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ok me and my ex b/f were dating for 17months when he started acting different so i asked him about it. He said that for the last few months he hasnt loved me the way i love him. he said that he only loves me as a friend so we both decided to be friends. the strange thing is that the next day he told me that he feels strange not haven me in his life like that. he asked me if he could still call me at nite and talk to me like we did when we 1st started dating. well he called me that nite and he wants to hang out like we were but not have the tittle as b/g friend. and i asked him what that meant and he wants to still lay together and just hang out with just us two and get to know eachother more then we already know eachother. and i asked him what if one of us starts to kiss the other or sumthing when we lay together and he said that if it happends it happends. he wants was to be close friends but i dont know what he means by that. please help me understand what he wants!!!! Thank you! (link)
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hun>he wants to be just friends w/benefits. No strings attached, so he can do whatever he wants, w/whoever he wants.
You 2 have been together for 17 mos. thats a long time. He misses it, because it used to be a habit having some1. Now things are different.
Its ok to be friends, but dont let things happen!!! Its not that easy to be friends right away, after youve been lovers for that period of time.
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well! my 1st love does still like me and is always all over me! and calls me all the time and even asks me back out but i dont sit there and talk to him for hours i just tell him i have a boyfriend and so so you know! and like i know for a fact that he still likes her but you know i dont think he should sit there and talk to her for hours and all that about what they use to have! and i get mad at my 1st love alot to and yes i do still have feelings for my 1st love but i dont keep going back for him even though its so hard for me not to you know! i am deciding whether i shold tell him that! do you have aim or aol? or yahoo? (link)
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i have aim. Let me know if you have screen name. if so, ill give you mine, and we can just chat
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he never calls her she always calls him but i mean he tells me that he talks to her and he thinks that it will make me mad if he tells me about there covos. and i dont know he never said that he was over her its just he dont want to talk about it! and i dont i love him more that i ever loved any one! and he says he the same way about me but he also felt the same way about his ex! its only between us twO! (link)
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My ex was my 1st love , and i was his. We had a very close relationship. He was not afraid to show his true feelings for me.(he used to cry on me, and it was so touching) He has NEVER cried over his new gf. Every relationship youre in, will be different each time. As far as feelings.
Dont you think you have a right to know what they are saying to 1 another? You are HIS gf. Tell him you want to know!! Otherwise tell him you dont want him talking to her anymore. Ask him how HE would feel if you had an ex that wanted to get back with you, and that kept calling you.
If he was truly over her, he wouldnt be talking to her for hours everyday, and he would be telling you EVERYTHING they say to 1 another!
Let him know that you are having very serious doubts that hes telling you the truth on how he truly feels about her. I think deep down inside you know that he still has feelings for her dont you?
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i think they both broke up with each other to tell you the truth but see they HAVE been off and on for 3 years. and yesterday she called him from like 7-9 and then after that he called me and told me that he was talking to her and she made him mad! and then like all that time whenver they were talking i didnt know they were talking so it was weird cuz from 7-9 i had a really weird feeling in my stomach it was like a bad feeling.and i am like so do you still like her and he was like i dont want to get into that right now! i am like okay you know cuz obviously she made him mad and i am so scared that he is gonna fall for her again! you know and the more she calls and asks for him back its obviously going to get back to him and break up with me or have the nerve to cheat please write back a.s.a.p (link)
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Its true the more they talk, the more hes gonna fall for her again(if he already hasnt)If he really didnt care about her anymore, he wouldnt have gotten mad at her. He obviously still cares about her. The problem im seeing, is hes not telling you anything about their convos anymore, and thats not good! Hes youre bf, he should be open and honest with you about everything.
even though they were on and off for 3 yrs. thats alot of history between 2 people.
Does he ever call her? The thing is theyre talking for 2 hrs, not just 15 mins. That means the convos are pretty serious.
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well they were goin out for 3 years off and on! and she always calls him and asks for him back! and supposably he always says no! and i think it is off and on for 3 years its time to get over it and i know for a fact he still likes her cuz he never wants to talk about it whenever i ask him! and so i dont know that just makes it even more scary (link)
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It should. My ex was telling me that he still missed what we had 5 mos. after he was with his gf. He told me he thought about me all the time, but i just couldnt let him know how i still felt about him, because of the fact he has a gf. The thing is, he lies to her and tells her he never said that to me and she says its just my fantasy.
Is he the 1 who broke it off with her, or did she? If he doesnt want to talk about it with you, thats just giving you more doubt that he does still like her, even tho he says he doesnt!
The bottom line is, he doesnt have to take her phone calls. Hes with you, and loves you. He should be telling her that, but obviously hes not if she keeps calling him!!
keep me informed please!!
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14/f so i've been with my boyfriend for half a year.. and umm we made out a little i guess... so we were lying on my bed...watching tv and whatnot. his hand was on my pants playing with the belt hoops and suddenly he put his hand down my pants slightly...then he went farther and i kinda jumped...and told him no so he was okay with it...soo its a couple of days later..and i'm hanging out with him... he has his arms around me from behind and then his hands drop around my stomach and lower..then he puts his hands on my legs and he moves his hands... brushing up against /there/ and then he suddenly moves his hands to my stomach again...then few minutes later he puts his hands against THERE again...and i kinda got stiff...and i told him not to do it again.. i dunno.... so im just confused. in my mind i wouldn't mind if he did it but my parents said that im too young to do anything below the neck so.. yea and thats stuck in my head so i'm just stuck in middle of wondering what to do.. so..
the next time he does that..what do I do? break up with him or seriously tell him 'NO'. yeah..
lately hes getting a little weird..or horny i guess? cuz when we hang out...he's always behind me pushing my ass into him and whatnot... or like..he pushed me up into a table and talked to people while he was between me..then he would come closer and kiss me while leaning over the table a little too much.. almost like the missionary position. yeahhhh. i dunno. i'm just..blah right now. i don't want to have sex because that ruins a relationship...if you dont get enough or if you do it too much. gah. i dunno! (link)
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Your a smart girl, stay that way. Your bf isnt respecting you. Hes got 1 thing on his mind. He obviously wants to do more in the relationship, but keeps ignoring you. Dont give in because he wants to do stuff. Listen to your parents! He seems like the type that if you keep saying "NO" to him, hes gonna move on to a girl who will put out!
Sorry hun> hes not a keeper!
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i have recently started growin breasts and my nipples r very big in comparison. i dont understand. is this normal? please help i cant sleep at night from worry. my boyfriend wants us to go further and this is very embarassing (link)
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Afraid to give youre age????
You should be embarrassed!
youre just starting puberty and you wanna go further with youre bf? What the heck are you doing having a bf?? Your whole body is going through changes. Keep your hands to your selves for heaven sake!! You cant expect to get respect if your gonna be given it away so soon hun!!!
I know a few girls, who are past puberty by the way, and their nipples are bigger than their breasts!!
Theres nothing you can do about it!
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What is your favorite perfume? What perfumes do guys like best? (link)
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"love spell" from victorias secret, its a body spray> guys go absolutely crazy over it!!!!!!
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Well, this guy,...i mean my friend, i've known him for...roughly 8 years,..and this year is the first year that i have seen him on like a daily basis. he sits behind me in our 2 longest classes they're back to back too, ((1 hr and 30 minutes each of the classes.)) and he plays with my hair cuz he sits behind me and i'm just like "oh my god.." in a playful way. and during pre algebra today he kept puttin his arm on my desk so it would hit mine, he was just jokin, and he's always makin me laugh. but, i dont know if he likes me or not, he has a girlfriend, and i dont think he wants to get into my pants we're only 13... (link)
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this question gets asked alot here, and i will tell you the exact same thing!
DONT GET INVOLVED WITH A GUY THAT HAS A GF. Hes not being very committed to his gf if he has to flirt with other girls. Its ok to talk to them, but hes going alittle too far!
Personally, i would want my bf to flrit with me, and only me!
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okay well my friend went out with this guy and she treated him really bad, she played games with him and didnt really act like she liked him and they finally broke up cus he couldnt trust her cus she was always lieing to him && flirting wiht other guys and a few..weeks--maybe?--he started talking to me and we started liking eachtother and after a few weeks of talking and getting to know eachtoehr a little better, he ask me out and i said no cus i think my friend still likes you, but i talked to her and she said it wouldd be okay, so he asked me out again and i said yes this time and she was okay with it until after a few weeks,about 2 or 3 maybe, after i had started to really like him. she started getting mad at me and spreading rumors about me and everytime she saw him she would try to be all over him adn kiss him and all that and he'd be like get off of me i have a gf, and she would be like who cares about her? and she talked really bad abotu me behind my back but then around me shed be like ohh i love you! like she wanted to figth me at one point and then she took my best friend from me...and she doesnt like me anymore but she'll be all nice to me when she needs a ride somewhere or something ... so what should i do? i mean i want us to be friends but i dont want her to go on talkign about me behind my back. and dont say to break up with him cus we've been going out for a while now and i love him a whole lot. so please tell me what i can do to get her to stop spreading rumors about me and about him to break us up! (link)
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Keep the bf, dump the friend!!!!
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my boyfriend says everything to me that i am his everything to me and that he loves me and no body else and how much he cares hor me! and he is in love with me. But there his his ex.. his first love and he swears that he dont like her that way any more and he is not going to break up with me for her and he promises on our relationship! i dont know what to believe though i told him i believed him and then i told him that i dodnt believe and that i was confused and i didnt know how to react! but i mean he tells me everything they say to each other and when she calls! (link)
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What was the reason for their breakup and who did the breaking up makes a difference.
I have an ex and he has a gf, but i dont go calling him. Just doesnt seem right to me. ex's can remain friends, but i really dont think they should be calling each other if they are involved in another relationship. How would he like it if you had an ex that was calling you?
Im not saying you shouldnt believe him, but i think he needs to maybe tell his ex to back off alittle. Its ok if they see each other at school or somewhere and say "hi", but i just dont think they should be calling.
He is still with you, so that means something!
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Ok Me and My boyfriend broke up the other day due to he liked another girl! It broke my heart, I was mad, and I could have pinched his head off. But now he acts like he likes me AGAIN! Like when I was sitting at lunch today with some girls he kept looking at me for long periods of time. He does that even when I pass him in the hall. And when he sees me on the bus he will look for me and when he sees me he will smile. And at other times he will ignore me and just look at me. So Whats going on???!?!? Signed Confused! (Smarty Pants will be reported.) (link)
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Hes just being a typical guy that doesnt know what he wants. Its been a year and my bf still looks at me. Im sure it doesnt mean anything.
If he wanted you, hed be with you, its that simple. He broke up, he can get back together, but hes not. So just disreguard the looks, or let him.
Move on hun, like he has. Theres so many nice guys out there!
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My English teacher once told me, 'Don't marry someone you love, marry someone who completes you.'
Does anyone have any idea what that could mean, in a way? Like, how can someone complete you? (link)
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I disagree with craazylau. You can fall in love, but still be missing something. My ex is with a new girl now for almost a year. He claims hes in love, but he has NEVER cried for her like he did with me! So hes basically lacking the emotional support guys need! Every love is different. Each relationship you get in is different from the last. When some1 completes you, they make you feel whole, they make you feel good about yourself, that no matter what happens, you are on the top of the world, and nothing can knock you down. Youll know in your heart, if the 1 you fall madly in love with, completes you!!
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ok well i shave down there and i was wondering if it is normal and how do guys like it to be
1) hairy 2) a lil hair or 3) shaved (link)
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save alittle above, but "down" between the legs shave it all!!
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might be long but I'll try thanks for that,I broke up with my boy friend its about 6months now We had good relationship until the day we broke up we never had any problems we were 1year and 4month dating,until the day he got interested to one of the ladys he said they are friends ,we broke up within a week he dated the friend, so the problem is I can't get over him, we break the contact for two months we had to because the girl friend was on action too through our break up, suddenly he starts calling me , sms, e-mailing me just wanted to know how I am and so on, I know he is got a pride he is difficult we even discussed the fact that to what he is doing what is he gonna do when he finds that he misses me he said he is gonna call me when he misses me,deep down I know I dont want him back a lot has happened through our break, but I feel like my soul needs him even if I dont since we broke up I lost love for anyone, so now since we talk shall I tell him how I feel? but I dont he is gonna think I'm sycho he new that I loved him, the other problem I'm not sure what he wants, he is organising to work in my town but you can't predict him he is so tough, sometimes I feel like I'm a treat to him he always make sure that he does nothing which make him seem like a fool to me such as to swallow his pride especial now we no longer together, it was easy b4 coz I used to confront him about that he admitted so it was easy to solve things. what do i do (link)
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The way you talk is very hard to understand what your saying. I mean your english is very bad!!(sorry)
Sounds like you need to get over this guy, and move on. Its gonna take a long time, but the best thing is to stop all contact with him! If he wants to pursue the relationship with you again, let him make the move. Otherwise, leave him go about his business!
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CAN PREGNANT WOMEN CAN HANG MOBILE IN HER NECK AND THE MOBILE TOUCHES THE BELLY. iS IT HARMFUL OR NOT (link)
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Grow up seriously!!!! that was a fact so give yourself a 1 for asking a such a stupid question!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ok...i have a problem i guess this involves school and friendship and relationship problems...but here it goes...last year i had this boyfriend that i loved to death but i felt like he was using me for sex and i always did what he wanted...well little did i know my bestfriend was going back to school telling other people what we did on the weekends and i was homeschooled for the first time last year and i went back to public school this year and a guy in that class was one that she told everything to and he thinks im easy and he tells all his friends that...well now i found out my ex boyfriend went back to school last year and told everybody what we did and everything and now all the guys think im easy but thats not true and alot of guys are wanting to go out with me but i feel like its because of that...what would you do? what should i do?
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This is why i tell young girls NOT to have sex. You have to handle too much stress that goes along with it. Guys are very immature at this age.(high school period)
There is no way to make people think that youre not easy. Guys can be real jerks at girls' expense.
They think sex is a big joke. They dont care about hurting the girl!
Dont go out with any guys for awhile at least. Let things calm down. Get to know a guy as much as you can. Find out their reputation with girls from any1 you can! Dont go out with just any guy!
Good Luck Hun!!
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ok...Me and my ex boyfriend just broke up last wednesday and like im totally still stuck on him and would do anything to get him back...Thursday he told me he would "talk to me/see me friday at the game" little did i know he was taking another girl...well when i saw him there with this girl he didnt really want to talk to me but he finally did but my cousins friend came to the game which has a big crush on me and i kind of used him to make my ex mad and it worked but now this other guy wants to go out with me and wont stop calling!! I cant go out with somebody that i dont like and i doint know how to tell him that without hurting his feelings...what do i do?
15/Female (link)
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Just tell him that you and youre bf just broke up and youre just not ready to date any1 yet!
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hello..i am 16, and turn 17 in february.. i was wondering peoples outlooks on me. i lost my virginity when i was 14 to the first 'highschool sweetheart'.. then i didnt have sex until this past summer. and once i did i was addicted. my sister said it probably runs through the family but im not sure. i have now 'hooked' up with 4 guys, including the highschool sweetheart. thing is, two guys were only when i was totally wasted so i dont know what to think. please tell me your outlook on my situation and why i might be 'addicted' to sex. (link)
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Youre title was "slutty"? Did i give u information that you didnt want to hear, is that why you gave a 1?
Youre asking people how they see you and then you give them a 1! This is how i see you, because im older than you and im still a virgin and proud of it. Ive had a long relationship too, but im not giving it away that easily, because high school romances arent forever! I will get it away to my fiance or my husband! Sex is very important to me, and i want it to be very special, not just give it to any guy.
You need a reality check girl! Maybe you see yourself as "easy"!!!
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i had two dreams of me getting raped. i it wat does it mean and wat should i do help me plez. (link)
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Dreams dont mean anything. I mean its not like dreams come true. Sometimes you dream of the last thing you think of before you go to bed.
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