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Q: i wrote earlier in the week about "army boy" (look back to refresh your memory) i was thinking of writing him a letter, tell me what you think...

Dear "James",
I am writing you this letter because I know if I try to say this out loud, it will just come out a jumbled mess. I don’t know what is going on between us right now, I am so confused and it’s not fair for either of us. You know that I love you and that I would do anything to be with you. I have been practically begging you to come back to me. I am not trying to make this into some poetic tragedy; I just want to know how you feel. Can you honestly tell me that you feel nothing when you kiss me; you feel nothing when we make love? I don’t understand how you can be so casual about this whole thing. I’m not mad at you and I am not upset, I am just simply asking you to tell me how you feel. Is there a chance for us at all, because my heart is on the verge of breaking. I know you are probably going away for a while but I am willing to be there when you come home. I want to be with you James, and if you don’t feel the same, then I would expect you have the decency to tell me so; after all we have been through together I deserve at least that.

That's awesome!!! That's a great letter. Go for it! I think it's perfect. Send it to him and expect a reply from him. That is sweet. That rocks! Hahahah, touched my heart! Send it to him and he'll tell you his feelings. Go for it. I think it's great!
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Q: i dance at a studio and we are lookin for a fun song to dance to like something thats everyone will feel.it cant be anything from the radio though, i mean lyk a lil older songs but not too old. anybody have any suggestions? ill rate high for good answers!thanx!

This song I'm suggesting for you is a bit old but the singer isn't. I have no idea what may float your boat but try Stupid Cupid by Mandy Moore. It's very energetic and fun! Hope my advice to you helps! Goodluck!!!

Q: my bf just dumped me . i want a song about me being his ex gf does anyone know any songs?

Feeling is Gone by M2M
Too Far Gone by the All-American Rejects
Don't leave me by the All-American Rejects
Behind these Hazel Eyes by Kelly Clarckson
Since U Been Gone by Kelly Clarckson
Running Away by Hoobastank
The Middle by Jimmy Eat World
Why Can't I by Liz Phair
Want you back by Mandy Moore
The Way to my heart by Mandy Moore
Nothing Better by the Postal Service
How Does It Feel by Surgarcult

Those are the ones I could think of but I'll check my ipod for more songs. Hope the ones I named for you helps. Goodluck!

Q: whats the difference between going out with someone and hooking up with someone?

Goign out with like having a boyfriend and girlfriend. Hooking up is just for a short period of time doing stuff hehehe you know the stuff. yeah. hope this helps
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Q: this is weird but.. how can a person be gay? like.. is everyone born gay and they discover that they're gay later on in their lives, or do they somehow become gay from experiencing something? i'm 14/f, and i'm totally straight, i really dont want to be a lesbian or anything, but is there a chance that i might become one when i grow older?

Depends because this guy just has been to advicenators and he was gay. When he started hgih shcool he made out with a guy and he loved looking at guys in the boys locker room. So, when you grow you'll probablly get used to looking at girls. You'll expierence it sometime in your life. You're pretty young so you don't have to worry much. If you start feeling for girls then it's just really NATURAL!!! Hop my advice works. Much luck to you! If you hagve anymore questions feel free to write to me in my inbox eprsonally. Thanks.
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Q: well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much!

Awww that's so sweet!!! If you're going to stick with the cake, have his name on it and it should say "I love you!". That would be so awesome. But the other sweet things are:
1. flowers (different colors, beautiful!)
2. the cake is such an adorable idea
3. or you can have a funny gift with a t-shirt saying i love _____

Q: Hey Guys! On my myspace it wont let me download my favorite pic of me! =(. the pic is on my comp. and it says "file is too large, you must resize it" well i dont want to resize it because it is such a good pic! is there any way i can save my pic in its regular size, then make a double that is smaller so i can download it? please + thanks! x0

Try downloading Adobe Photobucket. If you already have it, go up to: Image and then you'll see a drop downlist which says "Image Size" From then on, you'll be all set! Goodluck! Hope this advice works. Stay cool.
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Q: Do Myspace layouts work for Buddy4u profiles? I rate high for a good answer!! Thanks in advance- please hurry!!! ♥ ARii

Although, both are HTML codes, they can't work together because... they just don't lol. I'll ask Tom the Myspace owner about it! Send me your e-mail and I'll reply to it quickly. Hope my advice helps. Goodluck!
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Q: how do you change the box under where your pic is that says, message me, add me, ect. ect.?

Try going to createblog.net AND THE TUTORIALS ARE GREAT! It really helps and it's very easy and free. So you should try it! Hope this advice helps. Goodluck! My myspace: http://www.myspace.com/pizzamyheart... check it out and I'll help you sometime!
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Q: how do you write a thesis statement, like what do you need to include in it

A thesis statement expresses your opinion about a topic. It is the basis of the introductory paragraph of your essay. Here are the steps that might help you (it helped me during my junior year in highschool):

Thesis rules:
A thesis statement should:
· Never be an open-ended question
· Be limited to mentioning only those points you plan to discuss in your essay
· Never be so broad that it’s difficult to discuss all relevant information
· Only present one specific idea; not multiple ideas
· Not contain two conflicting ideas

Hopes those helps you! Goodluck!

Q: ok i DO have friends, but i cant make them easily! whenever im in a new situation im always just sitting in the corner by myself, lonely, etc! and that sucks! acuse then it makes the experience NO FUN!! and im like the loudest person ever when you get to know me. how can i over come this? i feel weird if i just go up and say "HI IM ____" (but if worst comes to worst, i do it but im like shaking!!!) so yeah, how can i get rid of this shyness?!

To make friends. Try acting like a friend. I think you should go up to someone and say "Hey my name is ______. Would you like to be my friend?" And if they turn you down, well that's their loss. Come on, how do you meet a friend? Think! YTou should confront to someone sometime sooner or later! lol Hope my advice helps! Stay cool. Goodluck!

Q: if i drink a big sip of water and then go outside in the heat for about 5 minutes and go back and drink another sip..is that a way to not get dehydrated and sick and dizzy and stuff? thanks

From the looks of your question, it seems like you want to get dehydrated? Why? Lol. That's strange but to be dehydrated I guess, you shouldn't drink water at all! Stay dry and stay outside for the longest time you can. Goodluck with that! lol Hope my advice helps you.

Q: okay yeah i have a bad temper or w/e... but i started liking My Chemical Romance before the became more popular then all these people i know start saying "oh my gosh! my chemical romane is the best band ever i love them!" and the know helena from trl... thats the only song they know. i know about 15 songs of theres. and i loved hot topic since years ago, and these people are like "oh my gosh how could you go in there? that store is for creeps and blah blah blah" and i'm like no... and they carry a lot of cool band shirts and stuff! i mean? and they say the love MCR and they wouldn't even take one step into a hot topic even for $10 to get one of their shirts?? is this a poser? i kinda dunno if this is the true definition or w/e...

In my opinion they really are posers. Who could like MCR when they can't like a little gothic stuff. If it buggs you tell them the truth! Hope this helps and the meaning of poser is like an imposter, a person who tries to pretend just to fit in. Tell them! Much luck to you!

Q: I know i already talked about this but i dont care. its REALLY BUGGiNG ME. my bestfriend krystal got a new bestfriend heather. and everything about her just kills me. the simplist things. i dont care if im accting immature. i dont want to make new friends. and i dont want to be friends with heather, the one who's stealing krystal away from me. all krystal talks about is heather this and heather that and how GOOD she is. it gets to me, so much. i cry myself to sleep so much. what do i do? i have already told krystal multiple times that i feel left out and ignored.

If Krystal really acts like that, then you shouldn't call her a 'friend'. A friend is someone who cares. A friend is someone there for you through good times and bad. Krystal is being unsuportive and doesn't act like a friend. If she doesn't listen to you, you'll just ahve to get over the fact that you can't meet new people. You should. Let your heart decide!!! Follow it and it'll lead you to some direction better than Heather and Krystal! Go for it and try! Like I always say "Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark; professionals built the Titanic!" try something new and break out of this shell your hiding in.

Q: well me and my friend went to this concert, and then we met up with some other friends..and one of them i happen to like..so we sat next to each other..and he was all cuddly toward me..and my friend said he was acting like he liked me..so we started talking after the concert through email..and he said mabye we should hang out sometime..i want to tell him how much i like him..but im just not sure if he likes me..i dont know how to take it to the next step...help please..

Put moves on him too! Ask him out for ice cream, movie, lunch anything that would be trendy! And then when your friendship grows, tell him how you feel before something terrible happens. Let your heart decide and you'll find out what will happen soon! Goodluck and hope my advice helps you.

Q: i pulled a muscle in my stomach yesterday (or so i think) by doing a back-tuck off of a diving board into a pool. after i threw the tuck it hurt really bad in the side of my stomach so i thought i pulled something. today at cheer/tumbling i couldn't throw tucks or even back-handsprings b/c it hurt so bad and then towards the end i couldn't even do round-offs. so i told the instructor and he let me leave early. is there anything i can do to make it feel better like put heat on it? it's on the left side of my stomach under my ribs... thanks so much

Try telling your parents about it and maybe they'll let you see someone about your tummy. Go for it! Goodluck!

Q: I really love to sing and my friends say I'm good. I don't think I am all that good though and I want to know some good ways to get better without taking voice lessons because I don't have a lot of money. My goal isn't to be a proffesional singer but I just want to be a source of entertainment to my friends because singing is a huge part of my life. Please answer I'll rate 5's

You can try looking for a scholarship for signing, contests, expose yourself to the world with your talent and as you grow, you'll learn more and more. So go out there and just open your mind. Try singing infront of people and doing what you do best! Go online at google and search for scholarships for singing/music. Post an add up on a bulletin board anywhere! At your shcool maybe! Ask your parents to also help on your great talent. Go for it. Explore whats out there and you'll see! Goodluck!

Q: Hey I was just wondering what some good ways to find families to babysit for are. I want to babysit within my town though. I'll rate high!
Kelli

If you're a teenager or younger, bring an adult or a brother/sister and go from door to door within your neighborhood and ask if they needed some babyistting. It works. So maybe you should try it! Goodluck!

Q: this may seem like a stupid question, but i LOVE to sing and my favorite singer is Josh Groban. i would just die if i could meet him and talk to him, maybe even sing for him... any ideas of how to do it?

thanks

Wow, Josh Groban does have a good voice. Try visitng his website. Look it up at google and you'll surely find it! Goodluck and hope you meet him! lol

Q: what is this song it is a rock song and i noe girls sing ti and it goes, "why cant i breath when ever i think about you, y cant i speak whenever i talk about you..." can someone plz tell me hwo sings it and what it is called.. thanks