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my mom and dad have basically failed in bringing up a good family there idea of a good family has screwed with our heads. none of us plan on being mormon (my parents religion) my brothers shoplift do drugs drink. my sister has a kid and a boyfriend who used to beat her. my little sis. is spoiled and i am worried about her. i smoke drink and am just screwed up in the head. my parents try so hard to keep us together and happy but they don't get that they can't do anything anymore so they might as well give up. how can i get away from there useless attempts to make me the good kid that doesn't do anything wrong when i do and i can't stop myself? also how can i stop my brothers and sisters from reminding me i am the last chance? it makes me feel guilty.
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From your question it seems to me that you are not very old. It is not your responsibility to take care of a family. You are probably only a teenager and if so should be spending your time doing other things. As I have mentioned in all of my other advice columns, communication is the key here.
Your siblings are only reminding you of your duties because they themselves don't understand what is going on. It seems to me that they want guidance and you are the only one they think who can give it to them. You need to sit them down and explain to them that you are not their caregiver.
It seems to me that your parents have a been lacking on their responsibilities. You need to talk to them and tell them how you feel, and how your siblings feel.
By the looks of things I think that you and your family would benefit greatly from family counseling. If you think that you cannot afford it, there are many great resources to help you (most that are free)
It seems that you have a good head on your shoulders. Even though you seem like you don't want to have any responsibility, you must remember that this is your family and you are a part of it. The problems within your family are not going to magically fix themselves. Someone ( maybe you???) needs to step and identify the problems, and recommend that action should be taken.
Good Luck.
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It isnt your responsiblity to fix your family. Pull your parents aside and tell them what is going with your family. THEY NEED TO KNOW! If they won't listen then tell another family member. Someone needs to know what is happening. Talk to your brothers and sister. Your family needs help. I hope I helped.
~***Hannah~***
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Maybe it's time to step outside of the help your parents provide and talk to a counselor at school or a therapist. If you know that you shouldn't drink or smoke, there is help out there to make you feel better.
It is not fair to think that you are the last chance. What you need to tbe thinking is what you can do for yourself to make your life better. The whole world does not rest on your shoulders, and you aren't the only person in your position. Try to make something positive happen in your life or the life of someone else.
You don't want to be a Mormon? Fine. Go to the library and do some research on some other religion that meets your needs. Or just start reading the Bible. If you are searching for an answer from God, you will get one.
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iitsz not ur job to "Make ur family qood" but ifu y taht its all ur moma nd dad's fault then try and make and effort to behave .
x3 Arii*
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