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Hey everybody. I've love giving advice so I'll answer every question I can. If you need any advice on anything, just ask me! A little about me- I play tennis and I love to shop and hang out at my pool with friends. I'll be a sophomore in high school this year so I've had plenty of experience on friendship and relationships. I always try to take my time and answer every question thoughtfully. I don't care about ratings or any of that, I just want to help people out. :-)
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i was wondering what i should do for my sweet 16. right now i dont want to have a huge crowd maybe about a dozen ppl or so and i have a vary small budget. no taking everyone out to dinner or anything. i was thinking maybe spending $10-15 dollars max per person. i was also thinking of doing something with just like 5 or 6 ppl maybe and doing something a little more expensive but still not out to dinner. My birthday is in December and i live in pittsburgh pa if that helps
Since it's in December, you can't do anything outside (obviously.) A sledding party or something seems a little too immature for your Sweet 16. I think it would be fun to have a cozy little party at your own house. You could invite like 10 friends (people that all get along well) and have a smaller version of a house party. Be sure to ask your parents first! For food you could serve a bunch of fun appetizers, hot chocolate and Christmas cookies. The main party could be in your living/family room or whatever. It would be fun to just hang out with your friends and listen to music. Then you could set aside a little time for gifts. I think that would be really cool. If you're on a smaller budget, it's hard to throw a huge party, but that doesn't mean it can't be fun. Whatever you decide to do, have a great birthday!
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i'm just asking. ok, i'm new here. browsing thru some of the questions, i couldn't help noticing that some of the questions were made by 13-to-17-years-old people. is this a webpage for teenagers or just for everyone?need a little help here..
I guess it's supposed to be for everyone, but mostly teenagers ask quetions + give advice. I've seen a couple questions from adults but not many.
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how do u get a guy not to talk about the things you've done when you dont want no one knowing and you know he will
~Katie~
I'm afraid there's not much you can do. Guys love to share this kind of stuff with their friends. Maybe you could say, "If you care about me and our relationship, you won't tell anyone about this ok?" Hopefully he'll get the message.
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I am freakishly shy, and its a real real problem. I thought I was over it, but I went up to my new school, [it was just built so everyones new but I know like everyone there, kinda not really though] and I just couldnt act ike myself, I was so quiet, I barely said anything. I wanted to cry all night, even though I was with my friends! I guess its just akward because I switched schools 2 years ago and didnt get to see them that much so its really weird being around them yet not weird at the smae time. Im so worried about myself and what Im going to do once school comes. Please Help me
A lot of girls go through an awkward stage like this. I used to be super shy (I still am sometimes!) but then I realized that the only way you're going to make friends is to be outgoing. You don't have to be crazy and the life of the party, but when you're with people you know it should be fairly easy to open up. If you think of something to say, just say it. Your friends aren't going to be like "OMG I can't believe she said that, she's so weird!" I always used to think that but you just have to give people a little more credit. They're your friends so they must like you already and they aren't going to be judgemental. The best way to get conversations going is to either ask someone a question or give them a compliment. Remember to be a good listener but still give your own input. Just try to be yourself and don't worry what people think about you. Everyone loves to be around people that are fun, so remember that the next time you're feeling shy. I really hope this helps. I know how you feel and if you need any more advice, please ask. :-)
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The new school year is coming very soon and I'm going into 9th grade (so is my friend)and we recently received our schedules. She really doesn't like school, and she says she has no friends in her classes, and we don't have any classes together except maybe lunch. And she's not looking forward to this year at all 'cause 7th and 8th grade sucked, and I'll agree on that. I just told her to try to look at school with a positive outlook. She won't listen and doesn't believe. I just don't know what to do. I really wish she would just try to enjoy her time even though it's school.
Does anyone know what I can do about her feeling this way? I've tried to help her, I just don't know what to say.
thanks in advance.
Maybe you guys should join a club or play a sport together. That way you'll have something to look forward to about school. Or maybe she doesn't like school because she doesn't do very well in it? If that's the case, let her know that you'd love to help her out if she needs help with homework or studying. Just be supportive and make it fun for her!
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I was wondering how you a burn a CD i dont believe i got any sort of program but can you burn it if yuo got windows mdeia player?
Yep I use Windows Media Player all the time. Just click "Copy to CD or device" and insert a CD or select tracks you already have on your computer by clicking "Edit Playlist." Then click "Copy" in the upper right corner, but make sure you have a blank disc in your CD drive.
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okay yeah i have a bad temper or w/e... but i started liking My Chemical Romance before the became more popular then all these people i know start saying "oh my gosh! my chemical romane is the best band ever i love them!" and the know helena from trl... thats the only song they know. i know about 15 songs of theres. and i loved hot topic since years ago, and these people are like "oh my gosh how could you go in there? that store is for creeps and blah blah blah" and i'm like no... and they carry a lot of cool band shirts and stuff! i mean? and they say the love MCR and they wouldn't even take one step into a hot topic even for $10 to get one of their shirts?? is this a poser? i kinda dunno if this is the true definition or w/e...
Oh wow I feel the EXACT same way about Fall Out Boy. Everyone likes them now they are on MTV but they only know the one song. I think it's kinda funny though. Just remember that you are a true MCR fan and you can have the pleasure of knowing that you know much more about them than all those other people. I'm not a big fan of the word "poser" but I think these people are being a little fake. Just try not to worry about it so much. I've learned to just like the music I like and not care about other people's opinion of it. And remember that for them, MCR is just a fad. In a few weeks they'll have a new band to obsess over on MTV. :-)
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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?
xox kelly
Everything seems to be ok to me. Just because he didn't call doesn't mean something is wrong. Besides you ended up texting each so that shows he wasn't mad at you or anything. If you think you need to, talk to him about it. At school you can just say, "Is there a reason you haven't been calling or IMing me?" He'll probably assure you that nothing is wrong. But if the problem persists, you might want to rethink your relationship and have a more serious talk about it.
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ok, i am felling bad ALL THE TIME becasue of something I DIDN'T EVEN DO! I was at this girl's house lets call her K. I went with two other girls lets call them KK and S. Well, im know as your everyday GOOD GIRL, who doesnt want to do anything wrong. but, once i got there, K, KK, and S were smoking, drinking, and wearing thongs that they STOLE. I R E A L L Y want to tell my mom about this. It is a month after the incedent and i can't live for 3 hours without thinking about it. I don't want to get the three girls in trouble even though i hate them for what they did, and don't want to socialize anymore. my mom asked why i wasnt hanging out with S anymore and i said they just aren't my type of ppl. The day of the incedent my mom asked if there were any drugs involved, she asked this b/c i havent hung out with these girls for about 2 years and i made a new group of friends who have my back alwasy and would never do things that they did. and they have changed A LOT!!! Me and my friend N are always thinkign about it. and i dnt want her to feel bad to. I know when im at this age i should not care, b/c i hate my parents... but im nto like that. i want to ahev gilmore girl moments and feel close. I want to be bffs so i can spill my guts to her, cause i always feel better in the end. our family vacations starts TOMORROW! and i cant look her in the eye without thiking about it. I keep on telling myself that i didn't do anything, or all the kids ahev at least ONE secret. but i feel bad. i ahe had MANY opportunities to tell my mom about it. but i got scared and never told her. But, that night while im crying myself to sleep, i wish i did. i had two dreams so far about this, one, they all got caught, b/c i told their mom's htey were doing it and they saw them smoking. The second, K (who supplied the ciggerates) quite. so, they all stopped. I really need some help, sorry this is so long. will rate a 5 to anyone who helps me with my problem.
*Jenna
The way I see it, you have absolutely nothing to feel bad about! You didn't do anything wrong at all, so why are you so upset about it? I applaud you for not wanting to hang out with these girls and realizing that what they were doing is wrong. You were simply caught in the wrong place at the wrong time, and got in the middle of a bad situation. But you didn't take part in it, so the other girls are the ones who have something to feel bad about. If you feel you need to discuss this with your mom, you definitely should. Next time you are talking about your friends or something, just say "The reason I don't hang out with those girls anymore is because they do a lot of bad stuff and I know its wrong." She'll probably ask what they do, and you can explain about the smoking and drinking and stealing. I know she'll be so proud of you for not getting involved in this kind of thing. Please try not to worry about this anymore! You didn't go anything wrong!! I hope this helps, if you need any more advice, just ask!
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I was wondering...what is the song called that the end of the chorus I think goes like "I'm beggin you, I'm begging you, I'm begging you to be my escape"? Also, who is it by, and do they have a cd?- what is the cd called? Thanks.
Yeah, that's Relient K, and the song is called "Be My Escape." They have several albums actually. The latest one is called "Mmhmm." They're a Christian Rock band that have been around for years, but everyone's starting to like them now that they're on MTV.
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School pictures are coming up, and I don't know what I should wear. Does anyone have any ideas?
Well all that really matters is the top, so don't worry about the bottoms. Whatever you do, don't wear a shirt with words on it. I always thinks that looks really stupid in pictures. Just a plain, nice t-shirt in a solid color would be fine. You don't want something with a crazy pattern. Even a pretty tank top looks nice. Then you dress it up with a cute necklace that matches your shirt. Oh, and for your hair, leave it down. When girls wear their hair in a ponytail for pictures they look bald. lol. Hope this helps!
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ok so i just bought these destroyed cropped jeans from abercrombie and in the fitting room, i accidently shoved my foot in one of the holes so now it's kinda bigger...anyways, my question is..if i wash them in the wash and then dryer, will the frayed strings break off and there will just be a big hole there? Also the button (when you zip up your pants) is upside down..it really bothers me..do you think I should exchange them?
The same thing happened to me when I first put on a pair of destroyed jeans. I still do it sometimes! As for the strings across the holes, they'll be fine. I have a couple pairs of destroyed jeans and I've washed them many times just like you would with regular jeans, amd nothing has ever happened to them. I don't really get what you mean by the button being upside down, but if it bothers you, exchange them for a different style. And they probably won't notice the hole you made bigger in the dressing room, so that'll be fine. If you aren't comfortable with them, you won't wear them so it'll just be a waste of money. Hope this helps!! Any more questions, just ask! :-)
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I just bought these destroyed jeans..my first pair! and they are really cute!! but the problem is..I'm a afriad that when I put them in the washer, and I wear them out, the frayed part will rip and there will be a big hole in the "frayed" part..can someone help me..if they've had experience with destroyed jeans..can you please tell me how to care for them and what eventually happened to the frayed holes? thanks
The holes will be fine. I have a couple pairs and they've been through the wash many times. Nothing has ever happened to any of them. The only thing you have to be careful of is when you put them on, make sure you don't accidently shove your foot into one of the holes! I did that the first time I put them on and it made the hole a little bigger. No big deal but now I'm a little more careful. hope this helps! :-)
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i was wondering eye shadow that actually shows up. like neon colors blues greens pink n such. everykind i buy sucks. thanks!
Well if you want the good stuff, don't buy it in places like Target or Wal-Mart. You have to go to a department store or a cosmetic store like Sephora or MAC. I would definitely suggest MAC eyeshadows because they come in every color imaginable. They're like $14 but so worth it. Another good one to try would be Hard Candy (sold at Sephora.) Those come in lots of fun colors and they're like $12.50. I know those are a little expensive for eyeshadow but you gotta spend the extra money to get the good stuff! :-)
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I was walking thru the mall and a lady with a hair straightener stand stopped me and asked if she could straighten my hair to advertise her profuct. She said "this is a ceramic hair straightener that the salons use. it doens't damage your hair and it actually brings out the softness in your hair. you can get this at a salon for $200 but we're selling it here for $99." I was like WTF! 99 DOLLARS?! I loooooved the straightener though... So I was wondering whats the difference between a ceramic one and a regular one? Can you get a decent one at CVS or walmart for under say, 20 bucks?
Well the ceramic ones are supposed to help make your hair smoother and they don't cause as much damage. I don't think you're going to find one as good as that one at Wal-Mart or wherever. The really good ones can't be bought in regular stores. I used to have a Conair one that was black with gold plates and it was like $20. It worked pretty good but recently I got one of the ones like you saw in the mall. They are so worth the money. Hope this helps!
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I want to lose weight and I was reading somewhere that you just need to burn more calories than you take in for the day. Is that true? So if I eat, let's say, 400 cals a day and try to burn that much or more w/ exercise, will I lose weight?
Oh wow, 400 calories a day is nothing!! Please don't try to eat only that much. I don't know if you realize this but that's like, a turkey sandwich and a banana. NOT enough to get you through the day. However it is true that all you have to do is burn more calories that you consume. An average girl should eat about 2000 calories a day but don't focus on counting calories. Just try to eat healthy and exercise a lot. Even daily activities (watching tv, cleaning your room, walking around) burn calories. So on an average day you will probably burn about the same number of calories that you eat. If you want to burn a few more, try exercising everyday, and you should see weight loss. I hope this helps!
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this year I want to dress more preppy. What are some styles that look preppy? I rate very high!
Honestly all you have to do is go to Hollister and Abercrombie and Fitch. Polos are really preppy, and so are destroyed jeans. Basically anything that's just supercute and not trashy at all. :-)
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school starts september 7th so i definitely need to dye my hair, get my nails done, get a haircut, etc. lately, i've heard of people asking to get their hair 'thinned' when getting a haircut. i've seen the the results and the hair looks different. like the texture. so my question is: what is hair thinning? how do they do it? what does it do to your hair?.. do you think it looks good?
thanks in a advance! i rate 5's.
Well basically what they do is take a razor type thing to thin out your hair and give it a little bit of layering. It usually looks good, I guess it just depends on what style of hair your have. Ask your stylist about it. :-)
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Hey, I'm going to blockbuster soon with my mom and everytime I go I can never find anything I want to watch. I'm a girl, and I like chick flicks, what can I say. Romantic Comedies are usually my style, but I feel like I've watched them allll. Can anyone reccomend any good movies, they can be older or recent..doesn't matter. Thanks, and PLEASE DON'T SAY 'THE NOTEBOOK'. Haha.
Here's so of my favorites: Superstar, How to Deal, Mean Girls, Big Daddy, Stepmom, What a Girl Wants, Uptown Girls, Clueless and Stepford Wives. Those are all really good. :-)
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Im 14 and my boyfriend & I have been going out for 3 weeks. 2 nights ago we have a really romantic night and we cuddles and he kissed me and we watched movies. & he said he had a great time and i did too. But when we talked a day after he was acting weird & not himself like on IM hes usually like HEY BABY!! And he was just like heyyy. & he stopped calling me and it was weird. i dont know if hes scared of getting hurt or hes gonna break up with me =/ i wasnt being clingy or anything he made all the first moves. So i dont know what to do. ive been worrying about it & I like him so much you have no idea. whats going on?? PS. tomorrows my birthday and he said we were gonna spend the whole day together and he hasnt even talked about it!! so i dont even know if its gonna happen ! :( XOXOX please help !
Well first off, happy birthday! Mine's in August too. I think the best thing for you to do is talk to him. Call him and be ask him if he had fun the other night. He'll probably say yes, then you should say, "Ok because you've been acting kinda weird lately. Do you still wanna hang out for my birthday tomorrow?" Hopefully he'll say yes (if he doesn't, of course you should discuss it), then you guys can make plans for your birthday. Hopefully things go make to normal. If he acts weird when you hang out for your brithday, ask him if something's wrong, but don't force the issue because he might not might to talk about it. Hope this helps + have a great birthday!
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