well..i'm 17, i love just about everything! God is my LORD and personal Savior. my family and friends mean the world to me and i would do ANYTHING for them. i pretty much have the most amazing boyfriend anygirl could ever ask for and love him with all my heart. if anybody needs any held, don't hesitate to ask, i will do my best to help! =]
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ok so here's what happened. there's this guy i've known since 7th grade, and ever since then i've had a crush on him. we were always pretty good friends, but that's all he saw me as. well, about a year ago i moved to a different state so naturally, we didn't stay *best* friends. i went back to my home state over the summer and i called him up and we met up. he took me to dinner and such and he was just acting like we were bf and gf the whole time. at the end of the night when i had to go to my friend's house to spend the night there, he kept huggin me and sayin how much he was going to miss me and how he didn't realize how much he missed me and he got a little teary eyed. before i got in the car to leave, he kissed me on the cheek and then on the lips. we saw eachother the next day and the same thing happened. but that day i left to go back home. we say we're gunna try to see eachother more and i'm going back there to go to college but he said he doesn't want to be bf and gf right now because we'd be missin a lot with eachother and he doesn't want one person to hurt the other. but he says that its killing him now because he likes me more than a friend. but i have a whole other year till i graduate...can something like this work out? does he REALLY feel that way about me?? i'm so confused but i love him so much after nearly 5 years (link)
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if it wasn't for the fact that you've known eachother for nearly 5 years, i'd say no, it wouldn't work out. but since ya'll are good friends, there is always that possibility, especially if you guys go to the same college eventually. hope everything works for you!
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I have been going out with a boy and its been about a week. It seems like everyone I talk to knows that we are going out so then they ask "did you kiss yet" I want to say yes but the truth is no. So this weekend I am going to met him at the park near my house and try to get a first kiss but I am not sure if I am ready for it. Should I kiss him or wait? (link)
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the best thing to do, in my opinion, is to wait. you are still in the beginning part of a relationship and a kiss too soon can lead to problems later on. now if you've known the guy for like, ever, then that's another story. but the best first kiss is one that is unexpected because it is sure to take your breath away, *trust me*
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17 female
ive know my best friend for about three years now, he's amazing. he's jut so funny and smart and caring. i realised about three months ago that i'd fallen in love with him but i haven't told him because i don't want to spoil our friendship. he's jsut the most amazing person ive every met and i want to tell him how i feel because its eating me up inside. so how do i tell him? (link)
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wow! that sounds exactly like my situation back last month! it's hard to tell a person you like them because of all the "what ifs" it involves. the best thing i can say is probably just hint at it at first. be like "so is there anybody you like at school?" and kinda go from there.
i'll tell you what, i knew my best guy friend for 3 years and liked him the whole time but he never saw me as anything more which killed me. but now, after 3 almost 4 years, and bfs inbetween, he finally likes me back! only time will tell how true feelings will be revealed...just be patient
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Ok, so, this guy who really likes me is 19 (born feb. 1987), and i really like him too, but i'm only 16( Dec. 1989), do you think this age difference is too much right now, i mean like he can drink (i'm in Canada), and stuff, and it's almost 3 years, should i wait a little and then go out with him, or is that not too big of a deal? My last boyfriend was 4 almost 5 years older, and it turned out he was in like a common law marriage and stuff, so i may be paranois with this, but let me know:) (link)
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there is absolutely nothin wrong with goin for older guys. but my advice would be to watch out. about 4 months ago i was *involved* with a 20 year old *im goin on 17*. he was hott, nice, and w/e but he acted like a 17 year old *which is how old his best friend is*. all it did was cause me heartache because i really liked him before he became a jerk, but he was only nice to me and kept takin me out because he wanted somethin physical from me. but when i wouldn't give it to him, he eventually got rid of me and found someone who would
i would just be cautious about his motives and make sure he'd be in it for the right reason
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So I'm kind of .. "in love," i guess, with this boy, but he's ALOT older than I am.. well, not alot, but he's in his 20's and i'm in my middle teens, so. yea. But he seems so perfect, he's so sweet, we both love eachothers company & i am fully comfortable with him. We've gone all the way & he still wants me around as much as possible. But I don't know if his motives are what I've come to believe seeing as he's older. my parents don't want me seeing him, because of the age difference, but I always want to be with him & he seems to love my company even when we're just lying next to one another. Is this right, or is he bad news? (link)
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girl, i'm gunna try to answer this from experience...i'm 17 and this guy i was with for 6 months was in his 20's too. we watched movies and cuddled, we were sweet on eachother, flirting constantly and just above and beyond just a friendship. but recently i found out that he was only using me for one thing...but when i wouldn't give it up to him in any form because i'm not that kind of person, he denied anything that happened between, quit talkin to me, and started treatin me like crap. it wasn't till after that i realized his true motives because we'd be hanging out with other people and he would just be sitting there, but as soon as the lights were off or he knew no one was looking, he would hold my hand, put his arm around me etc. i'd just be careful to make sure he's not just usin you as his target to get what he wants. also a guy in his 20s with a teen...you gotta wonder why he can't get a girl his own age
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i dont know what to do. here's the background info. I've known this amazing guy for a little over 2 years now. i feel in love with him, and he with me. But he kinda left me. Moved 1000+ miles across the usa. lately we havent been that into eachother. our conversations turned from firey to blah. so i didnt sleep last night. instead i wrote this.
I regret every single day I wake up and he’s not next to me.
It’s tearing me apart
I can’t handle it anymore.
He says we’re drifting apart. I couldn’t agree more.
He blames it on his parents. I blame it on me
I’m not with him. But I’m right here waiting for him just as I promised.
My love has never changed.
And it never will
Because he’s my everything and without him I have nothing.
I am nothing
Every second without him is another tear from my eyes.
He realizes he’s killing me. But I don’t think it’s him. It’s me.
I’m killing me.
I pull out his picture and can’t help but wonder what I had.
But it’s my fault we are drifting.
All mine. Cause I’m not there.
He’s constantly on my mind.
Laying here, sweating, with him on my mind,
It’s hard to get to sleep.
“Thoughts of us kept keeping me awake.”
As the clock ticks on, so does my restless mind.
The distance is killer. It’s like a double edged sword.
It cuts you one way, then as your beginning to heal, it turns around and cuts you deeper.
Separation anxiety and depression walk right next to me without ceasing.
And for this I’m hard to love
And I’m sorry for it. Sorry for being to hard to love.
But all I can do is sit here and apologize for what I should be. And what I’m not.
Turn out the lights, turn up the radio and try.
Try to fall asleep but nothing works.
Because he’s not beside me.
He’s the meaning in my life. He’s the inspiration.
No one needs him more than I need him.
Cause without him, I have nothing. I am nothing.
He’s gonna drive me to drinking.
No. better yet. This fuckin’ distance is gonna drive me to drinking.
Seinfeld® can’t even make me smile right now. (and that’s saying a lot)
At times I feel I will never smile again. For the rest of time, this dark cloud will be over me. Consuming me.
“This is my heart bleeding before you. This is me down on my knees.” This is me in tears with mascara and eyeliner streaked down my face. You’ve gotten me this far.
What more do you want?
You’re my addiction. I am so addicted to you.
And without you, I’m a wreck. A mess.
The empty picture frame sits on my mantel.
I wish that I could fill it with a picture of us.
“You taught me to run, you taught me to fly… you opened me eyes, you opened the door… your love is the music of my heart.”
He came along when I needed him the most.
He has loved me through the difficult times.
He has helped me get through the difficult times.
Just knowing that he loved me was enough to keep going.
I thank him for that. Because without him, I don’t think I would still be here today.
But he deserves more.
He deserves a girl he can hold
One that can kiss his lips
A girl tat he can spend time with.
And make memories with.
His teenage years are supposed to be the best.
But being with me, that’s not the case.
If I had to live my life without him in it, my days would all be empty.
Just talking to him used to brighten my day.
Now, it turns them all to black and white.
Without him, I wouldn’t be here today.
He tells me not to say it. But it’s so true.
I know I wouldn’t have a life without him.
And I love him for that. And about a million other things.
Nothing’s gonna change my love for him. I have always loved him. And always will.
He’s a piece of me.
No. he’s all of me.
If he ever completely leaves me I won’t be able to live.
Won’t be able to breathe.
My heart won’t beat. It’ll be in a million pieces on the floor.
I told myself that he was the one.
The one that could fix my broken heart. And tape it back together.
But if he gives up, so will I.
All I have is memories of him.
I told him that I cherished every moment we spent together.
That was no lie.
Walkin’ the halls of that hotel for a week, together. Walking down to the pool, together. 3 meals a day, for a week, together.
Those memories of him are the only thing that I have. “those endless summer nights”
Sunscreen and chlorine.
Miniskirts and tank tops.
The parting kiss behind the church.
That was the best week of my life. “And I couldn’t ask for more”
It seems that it’s been forever that he’s been gone.
It’s been a little over 200 days since I last saw his gorgeous face.
2 years since he left.
I miss him every second he’s gone.
But how the hell did we wind up like this?
Who’s to blame?
We are drifting apart uncontrollably.
But whose fault is it?
If I was there, this wouldn’t have happened.
“some day, somehow, I’m gonna make it alright…”
But right now, I can’t.
There is nothing I can do.
Not a single damn thing.
He’s there, I’m here. And there’s nothing I can do
Except tell him that I love him. But he knows that.
He knows that I love him.
As long as the sun shines I’ll love him.
“you don’t know what you’ve got till its gone.”
And I couldn’t agree more.
Saying goodbye to him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
I’m sick of crying.
Crying because I miss him so much.
The 1,000+ miles is killer.
Serial.
But I don’t want to let him go. Cause what if he’s the one?
I’ve tried to get over him before.
It didn’t work.
I CAN’T GET HIM OUTTA MY MIND!
As the saying goes, then maybe he’s supposed to be there.
Is he the one?
The one I can trust to pick my shattered heart off the ground, dust it off and put it back together?
I know he is.
I know he is the one.
I know he is different than all the others.
I’ve tried so hard to mend this relationship.
“I’ve tried so hard, and got so far. But in the end it doesn’t even matter.”
But no matter what I do, I can’t fix this relationship.
It’s all my fault, but I can’t fix it.
I miss how we used to be.
Miss the love that we had.
The fire in his eyes.
The passion in his voice.
I miss him.
But “I’ve gotta take a little time. A little time to think it over”.
Cause I don’t want to get hurt again.
There has been so much heartache in my life that I can’t take it again.
I want to be able to say that he’s the one.
But I’m not sure.
No. scratch that.
I know he’s the one.
The one I should spend my life with.
But we are separated.
Separated by land or lack of contact? Or both?
They say that love will find a way. That it can break through anything.
But I’m not so sure.
I’m off his top 8,
He’s off mine.
Drifting.
Farther and farther apart.
Figured writing all this shit down would help me.
Help me to get it all off my mind and fall asleep.
Give me peace of mind. At least for one second.
I have 2 hours until the alarm goes off.
2 hours until I have to get up.
“Just remember I love you and it’ll be all right”
I hope.
so what do you think i should do? (link)
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if ya'll really care about eachother, then ya'll can make it work! i am currently going through a similar situation...this guy and i had been best friends and even a little more for 2 years, but then I moved over 800+ miles away. we didn't talk much for a whole year and a half. not long ago, i went back where i was from and i saw him and we picked things up. he said that he loved me and wanted me to stay and how he wished we could be together but in reality, right now, it's just not possible. since then it's like it was before...not much talking and definately no seeing eachother...but it does make it exciting the next time you're with them because you have everything to talk about because it's all catching up, and since you've been away for a while, there's even more making up :)
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Ok..im 16 and ive never been kissed. Or lets change that..ive never "madeout" with anyone. And im talkin to a couple of guys and theyre askin me on dates n stuff and i wanna go but i know theyll make a move on me and then i wont kno what im doin! Im already behind..because im 16 and most ppl have madeout already. What do i do about this? (link)
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just don't stress about it...the more you stress, the harder it'll be for you. like for me, i got my first kiss right before i turned 17 and it only happened because it wasn't expected so there was no need to worry about it. after that, everything just sorta happened *don't get too carried away with it though!!! it is easy to get really caught up in the moment*
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13/f .. Okay so I REALLLY like my friendd Ian ... but he has NO idea that i like him .. hes in the 7th grade so its kinda weird(im in 8th) .. but I want him to ask me out but I don't want him to know i like him , cause it would mess up our friendship .. were not really close friends but how could I somehow find out if he likes me or get him to find out I like him without telling him? And I'm like a HUGE flirt , so hes used to it (link)
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wow, this is just like my situation! i was in 8th, and he was in 7th...one year isn't that big of a deal so don't worry bout that part =). the best thing to do is to just kinda ask around and ask like who he likes and such. sometimes the best thing to do is to just tell the person you like them. sometimes there'll be a good reaction and sometimes there'll be a bad, just be prepared for either. and also, some things might not happen for a while. for my situation, we're now in 12th and 11th and i saw him for the first time in a year *because i moved away* and i'm tellin you what, it was worth the year because we're together now. that's 4 years of waiting, so sometimes certain things are worth waiting for
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16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this? (link)
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you just gotta know that it's gunna happen and to try your best to ignore it. when it happens to me and my friend, we usually crack jokes about it to the point where it doesn't even phase us anymore. one time, the oldold guy was checkin out our legs and makin this disgusting face and when we kept walkin we would just be like *ha he was checkin YOU out, not me. did you see the look on his face, he wants you!* but we're just jokin so it sorta makes it fun!
hope i helped!
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I don't want to offend anyone with my questions but theres just so much that doesnt make sense about god and religion. i really do want to believe but i dont understand somethings and it makes me think god cant exist becaus of these things that dont add up.
firstly evolution. humans evolved from apes, there's been loads of scienctific evidence and documentries about it and you learn about it in science. But the bible says adam and eve were the first man and woman, so according to religion evolution cant have existed, well not in humans anyway.
If god is so great and loves us all, why does he make people suffer? i mean even highly religion people. the pope sufferd loads before he died and he's about as religios as people get, so why would god make him suffer?
Also, if god is so great and loves us all, why does he send people to hell? i know some deserve it but surely he wouldnt want anyone to be sent to hell for eternity?
This last point is not something i thought of, it's something that was talked about on the radio but it makes you think. There are lots of religions, but if any, only 1 must be true and the rest of them are lies. people must have made some religions up because some say theres only 1 god, some religions have many gods and all different types of beliefs, so they cant all be true. i hope someone can help me, because its so confusing and i honestly do want to believe.
sorry, if i offended anyone, i really dont want to. its just so confusing.
thank you x (link)
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alrighty here we go lol
Evolution didn't happen, there had to of been God there in order for apes to even be around. Scientists have no idea what they are talkin about a lot of the time, it is simply good speculation. If they wanted to, they could prove that we came from rocks and people would believe it.
Secondly, the reason why God lets some people suffer is to see how faithful they will remain and to test them. Job from the Bible was tested greatly...he lost everything, his family, property, he was stricken with diseases, yet all the while he remained faithful to God. Sometimes He allows people to suffer in order to bring them closer to Himself and those around them.
Thirdly, God sends people to hell because they don't believe in Him. You can't get to heaven just by being a good person or sayin you're a christian. You have to believe that God sent His son Jesus to earth, He died on the cross for the penalty of sin to those who will believe, and was risen on the third day *which is the reason for celebrating easter*. People curse God everyday...why should someone who hates God and refuses to believe in Him go to heaven and spend eternity with Him?
Lastly, there are religions that man has made up. there is only 1 God and no one else that can even begin to compare to Him. At my church we are doing a study called *the attributes of God* and it has been an amazing study to learn more about the One who created me. When you finally become a christian, you will know because you will feel His presence within your heart. Don't shut God out of your life, He wants to be there and show you Himself..you just need to let Him in.
i hope i was able to help! if you have any questions, please don't even hesitate to ask because i'll do the best i can to help! i want you to feel what i feel about God
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Were Adam and Eve the first people on Earth? If so what about the cavemen? I thought they appeared first? I am confused. I mean, are the cavemen really the "people" in Darwin's theory of evolution? And so not supported by the bible...umm.. (link)
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for lack of a better way of saying it, the whole "caveman" concept is a load of crap. Adam and Eve were in fact the first people on earth. we didn't evolve from anything because it doesn't explain how monkey's came into existence or anything like that. It must have had a higher power behind it. God created everything in just 6 days, including man from the dust of the ground. the whole caveman concept is like believe dinosaurs are extinct because of a meteor...it's not true
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How did Judas betray Jesus? There is a band called Judas Priest. Does that pertain to the story and so they are satanic-ish because Judas was a traitor? Or was he? I don't know. (link)
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what judas did was he went and was paid to try and capture Jesus. He was given a lot of money and he had guards follow him to the garden of gethsemene (sp) and he told them *the one that i kiss is Him* and when he saw Jesus, he went up and kissed Him on the cheek and the guards knew that that was the One. So they took Jesus and ultimately He was cruicified. And then judas, out of his guilt that his money was blood money, took it back and threw it on the ground, and hung himself.
Read John 18:1-13 and it should help a little *it's not the whole thing that i explained though, the other parts are in different books of the Bible*
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okay lets say im dating a boy right.
and..... stuff and we are only in 7th grade.
and..... is it possible for people to date in 7th grade to stay together forever like.. get married i mean i know we are young but can it happen? (link)
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it is very possible. one of my old teachers had that happen. he was in 9th and his gf was in 7th and they dated and dated and i think they broke up once or so but they ended up getting married and they've been married for about 30-35 years now.
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I would really like a boyfriend,
just to love and be loved in return.
I'm just lonely, and everyone says,
you'll fall in love eventually.
Eventually .. huh? aghh, I'm just sick of being alone.
I mean does anyone actually get my point.. of how i wanta boyfriend, i want to be in love?
ahghh what can i do? is patience the best answer?
dont give me some mean/smartass answer please.
thanks.
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if it means wanting a guy who will treat you right, be perfect in your eyes, and someone that you get along with easily, then yes, patience is the answer. I went through 2 guys before i met the guy i'm with now...first one was amazing but things just didn't work out and the 2nd was really creepy and had control problems so i ended it very quickly. But now the guy i'm with is incredible and i couldn't ask for anything more and i didn't find him till 5 months after i turned 16 and he was worth waiting for. just be patient...someone is out there, it's just takin him a little longer than expected to find you!
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ok well this is the same person w.the bestfriend thing.. well before anything ever happened between us.. we were soo close like we'd chill all the time then suddenly it all stoped.. do you think that tomorrow i should go up to him and tell him how i miss how we used 2 be before everything happened and i want things to end like hooking up between us cause i dont wanna lose him as a friend? (link)
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well you don't wanna hit him with too many things at one time. I'd say that the best thing to do would be to mend the friendship and just be like "we used to hang out a lot and have fun, but lately i've felt like we've been drifting away from that and i really miss hanging out with you." and if things start looking good, you can just say "do you think we'll ever be more than just friends?" or something along those lines. Just follow your heart because everything you want is inside of it, and you'll know if you're makin the right choice or not
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ok well basically theres this guy im totalli into and he liked me to but he never told me so i got w/his bestfriend but me n his bestfriend never dated but we were tlaking and then we stoped and one night we went to this cabin and we told eachother we like eachother and we kissed and he kept saying (his bestfriend) can never find out and blah then the next week until tuesday he ignored me.. then tuesday came and there was no school wednesday and it was my frinds bday party and we kissed again and now hes ignoring me again but i rele like him and people think its because hes afraid of his bestfriend finding out and i know he is.. but he totally ignores me but he tells me he likes me and blah and he tells his friend who he talks to abt it that he likes me but he shows no emotion .. but i realli like him and i dont know wut 2 do.. do you think he rele likes me and is jus scared of his bestfriend finding out or do you think hes using me'? HELP (link)
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that kind of situation is always hard to deal with because guys are so crazy weird! it sounds to me though that he really does like you, but that he's just afraid of his friend finding out because why would he kiss you if he didn't really like you? like for me there's this guy i realllly like and we've hung out a whole bunch and we held hands and cuddles and a bunch more, but he tells his friend that he doesn't like me. but last week he was doing a whole lot with me that said he did like and he even admitted that he likes bein with me.
I'd say that the best thing to do would be to just upfront ask him about it and to just say "where are things going with us? do you really like me like you act you do?" or something along those lines.
I'm sorry i couldn't be much help, but i hope this gets you on the right track! good luck!
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I just really want a boyfriend,
I want someone to love me for my imperfections,
i want to love someone.. and just be loved in return. I swear thats all I need is love.
I KNOW that the more you look for love the harder it is too find, but i cant get it off my jmind when i see all these couples all the time at school.
and please dont give me some smartass reply.
I want something genuine.
But its just I know EVERYOEN says you ahve the rest of your life. i'm in 9th grade btw.
but i know i have the rest of my life buti the point isI have now too.
gah..
help? (link)
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it's alright to want that feeling. up until this last october, i never had a bf *i had just turned 16* we "liked" eachother and all but things just didn't go that way so it only lasted 2 months. between there i got so desperate just to have that feeling that someone loves me that i would go for anyone which proved dangerous when someone became creepily obsessive and i had to quickly end it. But i just recently found someone that i really care about and that i know really cares about me too and he seems to be what i've been waiting for and honey trust me, the right guy is out there for you and he is definately worth waiting for! And once you have him, don't let him go without a fight cuz a good genuine guy is hard to find these days! i hope i helped and that everyting works out!
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If my prom is June 29th and i want to ask this guy i work with (whose younger then me) when do you think i should ask him? Wahts the best time to ask someone to prom? (link)
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i'd say just sorta randomly bring it up and ask him as soon as possible. For one thing, it'll relieve you to have it over with, but also since it's in june, he might be makin plans and such so if you ask now he'll know to keep that day open so he can go with you
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should your boyfriend/girlfriend come before your best friend?
please explain too ♥ thanks. (link)
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no! bfs/gfs can come and go, but a best friend will always be there by your side. if someone were to put a bf/gf before a friend the friends gunna get ticked and make new friends, but if that person were to break up/be broken up with, then they just lost their bf/gf AND their friend. A best friend can be hard to come by, don't let it slip away over someone else
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I'm a 14 yr old girl and I like a boy who is 16 he likes me back and everything we flirt, hug, and we are really cool with each other everything is great. Everyone thinks he's my boyfriend and I want him to be and I know he likes me as much as I like him but I don't know whats wrong. He doesn't act funny and he doesn't have a girlfriend on the side or nothing I just don't know why we aren't together and so does everyone else. Can you please give me some advice or thoughts on what you think is wrong when everything seems so right?
~KookieMonster96~ (link)
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maybe he's just getting to know you better before he wants to actually ask you to be his gf. like with me, i moved to a new state in june and when school started i didn't think i'd find a guy. but i found one *hes a senior and i'm sophomore* he liked me and as i got to know him i liked him. we were always with eachother and people would always make comments about us *good ones*. eventually i found out that he had been calling me his gf to all his friends but didn't tell me because he didn't know if i felt the same way but i did. in the end things didn't work out with us and it might have been cuz hes leaving for college or maybe he just thought we were too different. but the point is, just give him his time and see what ends up happening
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