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What does it mean for my boyfriend to say I am too emotionally immature for sex? I don't act immature at all. I'm more mature than he is around people. Why'd he say that
He might just think you're not ready, especially if you and your boyfriend are at a very young age. Maybe your relationship isn't ready to move to that level. He might just be teasing you as well. If he's telling you to wait, ask why. You'll never fully know if you don't ask.
Every time I ask "mom, can I get gauges" she always yells "NO"!!!! If I ask "why not" all she says is "because I said no". If you are going to ask....... I'm 13 years old...... and please don't say I'm too young.... I have thought long and had about this,and have decided that I really want them. I know everything I need to know about them, like how to clean them, and take care of them so they won't get infected. I don't really want big ones..... like a 12 gauge?? Or mabeye a little bigger?? But not too big. So please, how can I convince her to let me get them??
If you're going to get gauges, you should get real gauges! Anything under 00 is a disgrace to plugs. Everyone is getting them, especially little kids that complain about the pain. I'm not bagging on you 'cause of your age but I will tell you, if you need to ask permission to get them and are very worried about your mom then just don't get them. You could defy your moms words, which is usually what everyone does to get them at your age. I was 16 when I got mine, I'm now going to be 18 in October and I'm now at an inch. I'm going to get up to an 1" 1/8 very pretty. My parents didn't like 'em but no one really does, no one will understand why people do any sort of body mod, just do what you like. So as they say it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission. A few things to know it does hurt but pain is all bout mental thinking, they smell if you don't clean 'em. Don't use tapers, they can blow out your ears easily, lubricate 'em before stretching people say not to skip sizes, but I did a lot actually, you can usually skip all the small sissy sizes up to 3/4. Big ones are awesome! If you're going to get plugs get to a big size, I'd say 3/4 is decent. But it's still very small.
Good luck and happy gauging!
Hey, 23/f here. The guy in question is my age.
I hate myself for even letting this be an issue, but it is. My ex, who I had to leave about a year ago because he physically abused me, was a better kisser. Like, he kissed me the way I always dreamed my "prince charming" would, and it was heaven, and I hate him for it. I used to feel like I could do nothing but kiss him forever and I'd be happy. For some reason, kissing has always been a huge, huge thing for me, and I can't get past it.
This new guy (who I've been seeing for a month or so (but we have a history; he's an old friend from high school)) is incredible - he's sweet, he's funny, he's understanding, he's not jealous, he's gentle, he's intelligent...he's just not as good a kisser.
I've never been in a position where I had to improve a guy's technique, so to speak...and if I ever was, it used to be a dealbreaker for me. I kind of feel like I'm never going to have the feelings that I had with my ex again as far as the kissing goes, but I feel like this guy could at least be a little better...Maybe it's selfish of me, but I want to enjoy kissing this guy more. I can't even quite put my finger on what it is that bothers me...Lips aren't too stiff, he doesn't use too much tongue...nothing like that.
Part of it is probably that he has some facial hair, which pokes me a little...but he does winter sports and that helps keep his face warm, lol, so I don't want to ask him to get rid of it...besides, it's cute on him.
How do I improve his kissing technique without directly teaching him? Without insulting him, or anything?
Any tips, I imagine, could be helpful. Thanks! :)
I don't even think your ex is an issue. What the problem really is, is you're not getting a feeling of satisfaction from your partner. Telling him you don't like the way he kisses you will hurt his ego, so you should use your flirtatious girl power and trick him into slowly learning what you like. For example when you're cuddling together kiss him but very softly and gently on the corner of his mouth, then pull away and smile. He should initially follow and you can start this sort of kissing game, let him know what you like with subtle moans. And if he does something wrong punish him, like a light smack. It's like foreplay! (;
Good luck
Do it make your sex partner feel better if u moan alot
You should never fake anything during sex, otherwise you'll never let your partner know what you really like. But to answer you question, yes it will probably make him feel like he's satisfying you, even if he's not.
So lately I've been having a lot of body pain in different places pretty much daily. Yesterday and today right below my left breast has been having a slight sharp pain. It's not too painful but it worries me. It doesn't hurt constantly but every once in a while through out the day it has been. Also in the pervious week my butt and lower back have been very sore although that went away when my heart started hurting. It's like something new hurts every couple days and I don't know the reasoning as to why..
I started my period in sixth grade, and I haven't been working out just doing things pretty much the same.
That could be a number of things, especially if you're over or underweight, you best bet is to tell your mother, father, guardian, whoever is in charge of you what you've been feeling and for how long. Have them make an appointment with your pediatrician and tell them exactly what you've felt and are feeling. Get better soon.
I'm 13/f,and I always get told I'm a great actor and have a great singing voice.I've sung in front of big groups of people three times.And i've acted in front of thousands of people twice.I would love to do those as prefessional jobs,but I don't know how to go about doing it.How should I?And should I do it?
You should always follow your dreams so long as they're logical and realistic. Becoming a singer or actress very realistic. Learning how to fly...not realistic at all. You're very young, so you've got a good chance of starting off. First join a drama class or maybe choir, be sure to keep your grades up as well. Good grades are very important so people can take you seriously about you acting. Second, you could look into some commercial casting online around you or even some extras in a movie. Try your local news paper to find activities around, you need to really put yourself out there to get noticed. Try some modeling if you're comfortable. You should also take advantage of any school activities like plays, talent contests and such. You might even want to talk to your school's guidance counselor and have them help you, keep in mind they might tell you it's unrealistic with all the competition today holds but if you're really passionate about something go for it! Besides as years go by, who's to say you won't make it. You might even fall in love with some other proffesion. Good luck and remember the sky isn't the limit, just look at the footprints on the moon. (:
I seem to have no idea how to make friends IRL. Internet has been a major part of my life since I was 8, and now at 17 I'm frusterated at my lack of ability to become close to people IRL. It's like I cant trust people, and I feel like if I dont have things in common with other people (as I often feel I don't) I don't know how to be friends cause idk what to talk about and to make things not awkward. I'm just sick of never hanging out with people and having a legit child/teen experience
Please be detailed, and I'll love you.
It's like I feel like a lot of people already don't like me, even though they don't know me, just from what they've seen of me at school like all quiet and timid when it's really because I'm afraid of being in an embarassing situation. im normally actually fun. actually i'm not even sure anymore cause I feel like I havent had much opportunity to show the real me. like i literally have no friends at school and it's scary. im also relatively new to my small town (this is my 2nd year here)
I'm not one to conform and I feel like people already have stereotypes about me, maybe also cause im black and there's few black people in my town (who often act stereotypically) and i act far from stereotypes. i dont know anyone like me and that really bothers me
First off, relax. I've just moved to a new town and haven't made any friends, at least not yet! I'm pretty shy at first as well and my self consciousness doesn't help. But I'm starting to break out of my shell and started looking into activities around my town, but haven't gotten to them yet, I'm latina and most people around here are Caucasian. However, that shouldn't really matter. The color of someone's skin does not defy who they are on the inside. Go to the park, go shopping, walk around, go treat yourself to an ice cream, just go out. You can't make friends if you're always inside your home. You might feel awkward at first, but the more you do it the easier it gets. Look online for some groups of teens doing the things you like and join. Example, I love drawing and painting, the local high school in my town has weekend art classes for anyone that loves art. I start in two weeks! I know it's hard but most importantly what you need to do is, push aside all the insecurity that is holding you back and go for it. In my old town my best friend and I met at the library. Oh and don't even listen to those that judge you without even knowing you, people that don't take the time to get to know you first aren't worth your time. Good luck.
I've been having a little bit of trouble falling asleep. I don't want to take sleeping pills. Does anyone know what I can do to fall asleep faster?
How late are you sleeping? I've had problems sleeping as well, usually from over thinking about things and staying up too late thus falling into terrible sleeping habits. There are a number of things you can do to relax and sleep quicker. You could take a warm relaxing shower or bath. Read for a bit, listen to some slow relaxing music. If you're a bit scattered brained like I can be, music might not help, like everything else it's about figuring out what works for you. Some camomile tea before bed, warm milk, light some incense and try to clear your thoughts from anything stressful or worrisome. I sometimes look up some boring uninteresting things online and stare at it rereading until I get drowsy, lol. You could also try a warm heatpack on your tummy or head. Helps my nephew fall like a rock when he's restless. My aunt also gives him some advil pm, to help him sleep or nightquill. But I'm not quite sure about that. Hope this helps, good luck.
19/m
So, I just started college and there are a ton of cute guys that I want to talk to, my only problem is that I am too freaked out! There are two or three guys that I would like to try talking to, but I am too afraid to approach them. How do I just walk up to a guy and start talking to him? What should I say? I know for sure that one of them is guy, the others I am almost certain that they are gay. I just don't know how to walk up to them and talk to them. I am not a shy person, I just don't know how to meet people or intrdouce myself. I am so afraid that I will come across as immature or stupid. Any advice?
Easy as one, two, three.
Hi, hey, what's up?
Don't think too much, just go with it. You're only holding yourself back by over thinking it all.
You can't start a friendship/relationship, if you never say one single word to the person.
Good luck.
My name is Mercedes and I am 19 year old female. When I have sex with my boyfriend, I tend to bleed heavily even after we are finished working in the bed. Am I ok or is this very serious?
If it 'causes you intense pain than no you are not ok. Either way, pain or not, excessive bleeding is never good. It could be you hymen isn't broken all the way, some girls hymen are thicker and others so it might be open just a bit, not broken all the way, so you're bleeding from being penetrated and broken all the way. Sometimes you need to have it surgically removed, but you won't really know if you don't go to your doctor or gynecologist. Good luck.
I'm 15 years old, 105 lbs, 5"4, very active. 2 days ago around 1pm I started experiencing a severe throbbing pain in between my breasts (more towards the left) whenever I breathe in, eat something, swallow salivia, or just anything really! Or even when I'm just sitting on my couch watchiing tv I'll get a sharp pain. I honestly don't know what it could be! Since all this stated happening I have also been burping much more & it killllls. Any idea if what is going on? Help would be muchly appreciated before I consult a doctor :)
Could be a number of things. An ulcer, a blood clot, acid reflux (explains burping), your gallbladder might be damaged, could be the begging states of developing asthma, swelling of the esophagus or maybe just a stomach virus. You won't really know unless you visit your doctor. Get well soon.
Period 15 days late, only lasted like 4 and a half days, now a yellow discharge that has a little odor to it? Not pregnant though, never had sex. Any idea what this could be?
The delay could be do to a lot of things, stress, diet change, exercise change, your body is constantly changing. Your cycle might be shifting. Yellow discharge could be from as normal as just your body cleaning itself out do to the delay and build up from your period, or a mild yeast infection. If it keeps up, worsens or is just worrying you, make an appointment to see your doctor.
Hi guys! I'm apologizing in advance if this gets a little long: but I'm trying to figure out if this really cute guy likes me, I'm just confusing myself...
1. He asked another girl out right in front of me. Don't take that the wrong way. He had been looking at me the entire time. Almost if he wanted to see my reaction. The thing is is that this girl already had a boyfriend and he KNEW that because her boyfriend is his best friend's twin.
2. I have braces, and have had them for about a year now. I used to have the worst teeth in history. But my teeth had moved a lot, and he had noticed and commented. He actually leaned in to look at my mouth (I tried not to pass out from noticing he was about three inches from my face).
3. He stares. A lot. But a lot of other kids do that too because they are probably making fun of me, calling me "metal mouth" or something equally clever. But if I catch him, he kind of smiles and looks away.
There are more examples but I am driving myself crazy whether when school starts I should make a move by the way I'm fourteen thanks so much :)
You're so young. Which is a good thing, time for you to start having fun with your life, be as social as you can be but keep it clean! (;
Make a move! You'll never know if you don't. Get closer to him as a friend and let things unfold from there. Don't rush things and relax.
Good luck.
I am looking into buying a dvd to help me lose weight asap. I am loking for something that doesnt cost a lot a friend said p90x is good but its pricey. Any ideas? anyone know about shakeology as well?
Jillian Michaels 30 day shred, combined with a healthy high fiber lean protien diet, you'll lose 25 pounds in those 30 days. It's not that pricey at your local Walmart. Zumba, great for music and dance lovers. Works you out like a beast but feels like a walk in the park. It's so fun, but it is a bit pricey, however you could probably burn the videos on frostwire. But you know it's not right. (;
I am falling in love with my best friend, Josh. He is a senior and I am a junior. We go to the same school, talk on the phone constantly, and we've been hanging out more often. A while ago he was going to date someone and I confessed my feelings for him and so he decided to give me a chance. I was overjoyed... But now he's just so confusing. First he told me he wanted to hang out more and we're doing so (he's coming over tomorrow, too!) and then he told me he doesn't want to rush into anything because his last relationships went so fast and it wasn't his doing and he wants to take it slow. I can't wait any longer... I want to be with him so badly... I am respecting and understanding his decision, since I want a stead relationship too... But I am scared to show him my real feelings since he is holding off the relationship. I'm scared he'll be slow in taking the next step in making us official... I have liked him for a long time and I don't know what to do/think.
Good things come to those who wait. With that said, STOP!!! Stop getting so anxious about it all, if you want things to work out between the two of you, you'll have to take your time. He wants to go slow, that's good. Most guys rush in to if for the sex. His past relationship didn't work out because his ex rushed things, ok take advantage of that! Take things slow, you say you love him. Than show him. Get to know each other better, remember liking someone isn't the same as loving someone. But once he's not feeling so insecure and unsure of his actions and yours everything will fall into place.
I had a one night stand that wasn't really SUPPOSED to be a one night stand last march/april. Well I got pregnant, and the guy kind of stepped up, or so I thought. We met after I found out I was pregnant and he gave me his work schedule and asked me to play doctors appointments around his work etc. Well he refused to be with me and started dating this girl that would send me nasty messages on facebook about how she can't believe I'm having a kid with her boyfriend and she was supposed to have his kids and all this bullsh*t. So anyway, he ended up blocking my number, deleting me and blocking me from facebook, blocking my email, etc. I looked him up on google and found all of these dating websites he belonged to, so I made accounts to them and sent him messages telling him I'd really like for him to meet his daughter. He deleted all of the accounts and blocked me again. What do I do? How do I get ahold of him? It's not fair that he gets to run away while I raise his child.
See an attorney. You could file for child support against the non custodial parent (you were not married when you had your daughter)It might cost you up front, but in the long run it will be best for you and your child. You may even find out about some options that you have that you didn't know about. You might need to make some decisions that the attorney can council you on. Sounds like the he might be a real loser and make trouble later, and THAT is what an attorney can help you with. Be prepared to pay a little bit, but if it is air tight and based on knowledge of the law about this kind of thing you and your child can end up not just winning this round, but have peace of mind about it, too. And that is important to have.
Good luck.
About a year ago, I was hanging out with my aunts, one of their husbands, and one of their best friends, we'll call him B. They asked me to drive him home, so I did, and one thing led to another and after a few drinks we ended up sleeping together. Well we kept it quiet for almost a year, and I didn't see him. My nephew turned one this past summer and B was at the party. We couldn't hide our feelings, and one of my aunts saw us kissing, and they all started picking on him and asking him if he was into me. His ex cheated on him a while ago so he's still pretty upset about it and hurt and doesn't want to get into a relationship. Anyway my aunt (that he's close to) is a total b**** and she is really mean to me. She told both me and B that it was okay for us to date if we wanted, and then when we started to get close and hang out, she flipped out on him and told him he was an a-hole and to never talk to her again. Now he is really weird toward me and he won't touch me he won't be fun with me like he used to. He tells me it's because he doesn't wnat to get into a relationship because of his ex but I really think it's because of my aunt. What should I do?
Tell your aunt to stop being such an immature hag. To live her own life, not yours or B's. You can't let people keep budding into your life, if she doesn't approve for what ever reason, oh well. That's her problem and it's very selfish and immature. If B and you hit it off and your relationship with one another is healthy and sincere then by all means keep at it. He's just withdrawing do to insecurity and disapprovement by your aunt. Don't rush back into it, he's still hurt about his last relationship, take baby steps. Spend time together and try to be happy. Regardless of what others think. That's all we can do in life.
She does not want me to do it becuase the practices are everyday and for like an hour and a half. she thinks i wont be able to study and get good grades if i go. i have wrestling practice from 3:45 to 5:00 or somewhere around there. Do you guys have any suggestions of what i could do or make some kind of deal with her?
All you really have to do is keep your grades up and probably a lot of asking. As for making a deal, you could aim high and say, you'll keep all your grades above a c if she lets you join. Or trade in extra housework for wrestling. Most importantly don't forget to tell her, you love her!! lol
I am in love with this actor. I know everyone says that, but I'm almost positive we're soul mates. I am seriously in love with him. And it's not in that crazy stalker way. The only thing is, he's gay. I figure, he's still young and that can change, but I'm just losing faith. I'm afraid I'm losing him. I mean I'd die for him and he doesn't even know I exist. I just don't know what to do anymore:(
You can't change people. However I personally don't think love is just about being attracted to a certain gender, as much as it is connecting on a level of understanding each others wants and needs, if you like him. But he's not attracted to you in the same way. You can't really do anything about it. But if you're afraid of losing him. Say to yourself would you rather have him in your life as just a friend or not at all. Good luck.
Ok well 15/f I have put this off long enough well we got a new male teacher at the beggining of the school year, and well like its an all girl class of about 10 people, and well sinse the first day he says innappropriate things like the first day talking about balls, another day bringing up dicks and yes the bad way, btw hes a young teacher not married no kids. Any way me and my friend Cali were like wow. Then the next day he came up to me in the hall way while i was on the way to the bathroom and walked biside me and he goes heyyy and i was like woah you scared me and he was like I get that a lot then he raised his eybrows up and down at me over and over, then he followed me all the way to the bathroom no joke not sayin anything then when I got to the bathroom a teacher walked out of a near by classrom and he saw the teacher and i gues feaked out cuz he made a weird face then turned around and left. Later on I told my friend about it and she was like wow this is really getting freaky, so then the next day we go to class and the teacher stared at me the whole time and sometimes smiles and my friend even noticed it to cuz she was like woah did you see him today and i was like yah lets add that to our list. Also he continues to do that everyday now for another really freaky thing the other day me and the teacher mr.(Hanson) were talkin and he randomly says to me I would give you a big hug but I canr because of teacher student realationships and then he winked at me and smiled and I was like...speechless than later that class period he came up and started messin with my hair like running his fingers through my hair and stuff and twirlin it, and kinda pattin my hair. Which was really freakky! now also the other day I was walkin to gym class with my friend and he was staring at me the whole time i walked by once again my friend even noticed it! and then yesterday when our class was just gettin done talking to him he looked at me and winked then smiled, he's done that so much now! now for one last thing soorry this is takin so long but Today I was playin the keyboard and well he came over and put his arms around me and was all up on me and I was like eeek what do I doooooo. Then like I was lookin to my side tryin to signal my friends Cali, mary,and Trailey and they finaly saw and there eyes got wide and one of them screamed MR. HANSON! and I sware he jumped up faster then lightnin when he saw they were lookin! Well he's done more but I don't wanna take up anymore of your time so I was just wonderin what to do its really freakin me out! the way he acts! do you agree he is acting inapproprite and harrasing? Please helpp! P.s. He also points out innapropriate things in songs too and says like why would they be doin that or makin jokes about it and smilin. Well thanks! please help!
I would say so, you should start off by telling your parents. All you, as in your friends as well. Second have your parents bring it up in a meeting with the school's principle. Some teachers, especially younger ones just starting off, are very how should I say. Friendly? Might do with the fact they aren't as familiarized with the whole I'm a teacher you're my student, I'm a grown up and you're a child. He might not be aware that he's acting inappropriately towards you, since he has no kids of his own. But either way, school is a place for you to feel safe, not awkward and harassed. So if I were you, I'd speak up. Good luck.