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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. early in our relationship he cheated on me with one of my friends (it was like a one-time thing) but we got past that and i know hes been faithful since then. well he just got back from vacation and the first thing he tells me is that he had hooked up with this girl he met at the beach. he was like sobbing and saying that he felt so bad about it but he had to tell me cuz he didnt want to keep anything from me, and that it didnt mean anything and that he hates himself for being so stupid, and how much he loves me, and please forgive him.
well i know your gonna say dump the jerk. and maybe i should. but then i think, maybe i should forgive him? i mean, at least he was honest about it. he didnt have to tell me and i never wouldve found out. and we have been going out for so long, im the only girlfriend hes ever had, so maybe its natural that he'd be curious about other girls, even though he really does love me? or am i just making excuses for him because i love him and dont want to lose him? but if i stay with him, is that sending the message that its okay to cheat on me? is he really just a cheater and always will be? or was it really just a mistake? i dont know what to do!
I'm sorry he is putting you through that. It's actually natural to make excuses for the guy when you're in the position you are in. Of course you don't want to throw 3 years away that easily. But you can't be in denial everytime this happens. It actually drives me crazy when people throw out the words "I love you" & then have the nerve to cheat anyway. Yes, it's only natural & harmless to be somewhat curious about what it'd be like to be with another girl (since you are his first girlfriend). But if he truly loved you, he would NEVER act on those type of feelings. When you truly care about someone, you just don't act like that. I'm sure he's a great guy & I'm sure he cares about you, but I don't think he cares about you enough to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. He doesn't care enough to have any self control or respect. He is selfish & doesn't seem to care about the relationship as much as you do. Basically, he's done a lot of damage this time around & you have to open your eyes & see that. To answer your question: yes, you will be sending the message that it's okay to cheat again. Although he was disappointed in his decision, came clean & apologized, you are taking him back anyway. In the back of his mind when he's tempted with another girl, he'll remember that all he has to do is say he's sorry. But he's done this once before (& now twice), what makes you think he won't do it again? I will not sit here & tell you that he's a cheater for life & will never change. People make mistakes, but he's made this one twice. I just can't see a relationship lasting any longer after this time.
I've been watching porn on TV for the past couple of nights. Not the whole thing but just segments. Im 16/f by the way. I've never had sex, or even kissed. Im feeling pretty ashamed by it. Does anyone else watch it? Is it a common thing for teens?
I know the feeling you are talking about. Actually, it's quite common for teens/young adults to become curious & start watching them. I don't see anything wrong with it unless it becomes an addiction/problem. Or if you easily influenced & you start acting promiscious. I know me & my boyfriend rent one every now & then - mainly for educational purposes (to see what things we can try ourselves.) But like I said, it doesn't seem to be a problem from what you told me.
ok, just wondering, does penis size have anything to do with weight?
because I've noticed that for the most part, guys that are much more fit, tend to have larger penises...
so, is there any connection?
thanks! =)
Actually, a study posted in Cosmopolitan a couple issues ago found that skinnier guys have larger penises. But keep in mind that doesn't apply to every man in the world. Of course it's possible to be quite untrue. They are just statistics/percentages, nothing more.
Ok i have went through alot of stuff lately in my family..divorce..affairs and a drug addict sister. I am going to be a senior this year and i have survived my vball team for the past 3 years. I hate volleyball..dont like practices..games..nothign..but i do it because its a sport and my parents want me too. Well this year..i dont want to go through another season..my mom says i should go through with it..im not sure what do..what do you think?
That must be tough. I played volleyball for 6 years & I would normally be screaming at people (such as yourself) to take advantage of the opportunity to play. I never got to play throughout high school because I had a heart condition that prevented me from playing. But I also have to remember that you don't have any passion in what you do, unlike I did. It's hard to make decisions your family doesn't agree with, but you should never be forced to play a sport you show absolutely no interest in. You clearly gave it a shot by playing for 3 years & that should be enough.
Is using a tanning lotion, like Dove Energy Glow, bad for you?
Not worse than the sun, right?
They are definitely 100% better than the sun. I used to be big on tanning, but I'll never lay out in the sun or step into another tanning booth again. Instead, I use Summer Glow lotion by Neutrogena. Not only do they give you some color & moisture, but some also come with SPFs to help protect your skin! Can't get much better than that. :)
So ive been with this amazing guy for almost 5 months. Our 5th month together, I'm going to go on vacation but when .. I come back he's going to make it up to me.
He basically said like.. I could give him all the blowjobs I want.. How is that a present for me? I mean I've gave him like 3 presents so far, and I've gotten nothing. Not a little card either. yes, i like giving blowjobs but ugh.. was that wrong for him to say that?
I was expecting a day out with him.. Something fun.. but.. no..
Don't date someone who considers that to be a present for you. It's clear that he's only using you for his own pleasure & is not emotionally involved in your relationship. I really wouldn't consider this guy to be "amazing." Have respect for yourself & find someone who treats you right. I can guarantee you that once you find that person, you will NEVER look at guys like that again. I hope you are smart young lady to realize that you deserve better.
For girls, what's the maximum age a girl stops growing?
Around 18-24. :)
Is going to sleep at 3:00 am to 3:00 pm unhealty?
I have been sleeping in that late for the whole summer,my sisters think its veeeerrrrry unhealty to do that, but they dont give me any reasons why it is unhealty.
THANKS!
You are getting 12 hours of sleep & technically that's oversleeping (but not by much, so don't worry). Just don't make a habit of it. But then again, if you don't, your sleep pattern will be thrown off everyday. I know it's summer, but if I were you, I'd make some adjustments & not sleep past noon. That's just my opinion though!
at night i get really scared to sleep. i always think i hear noises and i cry and shake. i dont know what to do i've been having this prob my whole life. im 13 btw. does anyone have any tips i can do. i have those night time soundtracks but they dont really work and i always get scared to listen to them considering i think someone might be in my house!! PLEASE HELP ME=[
I live alone, so sometimes when it's really quiet at night I start hearing odd noises myself. That only leaves my imagination to go crazy - when in the end, I only end up scaring myself over nothing. I've found that having background noise helps a lot - whether it's a cd the radio or the TV. :)
Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together for just over 2 years.
When we first got together I gave him headjobs without condoms on. Stupid I know but it's all good.
Anyway, the main reasons for that is because I was too scared to ask him to put one on. Then one night I bought a packet of condoms and he suggested to put one on the stop his cum from going everywhere.
I've never given him a headjob without a condom since. The thing is he's been asking if I would give him one without a condom on..
I am more then happy to do it in the shower lol but I don't like the taste or smell (after a long day) of his penis. Not to mention the taste and smell of cum is horrible!!
I'd like to give him a headjob without a condom but I can't bear the taste or smell.. how do you girls put up with it?
Thanks!
Considering you two have been together for over 2 years, I'd hope you were comfortable enough to bring this up with him. You don't necessarily have to be rude about it, but just mention that you aren't a fan of the taste/smell. I'm sure he'll understand & if he doesn't, then he doesn't deserve to get anything from you. It's your decision & you should have total say in what goes in your mouth & down your throat. Just have a towel by your side & let him warn you ahead of time when he's about to go. Yes, suggesting to take things to the shower would be a good idea. But you can't do that every single time you decide to do that. So just be honest with him & tell him your preference. :)
whats a really good shampoo && conditioner 4 hair??(btw im blonde if it helps)
BEDHEAD Dumb Blonde. That's what I use & love it! :)
I've come so close to having two of my crushes asking me out, but right when we can't get any closer .. Kaitlyn steps in the way. She stuffs her bra and lies like no other, but some how she always gets the guys! I'm not trying to take over or be someone I'm not, but I've lost so many guy friends and been ditched all the time because of her.
What should I do? "Boys are stupid" I know, but I'd like to have at least one of them to my self!
Look at this way: be glad she is "stealing" these guys away because they clearly seem to be all wrong for you. You don't want guys who are only interested in your physical appearance (or chest size - stuffed or not.) I am assuming you're younger (since most people don't stuff their bra in high school) & all I can say is - don't worry about "losing" these guys. Guys that age aren't good for anything anyway. Most of them are still in the process of maturing & catching up with the girls. Trust me, you aren't missing out on anything that great. Wait till you're a little older to worry about relationships & guys. Wait till you're old enough where they are mature enough to look at you for you & not what's in your bra. :)
So a few weeks ago i get a pic cmmnt from my ex bf ( i thought i loved this kid) and we broke up over a year and a half ago, and him and his gf just broke up (they were dating right after we originally broke up, so they were dating for the year and a half) and weve been iming and he came over one night (but i had snuck out so i had to send him home) and stuff and so i tell him ill always have feelings for him and he told me he thinks about me too, but he wants to see what his options are (ass) and that our parents would prolly disown us (cuz they kinda hated us dating) and stuff and i was all idc what they say, and then he said whatever happens happens, but today he was talking about some lame freshman girl..
ugh. what do i do to make him see things my way?
i never even noticed how much ive missed him until now.oh yeah and by the way, he like reads all my bulletins on myspace and stuff. so does he like me or not? and what do i do?
Two things: give him space & don't get your hopes up. Don't act like you're that desperate to get back together, especially with someone who doesn't seem to sure or eager to get back with you. He doesn't seem so sure of what he wants right now, so give him time to think it over. He just got out of a year & a half relationship which means you can't expect him to jump into anything new right away. He needs to see things himself, not just yours. He is not with anyone right now, so he is entitled to talk about other girls. In the meantime, back off a little & let him make his decision. If he chooses to not get back together with you, learn to accept it & move on. You wouldn't want to have a relationship with someone who didn't feel the same way back. & if he decides he wants to get back with you, then great - I hope you can both work out eachothers differences. As far as the myspace bulletins - just because he reads them doesn't automatically mean he likes you. Maybe he's just bored or curious of what you have to say, that's all. :)
i've made out a few times but it seems like everytime i do make out with some one, theres no...connection or chemistry. Is there suppossed to be? thanks guys
Don't make out with anyone until you DO have a connection with them. There's no rule saying you have to have a connection, but when you do it's just that much better. I could never make out with someone who I didn't have chemistry with. But everyone is different. Do what you think is best!
I'm a ballerina, and my dance studio doesn't let you wear anything over your leotards (shorts, chiffon skirts, etc. NOTHING). Whenever I wear a tampon (i use playtex sport) with my tights/leotard it leaks onto the tights and you can see the blood around my inner thighs. It's embarassing. I can't wear a pad though because I can't wear underwear with my tights.
What can I do about this?
any advice will help.
Perhaps try a different brand? You could also try Super or Super Plus tampons by Kotex. You should have no problem with that absorabant of a tampon. But if you are still having leakage within a few hours with that, you might want to see a doctor for heavy periods.
Hey :D I'm thinking of getting a bag for Christmas but I'm undecided. What do you feel abou this one?:
http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2938581/0~2376779~2374605~6003905~6006297~6006303?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6006303&P=1
^^IN BLACK!!!
other suggestinos of preferred pursed would be great! Thanks!
If you are undecided about a $275 purse, don't get it. Wait until you find something you HAVE to have (& can afford, of course). Also keep in mind that you want a purse that'll go with most of your outfits - day & night.
so i have an eye infection called papillary conjunctivitus and i have to wear my glasses now instead of contacts. i went to the eye doctor like 3 weeks ago and since then i did all she said, didnt wear contacts, and did the eye drops. i went back a few days ago and its still there, so now 3 stupid more weeks of glasses. i hate my glasses i just cant stand wearing them they bother my nose and i hate seeing the rims, and i hate how i look in them..anyways i was wondering if anyone knew any ways to make the infection possibly heal faster, because i go to camp in a month and dont want to wear them there! thanks so much!!
You really can't do much besides avoid any contact with your eye & continue to follow your opthamologist's instructions. Doing anything different may cause an even greater infection or more complications. & your eyesight is definitely more important than your appearance. As far as wearing glasses - I think some of them are actually pretty cute. But since yours seem to be uncomfortable, see if you can get something that fits better (as long as it's not too pricey & your insurance will pick some of it up.) It'll be okay, keep your head up! I promise. :)
so i just got a relatively large purse. its super cute and i LOVE it! but.. its really big, and has a lot of pockets and compartments. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO PUT IN IT! it looks dumb to leave it unfilled because then it just looks empty! so far i put my sunglasses, camera, ipod, cell phone, and wallet in there. it still doesn't fill it up! what else can i put in? what do you put in yours? thank you!
I am guilty when it comes to being an owner of big bags & not always having a lot to put in it. I usually carry: phone, wallet, keys, gum, sunglasses, makeup bag, girl stuff. You could also include a brush, a mirror, lotion or body spray. I wouldn't necessarily put anything you definitely won't need. But those are just a few fillers. :)
I'm getting a tattoo on my foot on my birthday, I already know what I'm going to get and everything.
My question is, for people who know about them of have one themselves, does the ink run a lot when you get them on your foot, and what did it feel like?
I have a couple tattoos, but none which are on my foot. I do know someone who got one on their foot though & she described it to be a uncomfortable feeling because her bones would be "vibrating." I can't tell you whether or not it's going to hurt. I know one of my tattoos was pretty uncomfortable & I didn't feel a thing on my second one. Obviously, pain varies per person & the location you're getting it. Just expect it to be uncomfortable. As for ink running - they'll tape seran wrap to it so nothing comes in contact with your tattoo. You will most likely bleed (slightly) & since you have so many super small puncture wounds, that seran wrap will avoid infection (as well as the excessive ink that'll rub off.) You'll probably only have that on for 12 hours or a day. Hope that answered your question! :)
ok, here's my situation. my family is pretty well-off, and i have everything i could ever ask for. my boyfriend's family is about the same, but they're a family of four and we're a family of five, so money goes through us faster than them (my little sister is ten years younger, at seven. you know how that goes).
even though i know we have money, i always feel awful and spoiled asking for it. even if it's just a ten or twenty for a night out. especially right now, since we're going on vacation in a few weeks and we're remodeling most of our house. i always just have a feeling of guilt. since it's summer and i have even more free time to hangout with the boyfriend and my girls, i need more money and therefore, have to ask for it. i was going to get a job, but i play soccer during summer into fall and it just wouldn't work. although, that is still an option if need be.
is there anything i do to either prevent my guilt, or should i just get a job and ask for minimum hours, or what? any help is appreciated.
Yes, you could get a part-time job & work as little as 10 hours a week & that could cover your week's costs. Or a better option that wouldn't conflict with your schedule would be to offer to help around the house. Do the dishes, laundry, do some yardwork, cleaning, dusting, etc. That way you're actually working for the money your pants hand you.