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hey i need some help very much!
hey im 14/f and i have a boyfriend and we have been together for almost 3 years and last night he came over to my house at 11:30 P.M. and we watched a movie he was soposed to leave at 1:00 a.m but instead he fell asleep on top of me and woke up at 7:00a.m. and my dad came down and thought we had, had sex. because he was on top of me but we didn't. But he called me when he got home and we werre talking about this , and he said that since we have been together for about 3 years that he really felt in love with me and that he wanted to have sex ( protected) of course. But i said ill get back to him on it and i want to know what i should do i mean i love him and stuff but i dont know how painful it is gunna be. Can you help? sorry this is so long.
Thanks in advance!
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Okay... First, please understand that I'm not trying to belittle you, your boyfriend, your relationship, or the feelings that you both share. I understand that you've been together for a while and I'm sure that during that time you have developed real feelings for each other. However, please understand that I'm speaking from experience...
I don't think you're ready. And I'm not basing this opinion on your age either. You obviously have mixed feelings about this... Otherwise you wouldn't be asking. If you're having mixed feelings about this, I think that's a pretty good indicator that you're uncomfortable with this idea... And you shouldn't do something if you're uncomfortable with it.
I would also like to point out that there is a pretty good chance that you and your boyfriend will not be together forever. I'm not trying to rain on your parade... The fact of the matter is that right now you're experiencing a lot of changes... Not just your body, but you're personality. In one year you could be a totally different person... I know that by the time I reached the age of sixteen I was completely different from the person I used to be only a couple of years prior. And your boyfriend might be a totally different person too. You may find that in a year or so the two of you are no longer compatible. For example, take me and my first boyfriend... We dated for three years, cared deeply for one another, but in the end it didn't work out. Our personalities and beliefs are totally different and we spent too much of our time fighting. I can happen to anyone and it happens to almost everyone. Just look at the national divorce rate. According to statistics, 50% of marriages end in divorce. Of the 50% that remain married, only 50% of that group claim to be happily married. That means that only 1 out of 4 marriages actually work.
Bottom line: I would wait.
I would also like to mention that you should discuss you're decision with your boyfriend. And I would also like to say that if he loves you, he will respect and support your decision whether he's ready or not. If he doesn't, he isn't worth having.
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