Hi there.. My name is Kirsten.. I'm 21, I live in a small country town in South Australia, Australia. I love life, I love giving advice to anyone who needs it. I have a boyfriend of 5 years and were very much in lurrve ;) Feel free to ask me anything guys and gals.. thats what i'm here for. If I don't know the answer to your questions i'll try my best to give you what I know.. Have fun, live life to the fullest and ask away... ;) xoxo
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what is the easiest way to commit suicide
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Like anyone is actually going to answer your question and give you 'ideas'
You are obviously seeking attention or some sort of help if you are asking about it. You want people to reply to your question so you can get sympathy.
Go get some help! What ever your going through, it's not the end of the world. There is always someone who is worse off then you are!!
Remember you are always in control of your life and you don't have to be living the way you are. No matter what it is, YOU are able to make decisions to walk away, move to another town, face your problems.
So do it... face your problems!
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I have a friend who I met when I was still with my ex, and we still talk, but he's literally been in and out of my life since we met last winter. I really like him, but it would be a long distance relationship since the college he goes to is almost two hours away. But he used to really like me, now I'm not sure. I understand that he's busy and he is going to be for a long time, and I'm almost fed up with it. I'm really sick and nobody else I know can really help me right now except for him. I'm stubborn so when we talk on the phone he'll ask me what's wrong and I won't tell him because I'm too embarrased(?) no matter what the problem is. The medicene I'm taking really makes my hormones go wild, so now I cry a lot and I think I'm crazy. I lived two months without him and it drove me crazy, so what do I do to fix this the right way? (link)
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FYI... You don't need a guy to get through what your going through...
Have you ever needed one before?? Why do you think you need one right now??
You said it yourself, your tired of waiting. Stop waiting.
You also said that you wont tell him what's wrong when he asks you.. He's NOT a mind reader... TELL HIM!! If you want to be with him, distance relationship or not, you need to be upfront and honest with him and not hide your emotions... you wont get anywhere other wise!!!!
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I'm 17/f and a senior in High School. I'm a quiet person when I'm at school. I like to observe and take in what goes on around me rather than make exclaimatory remarks and be cute and flirty with the people around me. I'm not trying to be vain here but I am at least a decent looking mixed (black and white) human being but it seems that guys only look at me if I wear booty shorts and i fling myself in thier field of vision. I can't compete with these small petite blonde cheerleaders. I just don't want to spend my time in school talking about sex and giggling about things guys say when they aren't funny. I've expressed this before but my friends just say I'm stuck up. What do I have to do to let this 'competition' out of my head? Because I'm so far behind the girls in my school I deserve to be in the special olympics of relationships. (link)
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You seem like you've got your head screwed on right so why catagorise yourself????
Why have you let it come that far that you feel you need to compete with these overrated skinny blonde girls... there is nothing special about them!! They all look the same, dress the same, talk the same... there is nothing to tell them apart.
You.. You are different. If guys can't seem to find that in you then they aren't worth it!!
Your time will come but until then, be yourself, wear what you want to wear, act and speak how you want to, colour your hair the colour you want it to be, choose your own clothes and bags because you like them, not coz everyone around you has the 'coolest' or 'latest' things.
It's not fair to yourself that you think you need to be in some sort catagory for guys to look at you. They will be more enclined to notice you if you look different and act different as compared the tight ass bimbos that SOME, not all SOME cheerleaders are!!
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Is the Swine Flu vaccine available? I heard that the H1N1 virus was going to be a pandemic this winter flu season if we didn't get vaccinated. Well, I want to go get a shot for it so I don't end up sick or, heck, dead from the Swine Flu. Is the vaccine available and out now? Where would I go for the vaccine? (link)
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PLLLEEEAAASEEEE... People...
The Swine Flu is just a bit worse then the normal average cold. It only affects people who are pregnant, the elderly, small children, or someone who already has health complications!!
Yes every is able to catch it but if you are a fit and healthy person you will get over it. I work for 5 doctors and have been exposed to it a number of times and still have not caught it. Plenty of people have had it and get over it.
The MEDIA make things sound much worse. They only say how many people have died from it, they just happen to forget to tell people about the 10 ther medical conditions they also had!!! Nor do they give the public a percentage on how many people have over come the Swine flu.
I'm not saying you shouldn't take precausions but everyone seems to think it is much worse then it really is.
The only protecion the Dr's are using are simple masks... it's not that bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hello! Im 14/f Jimmy's 16:)(lil bit older but age doesnt matter to me♥)Will be long, im sorry.
Okay, well last summer I met this awesome guy, Jimmy, well that day of my life was perfect as it seemed. We have a lot in common, after we met we started talking getting to know each other, i started to like him the same for him, but he didn't understand how much i liked him. I fell for him and he was a awesome guy. He was a player at that time it seemed, he touched me down there when we were in the pool once and i was shocked. I didn't like that. Well, he said he liked me a lot, but i found out that he liked someone else to. At that time, i couldn't handle that. He cuttted me down, and said "Well, if your going to act that way, bye bitch". (sorry for the language)That hurt me and it took me awhile to move on. When i did, i forgot about him i actually despised him, mostly because he dated one of my friends after i he told me that he didnt want to date anyone at that time.So, i was done with his ass. Well, it's the 3rd week of the new school year, and he sends me a pic of himself. I was pissed, haha so i asked him what he wanted, very mean to him. :/ Well, he didnt reply but than the next day i told him hi, we started talking,we sent pics to each other, to see if we changed any. haha he said i did. He was very sweet, and i told him how much he hurt me and he told me that he was very sorry for hurting me. I didn't believe it at that time, but he proved it to me later. He brought up that he still likes me, and i was like WOW this whole time? We met in July?! I was dating someone at that time. When i asked him what he was doing he said this: " thinking". I said "about...?" he replied "U, how i really liked you and let you go, now you have someone. I should have never let you go :'(" (link)
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Hi there..
It is very easy for a guy to say what a girl wants to hear, in your case.. He has said exactly what you wanted to hear.
If I were you, I wouldn't have even considered breaking it off with my current boyfriend because some old crush told you that he loves you! As far as i'm concerned, he hardly knows you are vise versa. What do you really know about this guy other then he touched you when you didn't want him to and he played you like a fool! He embarrassed you!
Imagine how your boyfriend felt. One minute your fine and next, out of the blue, you dumped him!!!! Not cool!! You've just done to him what this other guy did to you!!
Your still very young and have a lot to learn about love and not to mention life in general!!
Personally, my opinion, this guy IS just a player and obviously you were available to talk to when HE felt like it. He may have apologised but who's to say that he wont do it again. He blew it up in your face once, he's more then likely going to do it again. He is older then you and 2 years is a big diference for someone as young as you. By this stage.. he could be ready for sex. Do you want that? Will you be able to say no because he's 'so sweet'
You shouldn't have let your guard down because now he knows he's in.. he's going to get what he can out of you!! Some people just don't change!!
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If it is a sin to feel lustful, wouldn't that cause everyone to be a sinner? No matter if you realize it or not, because lust is a strong sexual desire.. correct? Well, if you guys are like my friends and I, and we talk about boys a lot cause we're lame, you probably have said something like "I would do such bad things to that boy" or whatever, you get my drift. Anyway, wouldn't that be considered lust?, which would be considered a sin?
I know that people masturbating isn't a sin but the lustful thoughts is what makes it one, cause in the bible it's never stated anything about masturbation. When I found this out I just became curious about those things, that's all.. haha. Thank you in advance. (link)
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Everyone believes different things..
In my opinion, it does not hurt anyone to have sexual desires... ITS A PART OF NATURE!
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female/ 16/ senior
So, since the start of July I started to "talk" to this guy. He's 18,and a freshman in college this september. He made it clear that he wasn't sure if he wanted to be in a relationship because he wasn't sure if he was going to meet someone in college. The college is literally 5 minutes away from my house. Anyways, we would text eachother every single day. I liked him alot and I was sooo sure he did too,just that gut instinct. He told me he liked me but he didn't know how much. So all of a sudden, last week; he just stops texting me. Then, when he finally decides to text me, he stops responding to me after 2 texts. So, 2 days ago I decided I don't have time to deal with immature guys. I told him, we should stop talking and he said he didn't want us to stop talking. well it sure seems like he wanted us to. he told me to wait 3 weeks and he would decide what he wants. wtf. no.
What do you think about all of this? Do you think he's playing a game? Or he really doesn't know what he's doing wrong?
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Hi there..
Just a suggestion... Maybe he's met someone and is testing her out, you know, to see if things work out. He's obviously given her a 3 week trial.
I think you should definitely tell this guy that your not all about waiting for when and if he thinks the time is right. I'd have a serious chat with this guy..
Tell him that you feel you are being pulled along and although you are attracted to him you deserve better then what he's given you.
He's definitely not worth it if he can't decide right now if he wants you or not!!
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13/F Well I used to like my best friend but then I didn't and I was in love with my friend Elijah because he is so cute nice smart ect but now I found out when I looked at my best friend that I am like in love with him too. So what should I do? Who should I pick and ps I am much to chicken to tell them so dont tell me that I should tell them (link)
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Just be sure that you aren't getting yourself confused with the meaning love here..
Everyone loves their best friend, some tend to fall in love their best friends and some just have the friendship love.
Sounds like you could have a crush on your best friend but think why that could be.. Do you enjoy his company? His sense of humor? His charm? Or is it because you feel comfortable around him like the only thing thats missing is the affection of a couple would usually share?
You can't love someone because you think they are cute and smart.. how do you know this kid is smart? You may think you love him but what do you know about him? What's his favourite colour? What's his favourite soft drink? Can you answer all those sorts of questions about this guy?? I bet you can if it was your best friend.
At the end of they day its not anyone elses choice but yours and you need to decide on whats best for you!!
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Don't mean to be rude or dirty, i'm just curious.
Why do some women like being licked out?
I am a women but I never been licked out be4 nor do I want to be.
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I guess it's a personal choice, up to the individual. You choose not to be and some choose to be.
Some women feel they are only able to enjoy it that way and some don't feel comfortable at all.
It's definitely a personal choice and it's about what makes that person feel good.
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Hello
My ex and I have broken up almost a year and a half ago and still to this day sometimes I think about him (He was my first and we were together for 5 years) I wonder how he is doing, What he is doing. However, I am very happy engaged to my new boyfriend whom I have been dating for about a year now. How can I STOP thinking about my ex? I don't want to think about him at all. please help (link)
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Hi there..
Your probably not ever going to stop thinking about your ex. You were together for a long time and he was a big part of your life.
I'm sure there were a lot of good times you both had together. Sometimes it's not just the love you loose but it's the friendship and the comfort of that particular person. Whether it be an ex boyfriend, a family member or an old friend whom you've lost contact with.
It's normal, just think about. Your not doing any harm. Don't feel guiltly. Eventually it will go away but in the meantime carry on with your life and if you happen to think about it.. who cares?!
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So I havent been married very long, and my husband knows I hate liers, cheaters, etc. well he lied to me about something. He paied off a house one time and told me he lets his friend live there with her kids. she pays rent the money goes into his sons bank acocunt. well none of its true. he had a house. he gave it away.. why no idea. so heres the problem. how to i know he isnt lieing about other stuff. i am upset about the factg how do i know i can trust him? i dont care about some dumb house. (link)
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Maybe he was trying to impress you. When did he tell you this lie? Before you got married? When you first got together?
How did you find out? Did he tell you or did you come across it?
You need to tell your husband while it's out in the open that your not impressed and your hurt by the lie but don't keep dwelling on it.
It's done now, there's nothing you can do to change what he told you so now would be the time to sit down and ask him if there is anything else he needs to tell you.
Then leave it alone. You love him right? He obviously loves you too.
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This might seem silly but just bare with me. I was good friends with this girl for like 10 months. We've known each other for a really long time but we had just lately become like best friends. Well a few days ago we got in a huge fight for the first time and we're seriously over. This isn't just a fight, we're through. So my question is...do I take down all the pictures of her that I have on my "summer 09" album on myspace? I don't like her anymore, but I can't change my past, you know? I don't know what to do. I have pictures of other people too but mostly of me and her, since we were like best friends. If I leave them she'll probably be annoyed or something. And I really just never wanna see her face again..so should I take them down or not? (link)
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As you said, you can't change your past... I would suggest leaving them there. Perhaps take down the one's of just you are her but leave the group one's up.
The times you had together have a part in who you are today. Even if you do take them all down. Don't get rid of them. You never know what will happen in the future.
You never thought you would have a fight this big to not be friends anymore so therefore you never know if you two will ever become friends again.
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I'm a nanny for two children, ages 3 and 5. I've worked with children ages infant - 10 years old, and I've never seen ANYTHING like these two. They are completely disobedient, they hit me, they call me names, they lie, and they have an EXTREME dependency on their parents. As a nanny, my responsibilty is to wake them in the morning, get them dressed, feed them, brush teeth and hair, and take them to daycare. The father leaves for work before they wake but the mother is still home. The children don't let me anywhere near them without them screaming and throwing a fit and wanting mommy. I've tried everything I can: fun activities, secrets, codenames, I bought them fish because they wanted pets, presents, treating them like friends, being the "adult". I've tried everything I can think of! Please, any ideas on how to get these children to become somewhat civilized? (link)
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You could try a few options. One, speak to the mother about their behaviour. I know this could be quiet awkward as she is paying you to care for her children but you have every right to speak to her or her husband in regards to any issues.
Be firm with the children. They obviously think they are allowed to do what they want, when they want. You need to put a stop to this. Let them know that you are the adult and they are the children. Not the other way around.
They think they have some advantage over you as it is 'their house' they'll do what 'they want'
How does the mother react to all of this? You mentioned she was still in the house. If she is willing to work with you on this then perhaps you could suggest that she step out of the house while you try to maintain the children.
Fun activities, secrets, codenames and presents are only showing them that they can do what they want and be treated for it.
Give them presents when they deserve it.. not bribe them with present. If they hit you, they need to be punished. Privelages taken away.
As I said, you really need to talk to their parents. Learn what your boundries are so you don't go over board with the children. They obviously don't have any authority within the household so therefore the children act up.
Also, did you ever consider the children could have a bad behaviour disorder? ADHD? Attention seeking disorder? Just monitor and consider taking it up with their parents.
Good luck, stay strong with them.
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Me and my boyfriend have been dating an amazing 2 years. i love him so much and am horrible at picking out gifts...so i was hoping you could help me. i dont want to give him something ive gotten him already and i want it to be something that remdinds him of us not just s shirt or something.
ive gotten him- (stuffed animals, Picture frame w/our picture, made him a blanket, clothes...and other things i cant think of.)
i havent given him a photo album or anything because we dont take any pictures we maybe have 2 and then some prom ones....but i was thinking of giving him a small one and saying we are to have this filled up by the end of the year ((to make him want to take pictures)) we need memories like that.
please help with another idea and tell me if that idea is dumb!.
thanks i really appreciate any answers...none inappropriate.
give me another cheap idea to put with it if you can think of anything. :)
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Why don't you make him a scrapbook. Doesn't necessarily have to have pictures of the two of you but things that remind you of each other.
Such as fav drink
fav band
fav clothing brand
fav movie
any movie ticket etc....
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I feel that my friendly advances sometimes scare people off. You know, like: why is this girl talking to me? What does she want? I'm afraid to talk to, for instance, the guy I have a crush on because when I have, he seems... weirded out. I'm not staring at him or asking odd questions; I don't know what I'm doing! Either people I don't know well always seem weirded out or as if they're laughing at me. Why is this?? (link)
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Sometimes approaching people who you don't know really well can be annoying for others.
I think it's good that you are able to approach people but maybe try to be suttle about it.
What you may not think is weird, other could. Unfortunately it's a fact of life and not all people are nice!!
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How do you take a whoopin? (link)
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You.. my friend.. don't have to take a whoopin from anyone. No one has a right to hit you!!!
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weird question..is it possible to have a late period if you passed out a few days before its supposed to start??( i had blood drawn as part of a physical)i missed my period this month and was wondering if it got messed up from that experience or worst case scenerio.. i'm pregnant?? i am sexually active but always practice safe sex. (link)
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This is possible because your body went through the stress of fainting. However, it's not likely.
Although you may practice safe sex, it could be possible that the condom broke ?? Get a home pregnancy test just be 100% sure. If the problem reoccurs then I would suggest to make an appointment with your GP.
Goodluck :)
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i got my belly button peirced about three weeks ago and its still really sore, and theres this liquidy stuff that i have to clean out every morning. how long does it take to heal? and do you think it could possibly be infected? thank you(: (link)
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Hi there
If you wish to help the healing process of your belly button piercing, wash it twice per day. However, over cleansing can interfere with your body’s natural ability to fight off infection.
That is why you should always sanitize your hands before touching your belly button ring. You can apply a diluted salt solution to your piercing for five minutes in order to soak off dried material.
After that, clean with soap that contains antibacterial properties and rotate it through the piercing for approximately one minute. Rinse your piercing thoroughly and make sure no traces of soap are left, and then pat it dry.
A completely healed belly button piercing can take up to one and a half years, and it can be difficult to heal.
This is due to exposure to poorly chlorinated waters. In addition, clothing and sweat can irritate the piercing as well. Factors that can slow the healing process include poor quality jewelry, stress, and illness, lack of proper care, or a poor diet.
If not cared for properly, a belly button piercing can take up to two years to heal and is an easy target for recurring infections.
If you belly button has puss around it or you are feeling uncomfortable, then I would suggest to make an appointment with your GP. You may require antibiotics to clear up any infections you may have occured.
Hope I helped :)
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I had my period in April, I skipped my period in May. It's an irregular cycle. I'm not pregnant. Is it normal? Will I have a regular period this month? Becuase of the irregular cycle/skip of period; Do a woman have to go to the doctor? (link)
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Hi there... If you haven't had your period very long then yes it can be normal. It could still be adjusting to your body.
If however, if you have had your period for a while and you seem to be skipping periods then perhaps you should see a GP.
There could be a number of reasons as to why you skipped your period though.
- Stress
- Exercise
- Pregnancy
- Irregular Cycle
If your wanting a regular cycle then the contraceptive pill would be the best option. Although it's a contraceptive method, it's not always used for contraception.
Hope I helped :)
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ok so i really like this boy and he wants to do stuff with me and i dont know what to do...i mean i want to do stuff with him but the furthest ive gone is makeout and i dont know what to do....PLEASE HELP!!!! (link)
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Ok well this is entirely up to you. If you are ready emotionally to go to the next level with this boy then by all means.. go for it.
However, if you do not feel comfortable or ready then you need to tell this boy. No one can force you into this, this is totally your choice!!
If he can't handle that your not ready then he's not the right one for you to be doing this with.
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