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Q: any good books you would like to suggest on about dealing with drugs and like teenage life and what a teenager goes through? like go ask alice, a million little pieces and stuff like that

The book "Speak" is about what a teenager goes through, and its really awesome! hope this helps :)

Q: Theres this guy that I work with (I work at Worlds of fun, an amusment park were both 14) well anyways i really like him. hes one of the people that dress up as the snoopy characters (lol i know its funny) and i work in the gift shops so sometimes ill see him. that last time we talked we talked and kinda flirted a little bit. and the other day we walked passed eachother we just stared at eachother it was like neither of us could take our eyes off of eachother lol i know it sounds retarded but i really do like him but i dont know what to say so him when we talk please give me advice about how i can show this guy that i like him and hoe can i terll if he likes me?

If you want him to know that you like him, flirt with him! Laugh at his jokes, nudge him, stare at him, that kind of stuff. You will know that he likes you if he does the same, chances are he probably already does if you guys have been hanging out on the job together!
hope this helps :)

Q: 13/f i have a boyfriend & we have been gonig out for about 2 months. i'm wicked happy with him and i've liked him for almost a year and whenever i see him i am always smiling. i've kissed him on the cheek and i know he wants to kiss me but when we are about to do it i get kinda nervous and i know he thinks i dont wanna, but i do. howw can i be less nervouss? this isnt my first kiss, but i dk why i act like it.

Being nervous is normal! But if you want to calm down a little, then take a little time before you really kiss him. Just hug him, and hold hands for now, then once you really feel comfortable, go ahead! No need to rush into things if you two really like eachother.
good luck! :)

Q: ok
im 13/f and im gonna be going into 8th grade.
with not ever having a boyfriend, no first kiss no nothing!
and it sucks.
my love life better get better before i get to highschool
any ways i could maybe get a boyfriend or have boys get to like me more?!

Put yourself out there! :) flirt a little! Dont be shy and be yourself girl! Once you find the right guy, it will all work out, its actually a good thing that you havent had your first kiss yet, because many girls have their first kiss when they are too young and arent even with the right guy! Now your first kiss will be with a guy that you really care about.

Q: hey im new here & i cant fine any cute backgrounds on this site i like. does anyone know where i can find one?

http://www.advicenators.com/backgrounds.php

hope this helps :)

Q: there is this boy that sumtimes stare at me i want to know if he likes me

If he knows you, and if he really stares into your eyes then he probably is interested! But if he just once in a while glances at you, then he probably isnt in too deep.

Q: okay if i eat breakfast, little lunch and dinner, would that help me lose wieght and also exercise like walking?

You do not have to make any meals smaller, but more healthier would really help! Like say granola cereal, chicken ceasar salad, and a healthy dinner! Exercise like walking is a great thing to do, just remember, eating less isnt better, just eating healthier!
Another great exerisize is sit ups and dance!
hope this helps:)

Q: Well, my situation is as followed.

I have two best friends. One of which I dated, and we broke up. Now my other best friend whom is a girl, always thought my boyfriend was hot and lusted after him.

I trusted both of them completely, and not even a month after we broke up they had sex. Well, If one of them would of told me - it would of been nice but I found out thru HER ex boyfriend, and only because there was a pregnancy scare.

I feel betrayed because she promised she would never do anything with him, and I am still in love with him and she knew that when she did what she did.

He's away at basic in the army, and I had to deal with her. Her response was, "It's in the past, I cant do anything about it now." and her explanation for the event happening was that He started it, and she said (I quote) "I'm a ho, It's in my blood. Someone wants to hit this, I let them!"

I don't know how to deal with this situation. I didnt deck her like I wanted to, but I stayed over at her house and chilled that day because I wasn't sure how to react. Now she calls and I don't want to anwser her phone calls...how do I deal with this?

She seems to feel no remorse for it.. wants to be friends still..

But I know I can't just go on without having my say in it or else I will always feel bitter.

Yes it's in the past but the consequences are NOW.

I need help right away!

You need to talk to her about it, REALLY express how your feeling. You are being too content with your feelings right now, and soon it will really build up! She really betrayed you and doesnt feel sorry about it, so you have to let her know that if she cant act like a real friend, then your friendship isnt worth anything. If when you talk to her she just gets mad at you, then she isnt worth your friendship. As far as the boy goes, it seems he has moved on, but if they had sex that quick, then he probably doesnt love her.. if you know what I mean. So find yourself some one new, or you could wait until your two best friends break up and see if he is interested in going back out with you. But meanwhile, find some one else, because in the end.. this boy probably isnt even worth your time and energy anymore!
hope this helps :)

Q: Im 16/f
I want to go on birth control for sexual and period reasons. I heard that when you go on birth control you only get your period once a month for like a DAY or TWO. To me, that alone seems worth it. My periods are really irregular and annoying though. PLus, I am a sexually active teen with my boyfriend who i am in love with. (we use condoms too)... But yea.. how could i bring it up to my mom without seeming like im in way over my head?

If you dont feel comfortable talking to her about the fact that you want to go on birth control for sexual reasons, then dont! Im sure she will understand if you talk to her about needing it for period reasons. Just explain to her that you are tired of your annoying period and you want to control it! good luck!
hope this helps :)

Q: my mom thinks that ever since i got my heart broken about 2 or 3 years ago, i like any boy that tells me nice things. that's not true. i had a boyfriend after that and it's been six months that i broke up with him after i found out he was gay. but, i really like this boy and she made me swear on everything that i wouldn't kiss him next time i see him or not to let him kiss me. and i kinda like this boy. and she's just being a pain about it. i don't see what's so bad about it. talking to her isn't going to help. i already tried

2 questions:
- how can i keep the kiss from happening that night? (like to make it seem like i want it but not at this moment--- kinda like play hard to get with the kiss)
- how can i stop my mother from thinking this

ps i already talked to her!!! she doesn't listen

PLEASE HELP ME
THANK YOU

Well, if your lucky, he won't go in for the kill the next time you see him.
But if he does, then you can just simply turn your head a little and say, I really like you, but im not ready.
But your mom never said anything about not kissing him the next next time you see him, so if you still like him after turning him down the first time, then just kiss him the next time so he knows you are ready!
hope this helps :)

Q: I hate stereotyping! And people are always calling me goth or emo, (im considered emo). But I hate it when I'm called gothic. They don't know whether I'm with God or not! I wish they'd all just stop judging! I don't know what else to do. I always just get a deep voice and say "be careful what you wish for", gothics seek revenge". LOL. j/k. But what could I say to get them to stop???

Thanx
~KAYLA~

If you like the way you look, then just ignore those stereotypers! If they call you gothic then just simply say, "You dont know me". That will show them! You could also get to know some of the people who stereotype, if they get to know you they will see that the real you isnt emo!
hope this helps :)

Q: Ok im starying back so i wanna make a great impression to my new class mates.So i havent gone close shopping for school so anything is ok.Im 14 and i hope that i can bring out my good vib and tho all of my bad features of myself out the door.I am over weightbut only in my bellyi have a bear belly if u will the rest of my body is thin and is ok but my face is chubby.my checks are chubby so i wanna tryt to hide all that.i need cloths that hide the fat that has collected around belly and make myself look taller.and my hair is super curly its a afro that can be tammed by mouse ,hair spray but i wanna have new styles to my self and my hair and also my make up.im a crazy out going person i love to lauph and i only have a small budget from my close i have 2 other brothers so they need cloths as well im ganna go shoping at wal-mart.jc penny and a few others im looking for a officey confy thinning cloths.but then maybe a few t shirt and jeans im happy with i wanna be kinda like a prep so cloths that last longer is great , plz i need help and thanks
-katie

Wear loose polo shirts ( you can buy them at wal- mart), they can go with mini jean skirts that will show off your skinnier legs. If you want to be a little funky you can buy black tights that go to just below the knee,you know the ones that go under skirts. As far as make up, wear a little eyeliner ( maybe even colors that match your outfit!) And lip gloss always looks really cute:)
For your hair, try Fructis products, they have many products to turn frizz into pretty curls!
If you want more style tips, go to google and type in ashley tisdale official fan site, or any other famous female star that has a style you like! these sites show awesome outfits and you can make them your own and be unique!
hope this helps :)

Q: Tomorrow I have to get my first cavity done.. ever! I'm so scared because I know they have to numb your mouth with novocaine by putting a needle through your gum! I have such a fear of needles or anythign sharp but I still have to get this done. Does the shot really hurt that much? What can I compare the pain too! Thank you

I know how it feels because i have gotten my mouth numbed 6 times! It really only feels wierd more then it hurts. It really doesnt hurt, so dont worry! Also, it will be over eventually! good luck! hope this helps :)

Q: There is this boy I like at school. But not until the other day when I saw my best man friend
and all of a sudden bam!! I was in love with him. I am not sure I should like him because my best lady friend likes him. I am not sure what to do to? I do not want to loose a friendship or a crush.

Talk to your friend first, make sure she is okay with the fact that you like him. She will most likely say yes, it may be hard to talk in person so you can talk on the phone or IM. If its okay with her that you like him, then you should flirt with the guy! It doesnt matter if hes your best friend, some of the best relationships form from best friends dating! You may find you dont like him as much as you think, or you may find that you two are perfect for eachother! Your friend wont let the guy come between you guys, so if you find out hes into you, she will back off for you.
hope this helps :)

Q: My sweet 16 theme is Hollywood and me and my friends want to go all out. We are trying to think of people to dress as, but are coming up blank.

I'd love to hear some advice on it, or even a website for ideas.

I tried google but it didn't help me much.

Thanks

Here are some celebs you could dress as..
Paris Hilton( she would be easy to recognize if you want to dress as her)
Madonna ( one of you could wear those wierd cone bra things.. lol)
Beyonce' ( shes very classy and likes to wear diamonds, doing your hair big and curly would make it obvious that your her)
Marylin Monroe ( she is easy to recognize)
Ashlee Simpson ( she kind of has that rocker-chic look)
Shakira ( wear a belly dancer outfit and curly hair)

Hope this helps :)

Q: Hi ive had this health problem for about 3 yrs now and it just doesnt seem to go away im writing about it to see if anyone shares this problem. I dont really want to ask anyone is else because its abit weird, well so my parents think. First of all my my heart beats really hard and fast and then it feels like a really really strong pulse around my body like my veins are are exploding. I know it sounds really strange but its really uncomfortable and happens nearly all the time. You know you can feel your heart beating well i get that feeling around my whole body especially in my hands, it feels like their going to explode. Im sure thats not healthy. Hope someone replys and doesnt think im to strange lol.
Liam

Well, I dont think your strange, but I dont share that problem. My advice is to see a doctor, I agree that it isnt healthy. A doctor will help you with that problem, and Im sure they wont think your wierd!

Q: can sucking on ice really burn calories?

It isnt a brilliant way to burn calories, because it really doesnt work. Little things like moving your arm, or lifting your leg can burn calories though! If you really want to burn major cals, then just do the old fashioned exersizing technique! :) hope this helps!

Q: I think I finally found the guy I'd stick with till I die even though Im 13. Hehe. But, he doesn't love me back! OMG I'm so upset and depressed and hurt and discouraged. And the only person that can ever help me with this is HIM! But noooooooo, he isn't here anymore! What do I do b4 I kill myself? Suicide is the only option so far...........

~Kayla~
Thanx in advance.

I can definatley relate to you. Im also 13 and I like some one a lot, but they dont like me back. What I am doing right now is just trying my best to show him who I am and being nice to him to show him I like him! That is my advice to you.. be yourself, and show him your interested. Dont even consider killing yourself because that wont do you any good, you dont want to just take the easy way out do you? Trust me, you will get through this, if it doesnt work out with him, there will be another guy that is worth your time, and loves you back.. I promise! :) hope this helps!

Q: female/15

My friends don’t have that much self confidence. They always ask me how they can become more self acceptant, and to be honest I have no idea what to tell them. I have very little, maybe even no self confidence. I always feel like my friends are better people, and I know that’s wrong. I know I shouldn’t compare myself to others because they are not perfect (no one is), but I can’t help it. Last year everyone told me I was a little “look-hard.” Basically meaning I was ugly, and people always told me how I was not a nice person... blah blah blah. This year though, I have people telling me how “gorgeous and beautiful” I am, and how I have such an amazing personality. How can that change in over a year, I just can’t bring myself to believe what the others are saying. How can I have more self confidence and help my friends have more also? I want to be able to help my friends, but at the same time, I need to help myself too. ♥

It is sometimes hard to accept the skin your in, but you have to believe what you hear if you hear it from more then one person! If you hear from more then one person that you are beautiful, then chances are.. your beautiful!You probably changed over a year, many people can change in that amount of time! Getting older certainly will change the way you act, and the way you look. So if people are telling you your beautiful, and have an amazing personality, you better believe it! Because after a year of being put down, you probably decided that you needed to change.. and without knowing it.. DID!

As for your friends, explain to them that you are going through the same thing! You all can help eachother, after all thats what friends are for! Developing self acceptance is hard for anybody, they need a boost! You can be the one to give them that boost! :) hope this helps

Q: ok well.... i cant wear a ring right... i mean i can only wear them on my pinkys...its so weird i mean what am i going to do...when it is my wedding day and like the ring sucks me and two of my friends have always had this prob...please help or give me any ideas...i think i cracked them when i was little cuase my cousin did it to shut me up...she took me and my hand them pushe back my fingers...so please give me any help

I have a few things you could do..
1) Get a ring re-sized, then it will definately fit your finger!
2) Just wear rings on your pinky! It looks cute and they have a lot of small rings.
3) Wear stretchy rings! There are lots of pretty stretchable rings at Claire's!
4) Instead of wearing rings, wear other jewelry. Like earrings, neckalaces, or bracelets!
5) Make your own rings! You can make them to fit your size.
And dont worry about when you get married, you can agree to use neckalaces with rings on them, or you can get a ring re-sized for you!
hope this helps! :)