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hay im adina and im a cheerleader at lewisville high school. i love giving advice so ask me anything!!

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i have a friend that copies everything i do and I HATE IT!!! but somtimes we have fun and somtimes we absoultly hate eachother!
what should i do
sgined jealous?

friends will have their ups and downs.. but if you absolutely can't stand her anymore, then the friendship won't work! trust me, don't force yourself to be her friend if you really don't want to be! i'm sure you can find a better friend, and i'm sure there will be atleast one person in your life who will copy you and there's really nothing you can do about it! sorry!

my best friend and me both like the same guy. well she told me that it was ok to go out with him and that she wouldnt get mad at me if me and the guy went out. she told me she had moved on and found someone else. well me and the guy started going out and she got all mad at me. what should i do?

there's really nothing you can do! you did what she said was okay, and she told you she had moved on. she's the one who told you it was alright with her, so there's no need to break up with him or anything.

How exactly can my boyfriend and i have some privacy without his sister or anyone watching us or barging in on us? not like..sexually..like just so we can have time together. Thanks!

you should go out with him instead of being home with family. you can go to the park, movies, or anywhere where ya'll can be alone together.

ok. my friend likes this guy alot and so do i. we both want to go out with him. she doesnt no i want to go outwith him and i wasnt planing on telling her. so i decided to be nice and tell her i would hook them up. well in 3rd period i asked him if he like her and he said well alittle bit but i like you alot. i asked him if he would go out with her and he said no because he likes me to much. what should i do. i like him alot and i want to go out with him and he knows that i like him alot to. should i go out with him and hope that my friend doesnt get mad or should i just tell him no i dont want to hurt my friend. plz help me

you have to talk to your friend about it! tell her you really really care about her and you really want to go out with him but you don't want to ruin your relationship with her. i suggest you don't go out with the guy though, because that would really hurt your friend even if you don't mean to. friends should come first.. but that decision is really up to you.

hey well i have been dating this guys for about 9 months now and me and him are really close like extermely close and we have givin up all the sexual things cause there was a problem that we had and we got scared and promised if i was ok that we wouldnt do it again. well i think that i have alot of great advice to give ppl and i want to help out with this and i want to know how to help. i would really appericate if you helped me with that. thnx and i love you and you dont know me and i would prefere you didnt but ihonestly had alot of respect towards. but you stop talking to me! thnx alot and bye

aww!! im sorry if i stopped talking to you! you should IM me or something!! well anyway, you should start an advice column.. you can give people advice and stuff.. it's a good way to start! well go to www.advicenators.com and register for free. once your done you can send me your link and i can add you to my list of favorite columnists to spread the word!

ok,where do i begin, alright i like this guy and he likes me,but we are both to scared to go out i mean ill go out with him with open arms but i think he is scare to what should i do?
FROM,
xlilsunshineJSKTx
P.S. im a girl and at age 13

just give him time, or ask him out yourself! asking someone out can be pretty hard for a guy! if he likes you, no worries. he will eventually ask you out sooner or later. :)

i really this this boy. but before i met him there was someone else. so know i like both of the. but here is the thing the before boy is not boyfriend type, i mean his longest relationship was 9 months. but latley he has been bad b/f type. the other guy is so sweet and i talk to him every night. so what do i do????? please help me

well, 9 months IS a really long time for a guy! how does that make him a bad boyfriend? what makes him a bad boyfriend? well to me, it sounds you prefer the other guy. go with him! it seems ya'll can have something for each other since you've been talking to him every night.

I'm not a person that opens up to people usually. There is an acquaintance that I've had in my life for over 6 years that recently started becoming my best friend. We would spend every waking hour together for about 6 months. It was so great. She did get annoying sometimes, but that happens with all consistancy I believe. She had two good friends before her and I really became good friends.

Here's a little background about us. She is more into the fashion scene, while I'm more into the music scene. Somewhere we meet in the middle. I usually dislike people who are into fashion and showing themselves. But she is different. She has some kind of hippy-like quality inside her.

One of her friends was moving, so she moved in with that girl for about a month, to help her packup. We almost didn't talk at all after constantly being together for 6 months. After a month had gone by, she said she was going to drive across the country with them and help them unpack. After about 2 weeks of that, she decided to move in with them 3,000 miles away.

[[Her reason is to get away from her parents and grow up. But she's moving in with people that are 2 years younger than her and way too wild to let her mature into an adult and not a partying adolescent wanna-be adult]]

I'm moving into the country soon, so my chances of making new friends are going to be even more slim. Her family is moving about 5 minutes away from me though. She's leaving behind her childhood friend and myself to follow dreams I know she is still too immature to accomplish.

She has come back for a month to get her stuff and say goodbye. Should I release her back to the fashion-hungered, immature group that she was in before? ... Or do I fight to keep her here and keep the best friend that I came to know and love?

i know it'll be hard, but sometimes you just have to let her make her own decision. i understand you are being a great friend, but you can't stop her from moving with the girls if that's what she really wants. just be there for her and if she ever needs you, help her! maybe later on she will decide to move back, and you will be there to keep her company! you can talk to her about this to change her mind, but if she doesn't, there's nothing you can do about it. sorry.. :/

im really shy when im around people i dont know very well, how can i get out of that phase?

the reason you are like that is because you have low self esteem. learn to love yourself!! maybe you are afraid people won't like you and you care about what they think! just go and talk to people without worrying what they think of you, and speak what's on your mind. express your feelings and tell people YOUR opinion even if it's not the same as theirs. that is what makes people unique and fun! it will be so easy to talk to people without feeling shy and you will make a lot of friends!

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am i a slut ??? i just hook up with guys but i wont go out with them, i dont do anything passed making out but yea. im really afraid of commitment because i dont want to get hurt and i know that thats what will happen. i break up with guys within like 2 weeks just so i dont get to conferatble. same with girl friends, i dont have many close friends because ive gotten hurt by friends way to many times.
all of my friends are like i'll hook you up blah blah blah... i dont want a boyfriend is that bad. its okay to wait right? i just want to have a little fun

of course you aren't a slut. gosh people these days seriously don't know what a slut is! well, it's totally okay for you to be like that and not want a boyfriend yet! it's actually better to wait and then get a boyfriend when you really feel the need to have one. that way, you don't get hurt so much and find a better guy than you would have if you went out with any guy. alot of girls have made the same decision you have, so of course its okay to wait! your young and being young is the time to have fun! hehe

i am a cutter and that is something that is hard to sdmit but what are ways to stop and alternitives??

keep your mind busy and off the things that bother you. talk to your friends about your problems and they will help you out! if you don't stop, seriously, talk to your parents they will help you stop if you can't do it yourself. i know hurting yourself may make you feel great in the moment, but afterwards it's no good. if you stop once, you will most likely stop the next time, and you won't have that certain schedule of cutting yourself. talk to a counselor about this, that's what they are there for. they usually help you a whole lot, because they've had to deal with problems like this before with other kids!

Okay I just can't seem to stop going on AIM instant messanger, updating my site, or going on advicenators!! HELP please!! I'm like addicted and I can never concentrate plz help thanks I rate.

you probably do that, because you don't have anything to do. keep yourself busy and get involved with activites at school and such. hang out with friends or talk on the phone.. it's different than aim. lol when you don't have anything to do, go exercise! not only will it keep you busy, it will keep you in shape.

Hi, I need some advice. See, I want to gain weight and get on a healthier diet and stuff. Right now I weigh about 104 and I'm 5'3. I'd like to gain some more weight but not in my stomach, more so everywhere else(legs, arms, butt, etc) So, I was wondering, how do I gain more weight without the weight without it all going to my stomach and still staying healthy? Also, I'd like to be able to have more energy to do activities and stuff but sugary stuff just brings my energy up and then when it goes away, I'm really tired. Is there anything that will make me more naturally energetic? Does anyone have any tips on how I can..
-Gain weight without it going to my stomach but still going everywhere else
-Have more energy without eating sugary products

Thanks so much

the only way to actually gain weight without gaining "fat" on your stomach is to gain muscle. work out alot and get into a sport to help work you out. go to a local gym and do push ups and sit ups and crunches at home every night and morning, and do jumping jack count downs. gaining muscle will help you gain weight and look better without going overboard. to keep energy up, eat healthy and drink alot of water and gaterade. eat alot of vegetables and fruits because they give you energy, and before you work out drink alot of water to keep your body hydrated. remember, muscle weighs more than fat.

Almost exactly a year ago i made a BIG mistake. I was going through a depression and I felt horrible about myself, and my best friend's boyfriend was also one of my best friends. We talked all the time but before he started dating my best friend he liked me but I just didn't see him that way. Well while i was goign through my depression he was really there for me and he made me feel really good about myself. And somehow he managed to talk my way into having sex with him... while he was still with my best friend. Now i know that it sounds horrible but honestly i am NOT that type of girl i am like an awesome friend and i'd do anything for anyone because i'm just like that. After i did it i cried for like weeks. It took about 3 months until my best friend found out and she was crushed. This just through me into a deeper depression. But eventually she forgave me and now we will still talk and such but we are nothing like we use to be, and nor do i expect us to be. But the thing is is i still can't get over it, even though she forgave me its like i can't forgive myself. I drive myself crazy thinking about what a horrible thing i did and how horrible of a person i am. I honestly feel like shit everyday because it doesn't get out of my head, everytime i see her i think to myself how couldi have done that to her i am jsut a bitch. And like i just put myself down so much. I've only had sex with 2 guys in my whole life but i feel like a total slut. And i should i think. I'm starting to fall back into my depression and it is driving me crazy. I got over it for a few months but now its just all starting to bother me again. I don't know how to deal with it. Does anyone have any ideas on how i can rid myself of this uncontrollable guilt? i mean i know i should feel guilty but i honestly feel likei am driving myself crazy. Thanks so much

aww!! stop making yourself think you are a bad person, because you aren't. if you were, your friend wouldn't have forgiven you! and you are definately not a slut! now, i do believe it was totally wrong for you to have sex with your best friends boyfriend, but i know you totally didn't mean it. you were confused about your feelings and actions and you were going through depression. understand that that's all apart of growing up into an adult, and trust me you will probably make alot of mistakes on the way. everyone does! you aren't the only one who's done something like that, trust me. just tell your friend how guilty you feel and how you regret ever doing it and how it's effected your life. just know that true friends will always be there for you no matter what. this may be there for the rest of your life, but you learn to live life without thinking about it so often. just go on with your life and meet new people concentrate on school and your future. what you did to your friend is a mistake, and everyone makes mistake. take this as a lesson; learn from this mistake.

im in 8th grade and me and my boyfried have been going out for a few months...but we dont rly talk on the phone.We talk ALOT in school but not on the phone and when we talk there is allways something to talk about..is this a bad thing that we dont rly talk on the phone?
help i rate!!

it's definately not a bad thing if you talk to him alot in person. it would be nice if you talked to him once in a while on the phone when you both aren't at school to give ya'll time to talk away from school. but it's totally okay if ya'll are doing just great without talking on the phone. =)

NEED HELP NOW!!

Ok so the other night me and my boyfriend had a talk about about porn and I asked him all these questions... and he told me that he'd only looked at it/watched it three times on kazaa... so I made him swear on us and on my life and he did, but then today me and his friend were joking and he said my b/f just had porn on his computer so i was joking around and I said I was gonna check his computer and see and he got all defensive and wouldn't let me, but then when I did... I found like 10 different websites on his computer... They're all from a long time ago, but still he lied to me! Do I have a right to be mad at him? especially since he swore on us and my life!?!?
WHAT SHOULD I DO???

PS: he appologize a LOT and said he was sorry and he loved me "so much" but I feel like an idiot now for believing him... I need help please give me advice!!

yes, you have a right to bed mad! especially since he promised he wouldn't and made you trust him with that. but you have to understand, guys can't control hormones! forgive him, no one is perfect! but if he continues lying to you like he did, then something is definately wrong! i'm glad he apologized, it shows he does care.

I'm not a sloppy eater- it's just I drop stuff a lot. I have this dinner at our country club and it's very formal. I'm wearing this pretty dress along with all the other girls going and the guys wear suits and stuff. So, is there any way that I can try to eat neatly so I won't get junk all over my dress or embaress myself?

haha i am a pretty sloppy eater too! what you should do is eat slower, because like me, i eat very fast and that causes food to go all over the place! lol try to get closer to the table and your plate too, and when you take bites, take them above your plate to avoid food getting on your clothes. remember, don't rush! take your time when it comes to eating!

i really want to lose some weight. i've been eating better and not eating sweets and stuff like that but i can only lose like 3 or 4 pounds. what else can i do?? i exersise normal and im really stressing about it.

hey loosing 3 or 4 pounds is better than nothing! it shows what you are doing is working. keep eating the way you have been and exercise a whole lot! get involved with a sport to help you stay in shape, or just run every morning or night. you should go to a local gym to work out! remember, in order to stay in shape not only do you have to exercise you have to eat right! something that works is to eat 500 less calories a day, but you only loose one pound per week. loosing weight can be time consuming so don't stress out! it will be totally worth it, trust me!

my boobs are uneven one of them is smaller. i have to wear padded bras to make them even! is this normal?thanks appriciate it

of course it's normal! its all a part of puberty. sucks i know, but there's absolutely nothing you can do about it! don't be ashamed though, because every female has the same problem. both boobs won't be exactly the same size even when you are through with puberty. one will eventually be slightly bigger than the other. if your boob difference is very noticable, don't worry! they aren't done growing yet!

I've just started gym class, & she said we're NOT allowed piercings what so ever, even ear. & your not allowed to cover it up or anything. i have 2 of my piercings in my cartilidge, i can take my other ones in my lobe out but not my cartilidge because it'll close and i won't be able to get it back in anyways. I start it tomorrow. and i really duno what to do. I dont want to take them out because I don't want to have to get them repierced. My mom said thats really stupid & she said I won't have to take them out. What should I do?

if you're mom said you don't have to take it out, and you truly don't want to take it out, then go ahead and leave it in and deal with the consequences. how long ago did you peirce your cartilage? if you peirced it atleast 9 weeks ago, then you should be able to take it out for some time and then put it back in. here's an idea, take it out and every 20-25 minutes go to the bathroom and put it back in for a little bit. take it back out and then when its time to go, put it back in! or, if you peirced it less than 9 weeks ago, put a string through your ear hole so it won't close up. even though it looks goofy, it keeps your cartilage from closing up! it's look stupid and keep your peircing, or take it out and loose it.

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