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My boyfriend has issues
It's a really long story but i'll try to keep it short.
My boyfriend and I got really serious in a short amount of time. We're completely in love and are planning to get married by next year and move to LA together to go to college. We're always together and we never get sick of each other.
The only problem is ANYTIME anything about another guy is brought up he starts a fight with me. The fact that I have ex boyfriends and have had sex with other guys makes him so crazy it's ridiculous. I can't talk to any guys that are my friends. If one of my friends are over and they bring up one of my ex's he gets pissed storms out of the room and won't speak to me. This happened yesterday and he started saying he'd either have to kill my ex or kill himself.. i don't know what to do.
Three days ago I told him if he starts one more fight with me i couldn't do it and i'd have to break up with him even though i know i don't want to break up with him and he'd never break up with me but i thought it'd work. Since then somehow boys got brought up and we've fought everday since then. IDK what to do!!!
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I am going to say certain things that you may not want to hear. You sound like you are very secure in your relationship and the past does not bother you anymore. Your boyfriend on the other hand sounds insecure and his attitude seems unhealthy to both you and him.
You can try to sit him down and talk to him and let him know that you are his girlfriend and no one else. Let him know what this behavior is doing to you.
It seems like you need some space from this guy also. The fact that he does not trust you makes me nervous, but what takes the cake is that he does not want you to even talk to other guys. Anyone who treats you like a possession is not
worth your time. He cannot comprehend that you had a life before him and that should be a red flag to you.
If you ever decide to end it or cool things down make sure you bring back up (like a family member, or a close friend) when you break the news. The truth is he sound a bit dangerous to me.
You seem like a caring person and anyone who cares as much as you do deserves someone who can treat them right. If he does not stop this behavior you should end it, for it is unhealthy to be around someone like that.
You seem like a genuine and nice person and the truth is it sounds to me like you deserve so much better than he is offering. Don't sell yourself short or settle. If he can't treat you like the star you are, some one else will. I hope this Helps!!!!!
P.S. If you ever need any encouraging words feel free to contact me. I will be more than happy to help.
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He sounds like he is the real jealous type. We all do things that we regret like dating people who turn out not to be the one and end up giving ourselves away. However, Your boyfriend needs to realize the past is the past there is nothing he nor you can do too change what happened or who you've dated. If he loved you, He wouldn't pressure you or make you feel guilty about who you've dated and what you've done. Sure, I can understand why it would bother him that you have had sex with other people. The point is he really needs to get over it or I'm sorry to say he might need to go. You can, but I don't see why you would want to be with someone who pressures you in a way that he would storm out of a room and ignore you. If you haven't already, Try sittting down and talking to him, Let him know how much it bothers you that he acts the way he does, and how much it pressures you. If he still continues to ignore you, storm off, and pressure you...Then maybe it's time to move on.
Good Luck.
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