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Date him or not?
I like this one guy, well call him Joe. Well joe likes me back. But joe is good friends with my ex-boyfriend, who still really likes me and were still friends. My best friend told me not to go out with Joe because my ex would be sad. And she also said she would be sooo mad at me because my ex is so perfect for me(acording to her and no one else). I really wanna date joe but i fear my ex and my bff will me mad.
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Don't let anyone make descisions for you. If you like Joe then date him. If your friend gets mad then tell her that its your life and you can go out with whoever you want. Your ex will probably get sad but you know what just tell him you 2 already had a chance for a relationship and now you need to move on and go out with other guys. Don't let anyone control your life. If your friend is a true friend then she will understand.
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Okay, first off even if Joe is friends with your ex thats not fair of your ex to keep him from dating you because it's not right to make him suffer because your ex is. And this whole bestfriend thing, no, it should be up to YOU not her who you date, and it's up to YOU who is perfect for you, and if she's going to get mad at you just because you don't like the guy SHE WANTS you to. Then that's really stupid. She should be by your side with your descions. Because this is your life not hers.
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They will get upset, but if you really like someone, your best friend shouldn't be trying to stop you. She should want you to be happy. And yes, your ex will be sad, [ and i'm not trying to sound mean here ] but what are you supposed to do? Never date anybody ever again until he stops liking you and dates someone else? It might even help him try and get over you. So, talk to your friend about it. Just be like,"Do you want me to be happy? [ her reply: yes ] Then I would be really happy dating Joe. I mean, I know it might make [ your ex ] sad and everything, but I can't just never date another guy ever again. I have to try and move on, and I can't do that if nobody'll let me. It's not like I WANT to see him hurt or anything, it's the last thing I want to do, but I really like Joe and I want to give me and him a shot." You just got to let her know how you feel, and if she still gets really mad at you, she's not being too good a friend at the moment. She should just be happy for you.
I hope everything works out, and I hope I helped.
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Well, the drama with your ex boyfriend really depends on why you broke up and who broke up with who. Like if you broke up because he did something bad or if he was the one to break up with you, he has no reason to be angry if you go out with someone else. No matter what, he has no claim on you, so he can't make you not go out with someone.
If you really like Joe, you should tell your friend how much you like him, and see if there is any other reason she doesn't want the two of you to go out. But never choose a partner over a friend, as you seem to already know.
I hope this helps!
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to tell you the truth, why give a care about what your ex-boyfriend or bff thinks? It's your life and you should be allowed to go out with whomever you want. Besides, why the heck would your bff be MAD at you because your ex is so perfect for you? apparently he wasn't since he's your ex now and your boyfriend. So, if you want to, date joe. Ignore what your bff or ex thinks, because it's not their choice, it's yours.
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