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I had been with mah ex for about 7 months. Yeah, i know it doesn't seem like alot but it was long distance because he moved like across the freaking U.S.A. Well, he broke up with me because he SAID he met some other girl at tha mall. My friend told me he was going out with my other friend who didn't leave near him either. I was so pissed of that it had to be my good friend. Anyway, the only way i keep in touch with him is over the internet or sometimes phone. Before he broke up with me, we lost weren't in touch with each other because my internet broke && i forgot his number... i don`t know why he didn`t call me.. My point ;; i miss him so much && i can't get over him. I cry over him all the time && he never talks to me anymore.. last thing he said to me was i love u. wtf.. what do you think i should do? Should i tell him how i feel, bitch at him, or never talk to him again?... =[ please help.
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It sounds like this relationship was over long before you knew it. For a long distance relationship to work you have to see eachother from time to time, even then they hardly ever work. He was over it long before you broke up... seeing other people behind your back, not bothering to call, etc. He doesn't love you, people in love don't act like that, he obviously doesn't know what love is.
I think you should just stop talking to him/contacting him. Out of sight is out of mind. Don't bitch at him because it'll only show him that you're still hurting over him. Don't tell him how you feel because there's no point. The best thing for you to do it forget about him and move on.
Find yourself a new boyfriend, or keep yourself busy by going out with friends or getting a new hobbie, so you don't have any time to think about him. And as for the "friend" that was seeing your ex, I hope you're not still friends with her because you don't need people like that as friends.
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I know that you are probably really upset about this break-up of 7 months, but you can get over him. It won't be in a matter of days, but it can be done.
The point is that it is over. So, you shouldn't try to contact him or yell at him because you both aren't together anymore. He would probably hang up anyway. Plus, you both really need time apart. Break-ups require tons of time away from each other because it needs to be healed and done with.
As for getting by with these sad feelings about this guy, take it easy. Take things one day and one moment at a time. Soon you'll realize after a few days of doing your own thing that you are really ok without him. If you both just stayed in contact as friends, you'll never get over him because you'd be still talking to him everyday. It's just torturing yourself when you talk to him when you are both are just broken up. Take it easy and try to keep busy at the same time. When you are just laying down and doing nothing, turn on your TV and do some sit-ups while watching it. Excersizing can really ease sad feelings away.
Long distance relationships are pretty hard to work through. They aren't impossible, but they require some tough work.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, he was going out with you for 7 months, met a girl at the mall and broke up with you. Ahem... Pardon me but WTF??!!
I know how you feel. Been there, done that. My ex left me for my best friend. Very pissing off and i was very angry. And you have all the right to be angry.
But i believe everything happens for a reason. No matter how good or bad a relationship turns out, both party is responsible. Don't know if you'll agree, but i believe in looking for the cause. And i don't mean the fact that he found another girl.
Yes, i still like the guy a lot and after being angry for some time, i started thinking if it was really all his fault that our relationship ended. I figured it was only fair to see it rationally.
Yes, it is easy to see it as he ended the relationship when he met a girl at the mall. But look at it this way, it might be the easiest way for him to tell you and let go of the relationship. Or he could be just a jerk to play you out like that. You'll have to find out. Talk to him once you've gotten over the break up.
As for yourself, look back and rationally see what happened during the relationship. Sometimes we make mistakes without knowing them. And it is definitely not the guys fault if he didn't tell you what was wrong. Most guys just don't want to hurt you by saying, "Hey, you did something wrong. I don't like it."
Get an objective view of everything. It'll be easier to get over things when you know what really happened.
I think the both of you still love each other. Sometimes it is better off for two people to be the best of friends and not a couple.
In the end, if all turns out well, you'll both gain a friendship and probably make it stronger because you've understood each other more. Try to forgive and not resent.
I am sure you are still young. Whatever the reasons that ended this relationship, take it as a stepping stone and learn from this experience.
I know this might be too much to absorb or too complicated to think about. Just take it one step at a time. There IS no easy way to a relationship problem.
Good luck!
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