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I believe that everyone needs advice sometime or another. Its human nature. Im not gonna tell you to much about me. Keeping my mysterious persona will add alot to my answers. Im into to keeping it real and giving unbiased advice. Good Luck.REMEMBER: No Question Is A Stupid Question.
If you have the courage to ask for help, I will answer your question. That is my policy
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Hey uhh how do I start?? K well my family always go out places and I always stay home and its because I love being at home by myself, or I just want to stay online or I'm lazy. Sometimes I do go out but rarely. I dont know..I thought this was just a stage..but Its been going on for like 2 years! So whats up?
OK Now I get it. You have a very understandble problem. If you don't want to go out with your parents I belive that you may be embarrassed to be seen with them. This is very understandable for someone your age.
ive always been teased about how i was *too* skinny...ive always been self concious, and guys have said that im not...but i get mixed messages...my best friend told me i was almost anorexic! what should i do??????
Firstly, no one your friends can't tell you if you were anorexic. Only you know if you were anorexic, and by the looks of your question you were not.
There is nothing wrong with being skinny though it can possibly be a medical problem. There is no way to determine whether someone is too skinny, or too overweight without first taking a BMI test :(http://www.xenicaldepot.com/html/bmi_test.html)
If you are indeed too skinny, I don't recomend you start binge eating. Your best bet is to contact a doctor or medical professional who will assist you in gaining weight safetly. Your doctor will tell you what to do specifically in order to gain weight.
REMEMBER: Everyone is different. What works for someone may not work for you. See a doctor if you want to gain weight. Trying to do so on your own may lead to other medical problem.
Good Luck
oK: sO i'M 16 fEmAle... aNd i know its super bad.. but i have been smoking for about 3 weeks now. like once/twice a day and i was just wondering about 4 months ago i had a sports physical.. and for one of the questions they asked me if i smoked.. and i said no because at the time i didnt... but if i were 2 get another physical/doctors appt. again.... and they asked me if i smoked would they be able to tell if i did? and if i answered yes... would my parents find out? and please dont give answers like: u shouldnt smoke! because thats not my question!sOrrY sO lOnG! LoL! pLeaSe dOn'T dElEtE tHis! i RaTe eVeRy1! (wELL!) tHaNx iN adVanCe
Despite what other may tell you, there are always to spot a smoker :
1. Bad Breath/ Yellow Teeth
2. The smell of tabacco on your clothing
3. Someone finding your pack of cigarettes
...
and the list goes on. Smoking is not easy to hide.
In response to your second question, no your parent's would not find out if you admitted your smoking to a doctor. Doctors are bound by a doctor- patient confindentiallity code which does not allow them to share private information.
If you are still worried, I recommened you vist a Walk In/ Private Clinic.
Good Luck.
ok a few weeks ago i got a hair cut and i got my bangs cut but they look horrible cuz my hair cutter did them all wrong does anybody no of a type of shampoo or a way to make them grow faster or simply just a way to make them look good
if it helps im 13/f and i have bright blonde hair
~!~Lizzy~!~
The beautiful thing about hair is this .... IT ALWAYS GROWS BACK!!!!
Though scientists can find a way to send a satellite signal around the earth, there is still no way to grow hair quickly. Your simply going to have let grow on its own time.
I wouldn't be too sadened by this event. You should look at the cup as being half full. If your hair really is "bad" it will give you a chance to really see if people truly value you as a friend, or just like you because of your looks.
While you are waiting, take this opportuniy as an experiment. It will help the time go by faster.
Good Luck
Sorry.. didn't know which catagory to put this in.. but here goes:
Its kind of hard to explain this.. but like when something upsets me.. at first im fine with it.. like i can accept it.. but just a little while later.. i get depressed about it. Like seriously depressed. Or sometimes.. i can be in a great mood.. and just all of a sudden.. im depressed for no reason at all.
One of my friends said it could be a disease called Bipolar... Does anyone know anything about bipolar? like what it is.. and what it does to you.. or anything like that...
Or if u could find me a good site about it.. i'd appreciate it!
THANKS!!
As I metion in my column frequently, everyone needs help sometimes...even me.
I have located a great website for you to visit. Though I'm trying to doubt my fellow advice givers you should get your information from a reliable source. Im not a doctor and neither are they.
Check This Out....
http://www.ecureme.com/emyhealth/data/Bipolar_Disease.asp
Good Luck
this boy and i meet 1 year and 2 months ago at a cabin and i live in minnesota and he lives in a driffrent state and we talk all of the time on the phone and internet.he asked me out and i said yes and i dont know if its the right thing because we havent seen each other for awhile what do u think is it the right thing to do since i like him and he obviously likes me???
Im not a big a fan of yes or no answers but the only way to put this simply is : NO.
It wouldn't be fair to you or the guy to limit yourselves to an online relationship. I understand that you may like him online, but not being able to see him would limit alot of your options. There is no need to cut off all ties with him, but try to move on and find someone who you can be with all the time.
Not being able to see this guy increases the chance of an "unfaithful" relationship.
As I have said in the past : Material relationships are the best relationships.
Good Luck
I`ll start off by saying, I`m very shy when it comes to guys. Now with that said, I like this guy in one of my classes. I`ve never really talked to him before. Here`s my question.
- What should I say to him?
Also,
-I want him to know that I like him, but I don`t have a clue what to say to him, or how to tell him that I do.
Gah, please help. =]!
It makes me feel great answering this question because I once was in the same shoes as you.
To begin here are some simple equation:
1. TALK TO GUY = CHANCE OF SUCCESS
2. DON'T TALK TO THE GUY = AUTOMATIC FAILURE
It looks like the first equation is your best bet. Many people ( you included) are shy around talking to guys because you probably fear rejection. The only way to get anywhere is to TALK to they guy. I know that your shy and that's ok. No one is asking you to walk up to the guy and kiss him.
Here are a few simple tips to help let him know that you like him:
1. Start off with at least saying hi to him each day.
2. SMILE- Showing off that beautiful smile when you around this guy will definetly give off a few hints.
3. Try to find common intrests with this guy. Find out what he is interested and start up a conversation.
Considering that this guy is in your class, the easiest way to start of a conversation with him is to ask about the homework, or how his term paper is coming along.
Im going to give it to you straight out: BEING SHY WILL GET YOU NO WHERE!!!!!
There is nothing wrong with being shy, but you must learn to overcome it in order to get what you want in life.
Good Luck.
Ok i wrote awhile ago about a guy you i lost my virginity to and he is starting to talk to me now, he even brought up what happened between us... it made me feel alot better when he brought it up does he mean that he is happy about it?? does he like me?? thanks.. i rate
The best way to find out anything in life is to TALK about it. Unless you talk to this guy you will just have to keep wondering. That is the only advice I can give you. Im not the guy, and neither is anyone else who may try to give an answer to your question.
The only to find out how "your guy" feels is to talk to him one on one.
Good Luck
I HAVE THIS WRITING ASSIGNMENT DUE ON TUESDAY & IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT I GET A GOOD GRADE I HAVE TO WRITE A 400 WORD PAPER ABOUT ANYTHING I WUNT PREFERABLY AN ESSAY BUT BASICLLY I NEED A TOPIC CAN ANY1 HELP ME?
~AnThOnY~ M/13
This question is a simple one. Being that the situation allows you to write about anything, write about what you feel comfortable about. Keep the criteria in mind. You must be able to write 400 words. Make sure the topic give you choose is familar and comfortable enough for you to reach the required word length.
A list of possible essay topics include:
-current events- statewhat your views are
- an analysis on a book or movie
- write about yourself
If you are out to impress, check out this website for proper essay format. Having good essay form and excellent grammar is a good way to get easy marks. Check out this website for some help.
www.public.iastate.edu/~pol_s.251/eguide.htm
Good Luck
two scenarios that piss me off (on AIM)
1)) i make a whole long really nice a/m, save it, and then wen i click "im away" its times new roman black and all it says is the title that i saved it as
2))wen i like my other sn ( i have the latest AIM) lots of times when i click "apply" its times new roman black font and it says about three of the words i put in with a bunch of dashes. For example if i wrote "brb im really busy and upset" brb im reall---
SO ANNOYING! please help.
It seems like you are experiencing a few technical difficulties. Though i am not a computer expert here are few tips to help you:
1.) Check with the HELP feature in AIM. That is the first and best place to help you with any technical problems you may experience
2.) There are many computer related help sites specifically geared towards AIM on the web. A simple search on GOOGLE will do wonders.
Good Luck
i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me...
If your intuition is telling that your friends don't need you, chances are they don't. Many times your friends may not seem exactly like they are you’re really your friends. If you feel like you can't talk to your friends about your feelings chances are you feel like they don't understand you. You should always be able to share your thoughts without having to feel like you will be punished for doing so. Maybe its time to rethink your friendships?
From your statement above, it seems to me like you are the girl with a lot of acquaintances, but only a few close friends and there is nothing wrong with that. Speaking from experience, long distance relationships don't work- even between friends. Its time to move on with your life. Try to form close bonds with a few new people who you feel comfortable around and think that potentially could be "best friend material". I am certain that your bestest friend is doing the same.
You don't have to end your friendship, but just remember that material friendships ( ones which you can actually see) work out a whole lot better.
Good Luck
hey i'm the girl whose walkman was broken because the sound was only coming out of the 1 ear. well it wasnt the headphones because i put other headphones in and it still didnt work, so i want to know if there is a place where i can get my walkman looked at/repaired. i have a Sony Psyche and i HEARD that they don't make them anymore, so where could bring it to get it fixed? my mom doesnt remember where she bought it. and would it be cheaper to get it repaired or should i just buy a new one? i have no idea. and i feel bad because we dont really have alot of money right now.
Though I am not an walkman technician, unless you have a great warranty its going to cost you a "whole lotta cash" to repair the walkman. There probably aren't too many places that repair walkmans and if you manage to find one, they will probably charage alot to fix it. Your only other solution then would be sending out your walkman for repair but that would include shipping and other costs ( especially if indeed you have a very old model) Bottom line = don't do it.
If money is tight i recommend you get a part time job to help you get by. The cheapest place I can recommend to you is WALMART. I know for a fact that the cheapest SONY Walkman ( cassette walkman) is about $40. I actually own one, and it has been providing me with great music for a number of years now.
Unless you are quite desperate, I don't recommend you purchase a cheaper brand. From my experiences, you recieve unreliable service and very low quality of music. Cheaper brands will also eat batteries very quickly causing your battery purchases to inrease.
Remember: a wise investment now will save you many $$ in the future.
Good Luck
I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice?
Always remember that there is a time and place for everything. I am a big believer in fate and it never steers me wrong. No one says that you must have a boyfriend by 17. That is the biggest common misconecption that most girls and guys have.
Even though tons of girls that you may find "rude" seem to getting all the guys,you will see in the end that those girls will never be able to settle down and form a stable relationship.
My best advice to you is to wait it out. Your prince charming is waiting for you somewhere and the longer you wait for him the more prepared you will be to start a real relationship with him.
Why settle for an average guy who will probably end up breaking up with you in a couple of months?
Goood Luck
Hey there. I'm a girl, 14, and on the fat side.. lol. I'm not obese, but i am overweight (working on itt!!) And i've only ever had one boyfriend.. when i was in grade 6. People tell me i have a pretty face, but i think i'm just average. I'm also told i'm really sweet, and have an awesome personality.. but it just seems like guys don't look past my weight to get to know me and like me better. I have a lot of guy friends, but no boyfriends, you know? I get in a rut for soo long about not ever being in a relationship, and seeing all my friends with their boyfriends.. SO my question is mostly for the guys.. have you ever dated a fat girl? lol that sounds so rude, but it's the only way i can put it. And what is it that totally unattracts you to them? Why don't you take the time to look past their looks to see their true beauty. please helppp.
You have to understand that in today's society looks are everything. Most guys won't give you a second glance, if you don't look a certain way.
Im sure you have a great personality but most guys don't see that.
Losing weight would be a great asset for you in so many ways:
1. You would get alot more attention from guys ( though im not saying there is anything wrong with being fat, just stating the known facts)
2. You would be alot healthier which would help you prevent diseases
3. You would feel alot better about yourself.
Just remember to stay true to yourself. A guy who doesn't like you for what is "inside" isn't worth your time.
NOTE: A great movie on this topic is SHALLOW HAL, staring Jack Black. It deals with alot of the issues you mentioned above.
Good Luck.
Well i broke up with tthe guy i have been going out with and now he is making my life miserable! he is spreading rumnors about me and telling my secrets to everyoine and its pissing me off!!!! how do i get him to stop???
A wise man once said
"Never tell your closest friend your deepest secrets because one day your closest friend could become your worst enemy." I guess its too late for you to do that.
I would try to sugar coat for you but rumors are nasty and hard to get rid of (just think of the common cold!). Once a rumor starts there is no way of stopping it. The only thing you can do is keep up your self confidence and remember that everything being said about you is not true. In a couple of days, weeks or maybe months, a rumor will be started about someone else and you will yesterdays news.
Until then, try to not to fight ( or get into any physical confrontations with anyone over the rumors) especially with your boyfriend. If you have the movie Paparazzi you will know that it leads to no good.
Just remember, like that bad cold, rumors will eventually die down.
Good Luck
my mom and dad have basically failed in bringing up a good family there idea of a good family has screwed with our heads. none of us plan on being mormon (my parents religion) my brothers shoplift do drugs drink. my sister has a kid and a boyfriend who used to beat her. my little sis. is spoiled and i am worried about her. i smoke drink and am just screwed up in the head. my parents try so hard to keep us together and happy but they don't get that they can't do anything anymore so they might as well give up. how can i get away from there useless attempts to make me the good kid that doesn't do anything wrong when i do and i can't stop myself? also how can i stop my brothers and sisters from reminding me i am the last chance? it makes me feel guilty.
From your question it seems to me that you are not very old. It is not your responsibility to take care of a family. You are probably only a teenager and if so should be spending your time doing other things. As I have mentioned in all of my other advice columns, communication is the key here.
Your siblings are only reminding you of your duties because they themselves don't understand what is going on. It seems to me that they want guidance and you are the only one they think who can give it to them. You need to sit them down and explain to them that you are not their caregiver.
It seems to me that your parents have a been lacking on their responsibilities. You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel, and how your siblings feel.
By the looks of things I think that you and your family would benefit greatly from family counseling. If you think that you cannot afford it, there are many great resources to help you (most that are free)
It seems that you have a good head on your shoulders. Even though you seem like you don't want to have any responsibility, you must remember that this is your family and you are a part of it. The problems within your family are not going to magically fix themselves. Someone ( maybe you???) needs to step and identify the problems, and recommend that action should be taken.
Good Luck.
Ok im 15 f and i was going out with my b/f for 6 months and then we broke up,but like 2 weeks ago he asked me back out and i said yes.When i used to go out with him, i would go to his house and hang out,but since ive been going out with him again my dad and his g/f wont let me go over there. they dont trust me, but i have never given them a reason not to, its not like me and my b/f sit around and make out all day,ya know? They said if i want to see him he has to come over here.but i want to go to his house i miss it.lol and ive tried talking to my dad and his girlfriend but they dont understand and i just cant win.
I see that r fighting the age old topic of boyfriend vs. parents.
The first thing you need to do is set up a good method of communication with your parents. It is obivious that this boy has done something that your father does not approve of. This would explain why he let you go to house before and not now.
The only way you are going to determine what this is, is by talking to your father. Despite what my fellow adivce givers have told you, do not try to convice you father by throwing cheap arguements like "why do you and your girlfriend get to make out?". This will only make the situation worse and only make your father angry. Talking calmy like an adult will help you acheive your goal faster.
Just remember, you have to try to see the situation through your father's eyes. He is just trying to do what's best for you. Parent's can be confusing and difficult to stand at times but trust me, fighting certain issues (especially boys) can sometimes make things worse.
The best thing you can do is talk to your father. If you really love your boyfriend and want to see him, you will bring him over to your house. By doing this not only will your father see you as responsible, but it will also give him a chance to get to know your boyfriend better.
Good Luck
I'v always kinda knew that i was a lil distured inside cuz im usually always sad and never happy. I juss try to put on a happy face when im not home juss when im out or around my friends cuz no1 wants 2 hang around sum1 who's depressed all the time. But im so tired of being sad and feeling this way. I finally knew that i had sum serious issues today. There was a football game at my school but me and my two friends left during it cuz it was boring so we went to the mall. My mom picked me up 20 minutes late so i was standing there by myself but we got the exits confused. But when i was standing there i had a breakdown i juss wanted to cry. So instead i started punching the granet pillars infront of the mall to hold in my tears. Kinda self mutilation i guess. I dont wanna go to a therapist cuz every1 will think im crazy and i wanna kill myslef. Im juss tired of being so sad all the time. It juss seems lyk god put me on this earth to be miserable and to see how much i could take. Im tired of it...what should i do?
You have to do the thing that you don't want to do: see a therapist, get professional help right away. Sucidal thoughts need immediate attenion. No one should be feeling depressed all the time especially when the depression leads to other things such as your case self mutiliation. One possiblity to explain your depression, is that you are acting on a past event which had serious and long lasting effects on you. Though you may feel depressed, from your message above i can see that you have one good thing going for you which is having friends. Everyone suffers from problems and you shouldn't be embarrassed that you are seeing a therapist. If this bothers you to much there are many ways which you can discretly recieve help such as through the KIDS HELP PHONELINE.
In your message you admitted that you are tired of feeling depressed and need help.Admitting that you have a problem is the first step in solving it so i congradulate you on that.
The bottom line is you need help and shouldn't try to avoid it. Avoiding your problems only makes them worse.
I hope everything works out for you.
I'm doing a thing in MS Word and I have Word Art on the top then the rest is reg. text and when I print it the word art doesn't print. Its not out of the print area and its plain black so you know what going on?
i definetly agree with roxie, anything u c on ur print preview HAS to show up when u print.
Try some of these tips:
Graphics aren't printed when I print my document.
You might be printing in draft mode. To print the borders and graphics in the document, click Options on the Tools menu, click the Print tab, and then clear the Draft output check box.
Make sure the Drawing objects option, which prints graphics, is selected. On the Tools menu, click Options, click the Print tab, and then select the Drawing objects check box.
You may be trying to print the field codes for a linked graphic rather than printing the graphic itself. On the Tools menu, click Options, and then click the Print tab. Clear the Field codes check box.
Microsoft Word or the operating system might be low on memory. Do one or more of the following:
Quit any other programs you're running.
Save the document you want to print, and then close any other windows you have open.
Switch to print layout view. On the Tools menu, click Options, click the View tab, and then clear the Picture placeholders, Status bar, Vertical ruler, Horizontal scroll bar, and Vertical scroll bar check boxes.
Switch to normal view. On the Tools menu, click Options, and then click the View tab. In the Style area width box, type 0 (zero).
Hide the toolbars. On the View menu, click Toolbars, and then clear all check boxes.
Quit Word, and then restart it.
Quit all open programs, and then restart your computer.
Disconnect any network connections, and then quit terminate-and-stay-resident programs (TSRs) and any other utilities you usually run.
Hope this helps.