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Hey guys :)My name is Megan, I'm 22 years old, and I live in Brownwood, Texas! I am engaged to a wonderful man who just takes my breath away. ;) I'm an EKG Tech and I LOVE my job. I had a column here YEARS ago, but simply cannot remember the log in :)
I really enjoy inspiring others and provoking change. I find solace in providing others with a happier disposition. A single word of praise or a simple well-wish can seriously change how people see themselves. I love it!
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Me and my boyfriend of 2 years broke up, reasons dont matter but i have a question
i blocked him off my sisters facebooks, and i deactivated mine because i didnt want to look childish and delete him or block him, im moving on with my life and im feeling happier, i still love him but im trying to get over that because i dont think its ever gonna workout, my question is.. now hes adding all these girls on facebook and slightly flirting, and i feel like the only way i will ever get over him if it hurts to see stuff on facebook, what do you guys think? maybe im wrong because im curious to wanna go on his stuff.. will it just hurt me more? the curiousty is killing me.. so what should i do? thanks.
The only way to truly get over someone is to have a clean break. That means no contact, no snooping, and try to dodge the curiosity. Jealousy or curiosity on what he is doing is so normal, though. I dated a guy for 3 years, am married to another guy now, and often wonder if my ex has 'moved on' so to speak. I'd be a little miffed to hear if he had a new girlfriend, to be honest.
You're only going to torture yourself if you continue to read his FB and see his communication with other girls. Deactivating your FB was a good move - stay off the social networking sites and go out and have fun!
how do i delete my facebook completely, not deactivate it, i just dont want a facebook at all? thank you :)
You don't.
I posted a question about whether or not I should get an abortion and I decided to do it, thinking it was what I definitely wanted. However, now I feel incredibly depressed and emotionally weak. I don't feel suicidal, I get the occasional thought but I'm trying to keep those thoughts away.
Obviously the main reason for this is the abortion itself - since I had it done, besides the day or two after where I felt relief, I haven't been able to stop thinking about my life with a baby. I feel really selfish and guilty that I gave up the life of something that would have made me happy. I'm only nearly 16 but I keep thinking how happier I would be now if I kept the baby. Maybe I'm just blind to it; I'm feeling kind of empty at the moment...
It isn't generally things such as talking about the abortion with anyone that upsets me - it's usually normal, daily things such as watching TV or seeing parents with young children. Sometimes, it can be kids toys or equipment... Call me weird, but if I look at it, it reminds me of it more.
Now that I've explained the main bit of what's going on, I just want to know how I can stop feeling like this. I feel like a complete freak, if I'm honest. I've only got one friend who's had an abortion and no one else I've spoken to seems to fully understand how serious and difficult it is.
I don't want judgement for my choice to abort, I just need help. Thank you xx
Like you've stated prior, there is no way for anybody to understand what you're going through except those who have gone through it.
I have not.
I can tell you though, that it is something that you'll have to figure out on your own. I cannot imagine the amount of pain or depression you're going through, but take comfort in the fact that you're not alone.
Reflect on the reasons you had the abortion to begin with. Most people, after getting abortions, seem to think about what it would have been like if they'd kept the child, but they always seem to think that it would have been glorious. Raising a happy healthy baby, having a secure life, raising a contributing member of society. That's not always the realistic case, though. Chances are, at 16 with a screaming infant, you wouldn't have been able to finish school. You wouldn't have been able to get an education, and you AND the child would be suffering to make ends meet. To be honest, you probably made the best decision for yourself. I won't tell you my thoughts on abortion, but I can see your reasoning for getting one. You have to think of yourself too, and it's simply not fair for you to struggle so much to raise a baby and therefore make the innocent child suffer as well.
It's probably something you'll never 'get over', but it's not something you have to be depressed about all the time. Show that baby that you'll make something of yourself, despite what you've gone through. Don't just lay down and die burrowed in your self-loathing and depression. That does nothing.
Be proactive about the situation and make something of yourself. Don't let this almost-child's life be in vein.
Best of luck to you!
17/F
My boyfriend and I just aren't working out. We share interests and stuff, but he hardly talks to me and then he apologizes for messaging me too much, when he hardly does at all. I tried to tell him it was fine and I wanted him to talk to me, but he said he just doesn't know what to say. I'm pretty sure he does like me, but he doesn't know how to act. I'm his first girlfriend, I'm assuming.
There's no passion in this at all and I feel like we're strangers whenever we meet. Problem is, I just don't know how to break up with him and ask to still be friends. I've never been good at breaks up and I always waited for the other guy to go first, but I don't think he's going to break up with me any time soon... How can I break up with him and still be friends?
There is no sure fire way to break up with someone without hurting them.
The problems you're having seem pretty superficial. As in, they don't seem very profound or extensive to possibly require a break up.
If you WANT to try and mend the relationship, you could simply get together and tell him you don't feel connected, and you'd like to attempt to change that. Tell him you're feeling neglected, and see what he says.
If you don't want to mend the relationship, BE HONEST. Honesty is always the best option. Always. Tell him you don't feel connected in the boyfriend/girlfriend sense, but you still feel like you could be really good friends.
Good luck :)
Megan
I need help in my english paper i would have to interview people by asking questions, would any of you help? These are the questions that I would have to ask i need different ages to answer
From 25 to 70 Thankyou (please answer in complete sentences and tell me your age and name)
1. What is YOUR idea of "American Dream"?
2. What is your american Dream?
3. Has your dream been fullfilled?
4. How did you achieve it or plan to achieve it?
5. Why did you choose that particular dream?
6.Did any sacrifices have to be made?
7. DId your family get in the way?
I'm 22, my name is Megan.
1 - My idea of the American Dream is to be happy. To be financially stable, to own my own home, and to be raising happy, healthy, contributing members of society while my husband and I bask in our happiness.
2 - (Did you make up these questions, because 1 and 2 are basically the same) See above.
3 - Not completely.
4 - Working hard! I have two jobs now and I'm doing the best I can to help provide for my family.
5 - I didn't 'choose' it. The feelings of what I wanted just came naturally to me.
6 - Absolutely. I moved across the country to be with the man I love, and I miss my parents and siblings TERRIBLY.
7 - Not in the way implied. They 'get in the way' because I miss them so much, and it's been so long since I've seen them.
my friend who is 18 has sex with her 20 year old brother .She told me she instigated it .should i tell her mum
Absolutely!
Hi, i'm 13 and my boyfriend is 17.Me and my boyfriend had sex. It was my first time, but I think i'm pregnant.My boyfriend did some sex moves from a porno magazine and it hurt so much that I was almost crying.I'm to scared to tell my parents that I had sex and that I might be pregnant, they would kill me.What do I do I cant even sleep?Please help me.
You need to take a pregnancy test.
There are some clinics that will give free pregnancy tests without parental notification. You could look that up. Planned Parenthood is one of them.
You should also know that what you're doing is illegal. You're not of age to legally consent to sex. Your boyfriend could be charged with Statutory rape if you continue to have sex. It's illegal. Seriously.
I was recently pregnant. And I had a miscarriage. About a month ago... And my fiance and I have had sex twice since then. Last week, and well, tonight. I was wondering if it was possible to get pregnant so fast again. because my hormones are all over the place. I'm SO horny 24/7 now. And I haven't been this horny, EVER. Like it's constantly on my mind. And I can't stop it from being there. I basically attacked my fiance tonight. We haven't been seeing each other much for the past couple months, but I don't think it's anything to do with it because I was never this way even when we stopped hanging out as much because of his work. Any advice?
Usually, you can't get pregnant again until about 6 weeks after a previous pregnancy. If you don't want to become pregnant, the best method is abstaining from sex, obviously.
If you absolutely can't, then protect yourself! Birth control AND condoms.
Wanting to have sex a lot after your miscarriage is pretty normal. You have so many hormones going on down there. Totally normal. Have fun and enjoy!
My features: I have skinny arms, an ok six-pack, muscular thighs and calves. I play soccer and I was wondering, what is a healthy way to gain weight so I can have muscular arms? I've heard that by eating a lot of meat I gain weight. Is this true?
In order to gain weight, you DO need to eat a lot of protein and carbs. In doing so, you need to extensively work out to turn the 'fat' and 'calories' you're in-taking into muscle and not excess fat.
I'm 13 and this is my friends account she's 18
I always watch lesbian porn and I wanna masturbate but I don't, and idk if I'm a les because I still love guys
If you're sexually attracted to girls outside of porn, then you could be. If you wonder what it would be like to be with a woman - possibly.
It's actually extremely normal for a healthy straight woman to be enticed by Lesbian porn. Seriously. I know a lot of girls who watch it. I think it turns them on so much, because most Lesbian porn is derived of oral sex, and women tend to enjoy oral sex more than penetration.
I don't think you're a Lesbian.
19/f.
I am seeking advice on making some new friends and in mending previous friendships. In the past, I've been really shy and uptight when I meet people, and I feel as though I may come across to new people as being unfriendly...and my old friends don't really ask me to hang out anymore. I miss them and I feel uncomfortable asking them to get together because I am scared of rejection and awkwardness. I do really care about my friends and miss their presence in my life, but I don't know how to show it.
I want to change this perspective that I think people have of me, and I want to make new friends and become close with my old friends again.
It's my second year of college and I commute to classes daily by my car and live at home with my family still. I think I lost a lot of friends when I started becoming serious with my boyfriend last year.
What can I do to reach out to people and be more friendly/confident? I want to show people that I'm not as uptight as I was before.
The only thing you really can do is ask them to hang out. Try and reconnect. If you all have Facebook, you could send them each a message saying how you miss them and you're sorry for neglecting the friendship, and hopefully you can do something together soon. People will be receptive to that kind of thing.
As far as making new friends, people LOVE confidence. You have to figure out how to carry yourself in a confident manner, and not be too shy, but not too outgoing. Just be honest. If you meet a new friend from a mutual friend, get to know them. "Hey, those shoes are really cute, where did you get them?" "What are you majoring in?" "Did you grow up here? It's a pretty cool place to live" etc.
Good luck!
Megan
TuscanSun,
Thanks for you replies.
As the last message stated my wife said we will talk and see what happens which is a posative.
Hopefully I did the correct thing as I replied to her suggesting, not pushing,that she should read online about "Postnatal depression problems with spouse" and a lot of the reading sounds very similar to our situation. I have read alot on this the last few days. This problems can last for periods ranging from 3 months to 5 years or longer. I have never really taken any notice of this until our current problem surfaced.This is probably part of our problem. We never realy talked about it.
I believe I was correct and she should read about it. We need to bring this point out into the open.
I would like my wife to read this before I return so she can understand what might be happenning.
I am hoping this will start the healing process. We need to start somewhere
Thanks
Ray
I hope it starts the healing process too, Ray! Now that you have mentioned the Postnatal depression issue, try and not mention it again until she does. You definitely don't want to push her and make her feel 'crazy'. Best of luck!
So i was using the spray on insulation about 3 weeks ago and got a lot on my nails, i have used everything from gas to sand to nailpolish remover to nailpolish itself and nothing seems to help. Any adivice?
Go to a nail salon. They can buff it off for you.
I posted the above response SIX hours before you said you wanted to do it at home without spending money. Rating is totally unfair.
Last night I had a dream that i saw a green snake in my house. I wasnt scared of it and it didnt harm. It was in my closet then it came down and went down the hallway and then down the steps then I woke up. It seemed pretty weird. Why would I just randomly dream about a green snake. Do you know what it could mean?
The green snake in your closet could mean 'something that doesn't belong' or 'something that isn't right'.
The fact that you're not afraid of it could mean that you're not seeing or noticing danger, trouble, or something wrong. You're ignoring it, or you just simply can't recognize.
To sum it up, I'd say that something or someone in your life isn't right, might be out to cause you harm, and you're choosing to ignore it.
last night, my friend and i went to a party. she only got high but i got drunk. we went home after awhile and i smoked. i felt extremely relaxed and tired so i passed out. around six this morning, i woke up feeling restless so she and i smoked a bowl. i took 4, maybe 5 hits off the bowl and then we tried to go back to sleep. i had my eyes shut for about 15 seconds before i realized something didn't feel right. my eyes and brain felt like they were swelling and my heart beat felt like is was beating at an extremely rapid rate. i sat up and woke up my friend, who proceeded to calm me down until i felt like i could fall asleep. also, before i fell asleep again, she informed me that my heart beat was going at a normal rate, it was just pounding hard. what weirded me out the most was the eye and brain thing. my vision was off, like i was seeing all of my surroundings for the first time, even though i pretty much live at my friend's house.
anyway, i'm officially scared of weed. i'm afraid this might happen again. can anyone tell me what might have happened? could it have been laced?
Is this the first time you've smoked marijuana? I used to smoke it for three years, and when I first smoked it, I had pretty much the same reaction. Marijuana (for me) was usually pretty relaxing. I would stare at a pillow fascinated with it for an hour, even though I have had aforementioned pillow for years. I cannot tell you the effects marijuana has on your brain because I am not a doctor, but as an EKG tech, I can tell you that it DOES speed up your heart rate occasionally.
Also - having a "normal" heart beat but your heart "pounding hard" makes NO sense. If your heart is pounding in your chest, your pulse is racing. It's most likely because you were freaking yourself out.
I wouldn't worry too much about it, but I'd recommend not smoking it anymore. It's not for everyone, and it certainly isn't a good habit to acquire.
It COULD have been laced, but given the information you've given me, I doubt that it was. You have to be careful though. If you're going to continue to use illicit drugs, there is ALWAYS a possibility you're going to get something really messed up. People selling drugs don't care about what happens to their 'clients'. They just want to make money. They can make more money by putting more fillers and less of the actual drug in a product.
Just don't do it.
I just wondered word dear have different meaning?
for instance when american person use it or english person use it do they have idfferent meaning? i just want to know
Yes, the word 'dear' does have two different meanings, but they're spelled differently.
Dear - Is a term of endearment or can be used as en exclamation.
Example: "Dear Laura, how are you?" or "My dear, how I love you."
Exclamation example: "Oh dear! What just happened?!"
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DEER - Is an animal that frequently gets hit by cars on the high way.
Example: "Whoa Joe, did you see that deer over that? Just faceplanted right into a Chevy Impala!"
I'm 13/f,and my boyfriend Derek 16/m and I have been dating for a week and four days.We talk alot,but don't get a chance to see each other,because of our busy schedules.We used to talk everyday,but it's been a week,since the last time we talked.We have time to talk,but we don't.Well,I'll talk to him,and he'll say hi,and he missed me,and I won't hear from him again,unless I talk to him again.I'm really confused.Does he still love me? Should we keep our relationship,or call it quits?Help!!!!!
I hate to be harsh, and I don't want to offend you, but no. He doesn't love you. Both of you are far too young to know anything about the dynamics of love and a sexual relationship. He may 'like' you, and enjoy hanging around you, but he doesn't love you.
Quite frankly, I don't think you're old enough to be dating at all, especially a 16 year old boy. If I were you, I'd wait a few years before I started getting 'serious' with a guy.
Also: If he isn't making contact with you, he likely isn't all that invested in the 'relationship'. Move on.
Recently I have started to become a little relaxed with when I take my tablets. Not on purpose, but I mainly just simply forget, until [sometimes] almost a day later, so, I may end up taking two tablets in one go.
My question, how much are chances of child bearing increased with this messed up routine that I have?
I can't give you a solid number, but I can tell you that birth control is the MOST effective when you take the pill at the exact same time every day. Don't double up if you miss a dose - that will not help you. If you have to, set a reminder on your phone or set an alarm to go off at the same time every day to remind you to take your pill. Even a few hours can through of the hormones from the pill and CAN allow you to get pregnant.
I am a 14 yr old girl going into gr 9 and i have one friend who treats me really badly she went as far as to tells me i was ugly and so was my grad dress.(which she knew i loved) i dont know how much longer i can put up with her abuse (both pyhsical as well as mental) but dont know how a can not be friends with her and still be friends with my other friends, as they will most likly hang out with her.....
Personally, I'd rather have no friends than a friend like that. If you're worried about your other friends abandoning you if you stop being friends with this one girl - wait. She will likely display this behavior to one of your other friends once she doesn't have you to pick on any more. Bullies don't just pick on one person and be completely nice to everyone else. I'm sure she'll victimize someone else and the rest of your friends will realize what kind of person she is.
I would simply ask her why she is so cruel to you. Tell her that friends don't behave like this towards on another, and if she doesn't want to be friends, you're okay with that. If she DOES want to be friends, tell her she needs to alter her behavior because you refuse to deal with her drama.
I know it's easier said than done, but you need to stand up for yourself. Don't let some girl walk all over you and make you feel like dirt. It's about control. She wants to control you and you're letting her by allowing her comments to go unpunished. Speak up.
TuscanSun,
Just an update on what has happened. My wife sent a mail and said we will talk when I get home. She said we will talk and see what happens. This could be a good thing or not. I explained that I had kept many things bottled up inside, after our sons death. I suppose I have never really let out my feelings on this matter. Hopefully when we have our talk I have to put everything on the table. I feel that I have not shown enough affection towards her. I never realy openned up to anyone before. If I am to open up it should be to my wife. I should not be scared about doing this. My wife is very depressed at the moment as well. She also said that she wants to do whats best for the both of us so we do not have regrets in the future. Should I lay everthing on the table or hold back. I am affraid I might say something that will realy push her away from me. I suppose I need to because if I do not I will regret it.
Her wanting to talk is a good thing. That means her decision isn't final, just something she's thinking about. It could be attributed to the fact that she is depressed. This is good news!
You absolutely should hold NOTHING back. That will fix nothing. You need to get everything on the table and let her know exactly how you feel, and she should do the same. Communication is the KEY to marriage. You need to be able to express yourselves openly and honestly to have any sort of long-term relationship.