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E-mail: blond4life18@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Occupation: High School Student
Age: 16
Member Since: June 12, 2004
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Last Update: July 30, 2004
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my parents treat me like a baby. im not aloud to go out. my dad wont let me go to town or nething. wot can i do to change their mind plz help me (link)
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Well I am not sure how old you are, but I am going to assume you are over the age of 13. You have to explain to your parents, without using an attitude, that you want some more freedoms now that you are older. Prove to them that you are responsible enough to go out. Do things that need done before they ask you, or at least before they have to ask you for the 100th time(I know how that ends up!). But mainly talk to them like a mature adult and they will respect you for coming to them without wining. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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Hey. I am 13 and female. Well, I have a huge problem. Well, it isn't a problem I am just confused. Well, I've known *ASpEcIaLSoMeOnE* for almost a year now. We've gotton ExTrEmLy close. Well, when I got back from Florida, he told me he had a girlfriend. I was very upset, because I knew things were going to have to change. Well, I was talking to him yesterday night infact, and I opened up to him and stuff. I just want things to get back to normal. I already confronted him, and I don't wanna push him to things. How can I get things fairly to the same as it was before? (link)
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My best advice to you would be to pretend that you don't like him as more than a friend. Act the way you did before you confronted him and expressed your feelings. Hopefully he will catch on and act the same way. Just let time take its course. Maybe his relationship won't last (though I don't want to sound rude) and then you could remind him how you feel and see if he has the same feelings for you. Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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Dear BLonde,
My friend is moving 2 another school n we have been friends since kindergarten.WE had one major fight n made up the same day.We have everything in common except i like rock.Soo i have the perfcet going away gift.A little book explaining our friendship and writing me n like our rest of our friends(Were likea group) 2 sign it with a poem.Is it a good gift or should i buy her somthing or make her somthing else.I also got her other things but i wanted 2 explain hom much ill miss her.Signed BarB (link)
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I think the gift you chose is an awesome gift because it comes from the heart. You didn't buy her a hot new dance cd that will be old in another couple of months. You got her something she will always have and always remember. It will always be a "hot item" and will never get old. If you want to show her how much you will miss her, your idea was the best way! I am sorry to hear that she is moving! You are a great friend to her!
Love, Blonde
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female/13 ok ..... I have a friend who that when ever she needs me I am always there , but when it is put the other way around she doesn't do the same for me . I am sick of being in last place , whenever I ask can she go to the mall with me she ditches me to go with some other guy , but if she wants to go and I have am not able to she gets mad and gets an attitude , and when ever we fight it is always MY fault . Like last time she got mad cause I tld my other friend something that I was going through with my amily and I refused to tell her cause she wouldn't understand cause she has both of her parents. What should I do ? (link)
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You need to tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her how you feel, but make sure it is without an attitude or she will never hear you out and she will get mad. If this doesn't work, take a good look at your friendship. List the good things and the bad and see which one has more. Try to imagine your life without her. If it wouldnt make that much of a difference then take a break, but if it would then talk to her and stick it out! Good luck!
Love, Blonde
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Hi. im shelly. i found out that one of my best friends likes me (brian*), not just like me, but like is in love with me. ne ways he is also best friends with the guy that i like (adam*). the other night i found out that adam* likes me and wants to be more that friends with me. i do too, but i dont want to break brian's* heart and then all of us not be friends anymore. adam* and brian* are the best friends anyone could ask for and i really dont want to mess up our relationship. but then i also dont want to just sit there and not be nothing with adam*. what do you think i should do? email me at : richardvmf@stic.net your answers will be greatly apreciated. thanx
shelly (link)
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Hello Shelly,
This is a very sticky situation and the best advice i can give you is to sit both of them down together and say something like, "guys, i recenlty found out that you both like me. I am sorry but I only like Adam as more than a friend, but I want all of us to stay friends." Simply explain that things wont be weird because you are flattered that your friends would like you. Let the boys figure it out themselves. Guys usually dont hate each other after this, only us girls do! Good luck and I hope it all works out!
Love, Blonde
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ok, well i'm 16 ,i have a really bad depression problem i have been addicted to cutting and still have urges frequently , i have suicidel thoughts very frequently and the real problem is my parents refuse to admit there is a problem, it seems like theres nothing i can do to make them understand, the wont even get my prescribtion (link)
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I am sorry that you are so depressed that you think about killing yourself. I go to school with a kid who went through the same thing. His grandmother was an alcoholic who made his life a living hell! His mom did nothing about it because her husband left when she was pregnant with him and she is trying to work so she can raise him and his grandmother. His mother later put him in a mental hospital,which was bad but good. I don't think he needed to be in a mental hospital, but the couslors were good for him. I would suggest going and talking to a couslor or someone else with a degree in that area. Good luck and please don't kill or hurt yourself!
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yo okay there is this girl leslie and she is hot and beautiful but im a 150 pounds and im a 14 year old male. and i cant stop tinking about her. but i dont have the nerve to talk to her my confidence level is really low (link)
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okay, first off, 150 lbs. isn't that big depending on your height. Second, if this girl is right for you, she wont care what you look like. She will only care if you are nice and funny and cool to hang out with. Now to approach her, I would invite her to the movies or go putt putting, but make it a group outing the first time. If you hit it off, ask her out for some one on one time. If not, your best bud is right there with you. Good luck and I hope she gives you a chance!~Luv Blonde
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My friend,say her name is Sally, has been talking about my other friend, say Suzie. Sally is really nice and all but when Suzie isn't around she talks about her. And when Suzie is around she is nice and everything to her. How can i get Sally to be nice about Suzie behind her back without making Sally mad at me? (link)
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You must talk to your friend. Tell her that you don't think it's cool that she is talking about her friend behind her back. Either she likes her or she doesn't. Tell her that since she talks bad about "Suzie" behind her back, you are worried what she says about you. If she is a good friend she will stop or at least make improvment. Good luck!
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hi, my name is dakota and im about to turn 14 years old and im a female. well me and my boyfriend, jake, went out for almost 4 months and around our 3 month anniversary...i started to like my ex-boyfriend, brandon. Well brandon and jake dont get along in the first place. and theres this girl that claims to be my friend, lindsey. and she heard i liked brandon so she went and blabbed to my boyfriend!! well he wrote me a note asking me what was going on because hes was in 9th grade(highschool) and i was in 8th grade (junior high) and then we talked about it that night on the phone and i told him i didnt like brandon anymore...and i believed i didnt. well then later on, i decided i still did. so i told my friend i was thinking of breaking up with him and jakes best friend overheard me. and that night he went over jakes and told him. jake got mad and we decided to take a break. i was ready to call him one night and tell him how i still really liked him and wanted us to go back out, thats what he wanted too..or so i thought. that night i got home from gymnastics and jake tells me he likes lindsey. so now its been over a month since hes liked lindsey (but she doesnt like him at all) and i still cant get over him. theres about 4 or 5 other guys that like me but i only want jake. and all the other guys are sooo cute, especially this one kid jordan but i dont want to go out with him because i like jake so much. jake doesnt like me at all though, he said he wouldnt go out with me for awhile but i dont know what to do...my birthday is coming up and i was thinking about having a few people over and inviting him but he might find it weird..i dont know please tell me what you think i should do. and one more question...jordan, the really cute kid, is a year younger but wants to go out. but this upcoming year i will be in highschool and he will be in junior high still. me and jake worked through it but i think its different when the guy is younger... please give me advice. if there are any guys out there, tell me what i can do to get jake to like me again. thank you sooo much!! (link)
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What I don't understand is how you can say that you still like Brandon and then be worried about your age? Personally, I think if you like him, then age doesn't matter. When I was in 8th grade, I dated a guy a year younger than me and I didn't mind and neither did the people I hung out with. If you like Jake as much as you say you do, than you must not like Brandon as much as you say you do. I think you need to think about this long and hard. Make a list of the things you like and dislike about each guy. If you already know which one you like more, then don't even question the other guy being a possibility. Good luck!
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Ok, I have this friend who isn't really nice. Whenever I invite her over she makes my room messy like she is Godzilla or something. Well whenever she invites me to come over she may invite one other person and then I am invisible the rest of the time that other friend of hers is over and she yells at me for nothing blames me on stuff to my parents even though she did whatever and everything is all about her. She is so selfish. What should I do? (link)
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Talk to her. I know you must hear that a lot, but really that is the first thing you should do because it is the most respectful thing you could do for your friend, even though she doesn't really deserve it. Tell her how you feel and that you feel left out. Explain that it takes you a good hour (or however long it takes you) to clean your room and you would appriciate it if she didn't mess it up because you don't want to have to clean it again. If this doesn't work, take a good look at the importance of your friendship. Is a messy room and being egnored worth loosing your friendship, or did you just think you were good friends? Look at the good things you have in common and then the bad. Go from there and good luck! Let me know how things work out!
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hey i wanna say thnx 4 given me this advice...its really good!! thnx again (link)
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Oh no problem. I am just glad I could help out!
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hey this is kristi... ok well on thursay ricky called me and we had a really good convo, then saturday i called him and we talked for only like 5 minutes cuz i woke him up*plus my phone died*... today is monday.. do u think i should call him or wait til he calls me??.. but the problem is im leavin thursday for hawaii *i mite see him there* and im gonna be busy all day today cuz i have to pack and this other guy broc* who also happens to like me* is comin over to hang out then hes stayin for dinner...o man is that bad that i invited broc over?? well tell me wut u think.... im so lost..
luv kristi, 15 (link)
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Kristi, as long as Broc knows you don't like him and you like ricky,then it is okay to be friends. Just make sure you are not leading him on. As for calling Ricky, I would call him. He called you the first time which lets you know he is intersted. Now you should call him to let him know you are interested as well. Since you had a great convo before, it should only repeat itself. Good luck and I hope you see him in Hawaii! Have fun on your trip!
Luv, blonde (Lauren)
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Stupid question I know.. i am 5'3 and weigh 133 is that overweight though? Well its like during the summer i weigh 120 during the winter i gain more cuz im not out as much and ect. Summer i am more active and stuff. So is that overweight? (link)
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No everyone puts on extra weight in the winter. I know I do! I eat more then because I am more bored and I try to stay warmer.
Plus with the holidays in November and December where all you do it eat, you are bound to gain more weight! No sweat sweetie! Please Rate Me! Thanks babe and don't worry about your weight!
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Stupid question I know.. i am 5'3 and weigh 133 is that overweight though? (link)
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That is not overweight, but I would not suggest gaining a lot more weight. As long as you don't go over about 140, you are not overweight.
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i am 15 and over wieght i wiegh like 187 and i lost like 20 lbs before and wieghed 180 but i gained some back and i am really good with what i eat when i dont say i am going to loose wieghtand i do but when i do say i am going to i eat more and gain weight can sombody help? (link)
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Well it seems that you are working backwards. You should not tell yourself, "okay, I am going to loose weight" because then you will just want to eat all the junk food you can. I have a similar problem. I have many food alergie. I can't eat anything with milk, peanut butter, chocolate, shellfish, or cirtis. And of course, all the good food has milk. So I have these spells when I tell myself " okay Lauren, today I am not going to eat anything I am alergic to". And sure enough, I do. But then the days I don't think of it, I don't eat things I can't. I suggest you just don't think to hard about it. Just eat differently. Maybe eat more fruits and veggies. Maybe even walk around the block once or twice a day. You don't need to do hard workout videos, just walks and a good diet. But don't focus too much on this or else you will go crazy! Good luck! I am sure you are beautiful anyways!
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my parents don't let me do anything they treat me like a child altho im 13 and almost 14 how am I suppoed to let them let me do stuff???? (link)
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You have to prove you are responsible. Do things that need to be done before they ask you, or at least do something before they ask you for the 100th time. Make sure you never give them an attitude and never complain about not being aloud to go out. If you do this and there is still no result, sit down with them and very maturly talk to them about some freedom. They will respect you for approaching them nicely. If you complain or aggitate them, they will never give in. Act mature! Don't be too quick to grow up, but I can understand you want to be able to go out! So good luck!
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Ok hi im a female,who is 13, my neighbor,a male,who is 15,who i happen to like is two years older then me.i told him i liked him and then he didnt talk to me for a day.him and i are good friends though so i dont know whats up.his best friend who happens to be my friend,and his brothers girlfriend,talked to him for me the other day.she asked him why he wasnt talking to me alot.all he said is that he likes me alot as a friend and doesnt know yet if he likes me more then that.he flirts with me all the time though.do you think i'll ever get him?....what does all this mean?.... (link)
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I just think, while he is making up his mind, he is shy to be around you. When I told a guy I liked him, he backed away for a couple of days, but then later approached me and said he liked me too. He wasn't sure if he liked me as more than a friend,which is what your neighbor is probubly going through. Give him a little time to sort things in his mind out. Good luck thought!
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Im a 15yr old girl and when I was younger my brother used to pull down my trousers and hold my bum , it seems a bit silly really but it used to terrify me, he did it a few times and when i tried to run away he grabbed me. The more i think about it the more wierd it is, can you tell me if this is sexual abuse or not and what to do about it please, thanks! (link)
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I think that since he was 13, he was old enough to know better, but then again, teenage boys are weird (no offence to young guys reading this). they do stuff because they think they are cute and funny without considering others feelings. If he ever tries it again, talk to him. If he still does it, get help from a parent.
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Ok heres the story,
I lived with my dad untill i was 121/2 .... But know i live with my mom and i am 15 .... when i lived with my dad he used to give me a suit case and tell me to move in with my mom when he was drunk or mad and now my mom does it only she doesnt give me a suit case cause i have one in my room .... When i first moved in with her she used to allways takl to me and i could tell her any thing but over time we drifted and thats normal i know for going into teens and stuff but know she loves my step dad more then she loves me .... i know she does becuase if my step dad is off some where else for work then she cant stand not talking to him at least 3 times a day even if hes only gone for 2 days and when i go to visit my dad for a weekend or for a couple of weeks she doesnt call me or anything and when i come home shes like i missed you but then goes back to talking to her husband errrr
AND THEN my brother wont even talk tod me becuase him and my dad got into a fight and he doesnt want anything to do with someone who is related to my father ....... and my family (like aunts etc..) on my dads side hates me becuase i "left" my dad and moved to my moms
Sry for sounding like a complaining person but i wanted to know why does family treat me like this? it makes me really depressed (link)
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I think it is real crap that you are treated this way. I am friends with a guy whos dad left him and his mom when she was pregnant with him. Now he lives with his mom and grandmother, who is an alcoholic. The grandmother causes a lot of pain by insuting him in ways no one should ever be insulted. My friend could not take it anymore. He tried to kill himself. It was serious and sad. The next day, his mother put him in a mental hospital center, as well as the grandmother. They both got help and are doing better. Now obviously I don't think you should go to a mental hospital, but you might want to see a cousilor or speak with a therepist or just talk to someone with a degree in that area. I hope everything works out!
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Well, me and this guy blaine have been best friends since the seventh grade. I mean best friends, i know everything about him, and he knows everything about me. I also have this best friend named Tanisha and she was the first person i told when i started having feelings for blaine. I never said anything to blaine, but in the eighth grade Tanisha told me she liked blaine. Blaine said that he only likes her for her body, and now they're together. I still like him, but i feel like neither of them cares about me any more. Everyone keeps saying just find sum1 else but its not that easy. What should i do? (link)
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IF you really like them as much as you say you do, then you will hope that things work out and that he will get to know her better. Hopefully he will end up liking her for more than just her body. If things don't work out with them, then ask her if she would mind if you stepped in. If she doesn't care, than go for it. If she does, than ask her why. Good luck!
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