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saying no
I have a hard time saying no to guys when they want to have sex and i was wondering could it be becouse i was molested by my dad when i was 3.
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Yes, that can be the answer. When people get sexually abused, they tend to feel less valued and ashamed of themselves. They also feel like it was their fault that this happened, and end up trying to please people by saying yes.
I think that you are very brave for even wanting to talk about it. I also want to tell you if you don't know already that this was not your fault.
It is o.k. to say no to sex. It is o.k. to say no to anything that you do not want to do.
Try to get advice from a professional if this is something that you feel that you need to discuss with someone face to face.
If a guy wants you for you then sex will not matter. By choosing to talk about it you are taking your life into your own hands.
This is also a sign of low self esteem. I want you to empower yourself by choosing to say "NO".
Treat your body outside and in like the temple it was intended to be. Don't let anyone rob you of your choices. When you say yes to sex you don't want to have, you are giving your dad and that incident the power over you.
Take time and realize that you are you best asset. Again, i don't really know you, but I am very proud of you for recognizing why you behave the way you do. Now you have to learn to love yourself enough to give a firm "NO". I am sure you have it in you. Hope that this helps!!!!!!!
STAY GOLDEN.
P.S. If you need anymore advice I am here to help :)
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That was a terrible thing that happened to you and experiences such as that have a way of affecting the decisions we make as individuals as well as our confidence and strength. So, that could definitely have something to do with it. There are many possible explanations for this. You may even in some way feel that it is an obligation that you have to please...which you don't, but I recommend that you talk to someone like a therapist so that you can sort your feelings out and work on getting stronger. Your body belongs to you and no one has any claim to it. I think that you do realize where it could come from, so you already know where to start if you do decide to try therapy. You need to remember that you could not control what happened to you in your past, but you ARE in control now, so don't allow the cycle to continue. Be the best you, that you know how to be and don't feel as if you owe guys anything.
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yes very much so if you are abused at a young age you actually lose the ability to respond correctly to that kind of attention you suddenly feel ashamed and you dont want to feel that way so you force yourself into thinking that you want it and that you like it even though in most cases you never really ever come to enjoy it
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