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Need advice. About my closest guy friend tha I like
Hey there! I'm saana. I'm 15 years old and I'm female. Well you see, I have this very very close friend of mine. And we talk like everyday! I really like him a lot.. He mostly says 'Miss you!' When I'm gone or asleep. And sometimes we skype and he just makes funny faces and is just so cute with me.
But idk we know each other for like a month now. And we don't talk much :/ It's also cause of our time zone! But he's here now and we still don't talk much :/ I just want him to notice me a bit more instead of me always starting a conversation! I feel annoying when I always start a convo :s
What should I do?
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There is no users manual like there is for a camera or appliance, when it comes to knowing how to talk to girls. Guys are not instinctively as social as women. We need no prompting, we just volunteer info. and tell our girl friends what happened without them having to ask. Since women are the ones who know how to have convo's it'll be up to you to teach the guys by example.
As has been suggested, you can try the silence method which I think works great when we're talking college age or older. By then they have some experience communicating with women.
At 15, he probably has no clue yet...and that's why the short messages and silly faces. He is really totally clueless. Only way to find out how into you he is, just start engaging him in more convo's and ask the questions you want answers to. Make sure he feels comfortable answering, like "Don't worry, I won't go all wacko on you no matter what your answer is. I just really would like to know." Guys fear womens emotional reactions too. So if you can stay calm and detach yourself if the answer isn't what you wanted, then other's will notice you are safe to talk to and other guys may approach you. Try not to take things too personally at this age. This is mostly a time for both genders to begin to learn about each other.
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First of all I would ask you how old is your friend? When guys are your age they take a bit longer to come around to pursuing girls. It's almost like their hormones have to build and start snowballing off other male competition before they really get rolling. If it's true to my experience hold on tight because it usually starts happening around 16 and slowly inclines. If you play your cards right you can end up in collage having dinner bought for you every night :)
So anyway i have two solutions for this problem one of them is honest and one of them is more social game-esk. I'll give you both so you can choose.
Honest approach: Tell him hay i wish you called me more, I feel like i'm annoying to you because you never call me. Then you see what he says and you see if he changes his behavior and starts the conversations more often. Sometimes they just need you to come right out and say what you want from them.
Social game approach: Stop contacting him. Wait and wait and wait with the patience of a monk!!! Eventually he will come around but it will take him twice as long as it should (men can be a bit slow). Then when he finally does you say "I missed you, you never call me. I thought you forgot about me. :( " Then he will feel guilty and get the point.
If neither of these two approaches work and he doesn't change. I'm sorry to say but he is just not that into you. You need to let him go because he is either too immature to have a relationship with a girl or he's going to play you. Good luck my dear, I hope all goes well :)
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