoid making that mistake again. This should teach you a lesson, and make you less naive about people. You can't trust everyone, people have to earn that right. If you are going to have sex with someone, do it with someone you know. Getting to know them first, and hopefully even loving each other will mean that you will have meaningful sex. I don't want you to think that I am lecturing you, but just remember, think before you do things. You said you thought you were pregnant for three months, make sure you use some form of contraceptive.
About getting over him: he is not worth it! He did very mean things to you, and no one deserves to be treated the way he is treating you. Remind yourself that he is not worth your tears, and that if he is that big of a jerk, he is the one who has a real problem. (It will unravel one day, karma is a bitch). Do not let yourself think of him. It's summer, focus on fun things to do. Keep yourself busy and do not feel sorry for yourself. You made the choices and now you have to live with the consequences, so don't sit there and cry about what is going wrong, instead focus on making it better and improving your life. The more you keep yourself busy and the more you don't think of him, the less feelings you will have for him.
Good luck.
Teacup
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