ok, everytime i start to like a guy, i tell myself im not good enough, and i wonder why any guy would want to be with me. im 14 and have never had a real boyfriend, but i desperately want one. and when i finally do start to think im good enough for the guy, i woory about what his friends and my friends would think... i just dont know what to do...
First thing you need to do is realise that you are a brilliant and unique person. Then that no one is too good for someone else, everyone is equal. Plus hunny, remember that it doesn't matter what any one else thinks, only what you and your guy thinks. I know it's hard, but I'm sure that your guy will be able to reassure you if you ever start to worry. So relax and start to let the real you shine through, then you'll have a boyfriend in no time.
Be happy
Claire xx
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ok i have a hard time with the flirting thing like i know when im trying to flirt but other times people will ask me y im flirting soo much with certin guys and im not trying im just like being me and guys will ask me if i like other guys and when i say no they'll ask y i lead them on its like .. im not tryin to sooo i was wondering what i should doo and how i should relize its flirting?
thanks a bunch
Me!
I know how you feel. It's really annoying having people run up all the time saying that your being too obvious that you like a guy and stuff like that. You just have to be a little more aware of what your doing when your around guys. Smiling a lot and making eye contact are two of the main ways to flirt, so if you don't want to flirt stop doing that so much. Also paying guys a lot of compliments and touching them eg. on their arm constantly will look like your flirting. Tone it down.
Maybe what you really need to do is stop trying to flirt and be you all the time. You won't get as nervous and you might end up letting the natural flirt within you get out! Plus, think carefully about the guys that those people say you've been flirting with. Is it possible that perhaps you do secretly have a slight crush on them and just havent realised it yet?
Happy thinking
Claire xx
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i asked a girl out and she said yes ok im 13 she 13 and i want to take her some where but i dont know how to go any where because her parents dont know and i dont want to go with one of her friend unless i have to.i have a older brother and sister that can drive so how do i go some where with her???
Ask her to go to the cinema. She can say she is just going with a friend, after all guys can be friends with girls. Offering to pick her up would also be a good idea as then her parents will not have the chance to question you or her about it too much if she doesn't tell them she's going with a guy before then. Also, let her pick the movie, that always goes down well. Good luck
Claire xx
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sorry this is long.
okay. this girl, tegan, lives with my family. she's only been here 3 weeks and she's already like a sister to me. problem: she likes my boyfriend josh. she is always saying how awesome he is and how he is realy good looking and stuff. and today she was going on about how jealous she is. she keeps saying she wants a guy just like josh! i really really like him. i am not giving him up! i tried setting her up with another guy and for 3 days she was all 'dan this, dan that' and saying how much she likes him. but then she dumped him and is going on about josh again. i tried talking to her but she is all like 'i'm just mucking around' but i can tell she isn't.
HELP!
Why don't you talk to Josh about it. I'm sure he'll ease your mind and that way he'll be warned if she tries to make a move on him. Plus, if she really was bothered about it, I think she would have been more honest with you. Remember, he chose you, not her. I know it's annoying at the moment, but I'm sure she'll get over him soon and move onto someone new. Good luck
Be happy and don't worry so much
Claire xx
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I liked my friend's brother, we'll call her Sally, and him Fred. Well..Sally didn't like it too much. But Fred introduced me to his cousin, we'll call him Kevin. And now me and Kevin date, and Sally is mad at me..What the heck?!?! What do I do???
-Incapable of Pleasing people.
It sounds like Sallys being a bit immature. Why don't you try talking to her and explain how much you like Kevin (even if you don't) and want it to work out, but you'd still like her to be your friend. If she eventually sees the light, then great. If she doesn't, then your going to have to make a choice between your friend and your boyfriend. It's rubbish, but if Sally can't accept your relationship with Kevin then you will have to make that decision. Hope everything works out okay for you. Good luck
Claire xx
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my friend knows i like him and i gave him my number today cause my friend gave him the wrong number. and i gave him ahug and he gave me one back. he seems to be protecting me by standing up for me when people make fun of me or when people are stocking me like this one boy who likes me but i don't ike him. does this mean anything that he is standing up for me?! could it be a sign of love?! what should i do to thank him?
It really sounds like he fancies you back. Happy dance you :-) Why don't you be brave and ask him out? Alternatively, you could wait to see if he asks you first, but if you don't like waiting take the first option. I think lots of hugs and smiles are enough for your guy to know that your very grateful. Really hope this turns out well for you. Good luck!
Claire xx
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okay, i've written before about this kid brendan who i'm still in love with. (really bad) but it doesn't really look like he's interested at all. so i started going out with the kid steve who i've gone out with a million of times before. i don't like him but my best friend lucas said he's really diggin me and i should go out with him kinda to get him off his back. lol.. i know it's mean but i'd do it for him. and as you all know valentine's day is coming up and i don't know if i should break up with him now and get it done with or if i should wait a lil while after valentine's day. or would that look like i was using him. oh ya and steve is planning something really cute for valentine's day along with a couple of my girls boyfriends for all of us. so i don't know if that would be mean to dump them eaither. oh ya and im 16! (please help) xOox elise*
Well, you kinda are using him and being mean already. Soz but its true. The best thing you can do is just dump him just now. Your not being fair to him or yourself by leading him on. Just get it over with, there's no point in dragging it on for another couple of weeks. Then once you've done that, why don't you just come out right and tell brendan how you feel. Hopefully he'll feel the same. If he doesn't, I know it will hurt, but that way at least you'll know the truth and be able to start to move on instead of staying confused. I really hope everthing turns out okay for you. Good luck
Be happy
Claire xx
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hey guys
well there are a bunch of girls that are best friends in mi class. Lets call them G, J, L, and R.
ok well L is a new girl in mi class this year. She is an aweful person. She talks about G J and R behind their backs. And no one liikes L in the first place. G J R and myself are bffs tho (ever since 2nd grade). Today in skewl everything was crazi. All of us were going crazy because L J and R were all talking about G behing her back and calling her bossy and a B*tch and stuff like that. It happened 2 times TODAY!. the first time i heard but i didnt tell any1 then the second time, G was right there and heard them so she told off L because ever since L came to our school, she has caused all of us to fight at least once. G was totally bummed and it ended up making her cry at the very end of the skewl day. She would NEVER talk about L R or J behind their backs. Now I am afraid because we all are helping out at skewl on sunday with open house for skewl. so right now i'm soo confused and I cant stay out of this because we are only friends with eachother and dont like the other grls as bffs and i just cant stay away from mi friends. They have been in fights b4 but i have a feeling that this is the end of all of us being friends. It is going to split us up. Just talking doesnt help with these girls. Should I totally ignore R and J ?? its kinda hard because just talking and trying to figure things out doesn't help. R and J ALWAYS wait for me to get mi books and walk w/ me to class. And also me and J have a Notebook for passing notes but we write sort of like a diary entry one night at home and then the other person gets the notebook the next nigght and responds w/ a "diary entry"
I'm also very mad at R and J (i was never friends w/ L) because it totally surprise me that they would do something like that. what should i do!?¿¿¿
please help
sorry it was sooo long
signed
bff trooubles
Why don't you invite J,G and R round to your house and spend a girly night in. Have a truthful talk to each other about the whole problem and anything else that's been bothering any of you. Try to get R and J to apologise to G and explain why they did it. It would also be good, seeing as you say nobody likes her anyway, to make a pact as friends not to let L get in the way of your friendship and it would probably be best for all of you if you stopped talking to L. Unless of course she starts to talk to any of you, then I would suggest that you keep your answers short and end the conversation as quickly as possible without being rude, as this may just result in a large confrontation otherwise. After your talks do something that you all enjoy doing, like watching a movie, to help you start to bond as friends again. Best of luck, hope everything turns out okay.
Claire xx
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hey guys. before i begin i must say that all you guys are really great at giving advice. mucho props. okay now my problem. i have this friend chris and i think i did a really bad thing. i flirted with him wayy to much today. it was really bad. good for me but i dunno. it seemed like he was haveing problems. i dont know what my dealio is but i really didnt mean to do it. so my question is what should i do to like i dunno go back to the way things were before i was freaking him out. thanks you all!!!
The only thing you can really do to fix the prob is just to talk to him about it. You haven't mentioned whether or not he fancys you or not. If you don't know, be brave and ask him out right if he likes you or whether your flirting was too much for him. If you do know and he doesnt fancy u, then apologise to him and maybe ask him to go to the cinema with you and some mates to ease the tension. Hope I helped
Claire xx
Ps. IM SCOTTISH NOT ENGLISH!!! lol, soz :-) glad i helped
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I know this sounds stupid but here it goes..THere is this guy at our school that FLIRTS with all the girls, but he flirts with me the most and all the girls say so to. I really like him too. He always plays footsie ne and like he always drinks out the same cup as me and then he is like oh sorry but I can tell he does it on perpose and he tries to hold my hand. THe only thing is we are not going out, and this has been going on for about 2 months and I just cant stand it why wont he as kme plz type back
Maybe he is a little shy when it actually comes down to asking people out. Why don't you try to be brave and ask him out yourself? If he has flirted with you this much then there is not much of a chance that he will say no. However if he does say no then he has been completely using you and isn't worth your time or tears. Go for it girl!! Good luck
Claire xx
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when ever my freind comes around me she gives me this look like she like "likes" me or something and i dont know how to tell her about it but shes freakin me out! what do i do?
Why don't the next time she comes round, start up a conversation about the guy you fancy or a hot celeb that you like and try to get your friend involved. If she seems really keen to talk about guys then you may just be mistaking her being friendly towards you for something more. However if she changes the subject or starts to talk about you, then you may be right. The best thing to do is just talk to her about it, tell her exactly how you feel and tell her you'll totally support her if she does admit she is gay. However prepare to do some major grovelling if she denies it. I know it sounds risky, but it's the only way you'll know for sure if she is really freakin you out. Good luck
Claire xx
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I've always been super shy. I don't really talk to anyone ever. Usually when I'm around my boyfriend I really open up and talk to him. But lately I guess I've started getting kinda shy around him and I really don't know why. Is there anything I can do to help me get over this stupid shyness?
You should really have a one-to-one conversation with your boyfriend about it. I'm sure he'll be able to boost your confidance and make you feel much better. Alternatively, have you got Hotmail? If you don't, go to www.msn.co.uk and download it for free. By using instant-messaging, you can build up relationships with people where you are not face to face and have time to think about your answers before you reply. This should soon build up your confidence so that it will be easier for you to talk to them when you are actually face to face. Hope that helped.
Claire xx
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Ok so this is such a random question but I could use some advice!! So I am a cheerleader at a really great gym and at school, I am going to High School next year, I have to choose between one or the other... Freshman Cheer? Or Club Cheering? I love my squad at the gym.. we had a loss on our team so it brought us closer together. (i am on an older team) I dunno if I should do it again.. I really like the Pep Ralleys and stuff, but I love Competitions too! School and Gym cheer tryouts are coming up so please help me decide!!! -thanks-
If you love your team at the gym so much, stay there. You'll be so much happier as you'll be with your friends and if things at school get too much, you'll always have your friends at the gym who don't go to your school to cheer you up and pull you through. Hope this helped, good luck.
Claire xx
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im so confused... ok sorry if this is long... i like this kid in my class and hes so cute and it seems like he likes me cuz hes always bothering me and i know thats like soo first grade but i still think he likes me and hes all i think about and dream about and i always stare at him in class hes soo cute and i want him soo bad, hes like the class clown and hes kinda popular i guess you can say cuz hes soo funny. and he hangs out with popular people. i want soo badly to be with him i dont know what to do, i feel like im setting my self up for a big fall and i dont know if he likes me but sometimes it seems like he does! and i really want him to. how can i find out if he likes me? what are some signs? i really need help this is driving me crazy!
i rate 5s to anyone who responds!
I know how you feel. Why don't you have one of his mates find out if he likes you for you. Then you can find out for definite before you ask him out. If your feeling really brave, just go for it!! Plus, if you like him this much, don't let your fear or anyone else get in the way. I hope everything works out for you, good luck
Claire xx
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I recently asked people whether i shud go out with tom or declan! i decided to go out with tom but his three best friends have text me saying he doesn't like me anymore. its really annoying and messing my head up because he told me he still liked me and he told my best friend he still liked me aswell! i dont what to do? any ideas of what i shud do?
The only thing that will truly stop all the confusion is just to be brave and talk to him about it. Love is a risk so go for it!! Plus if things don't work out with Tom, Declan is still a possibility. Good luck
Claire xx
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How do you know when you're in love? And I mean really in love, not lusting after something you can't have, not loving someone, IN love, with 'the one'. How do you know?
Thnx,
Hallie
When your in love, you feel all the normal things like the weird feeling in your stomach, you think/dream about him all the time, etc.
But when you truly love someone you have to seriously know that (a)you couldn't live without them and that (b)if they were in a perilous situation, you would be prepared to risk your life or even die to save them. That is what I think anyway. Personally I hope that when you find the one you'll know, but that's just my dream. Think really hard about the (a) and (b) parts, if you eventually answer yes to both questions then there's a big chance that you are in LOVE!! Hope I was helpful
Claire xx
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well there is this guy and well he is really hott and nice. i like him and i think he knows but, how do i know if he is interested? hes really sweet and i have like alot of feelings for him. im not gorgeous but im not ugly. we have the same friends and another problem is like all the other girls in school like him too.
Love's a risk so just ask him if he's interested. Although, if your too shy like me, talk to one of his mates and get them to find out for you. That way if he says no, there's no chance that you will get made fun of. Also, looks aren't everything and if that's all he is interested in then he's not worth your time. Plus, who cares about all the other girls, all that matters right now is that you like him and what he thinks of you. Hope everthing turns out the way you want it to.
Claire xx
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My former best friend and I have been growing apart over the last two years. Now to her I'm just someone she says hi to in the hall. It's been hard to stay in touch over the years because she is so busy and we haven't been in any of the same classes. We still consider oursleves "friends", but I wish things could go back to the way they used to be. Whenever I call her to do something with me, she always has other plans. Ever since we started fading away from being best friends I've really missed her. We had been best friends for over 4 years and we had this dream of becoming famous actresses together, and it really saddens me how apart we've grown now. I'm afraid that in a couple of years or so, we might not be friends at all. I feel like there is nothing I can do to just have us be best friends or even just good friends again, but I need to figure out something. This seems impossible since shes always so busy with her activities and her group of best friends. Can anyone help me on what to do? I rate high!
The only way to solve this problem is just to sit your friend down and tell her how you feel. If you truly want to fix your friendship then you have to be completely honest. It would also help if you asked her to not respond until you have said everything you need to say, that way it is less likely that your conversation will turn into an argument. Also, why don't you try getting to know some of her new best friends. You may find you like them and may be able to hang out with them with her, making it easier for you to see her as you will not have to separate her from her new friends first. I hope I've helped you and good luck!!
Claire xx
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last year one of my best friends went out with this guy for about a month. they broke up because he never really liked her. this year the 3 of us have a class together so im with him alot. he told my best friend (his ex) that he kinda likes me and i started having feelings for him to. but my friend just told me that she really likes him and hasnt gotten over him since last year. i dont know if i should tell her i like him to or just ignore it. she wants to go out with him now because shes not going to the same school as us next year. should i say something to her or just wait to see if we still like each other next year when she doesnt go to the same school?
It's really rubbish when this happens, but you have to first of all let your friend know that this guy just isn't iterested in her at all and will probably just end up hurting her. However, I wouldn't tell your friend that you like him just yet because she may think you have made him not liking her up so that you stand more of a chance with him and may then fall out with you, plus you may hurt her by telling her. Hopefully she will take your advice and not go out with him. Then in a couple of months when the dust has settled and she has had the chance to move on, tell her how you feel and ask her if it would be okay if you asked him out. Friends are much more important than boyfriends and seeking her advice before you go any further will help your friendship survive if you do end up going out with this guy.
Good luck.
Claire xx
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