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I'm 5'4" and I want to lose some weight. How many calories should I eat to lose weight? I dont think I burn much cause I dont really exersise a lot but also dont really have time for it because of school. should I eat below 1000 calories? (link)
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The average amount of calories that a woman should eat a day is around 1500.
I undersand how being in school it's hard to have time to exercise and you are sitting studying a lot! This is a problem for everyone hence the term "the freshmen 15." In terms of taking care of your body and staying healthy school is hard. So as a successful surviver of here are some things you can do.
Sign up for a yoga, dance or aerobic class. They are usually only 1-2 credits meeting like twice week and it's really good for your body and mind. If you like dogs see if you can get jobs dog walking. Then it's part of your work and responsibility to get some exercise. I did this in college and all the old people in my building loved me for it. Ask around and check on crags list.
Secondly your metabolism may be a bit slower now because your getting older and, activity speeds up your metabolism so, lack of activity slows it down. On top of it all having a snack is an amazing study break activity! right? So here is what you do you slowly increase the amount of fiber in your diet. Be sure to do it with a lot of water. Fiber helps your digestion stay flowing and it really helps to curb your apatite so your not so hungry and feel fuller longer! So snack on things like Celery or high fiber crackers, or Cabbage. (you don't have to eat them plain, I like to eat them with low fat cottage cheese and a little pepper sprinkled on top) Be sure to eat a raw salad with lunch and or dinner. Seriously raw veggies are wonderful for your metabolism. If you eat a ton of fiber really fast you'll give yourself a lot of gas and stomach cramps so ease on slowly. I seriously cannot believe how much a good dose of fiber and water stops my hunger it's amazing. Another good trick is every time you stop your study to go have a snack make yourself drink a full glass of water before you start your snack. You will seriously eat at least 50% less then your normally would.
If you find that you often over eat, eating slower is a great way to stop that. On average you should chew a bite of food 25 times before you swallow it. This also helps you digest your food faster and easy because it's less work for the stomach. So it's great for your metabolism. You can also eat slower by making food that needs to be assembled as you eat it. like Fajitas or shared plates with many small salads. Also try eating with your roommates so you have conversation as you eat and theres time where your speaking in between bits of food. If you start eating slowly you'll find that often times you realize your full before you've even finished.
Lastly drink room temperature water rather then ice water cold things slow down your digestion.
Trust me each little trick can really add up to a lot!
Good luck honey :)
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im in the tenth grade and there is this girl i like and now im pretty sure she used to like me back. i never asked her out because i wasn't completely sure she liked me back and i would have been crushed if she said no. her parents are really strict also. today i heard from our friend that she and another guy have been talking a lot lately and i got really depressed when i heard this.i want to ask her out but i don't know if her and the other guy are in a relationship. should i tell her how i feel and ask if she feels the same or should i just ask her out? or did i wait to long, should i just stop trying for her? (link)
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I understand the fear of rejection is stiff to get over. Your young, just starting out and it's scary. However the worlds most successful men were good at being rejected. This is the trick you have to learn to take it lightly. And when your speaking with girls keep it casual. Just say "hey, i don't know if your seeing someone but i'd love to take you out sometime if your free." It's true she might say "sorry, I'm seeing someone," or "I don't think it's a good idea." YOu just reply casually "okay well you know where to find me if you change your mind," and give her a casual smile so she knows that your not destroyed over it and it's just fine. Then if she does change her mind or stuff doesn't work out with guy she's seeing, she'll feel like your a nice cool guy she can go to and say, "hey i changed my mind i would like to go on that date."
As for you, the sooner you tackle the girl anxiety and get it out of the way the better! Your young and just starting to date and the anxiety is not going to go anywhere until you deal with it. Which means ask girls out, go on dates, get rejected, keep trying and learn how the dating world rolls. The great thing about it is that the more comfortable and okay you are with rejection the more girls are are going to say YES to you. It's true we have this crazy way of sensing confidence and for some reason human nature tells us to choose confident males. So go for it! Ask girls out right and left!! It's wonderful practice for dating. Get over it, it's really not a big deal. I'm a 25 year old woman and I have been reject by men and I have rejected men and it's just part of life.
Good Luck
If you'd like to tell me how it goes i'm interested in hearing it :)
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Usually I go walking but it's just gone into Winter and its started raining. I cant afford wet eather gear to go walking with. (link)
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I suggest Pilates and Yoga for indoor things you can do. You can usually lookup Pilates exorcizes on the internet. I bet If you type Pilates into Youtube you can even get a on line tutorial of the correct way to do the exercise for free!
It really depends what type of exercise you would like to do. Pilates is more focused on the core when walking in mostly in the legs but more full bodied in general. However if you learn the basic principals of pilates like stabilizing your core you can do very full bodied exorcizes while lying on your back. I could describe to you how to do this but i think you can learn it better from watching a video on youtube. If you search youtube with no luck let me know and i'll write it out for you the best i can.
If you have a pretty large general space in your living room or some other room in your home this is a light indoor regimen you can do. I am actually a professional dancer and this is an exorcize i do in my hotel room or where ever before a show because it gets me active and wakes up my mind. Start walking around the room for about 3 min. Resist walking in standard circles the same way try and make a random pattern. If you have a coffee table or something like that make it part of the game and try to think of creative new ways you can walk around it or take giant steps over it or maybe it's big enough you can crawl under it? Treat all obstacles in your room in this manner (objects are obstacles). After 3-5 minuets of this add a small chair or an ottoman to give you another obstacle to work with. After 3-5 minuets of that try moving a bit faster while going around the objects see if there is something you can crawl under. After about 3-5 minuets of doing this choose one spot on the floor that you cannot touch. It's one spot you must always hop over or step over. Add that obstacle and go for 3-5 more minuets. Then choose a chair or couch you must sit on for no more then 10 seconds every time you pass it. Basically you are going 3-5 minuets creating a new obstacle and going another 3-5 minuets. You are doing all this in a brisk but not too fast pace. Be sure to take care of your house and your body you don't want anything getting injured or broken :) While you do it remember you are always trying to find new pathways you haven't taken and enter spaces in the room you have not gone. It is a mental exorcise as well as a physical one. Here is a list of how you start and things you can continue adding to challenge yourself. As you do this more and more you will will start to think of things to add on your own. This should be enough ideas for your first few times to get you started.
Basically you start with just walking 3-5 min
add speed 3 min
add a chair or ottoman 3 min
Create a hop spot (spot you must jump or take a gigantic step over) You can mark this spot by putting a kitchen pan or something on the floor to mark where it is. (Continue 3 min)
Create a sit for 10 seconds spot, this can be a chair, couch or the floor. (continue 3 min)
Choose a corner where you need to prance from foot to foot 5 times every time you go there
Get a book or spoon or random object that must be picked up and moved to the other side of the room every time you pass it.
Find a spot that is really high on the wall. Something you need to stretch up to reach or take a small hop to reach. Touch it every time you pass it.
Remember you cannot stop. Get everything ready that you will need before hand and add it as you go. Keep a clock in sight so you can see when it's time to add a knew obstacle. I can usually go on this game for 30 min or so. Set a beginning goal thats like 15 min. See how long you go and every time try to go a bit longer.
If you notice yourself going through everything in the same order and fallowing the same path (like a traditional regimen) if it works for you go with it. I usually get bored and loose interest if i do that so part of the game for me is trying to continually invent a new order and new pathways so I don't get bored. I also like to listen to interesting music while i do it. usually Jazz or experimental Jazz. I have no idea if this will work for you as i said i'm a dancer and i have some unconventional methods of doing things. Your best bet is probably Pilates.
Good Luck!
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I know both my parents want the best of me but they're always so insulting and they're always comparing me to other children. I'm 20 years old and a college senior and for all I can remember, I've never heard my parents tell me they're proud of me. All my dad tells me is that I'm a disappointment. If not to my face, my parents still talk. My dad tell me I have a lazy mind with no motivation. Yet my dad says that I don't talk to him nor tell him what problems I'm facing. If they get mad at me over a specific situation, they never let it go. Every time I get another insulting lecture from my dad, the same situation is brought up. I got the courage once to tell him that he's so negative all the time to me but he turned it around to use it against me saying that because of my attitudes I am where I am today. I don't feel disappointed in myself personally but to them, I will always feel like one. Especially since I'm told straight up that I am a disappointment. I don't know what to do. How can I have a friendly father-daughter relationship if this is what he says about me? My family loves to talk about other people's families and their faults during their normal family conversations but yet they can't focus on their own. I'm not saying I'm completely right but I really don't feel the change has to start with me. I always function better in a positive environment with support from my loved ones and I can't even get that. I feel like I'm expected to be a perfect child just the way they see other people's children. Surely no family is perfect but I'm sure other parents don't tell their children half of what I'm told. Not only am I a disappointment, I have a bad attitude, bad facial expressions, and I'm spoon-fed too much. Once when my face was breaking out due to school and exam stress and just having acne issues, I was severely insulted by my mom saying that I must like to look that way since I obviously don't care about my face that that my mom would have been afraid to show her face in public if hers looked like mine with the acne. My biggest fear is that I would screw up badly and have them shut me out completely but it seems like everything I do will always cause an issue. I feel so much more comfortable in public when my dads not with me, like if my family decides to go to church and whatnot because he always scrutinizes everything. I sing regularly and he always has negative remarks. If I happen to sing decently to his standards, he won't say anything. Either that or he's just given up on the remarks of that day. I don't want to lose respect for my parents, especially my father. But I haven't ever felt close to him. He always thinks he understands everything and knows better than everyone else and it's just overwhelming to deal with. I don't know how much longer I can handle this. Please help me someone. Im literally crying my eyes out while writing this. Thank you. (link)
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Honey i hate to say it but your parents sound like insensitive ass holes. If no one else tells you, you have a bad attitude and teachers and peers seem to have no problem with you, most likely you don't have a bad attitude your parents are just ass holes. What your mom said about your acne is just cruel and unnecessary.
First of all get support, you seem like a sweet heart and you need to be around people that appreciate you and support you. Second of all tell mom and dad that their lack of support is driving you away from them. Tell them you would like to have more support and less criticism from them. If they continue to be rude and not listen then work on getting out of that situation!
So it seems like you are almost out of school where you can be in position to support yourself right? This is what i suggest, I suggest you try to level with them. If it doesn't work get a job, and start saving! Get out of there as fast as you can!!!!!! There are good people in the world that will love and appreciate you. Get to a point of financially supporting yourself and get away from your ass hole parents as fast as you can.
Your dad sounds like a narcissist and your mom doesn't sound much better so leave them alone with so they can tear each other down. You don't deserve this. Maybe after they have scared you out of their lives they will come to their senses and stop behaving like this.
I'm so sorry and i wish you the best of luck. Stay strong and don't let them make you feel bad about yourself. Work hard and make your life good. You can't control what they do. IF they want to be unhappy rude bigots fine you make the decision not to live like that. You decide to be a bigger better person. Stay strong and get support when you need it. It's out there, good people are everywhere.
Best wishes :)
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F/high school age
my boyfriend lives in another country (4212 miles away). we've been together almost 3 months, we Skype everyday, and obviously we are an online relationship. i KNOW hes my soul mate.
..my mother is a strict christian lady and she has told me multiple times "no talking to strangers online" (as if i was 13!!) she always talks to me about molesters and men whom rape and hurt young woman and they draw them in through the internet,she asumes any guy on the internet is there to hurt girls (or something)
i know that if she met him she would love him,... but what do i say? how? shes a very loving person and she trusts me... but no guys on the internet... i know im in over my head, but if i didn't want to spend the rest of my life with this boy i wouldn't worry about telling her...
Well thank you for any help or advise you might have (link)
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First of all how old is this boy? Is he your age? I'm sure mom will be much more at ease if he is your age then if you have some older boyfriend on the internet. Your mom has valid concerns, even adults get scammed by people on the internet you have to be very careful. If you really are serious and in love with this guy then don't worry about your mom not being on board with it right away. Time will tell and the truth with reveal it's self. It may be a slow process but she will eventually see that the age of technology has allowed relationships to be something they could never be before. And good people are finding legitimate soul mates and relationships online everyday. As for you being in high school and involved with a guy on line i have some advice for you in how to be careful and keep yourself safe.
First of all if he is much older then you be very careful!!!! Secondly, if you are doing anything sexual with him over skype tell him he has to have his mic on at all times and so do you. Sometimes people turn of their mic's and take pictures of you with out you knowing. You never know where you will be in the future and naked pictures of you on the internet could be very bad for your adult life.
Obviously don't ever give any financial information like credit cards or bank numbers no matter how in love you think you are!! If you don't know this guy in person it's strange that he would ask you for such things. If your online bf ever asks you for any financial information or your social security number you need to cut off contact completely.
Last, if he is ever in your area and you want to meet him. Do it in a public place and tell several people where you are going and how to reach you. It's even better if you have a friend to bring with you.
Take all these safety precessions tell mom that you are taking them. Give her time and be patient. As she watches you and this boy stay together she will come around and accept it.
Good luck
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How to prevent premature ejaculation? (link)
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There can be many reasons for premature ejaculation. You didn't give enough detail about yourself to specifically address yours.
These are some various reasons and solutions having to do with your condition.
First, if you are very young and rather inexperienced this may be a problem. You will eventually grow out of this once you get more comfortable and use to sexual intercourse. For now you can masturbate before hand when you know your going to be with your partner. Masturbate and have a lot of sex and monitor your progress. My partner is 27 and he is still a trigger for our first time each day. We have sex 2-3 times a day or he has to masturbate at least once because he can't last until at least the second or third time.
Maybe you are just highly sensitive. If you don't use a condom, use one it will help mask the over sensitivity. You can also use a cock ring at the base of your penis to slow your blood flow which will also help you last longer. If your sexual partners are female I know many of these come with a nub or something for female clitoral stimulation and they can be very nice for women who like to be on top. The last thing you can do is go to an erotic store and get a desensitizing cream. This is a cream that will numb you just a bit. Start with a chocolate chip size amount and put it on the head of your penis. Give it 15 min to sink in because you don't want to numb your partner. If it's not enough a bit down your main vein or boys down south should do the trick.
Good luck :)
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This is long, I apologize
I have veen with my husband for 5 years abd when we first met things were good until I met his mother... she from the start had a problem with me and portrayed me as being the women who was coming between her and her son. She has tried to break us up countless times, called us 25+ times a day, left nasty voicemails...we both changed our numbers and moved because it became unbearable. We move...then 2 years later we decide to try again a d forgive her so we wrote her a letter. She wrote back again indicating her son atopped talking to her bwacause of me etc. No, Her son stopped talking to her because well several reasons... she was on drugs, in and out of rehab and lost several apartments from not paying rent and her rude manipulative ways. We have gone to the police.. now here is the problem, she lives in the next state over and we do not know where sge is. ANYWAY! after changing jobs...she eventually finds out where my husband works and has been calling his work! He is pissed! We do not know what to do as we dont know where she lives... please help!!!
-at wits end (link)
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calling your family repeatedly and your husbands work is harassment. I don't know what state your living in but that should be grounds for a restraining order. Perhaps you could speak with the police in the state she is living in and ask to report the harassment to them? Perhaps they could track her down to charge her. At least if they have a record of her harassment then they can do something if she gets picked up for something else. If she is a drug addict she may be picked up by the police for something and if there are records of people reporting her, it could work in your favor.
I'm sorry your going through this it's a tough situation with no clear answer. All you can do as of right now is explain the situation to your work, colleges, friends family and anyone she may contact. Ask these people for patience and assure them that you are communicating with authorities to do all you can to get the problem fixed. Until then it may be worth your time to screen all the calls coming out of her area code.
good luck :)
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Hi, 20/f and he is 19/m.
We were together for two years in November. Three months after he got with me, he left me for having mixed emotions for his previous ex. He came back after three days, because I think- when he called her, she told him she had a boyfriend, and thats why he came back. I didn't find any of that out until 5 months later. But I stayed with him. He seemed to really be over her, and had no intentions of wanting her back. So about 9 months ago, I texted him from my new cell number, acting like her, and he told her he didn't want her back, he was over her, and he cared for her, just not like that. He knew in his heart that they would not work out. I told him that was my number and it was me the whole time, and he started laughing- and he said 'I really thought that was her, I feel a lot better because I felt like I really told her what was on my mind"...But anyways..We have had some relationship problems with porn, and him being unhappy. I will admit before when he told me he was unhappy with me, I begged him to stay. I asked him why he believed he was unhappy, because if it was something we could fix, than our relationship was worth it. The first time, it was because he felt like he wasn't attracted to me as much anymore. I am a big girl, I'm not huge, but I am overweight- he said that my weight bothered him. My first thought, is-its been almost two years, why now? Why is it bothering you now?? Well about 2 months later, he told me he was unhappy with me again- he said it was because I was 'controlling'. Yes I admit, I have a controling side to myself- but mostly with his PS3. We compromised on an hour a day when I am home, and when I'm not home he can do whatever he wants. That seemed to be working fine. So I honestly, stopped being controlling. Two weeks later, he praised me for changing, and told me he's never been happier. Well a week after that, On MOnday, things we perfect. We were planning a vacation to Gatlinburg, making a budget, ect. He kissed me, and texted me when he got to work to let me know he made it okay, and than morning when he got home- he seemed fine. I went to work, came home to him saying he wasn't happy anymore, and he was leaving. He said on his last break at work, around 3:15am (third shift) he just got to thinking about how he is unhappy with me. I was shocked. I didn't know what happened. Well he said he was going to live with a dude from work, but couldn't move in until Saturday. Please note, he left me on Tuesday. If he was really this miserable being around me, why not leave and go to a hotel? Or move in sooner??
Well, he told me he was still highly in love with me, but he was only attracted to me a 4 on a scale of 1-10; he said no part of him wanted to be with me; and there was NO ONE else involved. He went to sleep while I was leaving for work, and I went through his phone because I felt like something more was going on than what he was telling me. Well he had been texting a girl from work, asking her to meet him after they got off- she claimed she left and could not meet him. I was upset. Why would he want to meet up with her?? Is there something going on?? Well, I simply asked him when I returned home, and he got made for invading his privacy- which I understand- I explained why I did it, and he swore to me she was just a good friend and he was meeting up with her to talk and maybe hang out. He said she has had a boyfriend of 7 years, blah blah blah. I believed him.
Than he ex sent me a message, and I asked her why did she leave him, and she said because he was lazy, on the game all the time, and because he wasn't growing up the way she did- she also told me he sent her a friend request yesterday and she accepted it. She told me she would let me know if he tried anything because she believed its not fair if he goes back and forth between us, IF that is the case.
Well, he finally packed his stuff yesterday and left. I work at a daycare, and I saw him drive by and he was staring. I was outside letting my kids play,and he was breakng his neck trying to look towards my work. Why? My dad said he seemed sad, not happy, but not miserable, kinda nervous? When I got home, I noticed the pictures of us on his dresser were laying face down. Why do you think that was?
Also, I did everything for him, he was lazy. Yes he went to work, but so did I. I cooked for him, cleaned for him, made his lunch every day, I did his laundry, laid out his clothes for him; I did it all!
Everyone who knows us- his friends/family- plus mine, think he will come back. They think he just wants time to himself and know what its like to be single--Some think it'll take him a month, some think he will be back before christmas.
(we already got each other stuff, and he told me to keep mine, but take his back?)
Anyone might have any idea whats going on?
I'm sorry its so long, but its hard to give you guys details, when there is so much- I want accurate advice and I know its hard doing that when you don't have the information you need.
My real questions are:
Why do you think he left?
Why were the pictures faced down?
Why did he try so hard to look when he drove past my work?
Why do you think he friend request his ex?
Do you believe he will be back?
What steps should I take in this process? I haven't ate since Tuesday- and it hurts so bad. We have been living together for almost 1 year and 8 months. It's weird. Should I ever contact him? He left some stuff here that he forgot to take with him- what should I do with it?
Please help me! Thank you for your time! (link)
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So i realize this is an old question from 2012 and no longer relevant. Just out of curiosity what happened? Did he come back?
Also you said that at the time he was 19 and you were 20 and you two had been living together for a year and a half? So you started living together when he was 17? Wow that is young!
Sorry I know this is not advice i'm actually just curious about your story?
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What do I do if no teacher or anybody cares if someone is bullying me? (link)
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I want to help you but i wish I had more details. LIke where do you live what type of community? Is it a small town or a conservative area? What are you getting bullied for?
Have you tried going to your school counselor? I wish I could give you more ideas of people you could go to but i don't know what you've tried already?
But if you want hope or inspiration you can visit www.itgetsbetter.org
There are a bunch of testimonials of people that were bullied their whole life and how they got through it.
Good luck, stay strong and get support. Believe me it's out there!!
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Hey there! I'm saana. I'm 15 years old and I'm female. Well you see, I have this very very close friend of mine. And we talk like everyday! I really like him a lot.. He mostly says 'Miss you!' When I'm gone or asleep. And sometimes we skype and he just makes funny faces and is just so cute with me.
But idk we know each other for like a month now. And we don't talk much :/ It's also cause of our time zone! But he's here now and we still don't talk much :/ I just want him to notice me a bit more instead of me always starting a conversation! I feel annoying when I always start a convo :s
What should I do? (link)
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First of all I would ask you how old is your friend? When guys are your age they take a bit longer to come around to pursuing girls. It's almost like their hormones have to build and start snowballing off other male competition before they really get rolling. If it's true to my experience hold on tight because it usually starts happening around 16 and slowly inclines. If you play your cards right you can end up in collage having dinner bought for you every night :)
So anyway i have two solutions for this problem one of them is honest and one of them is more social game-esk. I'll give you both so you can choose.
Honest approach: Tell him hay i wish you called me more, I feel like i'm annoying to you because you never call me. Then you see what he says and you see if he changes his behavior and starts the conversations more often. Sometimes they just need you to come right out and say what you want from them.
Social game approach: Stop contacting him. Wait and wait and wait with the patience of a monk!!! Eventually he will come around but it will take him twice as long as it should (men can be a bit slow). Then when he finally does you say "I missed you, you never call me. I thought you forgot about me. :( " Then he will feel guilty and get the point.
If neither of these two approaches work and he doesn't change. I'm sorry to say but he is just not that into you. You need to let him go because he is either too immature to have a relationship with a girl or he's going to play you. Good luck my dear, I hope all goes well :)
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I have this issue with my step-brother and it's kinda complicated. Basically, when we met at the ages of 7 (me) and 9 (him) we hated each other. Then as we got older we became friends. Then when I was 14 and he was 16 our relationship changed as we became more touchy feely, so fights which used to be all about injuring each other just became about having fun Then we started cuddling during said fights, if we got tired. It's not like we grew up together since I only saw him every couple of weekends when I would visit my dad. So when I was 14 I had this huge crush on him and I thought that maybe he liked me back, since the way we would treat each other was definitely not one I would treat my siblings in and I'm certain he wouldn't treat them in the saw way either. However he got a girlfriend so I backed off. He later found out I liked him but he was totally cool with it. He said he'd still do anything for me and that it didn't change anything. Then in February this year, when I was 16 and was 18, he and his girlfriend of 1 1/2 years split and he and I got really close again. We'd talk on Facebook a lot but then he started making really suggestive comments and hinting about kissing me. In March whilst at my Dad's house he and I ended up hanging out together. He began teasing me that I wanted him, and then I went off on a rant about how I didn't. Mid-rant he kissed me. He was my first kiss and he knew that too. I know at 16 maybe that's kinda lame that I've never been kissed but I was waiting for the right guy and then he kissed me which is so messed up. At the time he said that it meant nothing and that it was only to prove a point, but then after that every Sunday when I would visit my dad, me and my step-brother would end up hooking up, each time going further and further (last weekend we go to third base). It was totally different to the other times as when he touched me face to bring me in to kiss him his hand was shaking, he told me he missed me, there was no fighting before hand when there usually is, he'd kiss my cheek while we would just be cuddling, after he'd 'gone down on me' he kept worrying about whether I was okay or not, he even started eskimo kissing me at one point... but now it's really complicated because feelings aren't supposed to be involved but I think maybe they are :/ which once again, is so messed up
because it was just supposed to be for fun. I wasn't supposed to end up having feelings for him. He's my step-brother, none of this was ever supposed to happen. My friends know about it and they're all encouraging of it. And my family on my mom's side know I used to have a crush on him and they were okay with it then. However I highly doubt he has feelings for me, and if he did it's not like it could go anyway. On the one hand I don't want this thing to stop because I enjoy it but on the other hand I know that if it continues my feelings will just get stronger, we'll end up having sex and ultimately I will be the one who ends up hurt. So my questions are; Is any of this okay? What do I do now? Do you think he has feelings for me? How do I go about doing whatever it is I'm supposed to do next? (link)
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I think the fact that he is your step brother is not the issue. The issue is that he is 18 and legally an adult and you are only 16. I know it seems like a small difference but he much more experienced then you. It also sounds like the two of you want different things from the relationship.
It sounds like he moves a little too fast for you. Although you enjoy it, it's scaring you at the same time. Is that right?
Since it's pretty obvious that this relationship is headed towards sex you need to think about what that means. Do you have an open honest relationship with your parents so you can talk with one of them about becoming sexually active? If your going to become sexually active you should probably get on birth control to insure that you wont get pregnant. You also need to think on an emotional level if you are ready for sex?
By the sound of it it seems like your step brother doesn't spend much time asking you what you want and what your comfortable with before you two mess around? I get this from you saying that he just kissed you without making sure it was okay with you first. Then he tried to excuse the fact that he didn't get your consent by saying "it was to prove a point." For an 18 year old young man he is making dangerous moves with a young impressionable 16 year old. If anything ever got out of hand and you felt like you were violated by him, he could go to prison as a sex offender against a minor.
Now it seems that the two of you are very close and you don't want this to happen, right? It also seems that you want more then a "Just for fun," sexual relationship, right? You want the whole thing, you want to have feelings and you want a relationship right? DONT SETTLE FOR SOMETHING THATS NOT WHAT YOU WANT! Your young and you have your whole life ahead of you for "fun sex." Go for what you want, wait for someone that wants a relationship with you. Someone that wants feelings to be involved. Trust me he is out there! Your just getting started in the dating world so be patient.
Bottom line, I say end it. Not because he is your step brother but because the two of you want different things and it's technically illegal for him to have sex with you right now. If the two of you are meant to be together it will happen when your older and more experienced.
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my boyfriend and i had started dating six months ago knowing he would leave for college abd we'd break up. he leaves at the end of june. needless to say, I'm having a hard time. I'm a year younger, 17/f. recently he said he "cares about me and likes me sometimes," because I'm sometimes "clingy,needy, and dramatic." maybe i am. whenever he pulls away or seems distant, i hold on tighter. we got in a weird fight, and i didn't know what to do. i talked to a few friends. he got hurt that i told my friends things he told me in confidence. he's angry. he thinks he still cares about me. idk where my relationship is. we talk sometimes, and he seems almost normal, but then he sways back. he's way too busy to talk often and hang out,he has work to do, itrust that. main issue is,i broke his trust. i need it back. how do i not be clingy? it's hard when i remember he's going away soon. in the beginning, he was the perfect boyfriend. we were great. five months in, it got rough. i still like him a ton, but he's having a hard time. we haven't had sex. am i the problem? and what should i suggest? we haven't kissed in four days. we talked just last night and it was normal. but idk if he wants to be around me or kiss me. he said "I'm staying with you because even though I'm upset, we're still in a relationship and if you want to try and move past it, we wil." but he does not know for sure if we will. but he's willing to try and i am to. what do i do to help it? (link)
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honey your young and this is an early innocent relationship don't take it too seriously. I've been 17 and i know how hard it is to not become totally obsessed and taken over by this. Try to spend more time with friends and doing things you like and give him LESS ATTENTION!!! When he pulls away think of it as something that will inevitably happen so there is no use getting worked up over it. In other words let him go if he pulls away. You know the relationship is going to be short term and end in about 7 weeks when he goes to school right? So you don't have much to loose the relationship is short term so take the good things you can from it and LEAVE the rest. You will have more relationships and you'll be happy to know that as men get older they get better. Young men right out of high school are rude and disrespectful. He thinks he is going to meet way hotter girls in college and it doesn't matter if he is rude to you or treats you badly. I assure you i knew many boys like this and after a few years of having their hearts trampled on they finally appreciated what a sweet girl I am. Too bad for them by that point I was older also and dating men that appreciated my good nature and desire to be sweet to people.
So bottom line if he wants to act rude, unappreciative and disrespectful then good riddance. If he can manage to be pleasant company then you keep kissing him and go on dates and have fun before he leaves for school. These are the days of your life don't wast them with someone who doesn't deserve it.
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