I look like my mother in this picture...is that a good thing?! Lol.
I often feel like I have been through far too much for my age. I've battled depression (several times), emotionally abusive relationships, men walking all over me, an eating disorder and a suicide attempt and I still pulled through. And if I can then you can too.
I'm a great listener, so feel free to ask me anything, I WILL reply to you. Be warned though, my advice is very blunt and I'll say exactly what I think! But then 9 times out of 10 people need to hear the truth rather than be wrapped in cotton wool!
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I was wondering
Is it true if you blow dry your hair and straigthen it like everday that by the time your 25 your hair will fall out?
I usually do that everyday except for on weekends.
Will my hair fall out? (link)
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It probably won't fall out but it WILL make your heair dryu and weak. Try not to blow dry and straighten it every day - if you really hate your untamed hair then tie it back or do what I do - which is to tie it up in a bun, no one can tell then! :P
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I'm 5"4' and 160 lbs. That doesn't sound that 'fat' but I'm also 13 years and my doctor thinks it's too fat and that was the cause of my 'monthly's' stopping for 4 months early last year! I really need an appropriate diet to lose some pounds because I feel fat and since I have to maintain school and homework, chores, etc. it's tough to not eat.
Recently I've been on a diet with food and water and no snacks but I did eat a few snacks and after 4 bottles of water...I felt reallly bloated! So How Do I use my water and food (lunch) diet without the snacks...the temptation of the snacks? Does anny one know how to avoid buyin em? (link)
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I can't tell you to simply stop eating snacks cos we both know it's just not that easy. What you CAN do is to not take money to school or wherever it is you purchase the snacks. If you don't have the money to buy snacks you can't eat them! Instead take healthy snacks such as fruit to school. And make sure you eat 3 balanced meals a day. I know weight loss is hard, I'm facing the same problem right now. But be strong-willed and you CAN do it! :)
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I have it all over my legs. will jogging on my NEW treadmill make my legs toner? or a gazelle? please help! (link)
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I have it too. It sucks huh? It's a big hang-up of mine. Yes, jogging on your treadmill will certainly help, as CV exercise (cardiovascular - which gets your heart rate up and burns off energy) takes the stores of fat that cellulite is and uses that as energy. What would also help is joining a gym and using other equipment such as a cross trainer or light weights as they'll all help tone you up.
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I really want a boyfriend. I've had one before but he was unreliable and I'd like someone better. With Valintine's (sp?) Day coming up I really want this to be my chance. Well there are two guys I like and I'm going to use letters so if you don't like it don't answer it.
Let's begin with A. A is hot and popular. Really popular. Yet, he's different from all the other popular guys. He's sweet and funny. We always talk in language class and he writes these beautiful poems. The only thing is he never notices me outside of language.
Now it's J. J is hot but unpopular. He's funny and awesome. We don't talk much but sometimes exchange a few words online. In gym he constantly stares at me though.
So my question is which guy should I go for? Which do you think is more worth it? Should I forget about both of them? (link)
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You're not alone hun. I want a boyfriend too (I've been single for 2 years). What I DON'T want is a guy who will mess me around and cause heartache. So forget about the popularity of these guys. Personally it sounds like the 2nd guy likes you. But don't date either of them for the sake of it cos it's just not fair on anyone involved. Hope this helps!
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15/f. Theres this guy at my school who i've always had this crush on since like 8th grade. He's pretty popular, but at my school theres isnt really popular people theres just like the cool people who have alotta friends. anyway, hes always giving me these intense looks, like whenever i walk down the hallway i eat lunch in (in my school we can eat in the halls and he sits like 50 feet away) and he always looks up from whatever hes doing to look at me and he always smiles and every now and then he'll say something to me like, " i like your new haircut, shorter looks good on you". So does he like me or is it just like a friendly thing? And what can i do to get him to notice me? (link)
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Sounds to me honey like he's already noticed you!!! Well done you! :P From my experience men don't go out of their way to talk to you unless they find you attractive. My advice? Go for it! When he talks to you try to turn it into a conversation, or at least compliment him back - maybe it would give him more confidence to ask you out, who knows?!
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V-day is coming up, and I have /no/ idea what to get my bf! He loves music, and plays the trumpet/piano. I was thinking about taking him to a movie, but not sure his parents would let him go because they are /super/..well.. I dunno.. they're kinda weird. I mean, I don't know how to describe them. Anyways, any ideas? Mom suggested cologne (sp?) but i figured he doesn't wear that too much. Heeeelllp!!! (Please) :P (link)
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If you're on a budget, what about a big collage or keepsake box about his music? There's absolutely no need to spend a lot of money as he'll appreciate the sentimentality. Aside from that, take him on a picnic with all his favourite foods, or a day trip somewhere exciting. And if all else fails there IS the movies...we just wont tell his parents :P
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So im going to be going back to school soon, and I want to do well and get like all A's!
I want to make new friends especialy guy friiiends..
what are some things I can do to make this happen!? (link)
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The best thing you can do with your grades is to REALLY mean it and REALLY apply yourself! Just think every time you're tempted to slack off about how getting good grades could affect your whole life for the better.
As for the friends, an after-school activity, sports club or group should help you do this! There's bound to be something that the school offers to spark your interest, so you just go for it!!!
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Well i like three boys and two probably likes me back but i dream bout two boys and but 1 might not like me bak i really do not now which one to pick because they all are sweet but one has a reputation of playing girls what should I do? (link)
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If I was in your position I wouldn't pick any of them, as I believe you should only go out with someone you really like. Get to know these boys well, and over time I'm sure one of them will stand out for you; there's no point in rushing anything as it'd probably end in tears if you did!
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Okay so, like many others, I'm shaved on my vagina... but i always get razor burn sooooo incredibly bad... and when im done shaving.. i always have these red pimple like dots... but idk if they're pimples... does anyone have any advice on the red dots, and how to be shaved but not get razor burn so bad, if so i apreciate it! (i'm not really sure what category this goes under) (link)
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I myself have tried this and get really sore ingrowing hairs every time I do it...another way which I find ultimately better is to get it waxed. Yes it's painful, although if you get it done regularly you'll build up a tolerence to it. Another good thing is that you'll stay smoother for much longer, as no guy likes to go down there when you're stubbly! Lol. A wax can last you anywhere between 2-6 weeks depending on what type of hair you have (course, fair etc), but the more waxes you get the longer they'll last. As for the red dots you're getting they're just shaving rashes and therefor nothing to worry about, although admittedly really inconvenient!!! Hope this helps and you'll consider it.
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Can anyone tell me what it feels like to have a panic attack. Today in school i felt like the world was ending. I couldnt breathe..It felt like someone was sitting on my chest. The classroom felt like it was a bazillion degrees...I thought I was dying...was this a panic attack? what can I do to stop them?
Please Help (link)
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That does sound pretty much like a panic attack to me. You'll be glad to hear that they're pretty common so you're not a freak or anything lol. However it is important to figure out WHY you had this panic attack. For instance I get them if I try to walk through a crowd of people and I can't get through. Were you worried about anything? Or it could simply have been heat-triggered. Whatever it is, once you realise what the problem is it's easier to be able to overcome it to prevent them from happening again.
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i'll make this short and simple.
16f never been kissed (i know pathetic loser)
likes boy
wants to make first move
but scared of being rejected
what if i mess up? what if he moves his head away? i have braces will it be harder to kiss? should i eat chocolate before hand so i taste good?
please help a sista out. i'll give you 5's. (link)
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Well if it helps I didn't have my first kiss until I was 15 - this does NOT make you a pathetic loser! And when I was at college I was far too scared to make the first move on a guy I REALLY liked. 2 years later I find out he liked me too. Nowadays I will always go for it, as having a missed opportunity is one of the worst things in the world. And if he doesn't feel the same...so what? For every guy out there that doesn't kind you attractive there will always be another that finds you achingly beautiful.
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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???
please help...thanxx (link)
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As long as you're going to stick to your resolve NOT to give him oral sex you should be okay. You seem like a pretty smart girl and you have to promise yourself to walk away if he DOES start to pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable with. Sometimes rumours are just rumours, but if people like his close friends warn you that he is doing drugs then they might be worth listening to.
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