When it comes to relationships I've been through a lot. I used to be so desperate to be in one I'd get myself in the worst situations, but no matter how bad things were I got through them and now I'm in a loving, caring relationship and have been for almost two years.
I like to give honest, blunt advice and I won't write a book for an answer that can be summed up in two lines! I don't care about my rating, so I'll tell you the truth rather than what you want to hear. So if you don't like the harsh reality of what I'm going to tell you don't ask me private questions.
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Age: 20
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16/f and I'm just very self concsious about my..ears. Theyre really..too big. People even tell me. I think I get them from my dad. I dont know. But its not like they stick out, the whole entire thing is just..big. Theyre about a centimetre away from being..3 inches. I used to be called dumbo when i was little and earrings always took bad on me. I dont want to get plastic surgery haha. But i just dont know what to do about me feeling so embarassed about them. I know that they are big becase people tell me..and pretty much the fact that theyre almost 3 inches long. What should i do? (link)
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Grow your hair out and wear it down to cover them.
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I would like to know how to stop my boyfriend from always grabbing me in the wrong places? (link)
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Tell him firmly to stop. Or if you're not good with communication, kick him in the privates every time he does it - he'll get the hint!
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OK, heres the context. My girlfriend and I are dry humping. I have my pants unzipped with boxerbriefs underneath and shes wearing shorts with underwear underneath. As we usually do, we stop far short of either of us cumming, but she noticed a small wet spot on my boxer briefs. I identify it immediately as pre-cum and shrug it off. But she starts to panic a bit seeing as how its within the week period before her cycle and the chances of her getting pregnant are higher than usual. I've tried to console her telling here there is no chance that the amount of sperm could permeate through 3 layers of clothing and make it in to fertilize her, but she has doubts. Can someone please verify what i think which is the chances of this are so close to zero its not worth thinking about? (link)
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You're right. People worry about that far too much.
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Hey Im making a CD to go with my friends birthday presents with a song by each of her fave bands, I listen to most of them but not Nirvana, can someone tell me the best Nirvana song in thier opinion....thanks xx (link)
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Smells Like Teen Spirit. Or Heart Shaped Box is another good one.
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Well, about 3 weeks ago, me and my girl mates met these 4 boys at a fair, and were haning out with them all the time while we were there, they seemed to like us.
The week after we had all arranged to meet in town for lunch and shopping.
Last weekend we went to the cinema with them.
Its good because we're all hanging out together, and beginning to be good mates, it's just I was wondering what else we could do with them? Cos we want to keep hanging out with them and we dont wanna keep on doing the same old same old.
Also, I wondered if we need to hang out with them every weekend to stay mates with them? And i fancy one of them, do you think its good that I hang out with him every weekend?
Or would he prefer it if i played it cool? (guys can answer those last 2 questions please)
If it helps, I'm 13, and my mates (the boys and girls) are 12/13/14.
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You're thinking about this far too much. Just take things as they happen. And yes, I do think it's a good idea to hang out wth them every weekend if you like him, but still play it cool.
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here's a conversaiton with me and a guy...:D do you think he likes me cause im just wondering...i dont like him just as a friend but i wanna know =) and yeah I'm evilDevil812a and the guy is sonofdeath66
sonofdeath66: hi , it's me .. i wanted to ask you
if you like to come over to my house tomorrow to pratice for the song you know...
evilDevil812a: sorry , i would like to but i'm grounded for this weekend :(
sonofdeath66: oh..shit maby on monday after school?
evilDevil812a: yeah sure , but dont you wanna ask alex if he also likes to come cause we need to pratice together and he's playing the drums right?
sonofdeath66: .....yeah i can ask him
evilDevil812a: do you like green day?
sonofdeath66: yeah do you?
evilDevil812a: yeah i loove green day =) oh yeah i also should say "hi" from gloria you know my friend in london..
sonofdeath66: is she a good friend of yours
evilDevil812a: yeah she's my best friend
sonofdeath66: who's your best friend here???
evilDevil812a: i dont have that many friends here =/
sonofdeath66: that sucks i cant live without friends :) would you say where friends??
evilDevil812a: yeah
sonofdeath66: thx
evilDevil812a: no problem :-D soooo whats your fav. song of green day?
sonofdeath66: uhh holiday ..... can i ask you something????
evilDevil812a: yeah?
sonofdeath66: do you like some1?
evilDevil812a: what do you mean?
sonofdeath66: you know.....like , like...
evilDevil812a: oh uhm i'm not sure
sonofdeath66: who are you not sure about??
evilDevil812a: why do you wanna know so bad?
sonofdeath66: haha im just wondering is he in your class??
evilDevil812a: no!!!
sonofdeath66: in mine?
evilDevil812a: no...
sonofdeath66: so he's in 8th grade right?
evilDevil812a: maby
sonofdeath66: is it michael?
evilDevil812a: what michael ?
sonofdeath66: oh come on!!
evilDevil812a: why do you think i like him?
sonofdeath66: cause i see the way you look at him
evilDevil812a: oh how do i look at him??
sonofdeath66: well i dont know u never smile or something , but i can see it in your eyes
evilDevil812a: oh..
sonofdeath66: so do you like him?
evilDevil812a: no
sonofdeath66: you dont trust me right? come on you can really tell me im not gonna tell somebody and y would i lie to you?
evilDevil812a: i dont like him!!!!
sonofdeath66: well if you want , i can ask him if he wants to play holiday with us maby that way you'll become friends again.
evilDevil812a: we never were friends and how did you know we where fighting?
sonofdeath66: i just know =)
evilDevil812a: why dont you care more about sarah?
sonofdeath66: what about her?
evilDevil812a: she's your gf
sonofdeath66: yeah only because she wanted that so desperately
evilDevil812a: you dont like her?
sonofdeath66: not really..
sonofdeath66: she's getting on my nervs
evilDevil812a: dude ur cheating on her
sonofdeath66: okay im gonna brake up with her monday anyways
evilDevil812a: sorry i have to go
sonofdeath66: ok bye sweet dreams
evilDevil812a: thanks bye!
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Yes. But you really didn't need to post the whole conversation.
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I'm not really depressed but ...................
Late at night (well not really late, just about midnight) at the weekends when I'm still up, for some reason I start to feel really sad, like i'm useless, and there is no point in living, not like I feel suicidal, I just think that my life is crap and pointless.
I don't know why, as usually, in the day, I think my life is quite good, I think I'm lucky, and this even happens on days that have been really great.
Why is this? Is it just because I'm tired, or is it more than that?
And how can I stop feeliong like this when its late?
(by the way, I dont get this feeling if I'm partying or with my friends late at night, only when I'm on my own, and I'm not doing much.
If it helps I'm 13/f. (link)
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Go to bed earlier, so you don't get to that point. It happens to a lot of people.
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I dont know why, but I have rediculously flabby underarms. It's like there's so much extra skin in my armpit. It looks really really bad with dresses. Is there any kind of exercise I can do to get rid of it. (link)
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Lifting weights will help tine them up.
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me n a boy had been talking and started liking each other then we made out at a bep cocnert and he won't answer my im or text or calls of anything.. what should I do and what did i do to push him away? (link)
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He's probably just shy/embarrassed, and maybe he doesn't like you anymore and it's easier for him just to ignore you than to talk. See him face to face so he can't ignore you.
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Well, the other day me and 3 of my girl mates were out in town and had been to the cinema with 4 of the really cool guys at school. I was quite surprised that they liked hanging out with us cos we're not popular. We're not unpopular, we're just sort of ..... normal.
Anyway, it was after the film and we were all just hanging out in town and it was all going well, until tons of the popular girls from school turned up.
3 of the guys ditched us (the other one wanted to stay hanging out with us) and went off with the cool girls.
Its just, how can i be like them?
Like, they're just so ...... effortlessly cool, if you know what I mean?
All the popular girls dont have to do anything, they just seem so casual, and they dont go after the guys or anything.
How can I be like that?
Please dont say be myself cos if i was totally myself then I would act really weird. If you're popular and you do anything strange then everyone laughs with you.
If you're unpopular and you do anything just slightly strange then everyone looks at you like you're a total weirdo.
I know you're probably thinking that I shouldnt bother with these guys, or being like the cool people cos they dont seem very nice, but i'd just really like to be so effortlessly cool.
So, how can i be like that, effortlessly cool?
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Those girls aren't effortlessly cool, they just seem that way to people on the outside. Really they have their insecurites and problems like everyone else.
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16/f.the other day i went on the elliptical for 30 minutes, (which i havent done in a while) its 3 days later and my arms are killing me! what are some ways i can stretch them out and help them feel better? (link)
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That's your muscles because they're not used to the exercise. Heat usually soothes aching muscles. You can get cream that heats itself up and soothes them. In future try doing warm ups before you do that kind of exercise.
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Well I've been in a relationship for about 9 months now on-and-off. It's been amazing, but alot has happened. I love his family to death and they all love me, and I love my bf too. But he one dumped me for another girl, but two weeks later got me back. After that we swore to be honest with eacother. I felt that I couldn't trust him so we broke up again. I stayed single for about a month and a half after that, and no guy felt right. I love him and I knew it so I decided I should've stayed with him. So we got back together again. After a week of dating him again, he left to go to work out of state for Spring break, while I stayed here. I ended up partying alot and making out with another guy. I told the guy I didn't have a bf. Well when he got back he heard rumors that I had cheated on him, and I said they were all lies and denied all the accusations. In my mind, I felt like I was getting him back for what he put me through when he dumped me for the other girl.
Well then after three weeks of us being back together, we started fighting really bad, mostly because I felt really bad for cheating and was stressed because I couldn't tell him about it. Well he blew me off one day to go out of town with his friends. He told me they were out skating all night, but I knew he was lying. He kept ignoring my call, and when he finally did pick up I heard a girl in the background.
Well when he got back the next day he was acting all sweet to me. Then later this prank caller kept blowing up his phone, so finally I answered it and the caller said that my bf had cheated on me with her friend at a college party the night before. I asked her the girl's name and then told the girl to have her friend call me. Her friend did and explained that she had a bf and he told her he wasn't dating anyone at the time. He never drinks, but that night he got trashed (about 20 shots of Southern Comfort) and they ended up making out. He kept denying it when I asked him about it, and told me I could ask his friends.
His friends kept saying he was at the skate park over the speaker phone, because they knew he was listening, but then I called them when he wasn't around and they told me that they all went to a party and that he was just lying because he was drunk and doesn't want me to dump him over it. Well he came in the room while I was talking to them on the phone, and I put them on speaker phone asked them again where they went, and they told me agian that they went to a party. After I got off the phone, my bf started to cry hysterically and told me what happened. I started crying too and let him know how I had lied to him too. We decided to stay together and start over fresh, no lies, no more cheating, and no more shit behind eachother's backs.
Well my question is this:
Do you think it is worth staying together after we both cheated on eachother?
And if so, what can we both do to help eachother get over what we both did and focus on making this right again? (link)
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No. On and off relationships never work out in the end. Maybe you could make it work if this was the first time one of you had cheated, but this happened before, and it's going to happen again. Relationships aren't about childish games like kissing someone to get back at your boyfriend dumping you for another girl they're about working through those things. Two wrongs don't make a right. How can this work when neither of you are trustworthy and you both lie to eachother? You both need to grow up before any of you can make it in a serious relationship.
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my skin WAS usually somewhat clear...i had some acne, but nothing bad. well, i decided to take care of the acne i had and get rid of it. my acne is just WORSE now. the products i have used recently are Nature's Cure for Females, over the counter benzoyl peroxide by neutrogena, and makeup by Lancome Paris to cover. I am not sure which one of these is the culprit? How can stuf thats supposed to get rid of acne be making me break out TONS...please give me some tips on a skin care regimen that WONT make me break out and that will help me clear up my acne!!! (link)
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Neutrogena products always make my skin and hair look awful. Most people I know agree. Acne takes a while to clear and a lot of work, so don't just expect it to clear up straight away. Sometimes it does get worse before it gets better. I recommend using a good, unscened, facial scrub everyday, going on the sunbeds and seeing your doctor about taking a contraceptive that helps with acne.
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Ok, this is a pretty unique situation, I doubt someone's been in it before, but here we go:
my friends G (a boy) and K (a girl) are friends from college, who I hang out with occasionally and we always hang out in between classes and stuff because we all have the same major. So we are not best friends, but we are pretty good friends.
well, G and K had a thing for each other... they have been very good friends for about a year and a half, and officially dated for about a week... lol although they acted like a couple the whole time they've known each other (minus the physical stuff). The reason they didn't actually date is because G (the guy) changed his mind and decided to keep the friendship. Well since then, things are a little weird between them... they still talk and hang out, but there is tension at times.
Well, this summer G is going to the beach with his family and has invited me to go with him (just as friends of course). He isn't inviting K even though he is better friends with her, because things are akward between them like I said. We are just concerned that K will be hurt or mad at me if I go to the beach with him. She knows we are just good friends, but usually when we hang out, it's all 3 of us. what do you think? Should I ask her about it and see how she feels? Or should I just not go at all? How should I ask her anyway?
G has already said she doesn't care how she reacts because they have a "messed up relationship anyway" so he said it's all up to me and how I feel about it. I'm 20/f by the way! thanks!! :) (link)
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It sounds like you want to go, and if that's true I think you should. You won't be doing anything wrong. It's not your fault K didn't get invited, and it'd be a shame for you to miss out on a good time. Wouldn't K go if she was in your position, I know I would and so would all my friends.
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Whenever someone cums in me it stings. It stings so bad I feel like I can't stand it anymore and I need to stick an icecube up there or something. someone told me this happens to some people. Is that true? and Why does it do this? (link)
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I know the feeling! It's almost unbearable. That happened to me with my ex. I think it happens when your not turned on enough, so it causes too much friction and makes it a little sore, then when he cums it makes it sting. Try having more foreplay before you have sex.
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I split up with my sons father about 4 yrs ago and have always let my son go and stay with him on a saturday night. He is not a good role model. He has verbally abused me badly in front of my son, tells my son that i dont love him any more and that its my fault we cant be a proper family. He is unclean and unkempt, doesnt have a job and not really any morals but my son says he loves him. He comes back unclean, tired, argumentative, agitated, naughty, tearful and keeps having little 'accidents' in his pants. I am currently taking my ex to court for harassing me over the last 4 yrs and my son has seen the police come round to discuss it but is always in another room. Twice when i've asked my son (when he's playing up) if he's worried about anything and he has said hes worried his fathers been arrested and hes worried about when hes gonna see his dad again, if at all. I have assured him that his father wasnt arrested and wasnt in trouble but that the police wanted to talk to him about a silly thing he'd done. I have told him he is not to worry because he will continue seeing his dad every saturday as usual.
My question is... am i doing the right thing keeping him in touch with his dad when he comes home like that or would it be better for my son to not have him in his life and let him decide whether or not he wants him in his life when he is older?? If i do stop him seeing his dad, what do i tell him?? My son is 5 in a couple of weeks, we live with my partner of 1 year who is 32 and i am 31. My son kept asking to call him dad so in the end we agreed. I would be grateful for any advice on this matter as i just dont know what to do for the best anymore. I always thought it was better for my son to have contact with his real father but i am now beginning to wonder. Thanks for taking the time to read my (somewhat long) query. :-( (link)
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It's never a good idea to stop a child seeing his father, especially if it's against the childs wishes. He'll end up resenting yu for it. Perhaps instead of letting him stay over at his fathers his father could just have him during the day? And if possible why don't you try supervised visits so you know exactly what your sons father is saying/doing. Kids pick up on and understand more than people realise, so even if your son is in another room when you're talking about his father be sure that he can't hear. When your son is old enough to understand he'll probably realise what a loser his father is.
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So my boobs have been itchy lately and I messed around with this guy that I just met but we don't have sex we just dry hump and the last night we messed around we dry humped with his boxers off and my under wear on?? So I didn't know if that was okay as long as he didnt stick it in me or he didnt blow.. I'm a really paranoid person so I am glad I found advicenators.com instead of asking my friends sometimes because most of them are sexually active and look at me funny. (link)
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You have nothing to worry about.
As for the itchy boobs, maybe you're due on your period, or they're growing or it could be the material of your bra or the washing powder your mom uses? I don't think it's anything serious but if you're really concerned go to your doctor.
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There is a guy who likes me as more then friend and i told him i liked him to but now im not so sure. What should i do? (link)
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Tell him you'd rather just stay friends for now though.
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can i be pregnant if i had sex one day after my period ended?
i'm age is 18 and i'ma female (link)
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Yes it's possible. A person usually ovulates between day 9 and day 15 of their cycle (day 1 starting when bleeding begins). But some people can be different, you never know when you're most fertile. If you had sex in the last 5 days go and get the morning after pill, and in future use protection!
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I had been with mah ex for about 7 months. Yeah, i know it doesn't seem like alot but it was long distance because he moved like across the freaking U.S.A. Well, he broke up with me because he SAID he met some other girl at tha mall. My friend told me he was going out with my other friend who didn't leave near him either. I was so pissed of that it had to be my good friend. Anyway, the only way i keep in touch with him is over the internet or sometimes phone. Before he broke up with me, we lost weren't in touch with each other because my internet broke && i forgot his number... i don`t know why he didn`t call me.. My point ;; i miss him so much && i can't get over him. I cry over him all the time && he never talks to me anymore.. last thing he said to me was i love u. wtf.. what do you think i should do? Should i tell him how i feel, bitch at him, or never talk to him again?... =[ please help. (link)
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It sounds like this relationship was over long before you knew it. For a long distance relationship to work you have to see eachother from time to time, even then they hardly ever work. He was over it long before you broke up... seeing other people behind your back, not bothering to call, etc. He doesn't love you, people in love don't act like that, he obviously doesn't know what love is.
I think you should just stop talking to him/contacting him. Out of sight is out of mind. Don't bitch at him because it'll only show him that you're still hurting over him. Don't tell him how you feel because there's no point. The best thing for you to do it forget about him and move on.
Find yourself a new boyfriend, or keep yourself busy by going out with friends or getting a new hobbie, so you don't have any time to think about him. And as for the "friend" that was seeing your ex, I hope you're not still friends with her because you don't need people like that as friends.
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