14/f
I have been dating my boyfriend for about a week now. The only thing is that i have a moustache that is sorta dark and a lot of people notice it i'm sure. It's really embarrising because i don't want him to see it. I can't do anything about it. I'm not gonna wax, shave or bleach it. What do i do? I'm scared that he will be grossed out by it and break up with me. Help!
Honestly honey, You might have to wax it. It might sting when you are in the process, but it is so worth it. You should not under any circumstance shave it. Waxing is the best solution. You will feel less self conscious.
If you are opposed to doing anything about it, then you will have to try and be a bit more secure with yourself. Hope that this helps :)
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15/f
I just found out a week ago that a lot of my friends are sexually active. And I'm not, like at all.
I don't want to just find a random guy and do sexual things with him, but the way my friends talk about it...they kinda tell me in a condescending way. Like "Oh yes, I did this...and oh there's little Jane over there, still innocent." They aren't being mean or anything and they don't mean to say it like that I don't think, but it's just sort of shocking.
I guess that I always thought that I'd kinda be the first or something. Or that I'd at least get somewhere. I don't really want to be sexually active unless it's with someone really really special that I'm really really committed to. Like we are talking major commitment. My friends who are sexually active have boyfriends that they've been dating for years.
I guess I sort of just feel like a loser because I haven't gone very far. And I know that I shouldn't, but now knowing that my friends have makes me feel like I'm left out of something and too stupid to do any of it. I just thought that it was okay not to be sexually active because that was the normal thing, but now that the majority of my friends are, I just feel weird and prude. But then there's another part of me that now feels like stuff like that is automatically expected in a relationship at our age and I'm not sure if I'd be ready for that if I ever have another boyfriend. I don't want to make a stupid mistake OR feel like I HAVE to make a stupid mistake.
I know that you shouldn't have sex just because everyone else is doing it. I'm just confused and I can't talk to my mom about this because that would betray my friends.
Does that make any sense?
It is so normal to feel this way. There are so many young girls who are not having sex and thinks that everyone is doing it , so you are not alone. I went through and sometimes still go through the same thing. A lot of my friends recently told me that if they could do it all over again, they would not have had sex when they did. They say that everyone was doing it, and it seemed like the cool thing to do at the time.
There is nothing wrong with not having sex, if you can't relate to certain things that your friends talk about it is o.k. You remind me of me a bit. I think that sometimes when people feel like they made a wrong decision , it is better to find people who made the same decision and let the one person who had a mind of their own feel left out. That seems to be what your friends are doing to you. (NOT saying that they are not good friends)
You seem like a smart girl, it does not make you less of a person or female if you have not had sex. Wait for the right time, wait for YOUR right time. You will find a guy that appreciates your individuality.
One more thing when the time is right, (which in my opinion does not seem like now or the near future) please make sure to use protection. I don't think that I have to give you the talk about the diseases that are floating around.
You not having sex does not make you an outcast it makes you an individual, who does not need to follow a crowd. Empower yourself, you are 15 you have time. : ) Hope that this helps!!!!!!!!!
P.S. If you have any more questions you can talk to me
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Sometimes when i laugh to hard i start to pee. Ill wet my pants and its embarassing. Sometimes it'll happen around my friends too!!!Is that ok for that to happen.....is there any way to stop it from happening?
(I am NOT a doctor) It could be that your vaginal muscles might be weak. This happens to more women than you might think. The good news is you can work it out by doing Kegel exercises. You can look it up, there is a great deal of information. Hope this helps!!!!!!!
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I have a hard time saying no to guys when they want to have sex and i was wondering could it be becouse i was molested by my dad when i was 3.
Yes, that can be the answer. When people get sexually abused, they tend to feel less valued and ashamed of themselves. They also feel like it was their fault that this happened, and end up trying to please people by saying yes.
I think that you are very brave for even wanting to talk about it. I also want to tell you if you don't know already that this was not your fault.
It is o.k. to say no to sex. It is o.k. to say no to anything that you do not want to do.
Try to get advice from a professional if this is something that you feel that you need to discuss with someone face to face.
If a guy wants you for you then sex will not matter. By choosing to talk about it you are taking your life into your own hands.
This is also a sign of low self esteem. I want you to empower yourself by choosing to say "NO".
Treat your body outside and in like the temple it was intended to be. Don't let anyone rob you of your choices. When you say yes to sex you don't want to have, you are giving your dad and that incident the power over you.
Take time and realize that you are you best asset. Again, i don't really know you, but I am very proud of you for recognizing why you behave the way you do. Now you have to learn to love yourself enough to give a firm "NO". I am sure you have it in you. Hope that this helps!!!!!!!
STAY GOLDEN.
P.S. If you need anymore advice I am here to help :)
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so i'm 18, i have a pretty chizzled body, i've been dating the sexiest girl alive for the last 18 and i'm lead guitar in a heavy metal band. So what's my problem you ask? ACNE!!!!! i hate it and it's ruining my life. i've had acne since i was 13 or 14, i can't remember but i'm in college, this spit has to get out of my life, right now. i've been doing proactive on and off for about 2 years now, since it's been severe. also in that time i have seen 2 dermotologists. the first one way back gave me pills and a topical gel. it did nothing so i took myself off the pills and the gel and went back onto proactive for awhile. the acne just never went away for good. when one spot would go another would on the way. i went to another dermotologist about 2 months ago. he gave me atralin and nicotinamide. they both are not helping so recently i threw them both in the garbage. i'm back on proactive and i'm taking these, biodermazen. i'm so tired.....so so tired. it really upsets me because i could be a model if i didn't have acne. i want to sometimes just take a knife and cut the skin off of my face and start over. i want to gauge my eyes out with a metal spoon. i want to grow out the sickest beard of all time to hide the acne but my girlfriend isn't into jerry garcia and i can't grow a beard, only scruff. what do i do? im so tired......so very tired.
I have so much empathy because I know how that feels. I am a girl and my body is extremely fit, I am a model(Really I am, I am not Joking). I have however, sometimes felt that if I had better skin i would book more jobs. i found something that worked for me and hopefully it works for you. It's called Murad Acne Solution. You can get it at Sephora. Be patient with it. For some people proactive work and for others not so much, it's o.k. Try the Sephora website www.Sephora.com. I hope that this works and I hope that you get the chance to experience the whole modeling scene. Hope that this helps!!!!!!!!
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15/f
I am loosing hair EVERYWHERE. It's crazy! Everytime i take a shower, run my hands through my hair or brush it. It's just everywhere! It has been more than normal lately
I dye my hair with natural instincts and wear clip in extensions everyday. Could that be the reason of it or is there something wrong with me?
Thanks in advance
Dying your hair everyday is not healthy and that could be the problem. Also stress can play a role in the hair loss too. Try massaging your head, it stimulates blood flow. Talk your parents about seeing a doctor so that they can recommend supplements for hair regrowth.
I honestly believe it it is the dying your hair that is causing it. Hope that this helps!!!!!!
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17/f
first off, i love guys, they're pretty much amazing. especially the hot ones. and i can list so many great things about them.
well, sure i love guys, but i've been payin attention to girls also for a long time. like if i think she's pretty, i can't stop looking at her. and boob size doesn't mean much to me, but when girls where low cut shirts, i find that attractive. i even have a friend that is gorgeous no matter what she does with her hair or clothes and i love hangin out with her. but thing is, i can never find myself ever being with a girl or going out with a girl. it would just seem too weird to me.
could i just be curious? how can i get myself out of the habit of looking at girls?
That is so common. Girls look at other girls sometimes, not because we are attracted to the person. A lot of the time it is because we can see ourselves wearing what they are wearing, even sometimes you can be amazed at how beautiful someone is. It could be admiration, you sound like you admire your friend for being beautiful no matter what she wears. Sometimes it is envy (you don't sound like you have that problem). You can just pray about it, with GOD all things are possible!!!!
Think about how amazing guys are and their masculinity, the facial hair, the deep voice. Think about the guy that you have a crush on. You are 17 it sounds like admiration. Be comfortable enough with your sexuality, you can be straight and think that someone is pretty. Plain and simple. Hope that this helps!!!!!!!!!!!!
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It's a really long story but i'll try to keep it short.
My boyfriend and I got really serious in a short amount of time. We're completely in love and are planning to get married by next year and move to LA together to go to college. We're always together and we never get sick of each other.
The only problem is ANYTIME anything about another guy is brought up he starts a fight with me. The fact that I have ex boyfriends and have had sex with other guys makes him so crazy it's ridiculous. I can't talk to any guys that are my friends. If one of my friends are over and they bring up one of my ex's he gets pissed storms out of the room and won't speak to me. This happened yesterday and he started saying he'd either have to kill my ex or kill himself.. i don't know what to do.
Three days ago I told him if he starts one more fight with me i couldn't do it and i'd have to break up with him even though i know i don't want to break up with him and he'd never break up with me but i thought it'd work. Since then somehow boys got brought up and we've fought everday since then. IDK what to do!!!
I am going to say certain things that you may not want to hear. You sound like you are very secure in your relationship and the past does not bother you anymore. Your boyfriend on the other hand sounds insecure and his attitude seems unhealthy to both you and him.
You can try to sit him down and talk to him and let him know that you are his girlfriend and no one else. Let him know what this behavior is doing to you.
It seems like you need some space from this guy also. The fact that he does not trust you makes me nervous, but what takes the cake is that he does not want you to even talk to other guys. Anyone who treats you like a possession is not
worth your time. He cannot comprehend that you had a life before him and that should be a red flag to you.
If you ever decide to end it or cool things down make sure you bring back up (like a family member, or a close friend) when you break the news. The truth is he sound a bit dangerous to me.
You seem like a caring person and anyone who cares as much as you do deserves someone who can treat them right. If he does not stop this behavior you should end it, for it is unhealthy to be around someone like that.
You seem like a genuine and nice person and the truth is it sounds to me like you deserve so much better than he is offering. Don't sell yourself short or settle. If he can't treat you like the star you are, some one else will. I hope this Helps!!!!!
P.S. If you ever need any encouraging words feel free to contact me. I will be more than happy to help.
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Hello,
I have a friend and her 13 y/o daughter who are driving me crazy. They are living with my family at the moment (for free) and I have helped her out with thousands of dollars in which I am now very bitter about, but that is besides the point. I am normally a very giving and patient person, but I am at the end of my rope and about to blow.
These two disagree with every single thing my son/daughter or I have to say. It doesn't matter if I say the sky is blue, they'd say it's green. I can't even hold a conversation with either of them. Typically I just say "I see your point" or "oh really" and back off for the sake of not arguing. It's insulting to do so, because many times they are not correct--but are know it alls.
How does one deal with people like this?
Your friend seems to be using you because she knew that she can count on you to say yes. You said that even when the are wrong they still argue. I would commend you for backing down, but the fact of the matter is it your house and you should never let someone who is living there (rent free) disrespect you like that. You seem like a great person and you also seem like you have a lot of love to give, but this person is taking advantage of your kind heart. Friends, true friends don't do that. Another thing, before you erupt and say things that you may not mean you should tell her how you feel. You owe it to yourself and your friend to tell her how you feel. Hope this helps!!!!
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I Have a problem
Im 13 years old and im 5'5 --5'6 and i weigh 120 pounds which is 55 kilos not fat at all
skinny or normal right?
but you see i used to be overweight and i worked REALLY hard to get to 120 and i wanna lose a LITTLE bit more
But my problem is is that if i ever want to eat something like a chocalate bar or chips or something i ALWAYS feel guilty, and im not joking i ALWAYS feel guilty, but i dont usually eat these stuff, i only eat them 1ce a week, i work out EVERYDAY on my treadmille
i fast walk for 50-60 minutes and i lose around 300 calories a day in my workout and i know that i burn way more because ijus worked out, but whatever i put in my mouth not only chocalate or junk food its basically alot of things seriosuly you have no idea how paranoid i can get, my whole family tells me that its bad and i can turn anorexic,, please help? :).
You have to be very careful about these thoughts. If you are sure you can handle a cookie or dose of icecream in moderation the you should not feel guilty. You sound like you are working hard enough for a an icecream cone once a week to not matter. I work out a lot myself, and it is easy when you start to see great results for things like icecream and cookies to seem like the enemy. It does not have to be. Just don't let the junk consume you. My biggest suggestion is for you to take look at the weight you lost and be happy. Let your weight loss success motivate you to reach your goal.Hope that this helps!!!!!
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18/f/australia
Im going to buy a high waisted skirt (probably a black one since t goes with everything) but I dont want it to look like i am going to work everyday when i wear it. It's spring here by the way as well, so how can i get a casual look with a high waisted skirt without looking too much like im going to work everyday?
Thankyou.
I know that this might sound weird but, I have a high waisted skirt only mine has like detachable straps that looks like suspenders. When I go to work i wear them without the straps and for a night out i put the straps on them. Depending on where I am going I let them hang or put them over my shoulder. My point is if you are not sure about clothes when you are buying it, make sure you by an article of clothing that gives you maximum versatility. Hope that this helps!!!!!!!!!
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