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How are relationships online different from relationships IRL?
I seem to have no idea how to make friends IRL. Internet has been a major part of my life since I was 8, and now at 17 I'm frusterated at my lack of ability to become close to people IRL. It's like I cant trust people, and I feel like if I dont have things in common with other people (as I often feel I don't) I don't know how to be friends cause idk what to talk about and to make things not awkward. I'm just sick of never hanging out with people and having a legit child/teen experience
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It's like I feel like a lot of people already don't like me, even though they don't know me, just from what they've seen of me at school like all quiet and timid when it's really because I'm afraid of being in an embarassing situation. im normally actually fun. actually i'm not even sure anymore cause I feel like I havent had much opportunity to show the real me. like i literally have no friends at school and it's scary. im also relatively new to my small town (this is my 2nd year here)
I'm not one to conform and I feel like people already have stereotypes about me, maybe also cause im black and there's few black people in my town (who often act stereotypically) and i act far from stereotypes. i dont know anyone like me and that really bothers me
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You are new to a town and sometimes that alone takes time to adjust. You also seem shy and antisocial...That isn't always a bad thing.
The difference between RL and Online:
Relationships in person are much easier and less of a hassle, Sometimes others will tell you online relationships are nothing but a little taste of fantasy. Real life is real, Online is not. In person you can interact with a person emotionally, physically and mentally. In order to get to know someone you have to put time into getting to know them. Relationships are about commitment, Trust, honesty and Respect. That old saying "Guys are visual and women are emotional" Is very true and generally in order to create a bond between two people those two people would need to interact with one another. Relationships online are often not taken seriously, You cannot fulfill your happiness by relying on someones support through a computer. The best way to meet people and to make friends is to find an interest, If you art interested in Art then join the after school art club etc. Getting to know people all starts with taking a few baby steps. Nowadays, It seems everyone is stereo typical but believe me even in these days there are those people out there who are nice, kind and still have their heads together you just have to find them.
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First off, relax. I've just moved to a new town and haven't made any friends, at least not yet! I'm pretty shy at first as well and my self consciousness doesn't help. But I'm starting to break out of my shell and started looking into activities around my town, but haven't gotten to them yet, I'm latina and most people around here are Caucasian. However, that shouldn't really matter. The color of someone's skin does not defy who they are on the inside. Go to the park, go shopping, walk around, go treat yourself to an ice cream, just go out. You can't make friends if you're always inside your home. You might feel awkward at first, but the more you do it the easier it gets. Look online for some groups of teens doing the things you like and join. Example, I love drawing and painting, the local high school in my town has weekend art classes for anyone that loves art. I start in two weeks! I know it's hard but most importantly what you need to do is, push aside all the insecurity that is holding you back and go for it. In my old town my best friend and I met at the library. Oh and don't even listen to those that judge you without even knowing you, people that don't take the time to get to know you first aren't worth your time. Good luck.
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