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Harassment
This is long, I apologize
I have veen with my husband for 5 years abd when we first met things were good until I met his mother... she from the start had a problem with me and portrayed me as being the women who was coming between her and her son. She has tried to break us up countless times, called us 25+ times a day, left nasty voicemails...we both changed our numbers and moved because it became unbearable. We move...then 2 years later we decide to try again a d forgive her so we wrote her a letter. She wrote back again indicating her son atopped talking to her bwacause of me etc. No, Her son stopped talking to her because well several reasons... she was on drugs, in and out of rehab and lost several apartments from not paying rent and her rude manipulative ways. We have gone to the police.. now here is the problem, she lives in the next state over and we do not know where sge is. ANYWAY! after changing jobs...she eventually finds out where my husband works and has been calling his work! He is pissed! We do not know what to do as we dont know where she lives... please help!!!
-at wits end
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Adviceman is right about the police or at least going to them and asking for names of private dectectives you could hire. Sometimes the work load for the police is too high too have the time to investigate all angles.
I dated a private dectective for a while. >He didn't give details of cases but told me the tricks they use to track down a person. Never has trouble finding them.
Good luck.
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Don't under estimate the powers of the police to find someone especially your mother in-law. You say she has been on drugs and in and out of rehab. It may be possible she has been in jail for being in possession of drugs and therefore may be on active parole. If so she has to be registered with a parole officer and have regularly scheduled visits or at the very least have her living address registered with the department of parole and probation.
If she is working then she has to have a social security number. The police can track her down through this, something you cannot do.
Harassing people, even relatives is is illegal. Depending on the degree of harassment she can be charged with a misdemeanor or a felony.
Calling 25 times a day, calling someone at work asking neighbors where she can find you is all considered harassment. You should inform neighbors that no one is to be told where you work unless they are law enforcement agents. Family and friends who you want to reach you or might need to find you all have information as how to reach you.
My suggestion n is you turn this matter over to your local police or sheriff. File what ever charges they suggest and let them handle this from there. If she contacts you arrange a meeting and bring the police with you or have them go in your place.
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calling your family repeatedly and your husbands work is harassment. I don't know what state your living in but that should be grounds for a restraining order. Perhaps you could speak with the police in the state she is living in and ask to report the harassment to them? Perhaps they could track her down to charge her. At least if they have a record of her harassment then they can do something if she gets picked up for something else. If she is a drug addict she may be picked up by the police for something and if there are records of people reporting her, it could work in your favor.
I'm sorry your going through this it's a tough situation with no clear answer. All you can do as of right now is explain the situation to your work, colleges, friends family and anyone she may contact. Ask these people for patience and assure them that you are communicating with authorities to do all you can to get the problem fixed. Until then it may be worth your time to screen all the calls coming out of her area code.
good luck :)
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