hey everybody! =) my name is heather i am seventeen years old.i am 1 of three children &also the youngest. i am from tampa florida but i now live in peterborough new hampshire! i love to hangout with friends. reading and writing are things that i also love to do. they expand your horizons. i also give advice. i think that i am pretty good at it. i have been through alot in my life from running away to drugs & drinking also teenage pregnancy. so if you have a question and wanna ask go ahead and drop me 1 in my inbox and i will be sure to hit you up with an answer. i love to help people, sometimes its the littles things that help people. my favorite quote is " friends together last forever, friends apart get lost at the heart" i find that to be very tru and over the years i've learned for myself that it is. so i hope that i can help you. xOxOxO heather! =*
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how old should you be before having sex. (link)
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well when it comes to having sex then you should know all the reprecussions and know that you are mentally ready. when you start having sex all kinds of emotions are tied to sex. you shouldn't have sex because everybody else is you should do it because you want to are ready and it is with someone that you love and care for because after you do it you can't change who you slept with or your feelings. catch my drift? know about all the diseases like STDs AIDS ect and use birth control and condoms. it dosen't matter if he likes them or if you don't like them protect yourself! well i hope this helped
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ok this is a commonly asked question but please answer..how do you talk to someone you think is cute and you've never talked to them before?? also that you only have 1 or 2 classes with them or even if you just pass them in the hallway?? like how do you strike up a conversation that is not completly random sounding and embaressing?? please i need some help. thanx
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well just ask that person a randon question and start the conversation from there. maybe that might work. thats what i've always done. it's worked for me hope it works for you.
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Do you think its wrong to be bisexual? (link)
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i don't think that it is wrong to be bisexual. if thats who you are and it makes you happy do what you do. follow you heart and keep it real =*
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I really want to die. Really badly. I tried to kill myself but i chickend out. I'm not afraid of death.. I'm looking forward to it. I just can't handle life. My body is breaking up. I feel depressed and find the urge just to die. I don't understand why ssomeone can just take my life away. I'm alive and I want to die and there's dieing people that want to live. I don't understand why god just cant give those people a life and take mine away.. I hate myself so much.. I'm having a lot of problems now.. I'm 13, F. (link)
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why would you want to die? you were put here for a reason maybe you don't think so but you were. everyone is put here for a reason and when the accomplish what they were put here for then the will die. even though you are having prolbems you shouldn't think of death as the only way out! that is the easy way out! and if you actually killed yourself do you know how many peole you would hurt? your friends, family all the people that love you! don't attempt suicide it's not worth it. just goto someone you can talk to and vent your prolbems try to get someone to understand you and how you feel. or goto a counslor. but death isn't the answer! i hope that helped. if you need any more advice or just need someone to talk to e-mail me at alwaysme666@yahoo.com i am always here..
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i dont know what to say or how to explain it really. im just simply, unhappy. i used to be happy, i dont know what happened. everything just feels so useless and people just suck. no one cares about anyone but themselves and i feel like im at a loss and i always find me second guessing myself. whats wrong with me? how can i be happy again? (link)
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there is nothing wrong with you. it's normal! i think that you might have just lost intrest in some of the things that you use to love. just try to meet some new people or try something new. you should do things that you enjoy and hangout with people that enjoy the same things that you do. hope it helped! =)
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Things are getting super super stressful what with school and everything else. Its really taking its toll on me emotionally and even physically. Does anybody have any advice on what I can do to relax and calm down, and to help me not get as stressed as usual? (link)
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well you have alot on your plate and it's is really stressful. (i know the feeling) but what you should do is take some "you time" do some stuf that you like to do for example take a walk read a book just chill. whatever you prefer. just try not to stress yourself out anymore. well i hope that i helped, =*
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i like all these guys like 6 and i can't chose just 1 can you give me advice on picking 1? (link)
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well if you like 6 guys then maybe you should narrow it down to like 2 of 3 guys. but i think that you should pick the 1 guy that you have the most in common with. the one that you could see your self dating and the one that you love to be around. it always helps to be a little picky! if he has the qualitys that you are looking for that helps 2. well i hope that helped..=)
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I just want to say thank you for your advice, it made sense and I have chosen to make myself stronger. This message is copied and pasted to other advicenators because I am short on time O_x ... but I want you to know that I read everyones advice and it helped me a lot. MY decision is to continue on, like many said to make myself stronger and for the sake of not giving into my self-centered thoughts because you're all right, there are others who feel as bad or even worst than me so why am I to be like this I am not truly alone like that. By continuing on I will become stronger, someone that can maybe one day feel like I am worthy of my great family and one who will be worthy of having good true friends like the ones I so dearly wish for. You are a good person and I want to thank you for your advice and for reading my little story.
•Meiko (link)
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well i am glad that the advice helped you. thats what i am here for and anytime you need anything i am here. you can drop a question in my inbox or e-mail me at fallen_4u17@yahoo.com anytime so i will talk to you later =*
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iv'e liked this guy for like 7 years and i love him .. but he's short im tall,, everyone says he's ugly but he's not.. my friend loves him too.. i never told my mom.... and now is it too late? he doesn't have a g/f yet. what should i do (link)
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well if you claim to love him and have for the longest time then go for it. you shouldn't care what anybody else thinks and looks aren't everything. just go for it.
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what can i do to bring out my brown eyes (link)
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wear some bright vibrant eyeshadow colors. or maybe some glitter.. hope that helps
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i really like this guy but he JUST got a g/f that i really dont like/know[the g/f]. what should i do? (link)
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well if he has a girlfriend than maybe you should back off and just try to be his friend and if the relationship dosen't work between him and his girlfriend then tell him how you feel and if they do break up take things slow you don't want to be known as the "rebound girl" but good luck..
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hey does anyone know any good songs to download? this question is an easy 5 so...yea please help me. nellie x0x (link)
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stick witu-pussycat dolls
we belong together-mirah carey
must be nice-lyfe jennings
through the rain-mirah carey
georiga dome-ying yang twins
freak a leak-peaty pablo
lover and friends (girl version) usher, luda
soul survivor-young jeezy and akon
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hi. i am decorating a t-shirt for halloween that says happy halloween on the front and i already know what i want on the back but i dont know what else to put on the front besides happy halloween...
keep in mind its for work...i am a server at ihop...and we are able to wear halloween shirts...
anyone have any ideas for what else i can put on the front?
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put a cany bag on it and write trick or treats on it. other than that i donno that's the best i can do =)
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Ok, so tomorrow I am trying out for my school's cheerleading squad. I know the cheer and the dance really good, but I always get nervouse while performing in a group less than 5 people. We audition 2 at a time. Plus, my friend who was supposed to audition with me has decided not to try out at all. Now, what can i do to make it less intimidating? And dont say ignore them because I have to look straight at the judges and smile! please answer quickly!!! BeLLa DaNieLLa (link)
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okay i know this probably wont help now since today is the 29th but i am a former cheerleader and when you go for try outs just be yourself and try your best just because you friend isnt going with you dont be scared! you dont always need someone there. put on the best show you possibly can and give it you all if you make it just do the best facials give all the spirit you can and show then that you deserve to be on that team. cheer like you mean it! good luck
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I'm glad I can let this out and no one will know who I am or bug me about it, but I really need someone to talk to. I've been broken for years upon years, my elementary school life was alright yet I always seemed to be the loner kid who did stupid things to get attention yet was never acknowledged. When I changed schools, it made me sad that the card I had received from my classmates was only made because we do that to everyone who goes away, that the words they said to me were false and untrue. In my new school, the very first day I was tormented and they hit me with carrots at lunch time and beat me up in recess. During lunch time wen i went to the washroom they emptied out my backpacks contents in the schoolyard and burried my pencils and stuff from my pencil case in the sand box. My closest girlfriend, the last one I had and my second was someone I really loved and was happy with yet that relationship ended and destroyed me even more. Though I finally made some friends in high school, the people from my previous school and others still continued to torment me for no reason it drove me insane and alone. this is a summary of my childhood torments and from those experiences i came to the following conclusion...
I envy those who have good friends, whenever I see friends with photos of each other, hanging out with each other and always wanting to be around each other... whenever I see people who have others that will support and protect them... I feel jealous. In all my years I have never had anyone but my loving family I can fully trust, that calls me instead of me bugging them, that wants to be around me and support me, that would stick with me to the end.. a true friend. I am destined to be alone, to have no friends, and to experience no love. There have been other experiences in my life besides what I described that have affected me so.
I have trouble in my studies, I can never fully concentrate until last minute though I seem to do pretty well. There have been many things I have wanted to achieve and changes i'e wanted to make to myself but I have failed to do so and I hate myself for being so careless, irresponsible, and stupid. I acknowledged that there is no personal reason for myself to exist in the world, besides become someone good so my parents can be proud that they did a good job raising me. I love my family they are the best parents to me and gave me more love than I could ever handle. I can never live up to my parents love, the only way I can repay them for loving such a useless thing as myself is through completing my school and becoming what they want me to be. I also live for children, I want to have children and have them live a good life strayed from any problems that I have already faced myself.
THe problem, I recently got into my second car accident, things are going so horrible and expenses are rising. My parents are already paying so much and are struggling, I am forgetting to do chores and because of that I am just being a freeloader. As for my studies, it seems i've been slacking off, yet I find it so hard to concentrate until it's last minute. Though I try to do things it seems I am just a lazy failure. I failed my parents, I failed myself, I am nothing but a burden withot motivation to succeed. the best solution is my own destruction, but I am too weak, so instead I will leave the house and fend for myself, removing the burden from my family of having such a useless son around. I don't deserve them and surely i've been shown that since the life I lived is proof enough my existence is pointless. Why shold I continue this unhappy life where everyday all I do is become hurt. People think I am a happy stupid kid because i'm always so hyper, yet I put on that mask to hide my sorrows. No matter how good I am to people, no matter how sociable, I can never get what I want or be truly happy. I either am disappointed, left alone, or betrayed and used.... why does life suck (link)
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well kids and young adults and adults are crewl no matter who the person be that is no reason to mentally abuse you. it's not right. but don't let people get the best of you. you are better than that! you have a good head on your sholders and all you want is friends who care and understand. try to join some after school activitys or try meeting new people that have common intrest you will more than likely find some true friends with time and you will feel wanted and life wont suck as much anymore. i know that life sux but we all have our prolbems and we all have to deal with them. as for you parents show a little more effort and respect to them if all they are asking is for you to do chores and do your studies than make an attempt to actually do them. i truly hope that things work out for you.
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OK well im a 13/f and when I was little and still now if like i do somthing "bad"..or i get my dad mad...he'll like hit me...and like i dont know if thats really considered abuse..well see this all came up because my friend jessica was tellin us how she stayed out late and her dad got really mad and she called her mom and was like i think dads gunna hit me cuz hes really mad but if he lays a hand on me ill call the cops...so that just got me thinkin to myself...is what my dad does considered abuse or just a way of him "punishing" me.
plz answer
thanks
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that is not a way to punish you that is "child abuse" no matter what the reason! if he hit you with a belt it's considered "legal" as long as no marks are left. if he hit you anywhere else and leaves marks you should call a law enforcement officer but that is all up to you. i think that if your father gets angery with you than he should sit down and talk to you not hit you. have you ever thought that maybe he was abused as a child and that why he does it to you? well i wish you nothing but the best do whats best for you and take care of your self.
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My little brother can be extremely annoying. I dont want to tell him to go away, but somtimes i lose my temper. I hate yelling but he just deserves it so much!!!! How do i get my mom to relize that he's the monstor not me and to start dishing out the punishment to the right person????
He has chased me around with knives, hit me, refused to let me eat, and done countless other things! He really hurts my feelings.
What do i do?
I rate 5's!
~Melissa~ (link)
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your little brother is just craving attention and since he's not getting any from anybody else than you probably his last resort. so he wants to annoy you as much as possible. i know it sux that he annoys you but just show him the love and attention that he needs. play games with him watch cartoon with him. help him with homework it's the little things that count. your little brother will eventually stop annoying you and just want you to spend time with him and he'll appericate you more. hope that helped
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my dad can be so mean sometimes he yells really loud and when he gets mad he throws and breaks stuff and it really scares me. i feel bad because i dont know if i love him or not and i feel like everything is my fault!! i dont know what to do please help! (link)
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well growing up i went through that to. i told my dad "you need anger management" and it pissed him of even more so don't tell him that but try to get your family together and talk to him about his anger prolbem. even if he does get mad or whatever that is no reason to throw stuff. don't think is your fault more than likely is't not! people just have their own way of dealing with things and maybe thats his but it needs to be delt with so do the best thing possible "get him some help" i hope that thing will work out for you.
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Last night I had just witnessed a death. it made me real sad. It was my grannie. she has played a HUGE role in my life. I stood there and watched her die. I All I do is cry now. What can i do to stop (link)
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i know exactly how you feel because i witnessed me aunts death she died of cancer. she played a big part in my life as well. when someone passes away and they played a big part in your it tears you apart and all you want to do is cry to no end. i know i did. but if you have a close friend trusted adult or a family member then sit down and talk to them it will help you slowly but surly even so you will always remember that person but you should try to remember the person they were and the memories you had with them. look at it with a positive outlook and you will be okay. i hope that you can smile again..
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okay well my parents got divorced when i was younger and well i lost in touch with my dads side of the family and i havent seen them since i was little well recently my sister lives with my dad and i live with my mom so my sister gave me there phone number and email address and well its kind of weird cause there like my cousins and well to me there like strangers and i dont know what to do (link)
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it sux that you lost touch with your family but now is your chance to get back in touch with them. take advantage of it. talk to them and tell them who you are and that you want to stay in contact with them they are you family. it might seem weird in the beginning but things will start to feel normal after a few conversations and a few e-mails and letter. try to get the entire family together like a family reuion. hope that helped..
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