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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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My boyfriend was with a girl for 6 months. Now weve been together for almost two months, but the other day he called me his exs name. What do I do?
is this the first time? it might have been a honest mistake, but if i were you, i'd talk to him.. point out that you're not his ex. You might want to be careful if this might be a sign that he has feelings for his ex still or something.
I am a 20 year old guy, who just happens to really like a girl who will be 17 in three months time.
i do beleive she likes me, but when I try to ask if she would like to do something, her parents always seem to have reasons why not. When I ask her about things, she seems to genuinly intrested, but can't. Am I better off to ingore these feelings, and move on, or is this worht pursuing?
It doesnt seem like you should give up so easily. You should talk to her parents, reassure them of any fears thy have of their daughter dating an older guy (though by standards you're just three years older.. which isnt that bad, just the numbers look scary). Plus if she likes you back, then i say this is definitely worth pursuing. why give up so fast? It just seems like her parents are worried about her, thats all.
Hi
Im new to this, so i dont know my way "around" in here yet so im sorry if this is a dumb question. In answering my question you mentioned " the person below me is just Wrong" I saw no other response to my question. Do you remember what it said? Id really appreciate it if you could remember.
Thanks again
Distressed Daughter
Oh hi. Someone else posted before me about how no one would waste their time and even try to read your entire letter.. that's all i remember but there was something else. It was a really stupid 'answer' and didnt even answer your question. I'm assuming the person deleted his answer then.
Just out of pure curiosity, if a girl is dating a guy and say she's 16 and he's 17. When the guy turns 18, legally do they have to break up?
Thanks, Female, 14.
not really.. if you're thinking of the 'pedophile' issue, there's actually a calculation or something that you can do to see if he would be a pedophile.. but legally, you dont have to break up if you're a 16 year old dating a 18 year old. I'm pretty sure about that.
I am very sad!!
Last night my bf asked me if I think that I was ready for marriage ..I was surprise and happy of course .He just pop up with the question if I love him and if I want to marry him one day .
I said yes ...I was really happy.
After that we kept on talking about marriage and stuff than I told him that If I ought to marry him I want to keep my own lastname ....He got really mad and told me that he doesn't like my desicion.
The real reason why I wouldn't like his lastname is that his parents has the same last name and they really hate me and do really bad and nasty stuff to me .THEY HURT ME A LOT,
It's really hard for me to go around with the lastname of my biggest enemies
I love my bf ..we had been A LOT to be togheter ..his parents did the imposible things to seperate us ..They are really jealous about their son.
The second reason is that my dad has more than 5 childrens and he only gave me his lastname ..I'm proud to have this lastname and I really don't want to change it..
Can anyone understand me ?????
I don't want to hurt him but how to explain to him this strange feeling ?
I'm really sad ..
well, you should definitely explain to him what you just said here. your boyfriend shouldnt get so pissed, but he does seem to have a right to be mad.. in marrying him you get his last name and enter his family.. maybe you can have your name ajoined with his.. like "jane smith marries adam jones = jane smith jones"? I think you should take his last name someway anyway, cuz then wouldnt that piss his parents off even more? Because now you're a part of their family and have their last name.. and they can't do anything about it.
A question to call my own.
So, I have problems with being the one left behind. In my social life, since I started high school and continuing to today, I have always been the friend not called. When I show up somewhere, I get hugs and backslaps and people all come and hang out with me. But in order to show up, I have to find out about it by hearsay.
Example, a friend of mine has a party with his parents every year. Huge party at his little place. Most of my old friends know about this place and get invited, but I didnt find out about it until tonight, while everyone else has been planning the trip to go for about a week. I talked to him today (he came in town for ACL, for those of you who know what that is) and he told me about the party and asked if I was going to be there. But he didnt call me to tell me he was having a party to begin with.
This has been the story of my social life for forever. Like I said, I hang out with people and I have a bunch of guys and girls I get along with very well, but if I dissapeared into my own room for a month, some wouldnt come looking for me until Id been gone a few weeks, others might not notice at all.
I just dont understand how all these people I hang out with and call my friends, who treat me like a sibling when Im around, completely forget I exist once Im out of the room. I mean, Ive made a habit now of just finding out things on my own because if I find out myself, everyone welcomes me to attend. But they just dont tell me themselves.
Opinions? Advice? Anyone faced a situation like this before? I mean, Ive gotten used to it enough, I didnt think it bothered me anymore. Guess it still does a bit. I just wish I was at least sometimes one of the people who was called and told to tell others, instead of one of the people who found out second hand.
i also have this problem with my friends. it seems like unless i happen to be there while they're making plans, i'm not informed or invited. But sometimes they make plans as if i wasn't there, and it really pisses me off. I dont think it's an uncommon problem with some people..
I'd try talking to your friends; i did once and though it wasn't that effective, at least they remembered to invite me to some things more often. One of my guy friends told me to speak up more and try to engage more into the conversations so that they'd 'remember' i'm there (its like wth how can you not tell im there but whatever).. You should make your own plans too and invite people. Then they can be like "oh, he/she invited me to her party, i should invite him/her too!" i dont know how effective that it, but it doesnt hurt to try right? Even though it doesnt seem like a big deal to not be invited to things, it still hurts sometime. If things keep happening, then i'd try to find better friends or a smaller group of friends who will remember you whenever they're making plans =/ i hope your friends realize the mistake they're making and invite you to things more often :)
Iam signing up for the church usa chat what does it mean when they ask you for your icq number?what is an icq number?
thank you.
icq is a messenger thats kind of like AIM and msn. Here's the link if you want to check it out:
http://www.icq.com/
I want to go to UCLA. Any advice?
Any colleges in the area that are pretty prestigious that you would suggest for me? I'm into performing arts and writing. [big artsy fartsy person]
Aside from UCLA, i would say UCSD and UCBerkeley pretty much on the same level, though UCBerkeley's more of a engineering school. Advice on UCLA... they're one of the more competitive UCs so you definitely want good grades and strong SAT and SAT II scores. You can visit the UCLA site for more info if you want. Extracirriculars are a really good thing too.. it shows that you're not the type of person who just stays home and studies so you can get into prestigious colleges. The acceptance is pretty much all about your resume and application and how you show yourself to the application people.
Lets say you are getting a tatoo with a sentence of Chinese symbols (about 5 of them). Is EACH symbol considered one tattoo or would you say all of those symbols together equal one tattoo? Thanks.
I think each chinese symbol would be considered one tattoo because they're all separate symbols.
i really want a date for homecoming. a few of my friends have dates, and although i heard it is better to go with friends, i would love to have a date. everyone is talking about taking pictures and going out for dinner with there dates, and color coordinating what they wear. and i really want that too! there are some guys that i think like me, but im wondering if maybe they are too shy to ask me or something. how can i seem more approachble without seeming desperate for a date! and please dont tell me u dont need a date and its better without one. because i know that but i just want a date lol! please help me..thanks! btw im 14/f
You can ask them without seeming desperate for a date! Just ask casually if they're going to homecoming and if they might and dont have a date, ask if they might want to go with you since you dont have a date either. It's nothing that scary or embarrassing :) If you 'just want a date', at least ask a friend you're comfortable with or you'd be willing to dance with. If you go with someone you dont really know well or might not be comfortable with, homecoming will definitely not be as great as you'd hope. If you still have weeks before homecoming, dont worry too much. Some guys will probably start asking you right before homecoming week.
Hi, I have a girlfriend named Dorothy. well, i dont know if i even have a girlfriend anymore. At the beginning of the summer we were completely for each other than she went on Vacation back to her home country in Vietnam. We emailed and i called her every once in awhile, but as the summer went by it took her longer and longer to Email me back eventually she dint even respond back to any of my emails.
At first i wasnt mad. I was thinking shes probly having alot of fun its okay. but when she got back i called her many times no answer. We're in this club and we had a meeting and i tried to talk to her and she would only answer me. Now i dont even know whats going on anymore. Are we still together? Or what?
People have been telling me to Just talk to her but i cant even get a hold of her should i just give space?
well, it seems like something happened while she was on vaction in vietnam. maybe she met a guy or something happened that caused her to rethink having a relationship with you? It looks like she's starting to avoid you for some reason.
in this situation, giving space definitely doesnt look like a good idea. If you give her too much 'space', you might end up distancing yourselves too much. Whomever told you to talk to her was right. You should definitely try to talk to her, even if she's avoiding you. By giving her space, you still dont know whats going on and at the same time risk losing her.
My advice would be try to find a way to talk to her. Even if she avoids you, persist in trying to get a hold of her... she cant really run forever. Talking to her in person is best. Try doing it before or after the club meeting? Or maybe before or after school.
It seems like things might not work out though, so dont be too depressed if things dont happen the way you want them to, ok?
I hope things work out for you; tell me how it goes. If you need anymore help or if my advice just sucked, feel fre to messag me!
I like this one guy, well call him Joe. Well joe likes me back. But joe is good friends with my ex-boyfriend, who still really likes me and were still friends. My best friend told me not to go out with Joe because my ex would be sad. And she also said she would be sooo mad at me because my ex is so perfect for me(acording to her and no one else). I really wanna date joe but i fear my ex and my bff will me mad.
to tell you the truth, why give a care about what your ex-boyfriend or bff thinks? It's your life and you should be allowed to go out with whomever you want. Besides, why the heck would your bff be MAD at you because your ex is so perfect for you? apparently he wasn't since he's your ex now and your boyfriend. So, if you want to, date joe. Ignore what your bff or ex thinks, because it's not their choice, it's yours.
i feel so weird because im 15 and i havent had my first kiss yet. is this normal?
haha dont worry about it; it's totally normal. i'm 16 and i havent had my first kiss yet and i know a lot of girls who havent been kissed yet, some older than me. Besides, dont be so eager to lose your first kiss yet!
What does it exactly mean to be high maintenance ?? People have called me it once. & I just dont know what it exactly means. Thanks for the help
high maintenance pretty much means that it takes a lot to please or satisfy you.
this link might help:
http://www.enotalone.com/forum/showthread.php?t=129173
OKAy whats the name of the song that goes...
This is the story of a girl who cried a river a drown the whole world but when she looked so sad in photographs i absolutly love her ...WHEN SHE SMILES!!!
also who sings it
Story of a girl by Third Eye Blind. THere's also a version by nine days.
My mom pushes me with grades. She made me study all day for 5 days for one test, and I got a 77. Now I'm grounded for 2 weeks and have to study even harder and longer. I have no social life during the week and rarely on weekends because my mom always makes me study. I'm just not that smart. My first language is Chinese, so school in America is difficult and my mom doesn't care. She hit me with the textbook once because I didn't take notes like she told me to. My friends and I agree that I'm doing the best I can, and adding even more days of non-stop studying won't help. What do I do?
my first language is chinese too and i know exactly how you feel because my mom's like that too.
Aside from everything the advice columnist said before me, you should try finding a tutor or having a friend who knows the subject very well help you. And if you dont get things you learn in class, you should always ask your teacher. i'm sure he or she would be glad to explain it to you. Getting study books might help too or having a study group you can work with. Before tests, see if you and a group of friends could get together to have a study group so that your friends can help you study for your tests.
Dont stay that you're 'not that smart'; under all the pressure your mom is putting you through, it's hard to work very well. Being pressured so much wont help you and only make you feel more frustrated.
Your mom also needs to understand that life in america is different from China. You just dont hit your kids because they are disobedient or dont get good grades. The expectations in america are different too and your mom needs to know that. You're trying your best but she thinks you can do better. Also, your mom needs to understand that it's not all about school and getting good grades. Talk to her or have a teacher you're close to talk to her. Try to work out a study plan with her, like compromise or something. Offer that if she lets you go see a movie or something on the weekend, you'll study an extra hour or something. Dont let your mom control your life by forcing you to study 24/7. It's your life not hers and she needs to know that.
if you need any more advice, feel free to message me!
Well Im going to have a tropical-themed bedroom soon and I would really like some fish in my room. But my mom said I cant because she doesnt want to clean the fish tank and I just dont have the time to do it.What should i do?
you can always just get fish decorations and stick them around your room. or you can buy one of those ecospheres that pretty much as self sustaining and no cleaning needed. Apparently all they need is light to survive. I think they might be somewhat expensive though. Heres a link that might help :)
http://www.1worldglobes.com/ecospheres.htm
1. what is the parliamentary system?
2. what does Deterioration of democratic rule mean?
A system of government in which the power to make and execute laws is held by a parliament. Britain has a parliamentary system of government.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parliamentary_system
Deterioration of democratic rule means the declining state of the democratic rule in simple words.
i kinda want sex now but i want to wait till marige. and i want to not be a freakin virgin
should i have sex or wait till marrage?
it's your own choice. though by asking this question, you technically just proved that you aren't ready to have sex... so just wait till you know the answer to that question for sure. if the answer happens to be 'yes i want sex before marriage', have sex before marriage. if it's 'i rather remain a virgin till i get married', remain a virgin till you get married. simple no? =) it's all up to you.
Does anyone know of any good penpal websites. I'd really like one, I just don't know where to go!
http://pen-pal.com/
http://www.interpals.net/
http://penpalpost.com/
http://www.correspondance-fr.org/en/index.php
hatw.net/
www.freepenfriends.com/
www.abroadlanguages.com/penpal/
im always looking for new penpals so i have a lot of these sites bookmarked :P