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probly the wrong category sorry.
i have asked question before dating back along time ago but im not getting better.
I had sex with "a friend" back in january and it was my first time so i gave him my virginity. He swore to me that we would have a friendship but i he did not want a relationship with me. Well the friendship never happened. Not happened between us he never texted me, talked to me, called me etc. I thought i was pregnant for 3 months but i wasn't. After that he blocked me out of his life. He tells me im obessesed with him because i was just a booty call theres no way i could love him.
He ruined my life he lied to me he claims he told me i was just a booty call. He told me the next day. i REGRET EVERYTHING i have done with him from the first time we kissed to having sex with him. He has told me he hates me and he wants me leave him alone. I never talk to him ever... i havent talked to him in a good 2 months or so.
i have tried everything to get over this guy for a month straight i have cried myself to sleep. I have started drinking cause it makes me feel better and i cry when im drunk cause i miss him. I saw him the other night and it pissed me off so bad. He hates me, he should have seen me there and turned around and left.
I don't have many friends only one really good friend that i tell everything to but the guy and her are good friends also and she doesnt know what to tell me.
i know i don't really have a good question but do you guys have any ideas on what i can do to get over this guy, stop crying over him, possibly not regret it Because i don't want to regret something that big.
anything would probly help me
thank you
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There's a saying that I try to live by and it really helps me out. Never have regrets. You will make bad decisions in your lifetime, you will make mistakes... but there is something good to be said about the negative experiences: you can take them and learn & grow from them and use them as the feul to make you stronger. That guy was a jerk. He used you plain & simple, and you're not the only girl to get duped this way. Don't regret it, use it. When you get sad, get dolled up and take a look in the mirror. Remind yourself that 1. you are beautiful. 2. He's a scumbag who does not deserve you, and Karma will definitely come to bitehim in the a$$. When you think you miss him remind yourself of all the horrible things he has said and done. And remember that Karma is real. It might take a while to happen, but he will get what's coming to him and you will savor every moment of it. It's what I call the "lazy revenge". You don't have to do a thing, he'll be miserable, and you can grab a soda, a bag of popcorn and a camera and enjoy the show.
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Okay, I may not know the exact right things to say but ill try. I am still a virgin and i am keeping it until im in actual love but thats not the point.. this guy seems like a total kerk.. what i would do to get over him is to try to forget about him the best you can and start dating.. i mean come on, flirting and maybe some kissing wiuth other guys hasnt hurt anybody right:P Just make sure that you are comfortable with it all, and then go along with the whole dating thing.. if that doesnt work.. well urmm.. talk to your mom about it they always know the right things to say, and if u cant go to your mom.. then go to a counselor and just tell him or her everything you have been going through for the past few months.. trust me this will help!
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Wow. Your situation sounds pretty difficult. About regretting having anything to do with him, at least know you only acted upon the way you were feeling. He was a jerk. He lied to get his way. All you can do is learn from it, and try to avoid making that mistake again. This should teach you a lesson, and make you less naive about people. You can't trust everyone, people have to earn that right. If you are going to have sex with someone, do it with someone you know. Getting to know them first, and hopefully even loving each other will mean that you will have meaningful sex. I don't want you to think that I am lecturing you, but just remember, think before you do things. You said you thought you were pregnant for three months, make sure you use some form of contraceptive.
About getting over him: he is not worth it! He did very mean things to you, and no one deserves to be treated the way he is treating you. Remind yourself that he is not worth your tears, and that if he is that big of a jerk, he is the one who has a real problem. (It will unravel one day, karma is a bitch). Do not let yourself think of him. It's summer, focus on fun things to do. Keep yourself busy and do not feel sorry for yourself. You made the choices and now you have to live with the consequences, so don't sit there and cry about what is going wrong, instead focus on making it better and improving your life. The more you keep yourself busy and the more you don't think of him, the less feelings you will have for him.
Good luck.
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