hollister_lover09's advice column

I went on Wensday and they were buy one get one free so I got some cover up.

http://www.drugstore.com/templates/browse/default.asp?catid=40&trx=storedir-left&trxp1=DSHPlnav60&trxp2=40

Just click around on there

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is there a way i can find out what the specials and sales there are in rite aid through the internet?

instead of the lil magazine thing you get every week ( cuz i dont have that anymore )

i went on the website and went all over the place i still dont see anyThing
its not very organized

im specifically lookin for the MAKE UP SALES..

thaannkksss

I just bought some from there. Cover girl is buy one get one free of the same price or lower value.

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so im getting my nose peirced for my birthday
and i live in illinois
and i was wondering what are some good places around here?
thankssss :]

I don't live there. But I suggest asking your friends who have it done, where they got theirs done at. Make sure that the place is very clean and you have heard good things about them. When you go, and you don't see them opening up new stuff, LEAVE. They aren't clean. You want to see with your own eyes them opening everything. But I highly suggest asking anyone that has it done and what they thought of the place. Good luck! =D

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I have three sisters. Two of them are older, but we were always close when we were younger. The thing is they go out and they drink and smoke and stuff, and I don't tell my parents anything. I always keep their secrets. One got a ticket for drinking and had to go to the hospital, and she is only 18. My parents don't even care! They lowered her curfew and took her car away for like, a week. The other one isn't so bad. She is 19 and goes out all the time and drinks.

Now, my parents know we drink, just as long as we aren't a sloppy mess. I don't smoke, but last night I was hanging out with my boyfriend and his friends (who are my sister's friends as well) and I tried salvia. It was horrible and I did not like it and I will never do it again. But I'm guessing my sister told my mom I did something because my mom came downstairs and was like, "So I hear you aren't good when you go out." And she didn't tell me what she ment by it. I am sick of keeping my sister's secrets when they won't do it for me at all. It is such a pain, but I don't want to be a snitch to them. Talking to them is a big waste, because they will just lie.

GAH! It's so frusterating, and I have no idea how to handle it.

Any help will be apperitiated, thank you.

The way I see it, if they don't have your back, don't have theirs. They are considered "Adults" by being 18 and older. Your parents can't really do anything about them doing what they what. So if you tell on them, it might not do much to them. Your parents might make them move out, but I'm not sure how that will work. But I say, don't keep their secrets if they won't keep yours.

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has anyone had a tragus piercing? if so i have a question, i got mine done like a week ago and it has been bealing beautifully, but the other night, a few people hugged me and accidently bumped into it and the next day it hurts like hell..does it mean now it's infected or it just got jostled around and the pain will go away? I've been cleaning it regularly with sea salt wipes as well.

I got mine done about a month ago. When mine gets caught in my hair it hurts for a day or so. Its not infected. No worries. It'll probably go away tomorrow or the next day. try not to sleep on it tonight(if you get this lol) if its still hurting tomorrow, try not sleeping on it, that will help it breathe. Wear your hair up tomorrow, if its hurting, that way nothing is bothering it. I hope I helped! =D

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okay well its summer and i really want a bellybutton ring because i think it looks cute. i was just wondering does it hurt? what does it feel like? i have my ear cartiledge done and my earlobes done and i was wondering does it hurt more or less? thank you so much

- Scared

I have a lot of piercings. 18 of them. My ears 15, my tragus and my belly twice. Your belly, I think, feels like a bee sting. Maybe not even that bad. Its more of a stinging then a hurting. It stings when you bend and whatnot.
I know your not asking for this, but I tell everyone this.
If it gets infected.
DO NOT clean it with rubbing Alcohol. It will like eat the infected skin, and you won't have that skin there. Meaning the skin that is holding the ring in, will get smaller and likely to get riped out if small enough. Go to a drug store and ask someone there what to use.
Do not touch it more then needed. Try only touching it when you clean it. Touching it with dirty hands will help it get infected. Swimming in pool water is actually very good for it. As long as its clean, good pool water.
Swimming in lakes, or rivers are bad. that water is dirty. If you do swim in a lake or river. Be sure to clean it right after. Mine got infected from swimming in a lake.
Swimming in the ocean is good for it because of the salt. But be cause to clean it after. Showering should take care of that.

I hope I helped, and be sure to take good care of it! =D

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Why do people cheat?

If you are someone who has ever cheated on a partner, why did you do it?

Not passing judgments here, I just want some insight.

Well I cheated because I was drunk. I was playing around with this guy, my friends brother, and I started to think of my BF and yelled stop stop stop, and started to cry. I really didn't mean to cheat, but I did, so you know. But I haven't since, and I have a new bf that I have been with for almost 2 years and I would never cheat again, its not worth it. =D

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okay 16/f, i have this boyfriend, and we've been going out for 7 months and he is very respectful and is in love with me and treats me right, but i've told him i wasn't comfortable going too far, with sex and he understands, but he like expects me to when we've been going out for a year..and i don't want to like dispoint him or make him wait for me, cause i dont know when i'll be ready. He is 100 percent comfortable with me, but i dont know why i'm not 100 comfortable with him, which can be the problem, im also scared to do some sexual things like head or fingering me, and i dont know whyy. so i believe that from my lack of sexuality he watches porn, but i feel like since he does, my expectations of those girls are higher and that im being compared and even if he doesn't see it like that or compare me in any way i feel like it does, but i'm just mental about the whole situation. i don't know what to do to make myself relax or feel more comfortable or do i just have to wait untill im comfortable whenever that will be. and i dont know what to do about my boyfriend because i don't want him to feel like hes gonna get something i'm not sure he will. so please give me advice thanks

If your not ready, even after you two have been dating for a year, he should still respect that. If he really loves you, he will wait for you to be ready. If he is watching porn, thats okay. He needs to get "happy" one way or the other, because thats just what guys do. They need to. Just have a long talk with him about it, and if he keeps telling you to have sex with him after your year, break it off with him. You can find someone that will wait for you when you are ready. =D

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so im a 16 m been with my girlfriend for 6 going on 7 years im crazy about her i love her with all my heart but weve been having some probems she makes all the wrongs in my life dissappear she takes my breath away she tells me she loves me but every time she cries i cant help but get upset and bame myself i love her the happiest day of our relatonship was yesterdy i asked her to marry me the other day she said yes we plan to get married after college but the thing is i want more than just love dont get me wrong weve only ever hadsex 4 time which was rcntly about in the last 2 weeks but i want it to be better not just love i want her to need me does that make sense

So you guys have been dating since you were 9-10ish? I think thats great. But I can't see how you guys stayed together for so long, esp. when there is soo much more out there at that age. She already needs you if you two have been together for this long. try talking to her and she what SHE wants in this relationship. Don't plan to get married yet. Yes you two have been together for a long time, but there still is college, and you'll meet soo many more women, and same with her in guys. I really don't know what your question is, but I think I might have made some sense in all this =D

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13/f
this might be in the wrong category, but 4give me if it is.

so i had my first period like a month ago or something like that. and i know, your supposed to get a period every month. but itsz like 30-40 days now and i still didnt get it. well ive been feeling rather horny after mii first period and started to masturbate like everyday. but nothing else. is my period just irregular or could it be something else? any advice would be very much appreciated. thankx!

nothing to worry about. The first time I got mine it was only a couple of days in stepmberish, the I didn't get it again until summer, I was freaking out. So no worrys! I was happy when I didn't get it again. lol

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Okay, so I work out usually like everyday and I have a pretty nice body I guess. I have abs and what not. Oh, by the way, I'm a girl, I'm 15. But anyways, I still have this like fat on my lower back that I just can't get off and it's driving me crazy. Any workouts I can do or any suggestions?

I do this, here is the video I got it off of. Its kinda tricky to do, and if your doing it one way, and you don't feel anything, you might need to keep moving around until you do feel something..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DB1vVt39Qes

If you don't have one of those balls, their at wal mart for pretty cheap!! =D

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i just wactched the movie, read it and weep on disney channel....
does anyone know what kind of computer she has on that movie?
it's pretty cool.
thnks.

gateway Microsoft Tablet PC. My teacher has one, they are so awesome lol. I love to write on it! He said they are pretty costly, but he loves it =D

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(17 female)
I'm short, I'm skinny, I'm clumsy, I wear baggy jeans and a band shirt and old sneakers everyday and have for just about my entire life. My hair is barely shoulder-length and layered a lot and about 4 different shades of brown because of messy dye-jobs. my eyes are green, i have a ton of freckles across my nose, and 8 piercings in each ear.

i'm not exactly a prom person... i'm actually a little bit of a mess. but this year i want to be different, instead of just looking like the grungey, messy, sardonic girl i always am.

forget turning heads, i want to break necks.

prom is rapidly approaching: i have two weeks to not make an absolute retard out of myself.

i have no expierience buying dresses or shoes or doing hair or make-up.

...i really want to have one of those cinderella moments where everyone turns around and goes "whoa, oh my god!"

my date is really tall and wearing a white suit, do we have to match?

what's a corsage?

...i'm fully aware that i fail at life >.

Alright. Call to get your hair and make up done somewhere.
Go buy your dress, not online, it'll take to long to get here.
At my school, the BIG proffy dresses and in. But at other schools, they wear straight gowns. So either way, try finding a BIG dress. They are BEAUTIFUL and everyone will be looking if you stand out!!
You do have to match, it makes you guys look soo much better. But if hes wearing all white, white vest and jacket and pants, thats fine. Pink and dar blue looks good on any girl. Cut off a piece of your dress, somewhere you cant notice and take it with you when you get your hair done. If your dress is a BIG one.
Look on the internet at different hair styles. Have one in mind or even a picture. Try to find your face shape, so you know how it will look on you.
Have him call in flowers now, it would be better to have the color of your dress in the flowers, but since you really only have two weeks and still need to get a dress, I dont think therell be enough time to get the color in them. Have him get white flowers, or just tell him to ask the flower to people to do it really pretty.

I hope I helped and have fun!!!

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i am in my junior year of high school. i wont be taking my SAT's this june due to the fact that i cant find any test centers, which is unbelievable... would it be too late if i take my first one during the fall and the 2nd during spring? =/ im very worried...

btw Bronx, NY

I don't think so. I'm in the same boat. My teacher said it wont be. Just as soon as you get your scores back in the spring and their better, send them in asp to any colleges to have signed up for or been accepted too. I hope I helped!

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i am a f/14 i weight about 150 lbs and am 5'2. I bought a couple shirts from hollister and thy go down past my buckle line on my pants so, do u think thats to short and will make me look fat
and do you think i am fat cuz me and my best friend were trying on bathing suits and shes a little heavier than me and i tried on a bikini and she said it looked great but, i dont know

I'm 150 And 5'4 but I don't look like I'm 150lbs. I look like I'm 120 bc of my muscle. So maybe your like me?
Ways to make you not look "fat" if you are, is don't get your jeans too tight. That will make your love handles even worse and waaay more noticeable. Say If your stuck between say a size 7 and it kinda tight and a size 9 but its a little big, get the 9.
Don't get tummy shirts. I think the shirts you got will be fine. If you don't feel like they are, put another layer under the shirt. A cute long tank under would look great. =D

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So sophomore year, i started takin anti-depressants and it made me gain a little weight. I had always been super-skinny so it freaked me out (freshman year i was 103 or so) and so when the scale said 121 i felt like a fatass and began to eat less calories, excercize more, ect ect. I only lost about 12 pounds so it wasn't anything serious and didn't last too long. Earlier this year, in late February/early march, I went on a crash diet and lost 5 pounds in a little over a week.

When I get like that, it never lasts too long and I it's never a full-on eating disorder... but lately i've been very unhappy and extremely stressed. I beat myself up about how ugly and fat I am and how I have no friends.

a few weeks agoI started just trying to work out and eat better foods but eventally i spiraled out of control and ive lost 21 pounds so far. I am 116 pounds and intend to keep going untill I am 100.... my next goal weight is 107. THe fact that I have a goal weight scares me... also the fact that I read online that most anorexics are the "good" child. the "perfect" one... and thats how i've been raised. My older brother was the screw up and I got straight a's. I'm moving away to college in the fall and he, at 21, is still at home.

I'm convinced that I have a handle on this, because its something i've been through before. However, ive never lost this much weight. And i've never had to be this sneaky about it. I lie daily about what ive eaten and what I do ("oh we went out to dinner" when i really just went on a walk with a friend).

My best friend, Brantley, struggled with this when he was in 8th grade. He had it bad, and at 6'0 he weighed around 120 or 125 he said. ANd yesterday he told me that he's showing signs of it again but he doesnt' really think he has a problem.

I don't want to get help. I don't want to talk to my parents or another therapist (btw, the therapist and phsychiatrist i saw in 10th grade only knew aout the depression and NOT my eating issues) i just want to get through this on my own, but without having to gain weight =/ I think when i'm 100 or 105 i'll slowly star eating normally and will try to maintain arond 110 eventually....

I think you really need to talk to if not your parents, then a friend, that doesn't have an eating disorder themselves. Try to stay away from people with an eating disorder, or people that only talk about weight and how they need to lose it. It's an unhealthy environment and you shouldn't be around them. I think you should talk to your parents, really. But non of us on here can make you do that. Please tell a good, honest, loving friend that will be there to help you. Eat infront of her/him at every meal you eat, so someone will KNOW your eating. I hope I helped and you get better and end up getting some help

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does anyone know if psychics really work? because there are a lot of things i would really love to know about myself. and i cant think of anyone else to go to besides someone who could possibly know the true answer to my questions i wonder about.

usually id rather like to be suprised about something happening, but im almost nineteen years old; never had a serious boyfriend. the longest relationship ive had was about 2 weeks. (it in middle school, so it didnt even count). and i just want to know if there is someone even out there for me..people say 'everyone has that someone special for them'. but each single day, im finding that harder and harder to believe.
it could be that i just havent met him yet, but what if i already know him and i just dont see that spark between us? i dont want to pass up an expierence when it has to do with true love. i want it so bad.

i could sleep soooo much better every night knowing that im going to be waking up the next day for a reason.

thanks so much everyone

I haven't gone to one, but would like too. My friend however did. It was the summer of going into freshman year and she went and saw one. The lady told her that she would fall in love in the fall. And she did! It wasn't a i love you, i love you too love. But she loved him. I wish I could remember the rest of the things that the lady said would happen, but their are more then just that one. I'll ask her tonight and re write you, so check back! =D

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I was talking to this guy I like on the phone the other dayy, and we were having a really deep conversation and Ive known him for a while now. Like 2 yearsish?
And we were talking about my step mom, and all of a sudden, he asked me where my real Mom lived.

So I told him about how she was dead, and everything went extremely quiet and akward.And this is how the rest of the conversationn went.

Guy: Wow.. I feel like a jerk now.
Girl: lol why?
Guy: I unno... How old were you?
Girl: um.. five.
Guy: Are you seriouss?
Then there was along pause
Girl: yeah.. this is..
Guy: akward.
so I tried to change the subject and said,
So yeahh,, I dont know I really dont like my step mom,
And he said I can see why, But I got to go Bye, really quickly and hung up before he even said bye properly, and then he was on msn right after.

So I tried to talk to him a few days later on msn and he was giving me one word answers and being really akward and not really responding and just like stopped talking.

Do you have and ideas on what I should do to make things not so akward, or why he acted strange and akward. A lot of people know about it and hes the first person to act like that?

he probably just feels really bad for bringing it up. Next time you talk to him, tell him that he shouldn't feel the way he does. Tell him people ask you all the time what happened(even if they don't) and that your use to it. I hope everything turns out okay =D

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I'm a 16 year old guy and at this age more and more of my friends are losing their virginity and hookin up with girls. I go to parties and all that fun stuff but I still havent had my first kiss. My goal is to have my first kiss before I turn 17 which is in a month. What should I do? I need tips on how to kiss and how to get into the situation where a kiss might happen. thanks

Don't become an asshole to girls. Just be really flirty, and try tickling a girl if she is flirting back. Sit close to her, try holding hands. Don't worry about having sex. That will come with love. Stay away from being the "friend". FLIRT FLIRT FLIRT. Tell a girl she looks pretty, look her in the eyes, touch her when talking to her, make her laugh. How to kiss, its hard to explain. Try letting her take the lead. Massage her tongue with yours. I hope I helped!!

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So I've had a few issues with blood. It wasn't that bad at first, but still alarming. It started in high school shortly after I had my gall bladder removed (at 15) and I was told that things wouldn't change much at all, but I might want to watch my diet). I had tests done for possible problems back then, but nothing came up. It was assumed that I was just straining too hard.

In the last couple of years there has been a lot of blood in the toilet, but only on rare occasions. Each time it happens, there isn't much pain involved, if any, and it only lasts for a couple of days. I'm starting to think that it happens when I have a lot of dairy products. I'm kind of hoping it's just a result of the gall bladder being removed and it's nothing serious. I notice I've eaten a lot of things with cheese or ice cream in the days right before it happens.

I guess I'm wondering if I should just try to change my diet or if I should just go to a hospital. I don't have health insurance, so I wouldn't be able to afford anything like a colonoscopy. I imagine without insurance, that type of procedure could be out of my range.

Does anyone have advice? Any advice would be helpful.

I'm in a nursing class, and we talked about this before. It can be cased from have you straining to hard like you said. Esp. if you have ate cheese and what not the couple days before. You could be constipated and your straining to hard. Try not to eat dairy products for the next week or so, and see if anything happens! I hope I helped and everything goes well!

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