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I recently asked a question named "what do I do about my ex"
thanks alot for the answers :)
but the thing is, use are telling me to move on and give other guys a chance, and I dont think I want to :S
I really want to get back with him!!!
he wasnt a bad boyfriend, infact when we were together it was like no1 else mattered and I just want to feel like that again, I really miss him, but will he change if I give him a 2ND chance? like ask me to his and text me and stuff?
I didn't get to read your initial question but from what I've read... And forgive me for sounding harsh...
If you're asking if he'll change... The answer is: probably not. He is who he is and he'll be whoever he wants to be. And whether he'll admit it or not, you have very little say in the matter.
If you want to change the person you're in a relationship with... Then you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person. When you're in a relationship you have to accept your partner as they are. Otherwise it just doesn't work.
"I want to feel like that again..." Do you really miss him, or just the feeling of belonging that you had while the two of you were together?
How do you know what eyebrow shapes look good on you? Does it depend on your face shape, the size of your eyes.. ? if you have big eyelids.. or what? Is there a shape that opens up your eyes more?
I've heard professionals suggest that you don't try to alter the natural shape of your eyebrows. Yes... Your eyebrows have a natural shape of their own. :)
To figure out the natural shape (if you've never plucked before) try washing your face with hot water then brushing your eyebrows up to discern the bottom line and pluck the strays... Then brush your eyebrows down to discern the top line and pluck the strays.
so, this is my eyeball --> http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b235/xo_kristin/eyeball.jpg
what color eyeshadow would look good on me? usually i wear purple which alot of people seem to like or really light baby pink almost white. ive heard gold looks good but i dont wear anything that would match with it. and ive done the set of 3 colors from almay to make my eyes pop but wasnt all that excited with it...
i usually try to draw the attention to my outer corners if it makes a difference, since my eyes are so funky shaped.
thanx in advance.
It looks like your eyes are either hazel or a very light blue...
If you want to bring out the color in your eyes, I would try various shades of grey, silver, or blue. Brush your eyelid with a lighter shade and then brush the edge of your eyelid with a darker shade.
If you're trying to draw attention to the outside, you might also want to try highlighting your eyebrow ridge. You could use a very light color like a greyish-white and just brush it on your eyebrow ridge. It will attract attention to the outside and make your eyes appear to be a little further apart.
I want to ask my mom about getting my cartilage pierced. I have 5 earrings now and I got them all before I was 12 so I am pretty sure she would be alright with this but I haven't asked her yet so I need some convincing points just in case.
I know piercing guns cause excess scar tissue and have a much higher risk of infection than needles do. Even if the gun hurts less I would rather just use a needle and be safe. I'm not sure how to go about finding a piercing parlor? I live near Philadelphia.
Anyway, everyone I have talked to said it didn't hurt much while being pierced, but then afterwards it was very sore. Is there anything I could do to cut back on the soreness after the piercing if I get it?
Thanks!
A lot of tattoo parlors also offer professional piercing. I would grab a copy of the yellow pages and make a few calls.
When I had mine pierced it didn't hurt too badly. Afterwards I didn't experience a lot of soreness... I even slept on my side most of the time.
At the tattoo parlor that I went to, after piercing you were obligated to purchase medicine. The medicine was a solution that they had made... I'm not sure what it was composed of. I was told NOT to EVER clean my piercings with hydrogen peroxide. It would be best to ask your piercer what he/she recommends, and if they have any type of solution available then purchase that.
hey im 14/f and i have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost 3 years and last night he came over to my house at 11:30 P.M. and we watched a movie he was soposed to leave at 1:00 a.m but instead he fell asleep on top of me and woke up at 7:00a.m. and my dad came down and thought we had, had sex. because he was on top of me but we didn't. But he called me when he got home and we werre talking about this , and he said that since we have been together for about 3 years that he really felt in love with me and that he wanted to have sex ( protected) of course. But i said ill get back to him on it and i want to know what i should do i mean i love him and stuff but i dont know how painful it is gunna be. Can you help? sorry this is so long.
Thanks in advance!
Okay... First, please understand that I'm not trying to belittle you, your boyfriend, your relationship, or the feelings that you both share. I understand that you've been together for a while and I'm sure that during that time you have developed real feelings for each other. However, please understand that I'm speaking from experience...
I don't think you're ready. And I'm not basing this opinion on your age either. You obviously have mixed feelings about this... Otherwise you wouldn't be asking. If you're having mixed feelings about this, I think that's a pretty good indicator that you're uncomfortable with this idea... And you shouldn't do something if you're uncomfortable with it.
I would also like to point out that there is a pretty good chance that you and your boyfriend will not be together forever. I'm not trying to rain on your parade... The fact of the matter is that right now you're experiencing a lot of changes... Not just your body, but you're personality. In one year you could be a totally different person... I know that by the time I reached the age of sixteen I was completely different from the person I used to be only a couple of years prior. And your boyfriend might be a totally different person too. You may find that in a year or so the two of you are no longer compatible. For example, take me and my first boyfriend... We dated for three years, cared deeply for one another, but in the end it didn't work out. Our personalities and beliefs are totally different and we spent too much of our time fighting. I can happen to anyone and it happens to almost everyone. Just look at the national divorce rate. According to statistics, 50% of marriages end in divorce. Of the 50% that remain married, only 50% of that group claim to be happily married. That means that only 1 out of 4 marriages actually work.
Bottom line: I would wait.
I would also like to mention that you should discuss you're decision with your boyfriend. And I would also like to say that if he loves you, he will respect and support your decision whether he's ready or not. If he doesn't, he isn't worth having.
When I was little, my parents never spent time with me, never talked to me unless it was about something i did wrong, and really brought me down.
Now I'm 16, and I'm used to living without my parents basically. They're there, but not there for me.
I think my childhood led up to the reason why I don't have any esteem at all.
I'm trying to make up for those years by hanging out with my friends- and they're calling me "clingy".
I need to try and make up for those little positive moments i never had as a kid, I need to get my esteem past the level of zero.
Any advice on how I can do this?
I'm sorry you're parents haven't been able to provide you with the love and the support that you deserve. I know that it's easy to blame yourself... You probably tell yourself that the reason your parents treat you the way they do is because something is wrong with you.
That's not true. There are many factors that contribute to your parents' behavior... And the reasons have to do with THEM, not you. Most likely, they suffered similiar childhoods and have repeated the same mistakes their parents made for lack of experience. They also might be hurting inside... And while they shouldn't take their hurt out on you, sometimes it's easier to tolerate and forgive certain behavior if you understand where it comes from.
Do yourself a favor... Learn to love yourself. I wish there was a list of things that I could tell you to do, but there isn't. Learning to love yourself, to accept yourself as you are and to realize that you should live for YOUR own expectations and not the expectations of others is one of the most difficult life lessons to learn... Many people die without being able to accomplish this.
Loving yourself is important. If you don't love yourself, it doesn't matter who DOES love you. You're so blinded by your own self-hatred that you can't see the people who care standing in front of you. (Trust me, I know. :))
Try this... I want you to stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself. I know there are probably things that you don't like about your physical appearance... But don't focus on that. Focus on what you DO like about yourself. Maybe the color of your hair or how straight your teeth are. And even though I know you're going to feel really silly... Tell yourself what you like about you while you're standing in front of the mirror. When you are done complimenting yourself... Start thinking of personal qualities that you like about yourself. Yes, yes... I know you're flawed (everyone is) but DON'T focus on that. Focus on what you do like... Maybe you're a good listener, maybe you're good at math... Think of every reason that you can and SAY it out loud to yourself.
There is nothing wrong with being flawed. I could write you a list of all my flaws right now, and I assure you that it wouldn't be short. It's okay to be imperfect, it's even healthy to acknowledge you're imperfections... But here is a secret... Accept your flaws. Accept them as a necessary part of you. Because flaws are important and they are necessary. Without flaws you can't screw up and make mistakes. If you don't make mistakes you don't learn anything. And if you don't learn anything... You're not really living. Celebrate your state of imperfection, realize that you were created as perfectly imperfect. You are just as you should be.
And the amazing thing is that... When you have accepted YOU and you love YOURSELF... Your flaws don't seem like such a big deal anymore. You'll notice yourself change...
And once you can say, "I love you," to the person that is looking at you in the mirror... You'll begin to see the other people around you that cared about you all along. You may even realize that your parents loved you all along, and they were just poor at showing it.
Remember that you are beautiful, wise, loving, and perfect... And the power to change the way you see yourself lies in... your mind.
Hi, I'm a 17 year old female, and I read what you wrote about the girl finding her boyfriend's porn on the computer. I have a similair problem, only its really frustrating for me now. When my partner and I first started dating, I was in therapy for an eating disorder, but I had conquered it and felt great about myself. Now, I've stopped treatment, and I don't take my Prozac as often. I don't know if this is my problem, but... lately it seems as though every time my boyfriend watches porn, I get insecure and jealous. Especially last night, at a party. He and his friends were playing "The Guy Game," which is trivia, and if you win, the girl you pick takes off her clothes and eventually does a strip tease. Not the kind of thing I was hoping to see.
I just want to know what I can do to not feel so insecure about this. It makes me really angry.
PS - He also told me that I can't watch porn. I used to watch and masturbate to it all the time, and told him that when we first started dating. Now he tells me I'm not allowed to. It might be partially because I'm bi, or because he is just a jackass.
Please help!
1.) Take your Prozac. I used to be a pharmacy technician... While I was in school to get my certification I learned how anti-depressants effect the brain. I won't give you a pharmacology lesson but I will tell you that: 1.) When you don't take you're medicine like you're supposed to it doesn't work and 2.) Because anti-depressants effect receptors in your brain it can even be dangerous and cause violent mood swings. I'm not trying to scare you... But take your medicine. :)
2.) Your boyfriend is enforcing a double standard. He's allowed to watch porn, but you're not... WTF?! Double standards don't work in relationships because they aren't fair. You have every right to tell him that and do whatever you want within the boundaries of reason. With that said, he IS allowed to tell you how he feels about it and discuss his insecurities with you. You should dicuss the problem and come to a COMPROMISE. But what you do and what you don't do should ultimately be YOUR decision. BTW, I don't think your bisexuality factors into that.
3.) It's normal for you to feel insecure and jealous about what your boyfriend is doing. Most women do. It doesn't necessarily mean that the situation should get blown out of proportion... But I can understand how you feel and why you would feel that way.
Honesty and communication are two BIG factors that effect relationships. I know sometimes it's hard to confront your partner or tell them something you're afraid will hurt their feelings. Often the reason why people don't communicate with each other is that they are afraid they will cause more problems or hurt the other person in some way. But we all have to realize is that not talking about our problems causes the problem to get bigger and more out of control. So... You need to talk about this with him.
Tell him what you just told me... Tell him everything. Don't get angry with him, don't yell at him, don't hurl accusations... But explaim to him that pornography effects YOUR body image and makes you feel insecure. (And this is dangerous because you did have an eating disorder in the past.) Especially when and if he views it while you're around. I don't think asking him to give up porn is a reasonable request... But I do think asking him not to watch it when you are around IS a reasonable request. Explain to him that you feel he is being inconsiderate and disrespectful of your feelings when he watches it around you.
Before I close this, I would also like to mention that... While I don't believe that porn is an actual problem in most relationships... It sometimes can become one. It becomes a problem when the person is addicted it (i.e. can no longer control their habit). And it's a problem if it starts to effect the intimate aspect of a relationship between two people... Such as infrequency, discomfort, etc. If he's addicted... I'm sorry to say: 1.) it won't get better and 2.) you can't change another person. If that is the case, you need to re-evaluate the relationship and decide if you want to continue.
The outcome of this situation should be... You and your boyfriend discussing both the double standard and how you both feel about the other watching pornography. After discussing the situation you should both come to COMPROMISE (a decision that is beneficial to the both of you). If this doesn't happen... It's time to start to asking yourself how this relationship is effecting you (and no relationship should ever endanger your self-esteem) and whether or not you think it would be wise to remain boyfriend and girlfriend.
I know that sounds harsh. But please understand, that I'm really concerned about how this whole situation is effecting your self-image. Eating disorders are dangerous and no one would want you to endanger yourself in anyway. You said that you have stopped treatment... Another important question to ask yourself is, do you need to go back?
Wishing you luck... If you have any further questions, you know where to find me. ;)
Yes i have been married once before but it was when i was 17 and i wasnt ready. Now i feel that i have reached a point where i am ready to really settle down. But, the man i am supposed to marry just recently started to be abusive after a year of not being abusive. I have tried everything to try and get him help but he says that i am the one with the problem because i nag him. Honestly i know he sounds bad but he is soo sweet and will do anything for me about 90% of the time. It is that 10% that he tweeks out for no reason or stupid little things. Lately i havent been too involved with the wedding because of all of this and i even tend to start thinking i dont want to marry him if he is going to abuse me. I wonder if i am getting cold feet because i really dont want another divorce.
Let me guess... You say or do something that rubs him the wrong way and he lashes out at you. Maybe at first the abuse was only verbal... But later escalated to physical abuse. Perhaps he is possessive? Suspicious? He blames you for the problems in the relationship and calls you all sorts of nasty names?
But you forgive him because... Afterwards he apologizes and promises that he's going to change. Maybe he even cries. And then he's super sweet, maybe even quite the romantic.
Your fiance obviously has some serious mental issues if he's abusing you. This is not your fault. He had control issues and problems controlling his anger long before he ever met you... His behavior fits the typical pattern of an abusive boyfriend/fiance/husband. I'm sorry to inform you that it won't get better... It will get worse.
Do yourself a favor and call off the wedding. There is NO reason to marry a man that abuses you. Period. It doesn't matter if your family understands or not (though they ought to if they love you).
Please kick this guy to the curb. Please?
can i hear your story? do you regret it? thoughts/feeling now? still in a relationship with that guy? or was it a one night stand? I'm just curiouss pleasee && thank you for readingg and respondingg =]
I was a "late bloomer" compared to most of my friends. I didn't lose my virginity until the age of nineteen.
At the time, I believed that I loved him. I was wrong. We were together for about three years before we finally called it quits for good. (During those three years we broke up with each other a total of six times.) Our relationship was very tumultous and I often suspected that he didn't respect me because we rushed into a physical relationship.
I don't necessarily regret my decision. I learned a lot (mostly what NOT to do in a relationship) and learning those lessons has given me the ability to form and maintain a healthy, long-term relationship. However, if faced with the same choice all over again... I'd pass. Because I sometimes wonder what it would have been like to lose my virginity to someone that I KNEW I loved. Not just believed...
I was having sex and the condom broke. I felt something weird and I pulled back and the condom was broken. I took the morning after pill just a couple hours after having sex. I really dont want to be pregnant or get an STD. I'm suppossed to get my period in about two weeks. I really hope I get it. should I be worried that I am pregnant. I am really scared and I cant tell anyone because I am so embaressed that this happened to me. After taking the morning after pill I felt a little nauseas all day but it was gone by the next day but I still dont feel my self maybe its because im nervous . What should I do. Thanks
1.) You and your boyfriend need to discuss your sexual history. He may be able to tell you whether or not he has any STD's. It might be a good idea for the both of you to get tested together. In any case, get tested yourself.
2.) Nasea is a common side effect of the morning after pill. Since you took the pill only a couple hours after intercourse, you should be fine. According to the information that I read, the morning after pill is more effective the sooner you take it. You managed to take it pretty quickly so, from my understanding, your percentage of risk should be LOW, LOW, LOW!!
3.) Try to relax. In a couple of weeks, if you don't start your period, resolve to go to the doctor. You can ask him/her any questions that you may have and they can administer a blood test that will tell you (definitely) whether you are positive or negative. Blood tests are more accurate than at home tests. Don't be embarrassed to speak about this with your doctor. Your doctor is a professional and on top of that... Anything that you tell your doctor is confidential.
I'm 17 and female [duh] I'm 5'5'' and weigh 130 pounds but I wear bra size 36D. I feel so top heavy! I can never find clothes or bras that fit right and I always feel over exposed in a swimsuit. I want to have breast reduction surgery, but I have to wait until I'm at least 18 maybe even later because I started developing late. I don't know what to do! Has anyone ever had breast reduction surgery? how much did it cost? and How much did it hurt?
I know this doesn't really answer a lot of your questions but I wanted to mention that some health insurance will actually cover this type of surgery. The reason why is that women with large breasts (especially women with a smaller frame) often experience mild to severe back problems because of their size as they get older. The internet has a wealth of information... But I've personally always been big on talking to people face to face. If you have a family physician, he/she might be a good person to start asking questions. They probably won't be able to answer all your questions... But at the very least they'll be able to recommend a trusted specialist.
My whole life I've been told and thought I'm stupid. Because I'm not school-book smart. I don't get good grades in the "smart subjects" like science, math and so on. I am so sick of believing this. I'm a different type of smart. I know I can make something of myself.
I am especially good at 3 things; public speaking & reaching out to people, languages (I know 4 different languages and intend on learning several more) and I sympathize, more than anything. People always turn to me because of that, I long to help. More than anything.
I've researched at least a hundred different professions in my attempt to find a major that will equip me with the right tools to help save the innocent from the corrupt and ultimatley change the world. I need a profession that will make me come alive. I have a picture of myself speaking infront of thousands of people, touching their hearts, or working at a homless shelter, somehow helping those who have been used, or anything of that kind. But in BIG levels, it wouldn't mean anything to me as a doctor or anything like that. It's not the kind of thing that would make me come alive, it wouldn't matter to me. I don't want to help one person at a time, I want to help thousands.. at once. I want to do something that would end homelessness and stimulate world peace!
I am compassionate and am able to provide stability in people's lives when they are shaken up. I am 16 years old, female, and more than anything.. I want to do something with my life.
No one believes in me, because I am not suited for the typical "good jobs" I will never have the grades to become a Lawyer, Doctor, Journalist or any of the sort.
Help me, what can I become? And how do I get there?
Thank you so much! And please, don't read this and think "what a dreamer, everyone thinks they'll save the world.. this one doesn't even have good enough grades.. she doesn't even know how to spell" Please, I have enough people thinking that way, if you can't help me, fine. But I'm begging you, don't think like that.
I'm reminded of something my psychology teacher told me in my first psychology class... He said there are many different classifications of intelligence. For example, what you learn in school could be refered to as academic intelligence. There is also something called emotional intelligence... which I can tell you excel at. What I'm trying to tell you is that you ARE intelligent; you're just not giving yourself enough credit. So before you do anything... Stop listening to other people when they put you down and start believing in yourself.
Another thing that I want to share with you... I have a "save the world" complex. This is what I've learned... You can't change the whole world overnight. However... You can start by touching one life at a time. And even if you are never able to reach thousands of people remember that those you do touch... Is still a great accomplishment; whether it is recognized by anyone in your lifetime or not. Realize that the world changes... one person at a time. And remember that often, when you connect with one person at a time... You can make a lasting impression on that person's life.
Possible careers... There are so many possibilities and the sky is the limit. You could get envolved with numerous organizations... The Peace Corp. Enviromental Organizations, Non-profit organizations, even religious institutions... You could be a guidance counselor, teacher, pastor, nurse, social worker... Ever think about majoring in Human Services? That's something I would look into if I were you. (It doesn't take stellar grades either, just ask my roomate. :P) You could even start your own organization... My advice: use the information highway to your advantage to seek out possible careers. You also might want to look into taking aptitude test; maybe that could help you figure out what career would fit you best. And until you start college... Volunteer. This will count toward your future work experience... And you can make an impact on the lives of others NOW.
how did they start and wtf did they accomplish???
i really wanna no!!!
so random...lol
The Crusades were a series of military conflicts of a religious character waged by Christians during 1095–1291, most of which were sanctioned by the Pope in the name of Christendom.[1] The Crusades originally had the goal of recapturing Jerusalem and the sacred "Holy Land" from Muslim rule and were originally launched in response to a call from the Eastern Orthodox Byzantine Empire for help against the expansion of the Muslim Seljuq dynasty into Anatolia.[2][3]
*From Wikipedia. For more information try this link...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crusades
You can tell my boyfriend needs a good dose of lamisil but it is so expensive. Do you know anything that would work that is over the counter?
The first and last time I got a pedicure; I contrated a fungus. I tried Lamisil; it didn't work very well. What did work? Wearing thick cotton socks. I'm not sure if that will work for him but it's worth a try.
I am so depressed over this guy that I thought liked me. Well we work together at the same company. He had been flirting with me and showing an interest in me since before xmas. I was always friendly to him but had my guard up about him. I had heard he drinks a lot and is a womanizer with a bad temper. I decided to give him a chance two months ago so I started to flirt a little back. He got this love sick look in his eyes and then started stuttering around me. So I really thought he liked me. Well in the last two weeks I don't know what has changed but he's pretending he's lost interest. He flirts with other woman right in front of me. He hasn't even been very nice to me either, and acts like I don't exist. I don't know how he can be so cruel knowing that I like him. The worst part is he is the assistant manager! Does anyone have any ideas why he's being this way?
I know I sound very harsh. I apologize in advance.
My guess: he's cool, he's confident (maybe even a little cocky) and charming.
I'm also guessing that his 'cool image' is just that; an image. Granted I don't know this man but I'd bet money (usually I'm not a gambling woman) that deep down inside he's actually very, very insecure. He probably tries to compensate for his insecurity by gaining the affection of women. Watch out; when he does he'll suddenly lose interest. Because once he's 'conquered' you he'll grow bored and pursue another conquest. All in the name of his bloated ego. That's what he is; an egotist.
Try not to take it personal; because it's not. There is nothing wrong with you. This isn't even about YOU; it's about him. This is just a game that he plays...
Want to know what the game is and how it is played? He'll set his eye on a girl (the more cold she is the better; he thinks of her as a challenge) and he flirts shamelessly. Once his flirtations are reciprocated he's won the little game; time to play with someone else. Or he could be attempting to torment you by chasing after someone else; hoping that he will make you jealous and further inflate his own ego. He might even be trying to pit you against another girl; just because having two females fighting over him makes him feel good about himself.
My advice: don't play his game. Remain polite and professional and leave it at that. If he's mean to you, if he's flirting with someone else infront of you; he's acting like a child so treat him like one. Ignore him.
I can tell you from experience what will happen if you take my advice. Suddenly he will start being nice to you again and probably flirt like crazy. Don't give into him. By acting this way you've wounded his ego and beat him at his own game (though you were never playing) and he'll want to challenge you to a rematch.
Like I said: I don't know him. And everything that I said could be wrong. However I would like to point out that whether I've classified his behavior correctly or not; he's just not that into you. If he was into you he wouldn't be playing games with you; he would be asking you if he could buy you dinner. Or at the very least a cup of coffee.
Don't believe me? Run to the nearest bookstore and buy a copy of "He's Just Not Into You," by Greg and Liz. Read it, live it, love it. It is every single woman's dating bible.
At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook?
Opinions are more like answers to questions. Granted the "big" questions don't really have clear answers, and just because you believe your answer to be true... It doesn't necessarily make you right and anyone else wrong. That's why it's called an opinion.
So... You can't really form an opinion-your answer-until you've asked yourself the question first.
When do I think the average human being starts to ask themself the questions that will lead to the answers that shape who they are? Because all people are different, I don't believe there is a specific age or even a specific age range.
Usually, I believe, there must me a specific situation or event that triggers a person to start asking questions. For some this "trigger event" occurs early in life, for others it occurs later. For example... My first trigger event occurred when I was around 16 or 17. At that time I had decided to become heavily involved with the church... But as I learned more about the religion that I claimed to believe... The more conflicted I felt. I started asking myself lots of questions. Questions about God, the Bible, tolerance, good and evil, etc. It was when I started to ask myself these questions about religion that so many more questions about people, the world, and life popped up.
I would say that I was capable of independent thought and formulating my own opinion by the age of eighteen. I didn't have my answers then... But I was determined to find them. By myself and for myself.
For me... The situation that lead to independence was becoming aware of all the evil that existed in one religious institution. For others it can be an abusive parent, losing someone they love at a tender age... And so many others. Some of these occur for some people at early ages, while for others these events do not occur until later in life. One event that triggers indepence for some people IS indepence... Graduating from college, starting a career, and moving out of their parents' house. They can experience conflict because now they realize that perhaps their career choice wasn't a very good career choice... Simply because they hate their job. Or perhaps shock because they have now been plunged into the "real" world.
Bottom line: I don't believe there is a certain age. Everyone's different, everyone moves at their own pace.
I would like to mention... Moving slowly is not a "bad" thing. Maybe if we didn't try to move so fast, we'd enjoy the "where we're at in life" a lot more... And not look back on our childhood as "the good old days." So... Whoever you are, and for whatever reason you ask... Don't rush. Life happens soon enough. ;)
does any1 know the name of this movie i really like.its where this two bestfriends,...and i think ones dads a cop or something and the other friends dad abuses him and his mom..i guess they found a gun and i guess there was gun shots and the cop dad thought that the mean dad shot his son or his wife.but really the kid shot his dad and the kid was on the run and hid from every1 and the cop dad goes through a lot looking for the kid and finding the gun! does any1 have any idea what i am talking about??please help me.i really liked that movie.( :
That's funny... I just watched that movie for the first time last night. It's called, "Running Scared."
Do i have A.D.D.? and can you help me solve my other problems?
my parents thought that i have A.D.D. because at times.. usually often, its hard for me to concentrate. like for homework, i have to be doing it for a while and then im in like "homework mode" but it usually takes an hour or two till im in that phase. i procastinate so much. this is why i do most of my homework in my bedroom so i cant get distracted by tv or the comp. i mean.. and i always procastinate my projects till the very last day.. like right now i have something due tomorrow and i've only done the prewrite packet.. now i have to write this whole thingie (rough draft) and the final copy and more is due next week but i havent even started that yet since im a lil behind. but i dont get it.. i never thought I had ADD till my parents mentioned it..cause in class sometimes a teacher would say something and.. i mean i'd hear what they'd said but its kinda like the words escape from my head and then like a minute later i ask a question about something they already said. i hate that and i try to pay attention but i guess i have alot of things on my mind too.. i mean songs always get stuck in my head, or i may just be thinking about things that happened that day or something. that happens during tests too, sometimes. i mean i also procastinate for tests.. its real annoying because im usually an A/B student but thats been dropping to like a B/C student since like the 2nd marking period. im so pissed because i want to do good in school. but not only that things we learn are getting harder.. but.. i dunno. i mean once on a test like right before i had a big fight with my sorta x-friend and i was really upset and mad about that.. and i ended up getting like a 46 on a MATH test! thats like my easiest subject! and i told my teacher i could do better and corrected it and got all the corrections right. the next test we had we got a 100 though, thank god. and recently we had a quiz and i got a 72 (math) and in social studies i've gotten 2 very very low grades (20 and a 25.. i have to get them signed by my parents today! ohgod!!!!!!!!!!!! im gonna be toast!!!). im thinking of just throwing out the tests and saying that i lost them. but that probably wont work. i mean also cause im like extremely disorganized. i've never followed a schedule like 100% all the way though i do make schedules sometimes. i read while i eat.. my dad says its bad to do that but i honestly dont have any time to read, since i like doing it. no i dont have dyslexia or any reading problems either. and im not someone whos like "hey.. what was the mark homewo- OMG ITS A LIMO! DID YOU SEE THAT LIMO THERE!" i mean sometimes i guess if im excited and its like a new place ive never seen before. but not that much i think. i dont have hearing problems and my math teacher thought that was my problem but its not.. i've passed all the tests before and i have no problem hearing, just retaining knowledge presently. i can remember stuff from a long time ago but i may forget like idk.. a friend's name or something. and when i talk to people, sometimes it doesnt completely register with my brain and i have to ask them to repeat what they said like 2-3 times. sometimes people dont wanna repeat and i have to just act like i'd heard but its also kinda annoying when they're like "nevermind" because i honestly.. like.. i dunno! i heard it.. but i kinda didnt hear it in a way. WHATS WRONG WITH ME??????????
13/f
I don't think anyone on this site can definitely tell you whether you have ADD or not. If you're really concerned about it, and your parents think it's possible that you have it... Why not visit a doctor? Tell him/her your symptoms and ask for an evaluation. If you do have ADD a doctor can prescribe medication that may help you. You don't have to start with any kind of specialist, your family physician should be able to answer many of your questions... And if he can't he can send you to someone that is qualified to.
I work at a drop-in center as a part-time student. My boss, who was originally hired as a replacement for another woman who has gone on maternity leave, has just quit. There is a very good chance that our Board will ask me to cover until September, when the lady with the baby comes back.
During my time at the center (I have been here a year and four months), I have been asked to accept a level of responsibility above what I was hired for. Despite this, I have not had a raise - comparable to the replacement-lady, who has had numerous raises, even though she has screwed up in several crucial areas (fund raising, completing grant applications, paying bills).
If I get asked to cover full-time at the center until September, then I would like a raise at least. I don't have to make as much money as everyone else in the boss position did, but a raise would be nice. My question, therefore, is this: how do I politely inform my employers that I either get a raise to go with the new position (and not one that can be taken back in September), or I'll walk... how does one deliver a nice, professional ultimatum like that?
(Feedback with commentary will be given! Thanks in advance!)
I think your request is reasonable.
When I am requesting a raise, I first ask my supervisor if we can speak in private when it is convient for him/her. When we are able to speak... I usually start by saying something positive. "I really enjoy working at this company, and I would like to thank you for every opportunity to you have given me to grow and learn..." The key is to NOT present the ultimatum as an ultimatum. :D Start out by pointing out that you've been given extra responsibilities... And then ask politely to be compensated for the exta responsibilities that you have been given. I don't how much you make, or what a reasonable amount to request would be... But think about that number. Decide how much you would like to ask for, and what you will settle for. I think that as long as the request is made in a courteous manner, you ARE being professional. I wouldn't tell them that you're planning to walk if you don't get what you want. I'd just type a letter of resignation and hand it to them if your demands aren't met.
HEY..
Would you mind if I called you.. it might be easier for me to talk to u via the phone if possible about all this.. im at work rite now and all I can do is think about him and what he is doing.
-ss
Sorry... Don't take this personal but I really don't feel comfortable giving my telephone number out via the internet. You can IM me via Myspace if you have it. Or you can send me your phone number and I'll call you. (If you do send it, I won't post it.)