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My name is Elly and I am 18 years old. I live in Michigan and I graduated High School in '07. I'm currently attending a great college, but I'm home for the summer. It's too nice outside to sit on the computer all day, so I might not be as active on here as I would like.I guess a good way to describe me is experienced. I've discovered a lot about life and I can't wait to discover more... while having fun at the same time of course! ...BUT, like everyone, I have experienced things in life that I rather wish I hadn't. And I also feel that those bad experiences qualify me to help others with this column.
I have been in a serious relationship for over two and a half years now. I personally know that love is a difficult thing to nurture. It takes a lot of work. Life is NOT a fairytale where two people can simply love each other and everything will just fall into place. It doesn't work like that in the real world.
People on Advicenators are starting to disappoint me. Everyone says "ooh I want to help! I've experienced EVERYTHING!" Yet, I can't tell you how many questions I see with answers like "you could have googled that" or "we're not going to do your homework" or "I'm so sick of 'wow does he like me?!' questions." I used to sort of be like that, but now I realize how hypocritical that is. If I know the answer to a question, I will answer to the best of my ability without making you feel stupid for asking it in the first place. Advicenators is going to turn into a pretty nasty place if people just keep brushing off questions like that.
Rate or don't rate. I really don't care. But don't give me a 1 just because I tell you something you don't want to hear. Go to your mom for advice if you want sugarcoated answers.
I can give excellent advice on:
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how bad does it hurt the first time for a woman?
Really really bad. You need to go slow the first so your body can adjust to it. Stretching before and after might help lessen the pain.
how do you communicate with your boyfriend when your in the same class? like all lovey dovey, or like.. as friends? idk.. i just got my first boyfriend today and i dunno how to act tomorrow.. he sits near me for like 2 classes and we already had our first kiss.
Just be sweet and chat with him like you normally would. If you even catch his eye, wink at him. It tells him that even in a room full of other people, he's the only one on your mind. Don't be mushy or anything, because PDA is very rude. Like it's ok to hold hands or give a peck on the cheek, but anything else is simply disrespectful.
Congrats I hope you two are happy!
does brown match well with black?
It depends on the entire outfit. If the only colors are brown and black, then yes that would match well. But if you were to wear blue jeans, a black shirt, and a brown sweater, that wouldn't match.
what does it mean when your with someone boyfriend/girlfriend wise and you feel completely safe like nothing can hurt you. you get major butterflys in your stomoch and feel all nervous around them. you think about them alot and when you kiss them it puts the biggest smile on your face. you want to see them all the time and it makes you sad when you cant. what does this mean? does this mean im in love? do i love them? i know i love this feeling but i dont know. is this what in love feels like?
It sounds to me like you are falling in love. And if so, congratulations! All I ask is that you are careful not to allow yourself to get hurt. Love is a beautiful thing, but when you are feeling this way, be extra careful not to trust too easily. With some time and patience, I believe what you are feeling certainly can grow into love. Good luck!
What does it mean when someone uses the phrase "This is boreing, but the bottom line is it's important." What does "bottom line" mean?
The phrase "bottom line" could also be replaced with "the truth is." Used in the context you said, it could mean "This is boring, but the fact is it's important."
I was raised agnostic, which my family is. My dad was raised a conservative catholic, but now is totally against religion and so is my mom. I was always very distant from religion & actually disliked it. Now, being a senior in highschool I've suddenly become interested. How do I go about furthering this interest and finding information about it? My family already doesn't support this and I wouldn't even know what to do if I stepped inside a church.
If you were to walk into a church and express that you were interested in learning more about that religion, I guarantee the priest and members of the church would welcome you with open arms. Why don't you try going to a mass and seeing what it's all about. Afterward, have a chat with the priest, if he's not to busy, and tell him what has been going on lately and that you want some information. If you're not ready for that step, try buying a bible and reading a bit. It's really interesting.
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me and this guy were going out last year. it wasnt very serous we didnt really talk. we were 12 gimme a break. and so he broke up with me right before school started and then in like november he said it was the biggest mistake of his life blah blah blah so we started going out again and this time it got wayy serous and it got a little to much for me and then we both changed our feelings and broke up on friday and now i kind of miss having a boyfriend but i dont miss him. anyways now hes telling my friends he still likes me and he kind of hinted he wants to get back together. i hinted back that i dont want to and told my friends i dont want to go out with him. a few of my friends like him and i know it wont work out and im pretty sure hes just using me because he wants a girlfriend. but also, if he really is nice and sincere i dont want to hurt him. and if he is just a jerk i dont wanna play into his game. how can i tell? it seems like he only says sweet stuff when he wants somthing. wich is kind of annoying. like hes working twords a goal and him being sweet is only to help him achieve this goal. omg this is very long sorry!
I say just forget this guy. Not to sound rude, but both of you are young and experimenting with relationships most likely for the first time. He obviously can't make up his mind if he wants to be with you or not, so it's time to move on. You said yourself you don't want to get back together with him. Tell him once, and firmly for that matter, you are simply not interested in dating him and would like to remain friends. If he doesn't get the picture, he's obviously immature and isn't worth your time anyway. Go have fun and meet some new guys!
There is thios girl that everyone on campus thinks she is a hoe. And, our friends within our circlke of frineds don't even really like her because of her permiscuity. They don't really want to be associated with her. but, she is nice to me and has nice, respectful manners. I feel like if I like someone I am going to treat them and hang out with them the same way I do everyone else. I am not a hoe I am quiet and actually have never had sex before. I feel like anyone who htinks that i am a hoe just because i hang out with her is off their rocker and just plain immature. I feel like we don't have the right to judge people and when the only person a person harms is their selves, because she is not hurting anyone else if it is true, is the person who needs a friend the most. Do you think I should try to avoid being with her in public or do you think i am right? Give me your complete honest advice on this. I want everyones sdvice but especially if you are 18 and up I would really like to know your opinion?
You are absolutely 100% right. If you were to stop seeing her just because your friends think she's a "ho," you could be missing out on a great friendship. Confront your friends, you don't have to be mean about it, and say they are being very unreasonable. Ask if they would consider meeting her because you know they would change their minds. If they say no, then you are better off without them. Don't worry about what other people think of you. College won't last forever and you probably won't see any of them ever again anyway. So make friends with whoever you want to and have fun.
ok so i have hair like a couple of inches below my shoulder and its thick and wavy and really thick and gross. it's so hard to straighten because it is so long and thick. im getting my hair cut i want to go a little shorter and maybe layers? what would be a good managable hair style for me? pics would be nice.
Layers are an excellent idea to lighten up your hair. You could also consider having it thinned (it's like cutting it, only you keep your length. there's a special tool used to do it.) Ask your stylist about cremes you could use to help make your hair more manageable. The problem could also be the type of straightener you use. Ask your stylist which type would be good for you. Considering your hair type, I would say a large, flat iron. And make sure you straighten only two inches of hair at a time and in sections. I hope this helps.
Hey I'm Jackie and I'm 15.
Here we go.. there is this guy, Sean, that I've known since 5th grade. and last week when we were haning out wanted to "make out" with me. but I didnt... since then I think im starting to like him, a lot. and I wish that I did make out with him. So, I'm not sure if he still wants to.
What do I do?
thanks
*jackie*
If you like this guy, the WORST thing to do would be to make out with him right away. It will make guys think you are easy. Instead, why not ask if he'd like to go see a movie sometime or go bowling. Spend some time with him one on one just to make sure you really do have feelings for him. Then you can make your move.
Ok. My boyfriend had his first visit to my house today. It wasn't long, but in the little time we did spend together we had our first real "big kiss." [He knows kissing me on my neck makes me "excited"] So, of coarse he did and then started making out with me, and we started to lay down. [Him kinda on top of me, but not laying down all the way.] If my mom hadn't walked in the room we probably would've done alot more. I was just wondering, is this how things get out of hand and sex starts? I'm not using this as a question to start sex. I am not ready, and I don't want to give him impressions that I am.
The two of you need to have a talk then. You need to discuss beforehand how far you are willing to go. He needs to respect your boundaries. If he does not respect your boundaries, then maybe it is time for a new boyfriend. Once you two talk and agree on how far you want to go, then things shouldn't get out of hand. If you're still really worried about going to far and not being able to stop, don't let the situation present itself. For example, if you two end up being home alone, watch a movie instead of making out because it could lead to other things and your parents won't be there to walk in on you. Hope this helps.
I was at this party-hang out type thing (christian group) and there was this random guy there. he was a senior in high school (I'm a freshman) and he went to a completely different school. i didn't even know his name, and he was like...all over me. he picked me up at one point until i made him put me down. it was ridiculously creepy. And his hand was wayyyy too close to my butt. i was so uncomfortable and he wouldn't leave me alone! i don't know what to do if he shows up at the next party/get together. HELP!?
Next time, surround yourself with friends and people you know. If he approaches you, tell him nicely you'd like to be left alone or act like you're busy with your friends and ignore him. If he continues to bother you and make you feel uncomfortable, confront him and then tell an adult. The guy might not even know he's freaking you out. A calm conversation with him telling him how you feel might do the trick. Just be sure to trust your instincts. If he makes you feel uncomfortable, you don't have to associate yourself with him.
Okay I am a christian and I want to go to a christian college, but my dad dosn't believe in God and he knows I want to go to the college and tonight he told me that I should forget about it. He said that if I go there I will get married and marry a someone from there and he isn't gonna like my dad because he isn't a christian or something like that. I know they aren't like that. He thinks all of this is dumb. He said that his daughter is going to grow up and become a pastor's wife. When I go to college he isn't gonna feel great like my daughter went to this college! My mom will but my dad won't. I was crying today since he said that today and I hate it! Please help me and I'm sorry it was so long.
Have you tried explaining to your dad WHY you are a Christian? I'm not saying you have to force your religion on him, but maybe he will understand a little more about it if you explain a few aspects of it. He has his beliefs and you have yours. He needs to respect that.
Tell him it's ridiculous to assume that you will marry someone you meet at the college. This is about you, your religion, and your education. You aren't going there to meet guys. Assure your father that regardless of what religion you practice or what college you attend, you will make him proud of you. Plus, I doubt you would ever consider marrying a man that hates your father because of religion.
If you find it hard to explain these things to your father, perhaps you should consider family counseling so the two of you can express your opinions to an unbiased third party that can help sort out these issues.
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me and my boyfriend always end up kinda sitting there / not talking when were together . or making out and i really do not know what to talk about with him . he`s on the football team. and im a gymnast. and i have no idea what to talk about. help me!
Instead of sitting around, pop in a funny movie. It will lift the mood and you two can start joking around and laughing together. Snuggle with him while the movie is on and flirt. You could even consider getting out of the house to go bowling or putt putt golfing. The more fun you have togehter, the closer you will become and you'll have more to talk about.
Ok this girl I know I've started to talk to her a lot, and i can tell she likes me and i like her too, even my friends think she likes me. But like I asked her to a dance like 3 months ago and she said no, but it was totally random kind of because I hadn't even talked to her in like a year or two. But now i talked to her for like 2 hours a day on aim/phone, i would at scool, but she doesnt go to my scool nemore. So like i donno wat i should do, like ask her out again, or i was thinking to jus go 2 a movie and do stuff wit her and hang then ask... if u hav ne ideas tell me, or jus othr advice on how to help me ask her out and get her to like me more.
I say suggest a fun outing with her first. Being her to the movies and buy her some ice cream. Or do something fun that she likes to do. That will help you two get to know each other one on one. After the date, ask if she'd like to do it again sometime. If she says "yes" with a smile, she likes you. If she says "i don't know maybe" then you should consider just being friends. Good luck! I hope it works out!
please only girls answer.
what types of clothes/outfits do girls like on guys?? Im not interested in things like emo style or goth, no offense to those that are, i just dont like the style. any help would be appriciated. ..thanx..
First of all, tight jeans are a BIG no-no! Try wearing a solid colored T-shirt that fits your frame nicely. Polo shirts are nice too. They show that you are clean, but dress comfortably. As for jeans, any pair should be fine as long as they are clean and don't have a million holes in them. Basically wear clothes that are comfortable for you, clean, and aren't excessivley baggy.
Hey. We're learning a new chapter in algebra now and I don't really understand it at all =(. I want to get ahead and figure it out before we have a test or quiz so help would be Greatly appreciated! I'm in ninth grade and doing Algebra. We're working on solving linear systems by graphing. If anyone can explain two of these problems step by step (literally) I would be SO happy and wish that I'd be able to give you a medal =)Ok here it goes. number 30. -3x+y=10 and the second one that goes to this is 7x+y=20 My question is what do you do step-by step and how do u graph it? Sorry I know this is REALLY confusing but I know someone out there can help me! Thank you sooo much in advance! =)
First of all, you just need a graphing calculator to do this. Next, you need to take each equation and solve it for y like this...
7x + y = 20
-7x -7x
so the equation becomes
y = -7x + 20
and
-3x + y = 10
+3x +3x
so the equation becomes
y = 3x + 10
Now comes the part with the calculator. Graph the first equation (y=-7x+20) into the Y1 slot on your calculator. (The Y1 slot comes up after you hit the "Y=" button at the top left). Then, graph the second equation (y=3x+10) into Y2. So your screen will say:
Y1=-7x+20
Y2=3x+10
Now hit the "window" button located to the right of the "Y=" button. The window will need to be changed from time to time in order to see where the two graphs intersect. Make the Xmin 0, the Xmax 10, the Ymin 0, the Ymax 20. When you are finished, select the "graph" button located at the top right of your calculator.
Your graph should have an "X" slanted toward the right. Hit "2nd" "Trace" on your calculater (the "2nd" button first, and then the "trace" button). Select #5 intersect. Press enter three times. At the bottom of the screen, it tells you where the two graphs intersect. In this case, it is (1,13). And that is your answer!
I hope this helped! Let me know if you need anything else!
Is it bad to have confidence and think you are pretty?
This is coming from someone who had low confidence for a large number of years. I would never call myself pretty.
but this is a new year and the past is left behind.
and I'm a lot happier now. It's scaring me I guess. I'm happy when I go out and I smile ...and feel pretty?
Is that bad?
I mean.. confidence in everything.. that you think you are good?
It feels.. really weird/wrong.
NO WAY! That is absolutley wonderful that you are confident with your looks! Don't feel weird AT ALL. The only time confidence gets out of hand is when you start thinking "I'm so much prettier than that person..." As long as you love yourself while repsecting others, there is nothing wrong with your sudden self-confidence! Congrats!
I know xoxo stands for hugs and kisses and ive heard the o is for hugs and the x is for kissez but why?
i always thought the X was for hugs because when you hug your arms make an X and wehn you kiss your lips make an O shape
but sum1 told me im way off
"x" does stand for kisses. I believe this is because when it was first created, kisses were considered sinful, thus the "x" is used to represent it. I guess it doesn't really matter which way you use it.
:)
xoxo! lol
im an 18 yr old female. i have a friend angela, she was seeing this guy, brad. they broke up, but they were still having sex. 1 nite they were bout 2 get back 2getha, b4 brad hooked up wit emma, angela's friend. angela 4gave them both. on angela's 21st brad decided he didn't want 2 go out & basically ruined her bday. last week we all spent $60 on tickets to a rave. brad was suppose 2 b coming but didn't show up & didn't call. afta 5mins of being there angela decided she wanted 2 go home.i went with her. on the way out brad called her. she had a fight with him and started 2 cry. brad said he would come pick us up, when he got there she got in the car with him and drove off on me. i made my own way back 2 her house & yelled at brad as he had ruined our day yet again. then we all went out. all nite she made out with him, then when we got bak 2 hers she told me 2 sleep in the lounge so she could have sex wit him. at 1st i said no, then she cracked it saying what a bad freind i was, so i slept in da lounge. i left the next morning. as soon as i left, she started bitching bout the fact i went off at brad. then she fones me up 2 say she wants all her clothes bak, including a top she lent me 6 months ago. i took the top off & left it in my room, which i was sharing wit a girl, jess. i got kicked out the same week & wasn't allowed bak 2 get da top. a week l8r jess moved out, taking da top. then she disconnected her fone, so i cant get in contact wit her now. now angela is saying just 2 give the rest of her clothes bak & stuff the friendship. am i in the wrong?? if so how??
Honey, you're better off without them. Any girl that picks her boyfriend over ger girlfriend (ESPECIALLY an asshole like Brad) belongs in the trash. Just give her her stuff back and MOVE ON. You're the better person. If she wants to ruin her life all because of one stupid boy, let her. At least you tried to be a good friend, but she just turned her back on you.