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Losing the "Competition"
I'm 17/f and a senior in High School. I'm a quiet person when I'm at school. I like to observe and take in what goes on around me rather than make exclaimatory remarks and be cute and flirty with the people around me. I'm not trying to be vain here but I am at least a decent looking mixed (black and white) human being but it seems that guys only look at me if I wear booty shorts and i fling myself in thier field of vision. I can't compete with these small petite blonde cheerleaders. I just don't want to spend my time in school talking about sex and giggling about things guys say when they aren't funny. I've expressed this before but my friends just say I'm stuck up. What do I have to do to let this 'competition' out of my head? Because I'm so far behind the girls in my school I deserve to be in the special olympics of relationships.
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Honestly i'd say true to yourself! Don't give in to be like the other girls and be yourself. You sound very mature in the way you talk about this and don't expect alot of people your age to understand this..but sometimes mature people find themselves amongst alot of immature people and it can be hard. I understand how you're feeling when you say "i like to observe and take in what goes on around me." I too am like that in life..and i sometimes feel frustrated seeing all these "relationships going on around me" but in that i fail to look at the few but very deep relationships i have had. Stick with it and im sure when you hit college..yo milkshake goin to be bringn all the boys to the yard! Haha but seriously be patient! :)
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that is good that you arent like "blond cheerleaders" because most of them are trashy and have alot of guys at their side at the same time.
you sound like the kind of girl who is really pretty, but very classy. which is attractive. Im a boy btw :)
guys like classy girls, especially me :)
it may seem like those other girls are getting all the attention because they are confident. which is good, but they might also be horny and trashy, which can only attract a guy who is looking for a "hook up"
focus on one boy, or one thing, dont get caught up with competition. you are doing the right thing. trust me.
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You seem like you've got your head screwed on right so why catagorise yourself????
Why have you let it come that far that you feel you need to compete with these overrated skinny blonde girls... there is nothing special about them!! They all look the same, dress the same, talk the same... there is nothing to tell them apart.
You.. You are different. If guys can't seem to find that in you then they aren't worth it!!
Your time will come but until then, be yourself, wear what you want to wear, act and speak how you want to, colour your hair the colour you want it to be, choose your own clothes and bags because you like them, not coz everyone around you has the 'coolest' or 'latest' things.
It's not fair to yourself that you think you need to be in some sort catagory for guys to look at you. They will be more enclined to notice you if you look different and act different as compared the tight ass bimbos that SOME, not all SOME cheerleaders are!!
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