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there is this girl in school who i am in love with..she is really hot and everything but i like her for who she is not the way she looks. she knows about how i feel obviously since i told her..and she used to like me a lot. we have made out and everything several times. she told me not to tell anyone because the first time, she was still going out with her boyfriend but she liked me not him and the 2nd time, it was the night she dumped him for me..it seems like after she dumped him she stopped liking me..she comes over almost every weekend but she was mad at me for a while because i told my best friend that me and her had made out...heres what happened..my friend knows how to annoy the shit out of me and he did just that...she took my arm and put it behind my back and pushed it up and it hurts sooooo damn bad and he wouldnt let go until i told him :(...please dont tell me i need to get new friends, theyre the only ones i have. so anyways, now she likes another guy, hes a sophomore, a pothead, and i think hes using her. i found out on halloween that her and him have hooked up and shit and it kills me to think about it. she acts like nothing happened and she constantly makes me mad by telling me about him and everything, she knows it pisses me off and that i love her. i cant move on, i have tried. i have told her how i feel.
*If you must choose between someone you love and someone who loves you, always choose the one who loves you... because you can always learn to love someone, but you can hardly ever make someone else love you* - have you ever heard that? i wish she could do that..i just want her back so bad so things could be like they used to be, she said she doesnt know why she suddenly stopped liking me but one of the reasons is she cant picture me as her boyfriend because of my personality...she pictures me as a bestfriend not a boyfriend AND I HATE IT!!! i dont want to be her bestfriend, i want to be her boyfriend...it hurts to think about it all and i dont know what to do i am soo confused. i think about her all day..i asked her out at homecoming during the last slow dance and she said no..i went home and cried, she hadnt told me she didnt like me anymore and everyone told me it was so sweet and romantic and w/e and she would surely say yes...i love her so much! i need her...
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Tell her, that u love her and u need her and just spill everything. End it with something like "If you dont feel the same way, then this is goodbye, i dont wanna be ur best friend. And if you're gonna continue to treat me bad and mess with my mind, it's over." and walk off, if she's worth it, she'll call ur name or something. U seem like an awesome guy, and i say if she still blows u off, screw her. U prolly have girls who watch ur ever move and u dont even kno it. Just take one last chance with the girl, if that doesn't work, just open ur eyes to the world around u. Hope i helped, write back if ya want
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does anyone have any advice for me. i have asked out about 20 people and have gotten a no from all of them. i dont know what i am doing that is wrong. can someone help me? please..... (link)
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Stop asking out ppl! Asking out so many ppl makes u look desparate. And if you ask one person out after another, the person u ask out wont feel too special, u kno? Just think, if sumone just put every guy/girl (u didn't say if u were a guy or girl) in a line and asked each one of them out and then got to u, that would prolly mean she didn't like anyone but was desparate. Just lay low for a while and then ask someone out that u LIKE!! If u ask the right person at the right time, i'm sure everything will be fine.
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i was staying after school waiting to be picked up and the 1 guy that ive liked ALOT with me. (he kinda had feelings for me but he is so hooked on his gf) well my dad called my cell and said my Aunt DIED, and he'd pick me up in an hour. so i started crying histerically, and Tom just came over and comforted me and i layed there in his ARMS crying. he literally wiped my tears and layed with me the whole time. Once i stopped crying he leaned over and kissed me. and then... we started making out for minutes straight, it was the most amazing/beautiful thing EVER. eventually i had to leave, & later Tom called & said how perfect that was & never had anything special like that. well he asked me what to do about his gf cause theyve been together for a year & he doesnt know if he should TELL her or NOT. hes really confused. so what should he do about his gf do you think he should tell? i dont want her to be mad at me and have all her friends threaten me and stuff. please help i dont know what to do about the whole situation, this is too much... (DONT TELL ME ITS WRONG WHAT WE DID CAUSE no shit I KNOW THAT ALREADY!!!) (link)
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If u ask me, HE made the move. U were just upset and needed comfort. And he should just tell his gf that he found sumone else, it'll hurt but it's the truth and that's all he can give. I dont think u did anything. Ur just really lucky to have a guy like that! Hope i helped!
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what is the real definition of cheating on someone?
just wondering (link)
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Well, if you flirt intensely with sumone, that's cheating. But if u just think about sumone that u might have liked b4 u hooked up with sumone or something like that, that's not cheating, that's just a human mind. Just no kissing, or anything like that.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for a few months now but weve known and liked eachother for about a year...well we r really close n i decided to tel my parents about him and ive met his parents n stuff already...well 2dae i went to the movies with him and his family n his dad brought me home n dropepd me off and my bf walked me to the door...well my mom was like
"OH CAN I MEET UR PARENTS??" n my bf was like sure..and he walked her to his car...and i was like NO mom omg i cant believe u!1 and now i feel stupid! im scared to talk to him now bc im scared he mite think im a loser or watever for having my MOM go meet and talk to his parents and me standing ther having a lil fitt....wat can i do? idk im so embarassed im like not wanting him to call...=\ (link)
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I kno you're embarrased, but ur MOM did it not YOU. Just call ur bf, if he gets mad about what ur MOM did, he's stupid. But i think everythings gonna be fine. :-D
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I have this friend that one day can be like my best friend and the next day act like she doesn't even know me/ like me. She is someone i want to be friends with but i just can't really take all the confusing things she does. I just kind of need a good friend in my life that is pretty stable since i dont really have to many other friends where i live. 15/f/wa thanks (link)
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I have that same problem. Tell them that what they're doing is impossible and ur not gonna stand for it! U deserve better. i kno that u just want a friend even if they abuse ur friendship. But i kno u kno it's wrong to remain in that position. think about it...
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Ok... one of my best friends just left from SC and moved to FL. I miss hime soo much. His parents kicked him out of the house and I loved him but while he was here I was afraid to tell him and now that he is gone I wish I had. He always said he had something for me but everytime we wanted to do something I had a boyfriend. Should I call him and tell him how I feel? (link)
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of course!!!! If you're never gonna see him again. What do u have to lose? But even if u were gonna see him again, ur feelings shouldn't be kept inside. And who knows? Maybe he likes u!
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You've probably heard this before, but here goes anyway.
I've been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. I am really in love with him (im serious!) but sometimes he can be a jerk. We live like half an hour from each other, and neither of us can drive, so we barely see each other. We used to say "I love you" everytime we talked, like before we hung up the phone, but now, he won't say it to me, unless its to make me feel better, or if he's done something I dont like and hes tryin to get me not mad.
So.. does he still love me? Or do you think hes losing interest in me and we should just break up?
I've tried talkin to him about it... and he tells me its my choice what I want to do. And that just makes it harder on me. Please help me come to a decision! (link)
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I say dump him. I think you two r growing apart and living a lie.
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This is gonna be a long one. If you have a knack for tl, dr (too long, didn't read) then keep going to the next "i liKe a guY wut dO i dO!? i rAte hIgh thx!" question.
A little over a year ago I started dating Alex. She was everything I ever wanted in a girl...and then some. For 9 months I enjoyed the best relationship I had ever shared with anyone. I loved her more than anything...
Over last summer she had to go to South Carolina for a month. We talked a few times on the phone while she was there. She wished me a happy birthday when it came, and during the last week she was there she told me how excited she would be to see me again.
When she finally came home early August, she told me she was too tired to see me when she had just gotten back. I understood; she had been on a couple of planes since 5 in the morning and in a car as well.
And we didn't see each other for a whole week.
And at the end of that week, she broke up with me.
During those next three months we spent a bit of time together anyway. There were times when we would snuggle up, and we even kissed a few times. For a while, it had felt like nothing had changed. But for the last couple of weeks, we had both been too busy and I did not have the option to go see her. I decided that it was pathetic to refuse to date other people just because of the slim opportunity she might take me back. I decided to get over it and just stop trying.
She had asked me a while back to look for a couple games for her, and I had found and bought one. I just wanted the chance to take it to her. A couple nights ago I went over there and gave it to her, and hung around for a while. I really wasn't very happy while I was there...being at her house made me feel too nostalgic and brought back too many memories. I told her "just being here makes me depressed...I'm going to go." She called my name as I walked out the door, and I turned back and said weakly, "I love you."
I went to my car and sat in the seat for a minute. And then I started to cry. It's all I could do. After I realized that I would not be able to drive since I could not see, I went back inside and cried on her shoulder. She comforted me as she always does.
3 months after the breakup and it's still obvious I am not over her. No matter where I am or what I am doing, I think about her. I have never loved anyone like I have her. Forgetting about her is not an option. I haven't been able to date other people yet. I have told her how I feel. What else is left? (link)
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U seem like an incredible person and i thinkthat if she doesn't like you, then she's not worth being crazy over. But i kno that just saying that isn't gonna change ur feelings. I think you should talk to her about getting back together. If she doesn't, she's being an idiot b/c there's no reason not to like you. But if she doesn't, u just need to try to forget her and move on.
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I was thinking...do any of you agree with the saying, the right guy will come when you stop looking? (link)
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No, Your never gonna completely stop looking.
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